lol.

Also lets axcts as if all ladies wake up each day and plan on loosing thier virginity before marriage.. things happen and sex happens too.. So if you fall in a situation where it happen.. all you require is genuine repentance and then follows abstains till the right time.

I personally believe there is nothing to exciting about sex before marriage…. If you talk to alot of married couple they have sex maybe 2-3 times or even less… so ppl eventually get tired of it.. so why… ruin it all.

I believe in having sth to look forward to and that is totally up to me.. All the same it is not by might neither is it by power.. but it is all by the spirit of God. So lets all ask Him for help.. cos i’m positive we all need it

I love the way Sugabelly steps up to any debate. Doesn’t mean I always agree with her position. But on this topic, SHE DOES! This talk of keeping yourself for A MAN has me seriously baffled!!! How? Why? It’s even more ridiculous when those ‘virginity=men’s respect’ theories are then laced with religious propaganda. Odiegwu o!

So let me tell you why MOST religiously-aware folks engage in premarital sex. Because they desire to keep themselves JUST because that’s what their religion mandates, not because they have a personal motivation on staying virgins. If those laws changed in a second, gbam! You’ll see their once private griddings become public. They would probably call this obedience to the new law.

Point is, stay a virgin for you and the pride you get from being something that’s truly uncommon, not for a MAN!
Also for sexually active yet religious folks: find motivational UNIFORMITY between your religious beliefs and your personal beliefs. The two have to work together. Period.

All the best to both groups.

Wow there are so many things fucking wrong with this statement I don’t know whether to laugh or to type.

Do you honestly think that just because a woman waits to get married before she has sex she is suddenly impervious to divorce? Bride for Life – are you KIDDING me?

Seriously, this is no longer funny. Some people need to look out their window at real life.

Please forgive me if I sound confused but… are you suggesting that women should remain virgins in order to win the respect of men?

Do you realise that if you made the same statement backwards and suggested it to a man he’d laugh in your face?

Right, so, according to you, we should remain virgins so that we can marry husbands who:

a. Are NOT virgins

b. Will promptly fuck someone else at the very first opportunity.

It’s all about stroking the male ego I see…

Please. Telling a woman to remain a virgin in order to win the respect of a man is the WORST advice I have EVER heard. Men will still sleep with whomever they want to irrespective of what is between your legs.

If what you say is true then why are so many very married Nigerian men whistling at young girls through the partially rolled down tinted windows of their Mercedes and Lexuses and Camrys and Bentleys and Ranges?

If what you say is true why is Abuja such a hotbed of young single girls and married Senators, Governors, Politicians, etc etc? Aren’t all these Honorable Senators and so on MARRIED? At least of all them I am sure that there is a cross-section whose wives were virgins (or at least claimed to be) on their wedding night. This fact does not seem to deter them in the least from chasing every young woman that enters their line of sight.

What is wrong with this picture?

If you want to be a virgin, good for you. Go and be a virgin if your religion requires it and I will RESPECT you. But please, don’t even give me any nonsense about wanting a man to respect you. The man whose respect you are so dying for, is he staying a virgin to win your respect? After you’re married he still chases women if he thinks he can get away with it – is that what you call respect?

Virginity does not equal Good Marriage or Faithful Husband.

I would rather have a husband that loves me and respects me and is faithful to me and supports me than a husband that puts me on a fake pedestal and treats me like I’m a China doll because I was a virgin but fucks every other woman when he thinks I’m not looking.

How many women have this story? Too. Many. Women. Too Many Nigerian Women. Too many Nigerian women are forced to look the other way while their husband whores because they believe their husband “respects” them.

They say to themselves “I was a virgin so he respects me. Somehow underneath all this he respects me. He respects me more than that other woman he’s sleeping with. That’s why I’m the one that has the ring and the house and the car.” Uh-huh. If that’s respect then you can keep it.

Wow. Really? Men just say all this crap so that we’ll do what they want without realising it.

How many men out there are staying virgins for the specific purpose of being disvirgined by some obscure woman in the future? Even the ones that tell SOME girls they are virgins will deny it vigorously in the presence of other men so let’s get real here.

With the strict exception of religion, virginity doesn’t really count just the same way with the strict exception of fucking appendicitis, the appendix in humans doesn’t really count. Anyone that thinks that respect is based on virginity needs to get their head examined. People don’t just dole out respect for hymen like you’re paying money for bread. Respect doesn’t come that easy so please.

Right, so a woman that remains a virgin till marriage and then discovers that her husband is gay/bisexual it is because she had premarital sex abi?

Or what about the legions of Nigerian women who were virgins on their wedding night but whose husbands are happily screwing the housemaid – what did they do wrong?

Oh, and unfortunately no amount of theory can make up for practicals. Sex is not the SAT. Just because you read a few books doesn’t mean you will magically be fantastic at it immediately. I wish it worked that way but it doesn’t. Go and read the post on Solomon Sydelle’s blog right now and you will see what I mean.

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