Comments on: It’s Not You, It’s Me….Hmm Actually It’s YOU! http://www.bellanaija.com/2009/11/10/its-not-you-its-me-hmm-actually-its-you/ Inspired! Wed, 17 Mar 2010 21:48:44 +0100 http://wordpress.org/?v=abc hourly 1 By: duchess419 http://www.bellanaija.com/2009/11/10/its-not-you-its-me-hmm-actually-its-you/#comment-31185 duchess419 Fri, 13 Nov 2009 11:19:41 +0000 http://www.bellanaija.com/?p=11088#comment-31185 I thank God for giving all of us the 6/7th sense even though most times it takes a lot for us to realise it, trust it and eventually use it. I thank God for giving all of us the 6/7th sense even though most times it takes a lot for us to realise it, trust it and eventually use it.

]]> By: jaybee http://www.bellanaija.com/2009/11/10/its-not-you-its-me-hmm-actually-its-you/#comment-31180 jaybee Fri, 13 Nov 2009 10:37:03 +0000 http://www.bellanaija.com/?p=11088#comment-31180 yes o!i agree wit kpakpando,who hasnt bin in dud relationships?my ex-bf was soooo mean,i almost lost my self esteem.on val's day he told me he was goin to service his car!on another occassion when they had an event in his family,he invited another gf ova,and didnt even glance towards my directn until the gal left..and i was stupid enuf to cont d relatnshp,just cos,am the iyawo dey likd in his house,lol!then he did the worst thing by breakn up with me on fb stylishly,but i kip thankn God,i refused to sleep wit him sha,dt wlda bin worse. yes o!i agree wit kpakpando,who hasnt bin in dud relationships?my ex-bf was soooo mean,i almost lost my self esteem.on val’s day he told me he was goin to service his car!on another occassion when they had an event in his family,he invited another gf ova,and didnt even glance towards my directn until the gal left..and i was stupid enuf to cont d relatnshp,just cos,am the iyawo dey likd in his house,lol!then he did the worst thing by breakn up with me on fb stylishly,but i kip thankn God,i refused to sleep wit him sha,dt wlda bin worse.

]]> By: Mimi S http://www.bellanaija.com/2009/11/10/its-not-you-its-me-hmm-actually-its-you/#comment-31134 Mimi S Thu, 12 Nov 2009 07:31:05 +0000 http://www.bellanaija.com/?p=11088#comment-31134 its really bad when poeple do such things to people, especially when they make them waste a long period of their life with them, the thing is, they who are 'dumped' for another person are actually better off without them its really bad when poeple do such things to people, especially when they make them waste a long period of their life with them, the thing is, they who are ‘dumped’ for another person are actually better off without them

]]> By: mayowalulu http://www.bellanaija.com/2009/11/10/its-not-you-its-me-hmm-actually-its-you/#comment-31125 mayowalulu Thu, 12 Nov 2009 03:56:08 +0000 http://www.bellanaija.com/?p=11088#comment-31125 wooooWWW!! verry true! wooooWWW!! verry true!

]]> By: bm http://www.bellanaija.com/2009/11/10/its-not-you-its-me-hmm-actually-its-you/#comment-31124 bm Thu, 12 Nov 2009 03:04:33 +0000 http://www.bellanaija.com/?p=11088#comment-31124 Being mature, virtuous, non-compromising, sharing. Some chics give themselves away to soon and pretty much lose themselves when they should have drawn boundaries. Stabilize the relationship before sex (nowadays people justify sex before marriage like if that is the ONLY reason you are marrying). Being mature, virtuous, non-compromising, sharing. Some chics give themselves away to soon and pretty much lose themselves when they should have drawn boundaries. Stabilize the relationship before sex (nowadays people justify sex before marriage like if that is the ONLY reason you are marrying).

]]> By: Africbabe http://www.bellanaija.com/2009/11/10/its-not-you-its-me-hmm-actually-its-you/#comment-31123 Africbabe Thu, 12 Nov 2009 02:55:02 +0000 http://www.bellanaija.com/?p=11088#comment-31123 its ol there in 1 sentence. " He’s Just Not That Into You. when u fall in a situation like dis, dats when u know how strong u r...n a person need straight within em selves 2 b able 2 deal wid things like dat its ol there in 1 sentence. ” He’s Just Not That Into You. when u fall in a situation like dis, dats when u know how strong u r…n a person need straight within em selves 2 b able 2 deal wid things like dat

]]> By: Jade82 http://www.bellanaija.com/2009/11/10/its-not-you-its-me-hmm-actually-its-you/#comment-31107 Jade82 Wed, 11 Nov 2009 21:24:56 +0000 http://www.bellanaija.com/?p=11088#comment-31107 very true...thanks for the link... very true…thanks for the link…

]]> By: Jade82 http://www.bellanaija.com/2009/11/10/its-not-you-its-me-hmm-actually-its-you/#comment-31106 Jade82 Wed, 11 Nov 2009 21:16:03 +0000 http://www.bellanaija.com/?p=11088#comment-31106 Hello Agunwanyi that's a good question...as Missy said ur not sure if the grass is greener on the other side. I will say sit down and think of what happened and why. And see what can be done to revive that passion. Talk to him and try iron out stuff.....it's better for the man to love u more than u loving him more and being at his mercy. Hello Agunwanyi that’s a good question…as Missy said ur not sure if the grass is greener on the other side.
I will say sit down and think of what happened and why. And see what can be done to revive that passion.
Talk to him and try iron out stuff…..it’s better for the man to love u more than u loving him more and being at his mercy.

]]> By: Nenecko http://www.bellanaija.com/2009/11/10/its-not-you-its-me-hmm-actually-its-you/#comment-31105 Nenecko Wed, 11 Nov 2009 20:46:48 +0000 http://www.bellanaija.com/?p=11088#comment-31105 Girl, sorry to break this to you... But your man is playing you. Its not that his ex wont leave him alone, its that HE cannot let her go. Bottom line? You are his under-G.. I have to be straight with u girl. Move on...better love next time and remain a BITCH - Babe In Total Control of Herself! Girl, sorry to break this to you… But your man is playing you. Its not that his ex wont leave him alone, its that HE cannot let her go. Bottom line? You are his under-G.. I have to be straight with u girl. Move on…better love next time and remain a BITCH – Babe In Total Control of Herself!

]]> By: Omoye http://www.bellanaija.com/2009/11/10/its-not-you-its-me-hmm-actually-its-you/#comment-31104 Omoye Wed, 11 Nov 2009 20:08:43 +0000 http://www.bellanaija.com/?p=11088#comment-31104 Prayer and faith in God that whatever decision we make God will direct, that's the only solution! Prayer and faith in God that whatever decision we make God will direct, that’s the only solution!

]]> By: Jade82 http://www.bellanaija.com/2009/11/10/its-not-you-its-me-hmm-actually-its-you/#comment-31101 Jade82 Wed, 11 Nov 2009 19:20:48 +0000 http://www.bellanaija.com/?p=11088#comment-31101 Hey Neil, i just read ur post very interesting and touching. As Nneka mentioned u might be the 3rd wheel in the situation. Just take some steps back and view the whole thing as a friend telling u her story. Try to do other things to occupy ur mind. Tell him when he decides to sort things out properly with his "EX" he knows the number to call. I know it's hard, when he begs and apologizes it feels good but guess what ur back at one again. So please do what u can to make you happy. I know it hurts i have been in something like this before long distance where we fell for each other but he was torn on how to leave his girlfriend and date me. I said dude u have baggage till u figure out what you want u know the number. And he asked me to get pregnant for him.....I said HELL NO....God does not bless by force dating. So please figure urself out...it hurt but I want to be happy and not have him say well u got preggo….He begged me to come back to Nigeria I said that is not the problem. You know the problem is what and where you want to be. I healed and we talk as friends and I teased him about her, but guess what I heard they had a court wedding. I happy for both of them, she emotionally attached that she over looks his bull shit. If u cannot stand that “EX” this is the time to work on ur emotions and stay sane. A man that loves, likes and wants to be with you will get rid of his lose ends…….it is well….Prayer is key, this is what I ask God “To remove any man in my life that is not meant to be there” it works but remember God is doing his best for you…becos the real man will come out when God says its time. Hey Neil, i just read ur post very interesting and touching. As Nneka mentioned u might be the 3rd wheel in the situation. Just take some steps back and view the whole thing as a friend telling u her story. Try to do other things to occupy ur mind. Tell him when he decides to sort things out properly with his “EX” he knows the number to call.
I know it’s hard, when he begs and apologizes it feels good but guess what ur back at one again. So please do what u can to make you happy. I know it hurts i have been in something like this before long distance where we fell for each other but he was torn on how to leave his girlfriend and date me. I said dude u have baggage till u figure out what you want u know the number. And he asked me to get pregnant for him…..I said HELL NO….God does not bless by force dating. So please figure urself out…it hurt but I want to be happy and not have him say well u got preggo….He begged me to come back to Nigeria I said that is not the problem. You know the problem is what and where you want to be.
I healed and we talk as friends and I teased him about her, but guess what I heard they had a court wedding. I happy for both of them, she emotionally attached that she over looks his bull shit. If u cannot stand that “EX” this is the time to work on ur emotions and stay sane.
A man that loves, likes and wants to be with you will get rid of his lose ends…….it is well….Prayer is key, this is what I ask God “To remove any man in my life that is not meant to be there” it works but remember God is doing his best for you…becos the real man will come out when God says its time.

]]> By: B http://www.bellanaija.com/2009/11/10/its-not-you-its-me-hmm-actually-its-you/#comment-31099 B Wed, 11 Nov 2009 18:52:50 +0000 http://www.bellanaija.com/?p=11088#comment-31099 Good on you Dele, truly everything god will come. Good on you Dele, truly everything god will come.

]]> By: Ronnie G http://www.bellanaija.com/2009/11/10/its-not-you-its-me-hmm-actually-its-you/#comment-31097 Ronnie G Wed, 11 Nov 2009 17:39:18 +0000 http://www.bellanaija.com/?p=11088#comment-31097 Wow!True talk.Us ladies sometimes just love the idea of being in a relationship and often lose ourselves thereby! Wow!True talk.Us ladies sometimes just love the idea of being in a relationship and often lose ourselves thereby!

]]> By: Tess http://www.bellanaija.com/2009/11/10/its-not-you-its-me-hmm-actually-its-you/#comment-31093 Tess Wed, 11 Nov 2009 15:26:06 +0000 http://www.bellanaija.com/?p=11088#comment-31093 Good one, beautiful one, I totally agree with you.....keep it up Good one, beautiful one, I totally agree with you…..keep it up

]]> By: duchess419 http://www.bellanaija.com/2009/11/10/its-not-you-its-me-hmm-actually-its-you/#comment-31089 duchess419 Wed, 11 Nov 2009 14:33:02 +0000 http://www.bellanaija.com/?p=11088#comment-31089 Comment by 'dele.. i feel your pain and this fool will get his own back in time. i like all the comments above and i think honesty and good judgement brought on by prayer is the only way out of the snake's pit,which am sure every if not all women have once fallen into. Comment by ‘dele.. i feel your pain and this fool will get his own back in time. i like all the comments above and i think honesty and good judgement brought on by prayer is the only way out of the snake’s pit,which am sure every if not all women have once fallen into.

]]> By: neli http://www.bellanaija.com/2009/11/10/its-not-you-its-me-hmm-actually-its-you/#comment-31086 neli Wed, 11 Nov 2009 14:11:22 +0000 http://www.bellanaija.com/?p=11088#comment-31086 tanx nneka.. i was feeling i could give him sometime to sort out things with her but it's 8mnths now and counting, it's a wake up call for me... Tanx bella i'm so burised right now but 'll cope anyway. tanx nneka.. i was feeling i could give him sometime to sort out things with her but it’s 8mnths now and counting, it’s a wake up call for me… Tanx bella i’m so burised right now but ‘ll cope anyway.

]]> By: mm http://www.bellanaija.com/2009/11/10/its-not-you-its-me-hmm-actually-its-you/#comment-31083 mm Wed, 11 Nov 2009 13:22:00 +0000 http://www.bellanaija.com/?p=11088#comment-31083 neli, he needs to sort out the ex... and you need to take a stand that he sorts out the ex if you are to continue!!! neli, he needs to sort out the ex… and you need to take a stand that he sorts out the ex if you are to continue!!!

]]> By: Nneka http://www.bellanaija.com/2009/11/10/its-not-you-its-me-hmm-actually-its-you/#comment-31079 Nneka Wed, 11 Nov 2009 12:28:14 +0000 http://www.bellanaija.com/?p=11088#comment-31079 I was getting all sympathetic with u until it hit me: YOU just might be the thrid wheel in this love triangle darling. In either case, a man who can't ward off the 'ex'tra females hanging around him is a recipe for disaster. 'Your' man's excuse is sooo old, pay close attention to what you could be missing. You are NOT married to him so you don't need to put up with this if it bothers you so much. As long as you are unmarried, I never recommend the 'fight for your man' nonsense many people succumb to; more especially since it sounds like you two just hit it off recently. Tell him how you feel straight up and if he is really done with her, he'll do what he needs to do to make your relationship work and keep you feeling secured. But...ehm....don't be surprised if down the line, he re-hits it off with this 'ex'-GF and you hear some wedding bells. Like I said, the hard truth is that YOU might be the thrid wheel. Love with sense. I was getting all sympathetic with u until it hit me: YOU just might be the thrid wheel in this love triangle darling. In either case, a man who can’t ward off the ‘ex’tra females hanging around him is a recipe for disaster. ‘Your’ man’s excuse is sooo old, pay close attention to what you could be missing. You are NOT married to him so you don’t need to put up with this if it bothers you so much. As long as you are unmarried, I never recommend the ‘fight for your man’ nonsense many people succumb to; more especially since it sounds like you two just hit it off recently. Tell him how you feel straight up and if he is really done with her, he’ll do what he needs to do to make your relationship work and keep you feeling secured. But…ehm….don’t be surprised if down the line, he re-hits it off with this ‘ex’-GF and you hear some wedding bells. Like I said, the hard truth is that YOU might be the thrid wheel. Love with sense.

]]> By: neli http://www.bellanaija.com/2009/11/10/its-not-you-its-me-hmm-actually-its-you/#comment-31075 neli Wed, 11 Nov 2009 11:37:42 +0000 http://www.bellanaija.com/?p=11088#comment-31075 Good one...it's very difficult tho, i'm in a relationship with someone whose ex GF is not ready to leave even tho he told her about us, it kills me inside and rite now i dnt even know wat to do cos i'm helplessly in love with him.Each time i talk abt leaving him he begs me not to cos it's not his fault that she won't let him be. Good one…it’s very difficult tho, i’m in a relationship with someone whose ex GF is not ready to leave even tho he told her about us, it kills me inside and rite now i dnt even know wat to do cos i’m helplessly in love with him.Each time i talk abt leaving him he begs me not to cos it’s not his fault that she won’t let him be.

]]> By: 2 gems (Dith) http://www.bellanaija.com/2009/11/10/its-not-you-its-me-hmm-actually-its-you/#comment-31073 2 gems (Dith) Wed, 11 Nov 2009 11:12:03 +0000 http://www.bellanaija.com/?p=11088#comment-31073 Very interesting stuff! LMAO @ scenario 1. I keep telling chicks to bump that he is a private person talk ooo. truth is most times he has sumtn to hide. And ditto @ d other scenarios. funny how when some one is obviously breaking ur heart, u find a way to still love him/her with the pieces that have been broken. A bad relationship is a bad relationship and the fact that it is long term does not necessarily make it a successful one either. Some pple stay in those relationships just because it is convenient and they hvnt found anything better, so best believe they'll be saying sayonara when the opportunity presents itself. Very interesting stuff!
LMAO @ scenario 1. I keep telling chicks to bump that he is a private person talk ooo. truth is most times he has sumtn to hide.

And ditto @ d other scenarios. funny how when some one is obviously breaking ur heart, u find a way to still love him/her with the pieces that have been broken.

A bad relationship is a bad relationship and the fact that it is long term does not necessarily make it a successful one either.

Some pple stay in those relationships just because it is convenient and they hvnt found anything better, so best believe they’ll be saying sayonara when the opportunity presents itself.

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