Comments on: Natural Hair: A Journey, Not A Destination…

By: Natural girl

Natural girl — Sun, 23 Jan 2011 13:12:59 +0000

Hi Nkechi I would love to see an update of your hair now, do you have a blog? Are you still natural how has it been. Tia

By: smiley

smiley — Thu, 08 Jul 2010 16:04:49 +0000

Hmm..i must be really jobless cos i read all the comments and i have to say that
i agree with everything sugarbelly said and i noticed the insults rolled in cos she felt
insulted first and i’m suprised that no one noticed that…anyway, the end of issue
is that black women in general do not like their natural hair, i have white friends who
put in weaves but i am yet to see one who is even going to consider putting in an afro
or an african textured weave, which means that they love their kind, lets stop fooling
ourselves by saying they are artificial and all that cos at the end of the day they just
enhance themselves while we (black women) try to change ourselves, and then, most
of us do it for the men but then why would you want a man who claims to love you but
hate what grows on your head and on his too (if he’s black)…it should say something
about him, i just recently cut my hair which was relaxed and bra lenght…very long and
believe it or not my house mate who is also my friend couldnt hold back tears cos
she couldn’t believe i was cutting my long hair to go natural which she considers bad
and would make me look unkempt, it’s funny cos i i laughed my eyes out
too while she was crying but then it goes to show that we really do have issues with
ourselves, we say its just hair and dead cells but then sit down for hours putting in extensions
if we really dont care much about it then how about carrying our own hair, so we give excuses
and reasons why our natural hair given to us by God is less than the “white hair”. Anyway
whether we agree or not our hair and skin colour is what distinguishes us as africans and the same
with the whites. Well, i really dont care what anyone does with their hair cos at the end of the day
its your life but i have to say that if we keep denying such as colonization, self esteem and what is
considered beautiful has not played a role with most of the decisions we have made about our hair and body generally then we are really just leaving in self denial about some things period.

By: Interested

Interested — Wed, 17 Mar 2010 19:08:41 +0000

I have to admit that at the beginning of your post I was riding with you as far as you having a choice on whether you choose to relax your keep it natural. But towards the end, where you could have stayed on point with this topic you chose to go the route of Sugabelly which was to resort to insults in the quest on a point which weakened both your points significantly. Personally, I wear my hair natural and I am aware that there are a significant number of women who where their hair relaxed for several different reasons:
1. Choice – as you mentioned
2. Self-hate (Society Standards) – as Sugabelly mentioned
3. Fashion – as many have mentioned
4. The idea that it is easier to maintain (which personally I don’t agree with)

Whatever the reason may be the fact remains that people have a right to a choice and should not be insulted, frowned down upon or ostracized because their choice is different from the status quo or vice versa

By: Interested

Interested — Wed, 17 Mar 2010 18:49:08 +0000

Granted that I agree that her point was lost in the manner she used to portray it, I think it is fair to agree that a significantly larger number of black women in the world have relaxed hair versus natural. All a study will do is provide confirmation of what we see everyday. In my experience, I’ve noticed that it is only in recent times that I’ve seen a rise in women growing out their perms or going down the big chop route. In any case the point I’m trying to raise is that demanding a study or whatever form of documentation for something we’ve all see daily is kind of pointless

By: pamela stitch

pamela stitch — Sat, 28 Nov 2009 18:41:11 +0000

Wow…..been reading the battle of words between Sugarbelly and the rest of the world. Don’t know what to say. I am a natural. Been natural for more than 7 years. Cut my hair really low several times last year. Final cut was a week after my birthday last year…been growing it since then and I have to say I love it. I love reading, and having my hair natural gives me the opportunity to explore different botanical, natural herbs. I love it. I feel blessed that I work in an industry where natural hair is okay. I repeat I love it. When I have a daughter – she will carry her hair natural till she is 16. I have been writing all these hair care techniques to pass on to her….

Anyways…sha!!

Keep battling…

pammy

By: olayinka

olayinka — Tue, 06 Oct 2009 17:47:58 +0000

I recommend reading the novel, “Nappily Ever After” by Trisha R. Thomas, an American author. It is a novel based on one woman’s audacity to cut her hair short and the consequences/ negative opinions she encountered. I recommend it to you ladies. Happy reading.

By: Omalichanwa

Omalichanwa — Fri, 18 Sep 2009 23:04:20 +0000

it’s a freaking free world…you can shave your head, curl your hair, straighten it or dye it ultraviolet blue… whatever works for you. i wear my hair anyhow i want and it suits me just fine.

By: Jenny

Jenny — Fri, 11 Sep 2009 10:42:46 +0000

Intresting comments……………………., for me the important thing is being confident, comfortable and above all loving the way i look. This thing is personal so stop the preaching/persuation.

By: Ola

Ola — Fri, 11 Sep 2009 09:25:40 +0000

Maybe you could get Sugabelly to do the same, while you’re at it (Go back to the playground/ get some home training).

By: Frankie

Frankie — Wed, 02 Sep 2009 23:26:23 +0000

Beautifuly written

By: Z

Wed, 02 Sep 2009 22:28:14 +0000

All you people hating on Sugabelly need to chill out. If you want to take it so personally and start insulting her (“shallow gutter trollop”? Really?), then maybe something she said applied to you and you just don’t like to hear the truth. The response of spitting ignorance doesn’t make you look any better. And for the record, if all you can throw back are personal insults instead of logical points, then you need to

a. go back to the playground and b. get some home training.

By: ngum

ngum — Fri, 14 Aug 2009 22:19:31 +0000

i have never understood this fuss about hair. i wear my hair anyway beause i like it.

By: O.A.E

O.A.E — Tue, 09 Jun 2009 10:17:20 +0000

The Lagos Natural Hair Gathering.
http://www.facebook.com/event.php?eid=115109607626
Everyone is invited

By: lifeofastranger

lifeofastranger — Fri, 29 May 2009 17:44:40 +0000

I guess I’ve never really had a mentor. Since I’ve always known (or thought) natural was the way, and thus my entire life have never ONCE relaxed my hair. I do however have started to realise just maybe I might be loosing out, especially, when I have always had long natural hair, and can’t seem to do anything interesting with it. A friend of mine, even today asked me that same question countless others have always asked, why is your hair always in a bunch? My answer, I have exhusted all the styles, and now at my wits end. Just maybe after twenty nine years, it is time for a change

By: tatafo!

tatafo! — Wed, 27 May 2009 02:24:56 +0000

great tips this is one of the best comments thus far.
I think a lot of girls have a misconception about managing natural hair because they just go pay someone to get it done.

By: miss me

miss me — Wed, 27 May 2009 01:36:48 +0000

I LOVE MY RELAXED HAIR…YAYYY ME! XX

By: Nigerian Chicana

Nigerian Chicana — Sun, 24 May 2009 02:06:36 +0000

Natural hair is indeed a journey. A journey to know what works well for you.

I’m sure we all know that there are different types of nappy hair. So while the sister with type 3A finds it easy to rock her natural hair, sister with type 4C may find it more challenging.

I have 4C and I’ve worn my hair natural a few times. The only thing I could do with it was keep it short at about 1/2 inch. It was that or dreds.

By the way… I love the book “Andre talks Hair”. I think that’s the name of the book, written by the guy that does Oprah’s hair. I found the book more informative than most of these natural sites. It helps you to understand “your” hair type and what your hair type can and can not do, and how it reacts to different treatments.

In the end … everyone should be comfotable with their decision.

By: GamGam

GamGam — Fri, 22 May 2009 12:21:42 +0000

The thing is, Relaxed hair is now the Default, If your hair is natural, people would say its “due” that is, due to be relaxed or retouched or processed. People just shouldnt look down on it, thats all.

By: rasta

rasta — Wed, 20 May 2009 15:57:16 +0000

i have worn my hair natural for over 9 years and commited to being a nubian queen 5 years ago.
i can gym, swim and still get dressed and for an evening out.
its absolutely fab

By: nappy gal

nappy gal — Wed, 20 May 2009 14:00:14 +0000

Lol, you know the people having the comment war. You all need to take a chill pill. People should respect others opinion and not impose theirs on others. Whatever the case may be. There is a freedom of choice, whether we have natural,permed,extensions or whatever, it is YOUR OWN CHOICE! So no need for the exchange of insults. Please argue nicely.lol! i am still cracking up.