Comments on: Making Your Relationship Work – Part I http://www.bellanaija.com/2009/03/18/making-your-relationship-work-part-i/ Inspired! Thu, 09 Feb 2012 16:23:59 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: arthur http://www.bellanaija.com/2009/03/18/making-your-relationship-work-part-i/comment-page-1/#comment-79343 arthur Mon, 29 Nov 2010 15:55:26 +0000 http://www.bellanaija.com/?p=3818#comment-79343 talk to ur partner about the issues affecting ur relationship, and if u cant talk to him/her about issues or he/she is not ready to listen then be sure ur relationship is not worth it. Cos ur partner is suppose to be ur best friend talk to ur partner about the issues affecting ur relationship, and if u cant talk to him/her about issues or he/she is not ready to listen then be sure ur relationship is not worth it. Cos ur partner is suppose to be ur best friend

]]> By: arthur http://www.bellanaija.com/2009/03/18/making-your-relationship-work-part-i/comment-page-1/#comment-79340 arthur Mon, 29 Nov 2010 15:50:29 +0000 http://www.bellanaija.com/?p=3818#comment-79340 my girl likes telling her friends about our relationship, she seek for their advice and it is making the relationship unstable.. my girl likes telling her friends about our relationship, she seek for their advice and it is making the relationship unstable..

]]> By: Ronke http://www.bellanaija.com/2009/03/18/making-your-relationship-work-part-i/comment-page-1/#comment-70012 Ronke Sat, 23 Oct 2010 11:11:05 +0000 http://www.bellanaija.com/?p=3818#comment-70012 hummmmmmmmmmmm Ife God bless u 4 dis word of advise.Gud stuff….I totally feel u… hummmmmmmmmmmm Ife God bless u 4 dis word of advise.Gud stuff….I totally feel u…

]]> By: PJ http://www.bellanaija.com/2009/03/18/making-your-relationship-work-part-i/comment-page-1/#comment-34099 PJ Wed, 23 Dec 2009 08:47:51 +0000 http://www.bellanaija.com/?p=3818#comment-34099 Nice article Ife. Does your friend sleep with make up?? that's just wrong. If she's been with her man for long then make up or no make up should be the last of her worries. At Esty, most women are scared of their mother in-laws, we always pray we have a nice one that would love us but sometimes they r not. If she thinks your taking her son away(his already a mama's boy), you just have to warm up to her and let her know one day, her son is gonna leave her and start a family of his own. You cant drive her out the house. You have to make her see that its not like that. At least ur own is ok, most in-laws do not like the woman because of her tribe... What would do we do? Nice article Ife. Does your friend sleep with make up?? that’s just wrong. If she’s been with her man for long then make up or no make up should be the last of her worries.
At Esty, most women are scared of their mother in-laws, we always pray we have a nice one that would love us but sometimes they r not. If she thinks your taking her son away(his already a mama’s boy), you just have to warm up to her and let her know one day, her son is gonna leave her and start a family of his own. You cant drive her out the house. You have to make her see that its not like that. At least ur own is ok, most in-laws do not like the woman because of her tribe… What would do we do?

]]> By: PET http://www.bellanaija.com/2009/03/18/making-your-relationship-work-part-i/comment-page-1/#comment-32502 PET Wed, 02 Dec 2009 12:31:08 +0000 http://www.bellanaija.com/?p=3818#comment-32502 what other word can be used asides from RUN.... i'll let u know when I find out! All u've said points to the fact that this guy wants a slave and im sorry to say but i think u're making your self just that! First you stick with a guy for 8yrs and he's not thinkin of pickin a date to put a ring on it?! lemme guess, you cook, clean and caress him! If so, he has a wife and he hasnt even paid the dowry. I've been there, you think it will get better but then the years roll by and trust moi, he wont change, not now, not ever. Marrying him would be suicidal. End it now, take time out for personal development, you're better than what he's handing out so MOVE OUT and MOVE ON! Make friends that'll help you identify your strenghts, boost your self esteem and meet real men that will treat you right. Dont hang on to the fact that he's your first love or that he's romantic or you gave it to him (virginity), all that is crap. A guy who abuses you either verbally or otherwise is not worth it! what other word can be used asides from RUN…. i’ll let u know when I find out!

All u’ve said points to the fact that this guy wants a slave and im sorry to say but i think u’re making your self just that!

First you stick with a guy for 8yrs and he’s not thinkin of pickin a date to put a ring on it?! lemme guess, you cook, clean and caress him!
If so, he has a wife and he hasnt even paid the dowry.

I’ve been there, you think it will get better but then the years roll by and trust moi, he wont change, not now, not ever. Marrying him would be suicidal. End it now, take time out for personal development, you’re better than what he’s handing out so MOVE OUT and MOVE ON! Make friends that’ll help you identify your strenghts, boost your self esteem and meet real men that will treat you right.

Dont hang on to the fact that he’s your first love or that he’s romantic or you gave it to him (virginity), all that is crap. A guy who abuses you either verbally or otherwise is not worth it!

]]> By: bailey http://www.bellanaija.com/2009/03/18/making-your-relationship-work-part-i/comment-page-1/#comment-31053 bailey Wed, 11 Nov 2009 01:17:12 +0000 http://www.bellanaija.com/?p=3818#comment-31053 I think you should run, leave him alone, cuz once ur married and he shows u his true colors there is no going back o.............. I think you should run, leave him alone, cuz once ur married and he shows u his true colors there is no going back o…………..

]]> By: tina http://www.bellanaija.com/2009/03/18/making-your-relationship-work-part-i/comment-page-1/#comment-30888 tina Sun, 08 Nov 2009 17:44:30 +0000 http://www.bellanaija.com/?p=3818#comment-30888 How do you deal with a extremely controlling man or a cheating man? How do you deal with a extremely controlling man or a cheating man?

]]> By: Staffie http://www.bellanaija.com/2009/03/18/making-your-relationship-work-part-i/comment-page-1/#comment-30482 Staffie Mon, 02 Nov 2009 00:24:03 +0000 http://www.bellanaija.com/?p=3818#comment-30482 YOU NEED TO LEAVE, because first and foremost if a man has to yell at a women to get his point across he is a coward. Secondly is you know hw has a temper like that you need to rethink your life with him because know women deserves that or need to be treated like that. Thirdly and most importantly you CAN NOT CAN NOT CAN NOT CHANGE ANY MAN, thats not your job in this relationship, its his to recognize that he has a good woman and learn how to treat her. SO LEAVE MY DEAR QUICKLY. YOU NEED TO LEAVE, because first and foremost if a man has to yell at a women to get his point across he is a coward. Secondly is you know hw has a temper like that you need to rethink your life with him because know women deserves that or need to be treated like that. Thirdly and most importantly you CAN NOT CAN NOT CAN NOT CHANGE ANY MAN, thats not your job in this relationship, its his to recognize that he has a good woman and learn how to treat her. SO LEAVE MY DEAR QUICKLY.

]]> By: esty http://www.bellanaija.com/2009/03/18/making-your-relationship-work-part-i/comment-page-1/#comment-30231 esty Thu, 22 Oct 2009 23:32:34 +0000 http://www.bellanaija.com/?p=3818#comment-30231 hi there i have a big question about mother in-laws what if your boyfriend's mom hates you to the core because she thinks you are taking her son from her what do you do?how do you make such a relation ship work and to add the boy lives with his mom and is so close to her .and has no dreams of moving out yet . hi there i have a big question about mother in-laws what if your boyfriend’s mom hates you to the core because she thinks you are taking her son from her what do you do?how do you make such a relation ship work and to add the boy lives with his mom and is so close to her .and has no dreams of moving out yet .

]]> By: ife http://www.bellanaija.com/2009/03/18/making-your-relationship-work-part-i/comment-page-1/#comment-30155 ife Thu, 22 Oct 2009 00:22:48 +0000 http://www.bellanaija.com/?p=3818#comment-30155 Personally, i feel you could share your relationship issues with people but know the friend you disclose this to and most importantly have an open mind to other people's opinion cuz other people see things you don't see atimes. Always remember that God is the ultimate above all friends. Personally, i feel you could share your relationship issues with people but know the friend you disclose this to and most importantly have an open mind to other people’s opinion cuz other people see things you don’t see atimes. Always remember that God is the ultimate above all friends.

]]> By: Helen http://www.bellanaija.com/2009/03/18/making-your-relationship-work-part-i/comment-page-1/#comment-28812 Helen Fri, 02 Oct 2009 10:57:12 +0000 http://www.bellanaija.com/?p=3818#comment-28812 What if you dump and tomorrow he turns out to have enough even more, what will you do?Life is like a ball, it rotates, don't look down on somebody bcos he has nothing today. some may even wish to spend but bcos of the responsibilities they have or they don't have to money. Remember, tomorrow is pregnant! What if you dump and tomorrow he turns out to have enough even more, what will you do?Life is like a ball, it rotates, don’t look down on somebody bcos he has nothing today.
some may even wish to spend but bcos of the responsibilities they have or they don’t have to money.

Remember, tomorrow is pregnant!

]]> By: Tee http://www.bellanaija.com/2009/03/18/making-your-relationship-work-part-i/comment-page-1/#comment-22519 Tee Sun, 21 Jun 2009 23:49:04 +0000 http://www.bellanaija.com/?p=3818#comment-22519 I think thats a great idea.. Hopefully bella will agree.. :) I think thats a great idea.. Hopefully bella will agree.. :)

]]> By: mikel http://www.bellanaija.com/2009/03/18/making-your-relationship-work-part-i/comment-page-1/#comment-21148 mikel Thu, 21 May 2009 10:58:58 +0000 http://www.bellanaija.com/?p=3818#comment-21148 there is no way u will not discuss ur relationship issues with ur "friends",no matter how u try it.but know the type of friend u discuss ur relationship issues with and the kind of relationship issues dat u discuss with ur friend...above all make God ur best friend.remember that He knows ur future more than u know ur past.HE WILL HELP U. there is no way u will not discuss ur relationship issues with ur “friends”,no matter how u try it.but know the type of friend u discuss ur relationship issues with and the kind of relationship issues dat u discuss with ur friend…above all make God ur best friend.remember that He knows ur future more than u know ur past.HE WILL HELP U.

]]> By: Lynda http://www.bellanaija.com/2009/03/18/making-your-relationship-work-part-i/comment-page-1/#comment-20816 Lynda Tue, 12 May 2009 17:43:09 +0000 http://www.bellanaija.com/?p=3818#comment-20816 RUN FOR YOUR DEAR LIFE!!! Why be in such a relationship? You need a man that makes you not to be afraid of anything, a man that will protect you in any situation NOT a man that scares you. RUN FOR YOUR DEAR LIFE!!! Why be in such a relationship? You need a man that makes you not to be afraid of anything, a man that will protect you in any situation NOT a man that scares you.

]]> By: miss http://www.bellanaija.com/2009/03/18/making-your-relationship-work-part-i/comment-page-1/#comment-20281 miss Sat, 02 May 2009 20:06:47 +0000 http://www.bellanaija.com/?p=3818#comment-20281 RUN!!! You can help me from a distance. People hardly change and you might be saving yourself by running now instead of staying and living in danger. RUN!!! You can help me from a distance. People hardly change and you might be saving yourself by running now instead of staying and living in danger.

]]> By: cupcakes http://www.bellanaija.com/2009/03/18/making-your-relationship-work-part-i/comment-page-1/#comment-20276 cupcakes Sat, 02 May 2009 17:18:40 +0000 http://www.bellanaija.com/?p=3818#comment-20276 i have been with my boyfriend for over 8yrs now, we are in love and he talks about marriage everytime, he really treats me well, makes me feel special and all.....but the problem is his anger he gets really aggressive and acts psychotic soemtimes when he is angry, and i am really scared for my life..he hasnt yet but he is capable of hiting me one day and i am scared he is waiting till we catually marry before he does this...and what annoys him is the fact that he wants me to be more submissive, i am not that sort of girl and he knows that, i respect him and all but i am not what he reallywants and we have spoken about this, he still says he loves me....im scared he may kill me one day but yet he loves me...he disrespects me on the phonesometimes and shouts at me abusively then he calls back and apologises...do u think i should run for dear life before its too late, or do u think i can stick with him and help him chnage, so u thinnk its unfair if i live? i have been with my boyfriend for over 8yrs now, we are in love and he talks about marriage everytime, he really treats me well, makes me feel special and all…..but the problem is his anger he gets really aggressive and acts psychotic soemtimes when he is angry, and i am really scared for my life..he hasnt yet but he is capable of hiting me one day and i am scared he is waiting till we catually marry before he does this…and what annoys him is the fact that he wants me to be more submissive, i am not that sort of girl and he knows that, i respect him and all but i am not what he reallywants and we have spoken about this, he still says he loves me….im scared he may kill me one day but yet he loves me…he disrespects me on the phonesometimes and shouts at me abusively then he calls back and apologises…do u think i should run for dear life before its too late, or do u think i can stick with him and help him chnage, so u thinnk its unfair if i live?

]]> By: Nneka http://www.bellanaija.com/2009/03/18/making-your-relationship-work-part-i/comment-page-1/#comment-18656 Nneka Thu, 26 Mar 2009 18:23:41 +0000 http://www.bellanaija.com/?p=3818#comment-18656 Naa it's not that the girls are stupid to date broke guys but it turns out to be a stupid decision if, of many instances, he develops an unhealthy dose of inferiority complex and starts acting up on you. Then abeg first watch and pray. If all else fail, cut that rod and start fishing in fresh waters, hopefully better off. Naa it’s not that the girls are stupid to date broke guys but it turns out to be a stupid decision if, of many instances, he develops an unhealthy dose of inferiority complex and starts acting up on you. Then abeg first watch and pray. If all else fail, cut that rod and start fishing in fresh waters, hopefully better off.

]]> By: Rose http://www.bellanaija.com/2009/03/18/making-your-relationship-work-part-i/comment-page-1/#comment-18655 Rose Thu, 26 Mar 2009 17:09:47 +0000 http://www.bellanaija.com/?p=3818#comment-18655 Love BN My own case is deferent I meet this guy and he shown me love and I also love him though I am no nonsense person but when I meet this guy I summated to him I do everything he asked me to do I treated him like a king though I have never seen him with another person he is honest with me and me too but what surprised me most is that he has change for the past view week to me thing he use to do when we just meet he has stopped doing them and I have asked him several time he refused to talk and I don’t want to tell any body about it I have only been praying to God to change him for me because I loved him so much but if he refused to change this is my decision. I will leave him and I will tell me him to leave me alone then I will wait till I see another person. Thank you. Rose Love BN

My own case is deferent I meet this guy and he shown me love and I also love him though I am no nonsense person but when I meet this guy I summated to him I do everything he asked me to do I treated him like a king though I have never seen him with another person he is honest with me and me too but what surprised me most is that he has change for the past view week to me thing he use to do when we just meet he has stopped doing them and I have asked him several time he refused to talk and I don’t want to tell any body about it I have only been praying to God to change him for me because I loved him so much but if he refused to change this is my decision.

I will leave him and I will tell me him to leave me alone then I will wait till I see another person.

Thank you.

Rose

]]> By: alero http://www.bellanaija.com/2009/03/18/making-your-relationship-work-part-i/comment-page-1/#comment-18644 alero Thu, 26 Mar 2009 11:59:37 +0000 http://www.bellanaija.com/?p=3818#comment-18644 i agree with bella, about let ur relationship be between u and ur man but sometime as a human we cant control ourselves wen sumtin happened and u want to share it wit ur friends or for example: maybe u went to visit sade and she said my husband has dis bad habit and u too we be like yes...mine too does the same thing, from there one topic leads to another. Again u have to know ur friends but the best thing i can say is leave everything to God or else people we give u different advise and in the end u urself will forget abt ur own want in a relationship. About d fart business lol pple always say fart in front of ur man to be comfortable....i think since wen i was young i have been brought up to know fart as a bad manners in front of someone so i still cant do it in front of anyone even my dad or sister.. i agree with bella, about let ur relationship be between u and ur man but sometime as a human we cant control ourselves wen sumtin happened and u want to share it wit ur friends or for example: maybe u went to visit sade and she said my husband has dis bad habit and u too we be like yes…mine too does the same thing, from there one topic leads to another. Again u have to know ur friends but the best thing i can say is leave everything to God or else people we give u different advise and in the end u urself will forget abt ur own want in a relationship. About d fart business lol pple always say fart in front of ur man to be comfortable….i think since wen i was young i have been brought up to know fart as a bad manners in front of someone so i still cant do it in front of anyone even my dad or sister..

]]> By: mee http://www.bellanaija.com/2009/03/18/making-your-relationship-work-part-i/comment-page-1/#comment-18454 mee Sun, 22 Mar 2009 00:10:35 +0000 http://www.bellanaija.com/?p=3818#comment-18454 Those broke guys also deserve to be loved. Those broke guys also deserve to be loved.

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