Comments on: Whose Wedding Is It Anyway? http://www.bellanaija.com/2009/12/01/whose-wedding-is-it-anyway/ Inspired! Thu, 09 Feb 2012 16:42:05 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: dami http://www.bellanaija.com/2009/12/01/whose-wedding-is-it-anyway/comment-page-1/#comment-60615 dami Tue, 14 Sep 2010 22:57:48 +0000 http://www.bellanaija.com/?p=11803#comment-60615 wow thing kinda talking to me... Me and my Bf talked about wedding and all that and we both agree to wed in Nigeria but my parent says they want me to wed in the UK as i, my parent and siblings livse there .... now am a bit torn as i really wanna wed in Nigeria but i have a feeling my parent especially my mum will get her own way.... wow thing kinda talking to me… Me and my Bf talked about wedding and all that and we both agree to wed in Nigeria but my parent says they want me to wed in the UK as i, my parent and siblings livse there …. now am a bit torn as i really wanna wed in Nigeria but i have a feeling my parent especially my mum will get her own way….

]]> By: Mary Aghedo http://www.bellanaija.com/2009/12/01/whose-wedding-is-it-anyway/comment-page-1/#comment-55231 Mary Aghedo Mon, 16 Aug 2010 08:46:47 +0000 http://www.bellanaija.com/?p=11803#comment-55231 Actually Ada, i think it will hurt and i say this because the bride is stuck with her wedding album which will be a constant reminder of how her special day was ruined by aunties, uncles, parents,... While compromise may be good in some areas, we have to realize that the wedding day is about the couple and no one else because it will definitely hurt me is my wedding colours were changed from lavender& purple to cream&brown, It will hurt if my decoration was changed from simple&classy to overly done & shrine looking, it will hurt if children were added to my train and they eventually stained my dress in the photo session and i can keep going. Just plan your wedding the way you want, compromise on the things that wont make an obvious difference and buy big apology cards with a nice bottle of wine and give it to all offended family members after u you must have had the wedding of your dreams. Actually Ada, i think it will hurt and i say this because the bride is stuck with her wedding album which will be a constant reminder of how her special day was ruined by aunties, uncles, parents,… While compromise may be good in some areas, we have to realize that the wedding day is about the couple and no one else because it will definitely hurt me is my wedding colours were changed from lavender& purple to cream&brown, It will hurt if my decoration was changed from simple&classy to overly done & shrine looking, it will hurt if children were added to my train and they eventually stained my dress in the photo session and i can keep going. Just plan your wedding the way you want, compromise on the things that wont make an obvious difference and buy big apology cards with a nice bottle of wine and give it to all offended family members after u you must have had the wedding of your dreams.

]]> By: Ada http://www.bellanaija.com/2009/12/01/whose-wedding-is-it-anyway/comment-page-1/#comment-35642 Ada Mon, 25 Jan 2010 22:41:26 +0000 http://www.bellanaija.com/?p=11803#comment-35642 Realize that there is a marriage after the wedding, so while u want the wedding to be all about u, compromise is key. Will u die because hubby wants his 2 little sisters to be a part of the train? Or will it hurt u if everyone wants auntie Bukky to read a scripture at the church, or uncle Ike to be chairman instead of uncle Emeka? The truth is No! Currently planning my wedding, and thats one thing I've realized. Also the 3 factors in the wedding are bride, groom and God, and not the person officiating ceremony. Also if hubby disagrees over something the bride's parents want, she shouldnt go running saying "he doesnt like it", instead she should work out a mature compromise, that appears to both parties as coming from her. The wedding planning is the 1st part of the meaning "2 shall become 1" That said, I'm excited, and cant wait to pull this wedding off, and no I dont expect to see it on bellanaija, not if I'm having my way!!! lol Realize that there is a marriage after the wedding, so while u want the wedding to be all about u, compromise is key. Will u die because hubby wants his 2 little sisters to be a part of the train? Or will it hurt u if everyone wants auntie Bukky to read a scripture at the church, or uncle Ike to be chairman instead of uncle Emeka? The truth is No!
Currently planning my wedding, and thats one thing I’ve realized. Also the 3 factors in the wedding are bride, groom and God, and not the person officiating ceremony.

Also if hubby disagrees over something the bride’s parents want, she shouldnt go running saying “he doesnt like it”, instead she should work out a mature compromise, that appears to both parties as coming from her. The wedding planning is the 1st part of the meaning “2 shall become 1″

That said, I’m excited, and cant wait to pull this wedding off, and no I dont expect to see it on bellanaija, not if I’m having my way!!! lol

]]> By: Kehinde http://www.bellanaija.com/2009/12/01/whose-wedding-is-it-anyway/comment-page-1/#comment-34230 Kehinde Sat, 26 Dec 2009 16:05:09 +0000 http://www.bellanaija.com/?p=11803#comment-34230 I really like this article because that is what I am going through right now. My parents want to control everything from the date of the wedding to the place and number of people. I will be living in a different city from them when the wedding does take place and prefer it to be in the same city that I am living at. Furthermore, my finace and I will be covering 99.9% of the wedding. I am really trying to stay calm but they are driving me crazy. I am hoping to make them happy by letting them know the introduction and engagement will be where they live and they can plan that I really like this article because that is what I am going through right now. My parents want to control everything from the date of the wedding to the place and number of people. I will be living in a different city from them when the wedding does take place and prefer it to be in the same city that I am living at. Furthermore, my finace and I will be covering 99.9% of the wedding. I am really trying to stay calm but they are driving me crazy. I am hoping to make them happy by letting them know the introduction and engagement will be where they live and they can plan that

]]> By: sylvia http://www.bellanaija.com/2009/12/01/whose-wedding-is-it-anyway/comment-page-1/#comment-34048 sylvia Tue, 22 Dec 2009 15:54:02 +0000 http://www.bellanaija.com/?p=11803#comment-34048 hmmmmmmmm i bow for your write up,it really touched my heart,it will be something to always remember for me,when God answers my prayers(marriage). hmmmmmmmm i bow for your write up,it really touched my heart,it will be something to always remember for me,when God answers my prayers(marriage).

]]> By: silva http://www.bellanaija.com/2009/12/01/whose-wedding-is-it-anyway/comment-page-1/#comment-32763 silva Sat, 05 Dec 2009 12:33:48 +0000 http://www.bellanaija.com/?p=11803#comment-32763 me too, i want a small wedding with not more dan 30 guests, unfortunately my paternal and maternal families are quite big....and dats nt evn talkn about d groom...sigh... me too, i want a small wedding with not more dan 30 guests, unfortunately my paternal and maternal families are quite big….and dats nt evn talkn about d groom…sigh…

]]> By: Suzanna Efiok http://www.bellanaija.com/2009/12/01/whose-wedding-is-it-anyway/comment-page-1/#comment-32698 Suzanna Efiok Fri, 04 Dec 2009 15:53:09 +0000 http://www.bellanaija.com/?p=11803#comment-32698 This was a very insightful write up. Weddings can bring out the worst in people and test a couple's ability to work together in the face of a variety of views that might clash with their plans and/or goals. I totally agree with "compromise on the little things and gain leverage on the big things" especially since I am a big fan of the adage, "chose your battles wisely" unless it totally goes against ones beliefs. Sha, it is very important to keep the focus on why you are getting married, what suits you esthetically leaving a little leeway for input by others and if you don't want someone controlling your wedding then save!save!save! And budget!budget!budget! With all ten tips crossed, I will be using this write up as a guideline this time next year by God's grace, AMEN! BN, keep up the good work. This was a very insightful write up. Weddings can bring out the worst in people and test a couple’s ability to work together in the face of a variety of views that might clash with their plans and/or goals. I totally agree with “compromise on the little things and gain leverage on the big things” especially since I am a big fan of the adage, “chose your battles wisely” unless it totally goes against ones beliefs. Sha, it is very important to keep the focus on why you are getting married, what suits you esthetically leaving a little leeway for input by others and if you don’t want someone controlling your wedding then save!save!save! And budget!budget!budget! With all ten tips crossed, I will be using this write up as a guideline this time next year by God’s grace, AMEN! BN, keep up the good work.

]]> By: az in... http://www.bellanaija.com/2009/12/01/whose-wedding-is-it-anyway/comment-page-1/#comment-32559 az in... Thu, 03 Dec 2009 02:34:02 +0000 http://www.bellanaija.com/?p=11803#comment-32559 ...I'm scared :( …I’m scared :(

]]> By: wedding http://www.bellanaija.com/2009/12/01/whose-wedding-is-it-anyway/comment-page-1/#comment-32525 wedding Wed, 02 Dec 2009 19:54:41 +0000 http://www.bellanaija.com/?p=11803#comment-32525 Willpower, compromise, willpower, compromise... I will try to remember these wise words in the future. :) Willpower, compromise, willpower, compromise…
I will try to remember these wise words in the future. :)

]]> By: Tess http://www.bellanaija.com/2009/12/01/whose-wedding-is-it-anyway/comment-page-1/#comment-32494 Tess Wed, 02 Dec 2009 09:31:56 +0000 http://www.bellanaija.com/?p=11803#comment-32494 Good one Fade, I would remember all of these when I get to prepare for mine. Good one Fade, I would remember all of these when I get to prepare for mine.

]]> By: sotrue http://www.bellanaija.com/2009/12/01/whose-wedding-is-it-anyway/comment-page-1/#comment-32467 sotrue Wed, 02 Dec 2009 02:17:58 +0000 http://www.bellanaija.com/?p=11803#comment-32467 loved your write-up. I'm hoping to wriggle free and have mine in barbados with 20 guests max lol. now how to pull that off...sigh loved your write-up.
I’m hoping to wriggle free and have mine in barbados with 20 guests max lol.
now how to pull that off…sigh

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