Comments on: Complexion Obsession

By: beebola

beebola — Tue, 25 May 2010 21:33:33 +0000

God bless d writer of ths article……..m dark n recently ppl hv been hvn issues sayin dt m 2dark n i shd use sme creams 2lighten up……..i wz evn getn cncernd bt i feel tons betr nw……

By: Ebby

Ebby — Thu, 20 May 2010 15:07:23 +0000

I see this black inferiority crap in the United States, The Caribbean and everywhere the black people or brown people or yellow people have had the unfortunate chance of ever colliding with white people. They are the minority, we are the majority. We came first, not them. Our genes are dominant.

Let’s get rid of the inferior mindset and replace the system of racism-white supremacy, with a system of justice!
http://stopthebrainwash.com

By: Ebby

Ebby — Thu, 20 May 2010 15:04:51 +0000

“Do we blame the media following the age old logic that ‘white’ has been pushed in our faces as the perfect standard of beauty? Or are we looking at a deeper self-esteem issues?” I blame the GLOBAL system of racism-white supremacy for the inferiority complexes that black people ( Africans) and even all brown -non-white people around the globe have with their beautiful, absolutely perfect shades of brown skin.

It is a GLOBAL system that tells all of us that “black is whack” and “white is right”. Unfortunately because of slavery & colonialism, non-white people have been dominated by this sick disease called white supremacy, where having a LACK of melanin in your skin, which is a genetic abnormality, gets you access to unearned privileges. So falling into the white supremacy/ black inferiority complex, we burn our hair out, destroy our skin with those stupid cremes, hoping for better treatment, abusing our bodies and minds, hopelessly attempting to obtain some sort of white benefits. It needs to STOP!

By: DrealMimi

DrealMimi — Wed, 19 May 2010 18:45:24 +0000

This is obviously an issue that can never go away, I am a dark skinned black girl(more of a caramel color) and I know I am very pretty because white, black and even asian men like and want to go out with me, even younger boys.But do I feel insecure about my skin tone? YES!, I love my skin tone, but I sometimes wish I was lighter, yes black is beautiful but the light skinned girls have it easier in life. I dont hv it tough, but I once walked into a room and they guys were lookn at me n it felt good, a few seconds later a light skinned girl who is not half as pretty as me walked in and there was an obvious change in focus. I am just pointing out that people are more drawn to d lighter skin tone, even tho I will never bleach bcos I love my color, but if I had to choose I will def choose to be light skinned. As I always say “Its very hard for girls like me bcos,Its tough enough to be a woman, not just that but a black woman, not just that but a dark skinned black woman. Its like we r d bottom feeders, our personalities and other stuff ie, boobs, ass, figure hv to mk up for the fact that we r dark cos a light skinned girl just need to b light n she’s a favorite. I’m jst saying it as it is. Truth hurts.

By: Anjola Williams

Anjola Williams — Wed, 19 May 2010 11:11:36 +0000

The fact that you dark skinned girls keep bringing the issue up time andtime again just provestaht you are trying to prove something to yourselves….not to anyone else! You cant even admit that there are beautifuldrodead gorgeous light skinned women and white women too,iin fact. This says a lot.Iam a beutiful golden coffee complexion,people tellme I am very beautiful and have skin that looks like it lights up from within…..the eye is naturally drawn to light! I love my complexion but also accept that my cousins very black skin is pretty too, especially because she has a wonderful figure and exquisite features too.

By: Acquarius

Acquarius — Mon, 10 May 2010 13:16:42 +0000

They say too much of anything is a bad thing. And this goes for the complexion too.

So whether its too many blemishes or darkspots, a complexion thats too dark or too light or skin thats too hard or too soft or too dry, too much is simply not good. If you are a woman who cares about her appearance and you have any of these sking related issues naturally you should want to improve on things.

Personally, I think its okay to lighten or darken your skin a lil’, especially as a means of improving things because it does help. In much the same way, its okay to wear weave-on and diet. But it is important to appreciate the fact that there is a thin line, and you need to know what the threshold is and stear clear of it because if you cross it you could seriously jeopardise your health. If you over/ under eat for instance, you could die, if you relax your hair too often or not often enough it will start breaking. Like I said too much of anything is a bad thing.

So if you decide to use a product to enhance your skin colour of texture, it important to make sure that whatever you use on your skin it safe and that you use it as directed by the makers.

Many people dont know this, but alot of the information on some of the ingredients in the cosmetics we use are still yet to be confirmed. Also almost every cosmetic out there has ingredients that have been identified as having the potential to lead to cancer. Even Vaseline products.

By: aminatu

aminatu — Tue, 13 Apr 2010 15:43:03 +0000

Being light or dark has nothing to do with beauty. I have seen black women who are light skin and some look like a mess. The reason why light skin is desired in the black race is because majority of black are not light skin. Most blacks are darker skin and that is nothing to be a shame about. Most of beautiful women i see are darker skin to me. Black women are beautiful…..I am black and beautiful….

By: ade

ade — Sun, 21 Mar 2010 19:28:03 +0000

Two words for you, Self Esteem

By: La belle camerounaise

La belle camerounaise — Tue, 16 Mar 2010 08:57:21 +0000

I don’t know if you’ve ever seen the naked body of a naturally light skinned woman. It is as if you are in the presence of an angel. It is so purely beautiful. I speak of experience, having been surounded my entire life by aunts, uncles, sisters, and brothers, that were blessed with that enchanting skin tone. That is not to count their multiple other charms such as shades of light brown to greenish eyes, pink lips, narrow and straighter noses, and tallness. (we are 100% cameroonians, 100% bamilekes, people that rarely mixed with other tribes, so I doubt the looks could come from some european genes.)

To diverge from your comments and this entire article, dark skin has nothing admirable. As a black female, you will have to be extremely beautiful to be able to stand out, the darker you are; when you only need to be extremely unnapealing to “not stand out” the lighter skin you are.

Sorry to offend you guys but being light skin is so beautiful. I feel so bad for those of you who are trying so hard to tell themselves that it is not, but it is a fact. Live with it and stop lying to yourselves. On top of that dark skin is too thick and rough. Only bleaching products are strong enough to soften and smooth it.

I wish I could naturally be like my mom, my sisters, or my aunts everyday, without having to work so hard at it. But I had to take some of the dark skin of my father.

I am not ashamed to say that I bleach my skin, I avoid the sun, and it works wonders. Thankfully I was born medium light, so that I barely have uneven skin tone, after bleaching.

So bleaching ladies out, there do not let yourselves be intimidated by all these dellusional fools. Lightness is beauty.

By: Femiluv

Femiluv — Sat, 06 Mar 2010 08:20:13 +0000

Tell me about it…I’m dark skinned, not too dark, a little bit darker than the woman on the left on that picture. Winter makes my skin lighter which I hate, I mean who wouldn’t love darker skin tones, our skin has a supernatural ability to conceal blemishes like no other lol.

By: Black beauty

Black beauty — Sat, 06 Feb 2010 19:29:03 +0000

After reading this article and the comments that followed, I am even more proud of my dark skin. The thought of bleaching has never crossed my mind, even though I sometimes admire the light skinned people. I have a very dark, and I have a few people that call me charcoal( I don’t think I’m as black), but people often always tell me I am a black beauty. I f a boy doesn’t like you just because you are dark skinned, screw him. There are other guys; white, fairly dark, and even dark skinned ones like you that will give anything to get you. But as Tayo said, DON”T LET THE COMMENTS OF OTHER PEOPLE OVERCOME YOU

By: oma

oma — Fri, 29 Jan 2010 23:14:14 +0000

ma hola evry1. am dark skind bt nt blck, i’d cal it brown. am bein specifik cos i jus LUV my skin color…mhn! i do, alot. bt i have a problm it kips goin in and out of range, mostymz i fink its d product am using and so i change. but it’l only be a while till it starts again. i jus need it 2 steady on u knw; it hurts. i’d luv sugestns if any1 has any.. and complexn has lil or nothin 2 do wif beauty..its a thin of d heart BTW.. u guyz ROCK!

By: pkmelody

pkmelody — Fri, 08 Jan 2010 05:49:11 +0000

People who base their self worth on the color of their skin, need a head check. Those people are what you call mental slaves. They have a mental illness. Love who you are because we are all beautiful!!!!

By: nina

nina — Fri, 25 Dec 2009 15:51:02 +0000

naturally am very light skinned dat sumtymes i aruge or get offended when ppl say one of ma parents are nt tellin dey truth cause am obviously mixed race. cuzins even ask me wht cream i use because dey fink i bleach bt den i dnt i use(dove). seriously people need to feeel comfortable with dere skin colour , cause everyone has dere colour for a reason .x

By: Kitara

Kitara — Thu, 24 Dec 2009 02:28:34 +0000

I’d hate to think that a beautiful woman would find herself moreso beautiful if she had lighter skin. To be honest, I am of mixed race (Dutch and Bajan); I’ve been told I would have been prettier had I had my mother’s hazel eyes and lighter skin. Why is being of lighter skin equated with being more beautiful? My mother is beautiful and it’s not because she is white, it’s because she’s the strongest woman I know. I’m proud of my roots and my complexion. Confidence should radiate regardless of a person’s complexion. I sincerely hope that all people find strength in what they have, and not what people deem would make them better. Just my two cents for what they’re worth…

By: CYNTHIA

CYNTHIA — Fri, 11 Dec 2009 14:12:04 +0000

I am dark skinned, from a family where there are predominantly dark skinned people and the thought of bleaching has never crossed my mind. God forbid I should even think of doing such a thing! I mean, I have seen people even relatives who have done this and in my heart I just laugh at them because they look worse! The shade they have becomes wrong, they end up with black blemishes on their faces and when they break out in spots, oh dear!!
The thing that people forget about bleaching is that once you start, you have to continue till the day you die. If you happent to stop, you become even darker than when you started!
To me the palava is too much and the gain is little!
There is nothing I love more than my complexion! It really brings out my features and my face is so clear and when I wear bright colours, I so stand out!
What more could I want?!

By: nkemjou

nkemjou — Sun, 22 Nov 2009 01:11:40 +0000

hehe i’m dark skinned not too dark but normal dark, in my teens and i have dark knuckles, not kidding. i have never used any “bleaching cream”. i practically use neutrogena oil. so i guess not all dark knuckles come from bleaching????

By: riri

riri — Sun, 08 Nov 2009 05:55:09 +0000

I’m just not saying this, just to say it, dark skinned women are beautiful, like gorgeous. Truth is, skin complexion shouldn’t define a woman’s beauty at all, because it has nothing to do with it. Unfortunately, we live in a society where lighter skin is praised, which started with the white folks. People just want to identify themselves with been light, because subconsciously, been light looks like the ideal beauty. It’s good to see that some people are not affected by this bunch of nonsense. What about we focus on inner beauty, doesn’t matter what complexion you are, what type of hair, eyes, but your inner beauty is what should define you, as an individual.

I have a friend who’s beautiful, like natural beauty. She doesn’t know this, but I wish I have her skin so bad, it’s clear, smooth, and radiant. Sometimes, when you are light, and you breakout, everything is just out, and then you try to use makeup to cover it up, then you look like a clown, maybe not all, but I do. She said, her aunt told her it will be hard for her to find a man because of her complexion. Are you kidding me?

All I know is, when we attended an event together last time, I spotted out this cute guy, and I really thought he was checking me out, only to find out, he was checking my friend out, because he even came up to her. Mind you, that’s not the first time. So, I don’t know what her aunt is talking about.

I personally think tanning your skin is completely different from bleaching your skin, the only similarity is that both have dangerous side effects, so I don’t compare the two at all.

By: tayo

tayo — Thu, 05 Nov 2009 01:01:32 +0000

Im a very dark skinned and infact the only dark one in my family. I used to get compared to my sister a lot and was often called ugly. I currently live in the US and you can imagine the discrimination we darkskinned girls go through over here.My best friend over here is of lighter complexion and when we go out together nobody even wants to know who I am.The thought of bleaching has definately crossed my mind but then again I would only be allowing myself to be defeated by the comments of other people. A lot of young Nigerian girls in their teens are taking this complexion issue too far.How can we allowthe society have a great impact in ourlives. The fact that lighter people abroad like Beyonce are appreciated goes back to the issue of slave trade. The lighter skinned then were the daughters of the white master whom impregnated a black slave. I see a lot of our very own Nollywood actresses are guilty of this obsession as well, after a while they start using bleach to appeal to their audience. Nevertheless we have dark beautiful actresses like Genevieve, stephanie okereke and mercy johnson that are still representing for us dark skinned girls.
I am a dark Nigerian girl,not american, and I’m proud to be dark.Anybody that doesnt like me for who I am is not a true freind or boyfriend ,however the case may be.The same way the black people had to fight for equal rights with the white is the same way dark skinned celebrities have to fight to be as famous and as successful as they need to be. Nowadays we see a lot of talentless people making soo much money because of their complexion and the dark ones with talent e.g Kelly Rowland and our very own Oluchi Onweagba are barely even talked about.We need to love ourselves and let people know that dark is lovely. We are true Africans and being dark is definately part of our culture.This issue needs to be further emphasized for public awareness.

By: Ifeoma

Ifeoma — Tue, 20 Oct 2009 07:06:09 +0000

It’s gud to see that quite a number of people on here are proud to be who are they, proud of the skin they’ve got. Way to go guys!… or is it ladies..lol