Comments on: The Gold Digger in Me

By: vee

vee — Sat, 21 May 2011 09:31:56 +0000

As much as i hate to sound ridiculous, but the truth cant help but be told. Glory you are right in someway yet you miss the ultimate mark. Relationships should not be built on ‘materials’ rather on ‘virtues’. i have lots and lots of scenerios to prove your hilarious theory wrong but yet no woman wants to be on the other side. personally i do no not go out looking for ‘gold mines’ to dig yet a man of responsibility need not be told that he has an obligation to look out for his woman to keep her respect. We are all humans and no one gets accustomed to ‘poverty’ yet ‘money’ is not all that matters. and according to prov 18:22…. he that findeth a wife findeth a good thing… we are tickets to their financial breakthrough so why hope to dig when we carry the ‘mine’?. Ladies lets change our perspective on this… we need a revolution

By: Me of course

Me of course — Mon, 20 Sep 2010 13:14:54 +0000

praying you dont lead your girls off the track..

By: Pizzazz

Pizzazz — Tue, 22 Jun 2010 01:00:35 +0000

I love this article even though some may see your articles as being a lil’ bit too chauvinistic, I think you are doing a good job, and really spelling out the words women can never say. I am also for the whole suffer with him theory but sometimes, a girl deserves to be spoiled silly by her man. And if he can’t do that for me then he isn’t man enough.

By: kumzy

kumzy — Wed, 02 Jun 2010 14:11:30 +0000

I agree that it is important that the guy should be financially capable (that does not necessarily mean he has to be mega-rich & we women have to be careful that we don’t become too materialistic when deciding that) but it is more important for him to be God-fearing as well as that is when you both can build the right foundation. And most God-fearing men who are mature will not look for a wife until they are financially capable.
I believe most people took Glory’s article to the extreme in both directions. I believe the gist is that a man should be financially mature before he starts to look for a wife. If he is still looking for a job, then he should think about how he will take care of his family? In the end, individuals all have freedom of choice and some people are happy marrying a man who is still jobless but they must be willing to drink garri with him & those who want men who are comfortable, dont let that be the only benchmark as a man being financially capable does nt mean that he has all the qualities you should look for in a man

By: Kris

Kris — Fri, 21 May 2010 17:04:27 +0000

Theres more to a good relationship than just money. Infact like it were, money can help make our relationship more fulfilling, which money bags alone cant. I dont know whether the author gives thought of any uneventual happening that can lead to loss of all the money , what happens to the relationship? With all due respect to Gloria, even penniless guys deserve to love and be loved. There are also very rich guys who can give you anything you need, the cars, jewels, spending bucks, and all, and treat you like trash, would you be comfortable? My take on this is that you have no bizines being in marriage, get an online adrress where you find guys who need your service and know that they have to pay for it, No one will be hurt. That is a win win for you both, otherwise someone will be hurt one day! You cant enjoy the money when its there and disappear when its gone, youll be digging your own grave, ably said

By: Bruce

Bruce — Tue, 27 Apr 2010 17:37:57 +0000

Let’s have a look a look at your hypocrisy.

“Smart enough to realise that it is important for a man to have his own things and be financially capable of taking care of me and our future children and not be ashamed to let him know that his ability to fulfil those roles impact greatly on our relationship.”

“So yeah, I agree. There are ‘some’ girls who put the ‘gold’ in gold digger but these are extreme cases. Most regular women folk aren’t walking around like the devil, seeking a man’s money to devour!

So unless he earns enough to keep you, you won’t be interested.

This is exactly why men think nearly all women are gold diggers.

By: U.Dee

U.Dee — Sat, 10 Apr 2010 20:58:15 +0000

I so agree with you, labeling women in derogatory terms like gold digger is a male invented mind f*ck scheme to make us feel bad for wanting something that we should rightfully want. Why should they get everything and expect us to get the scrapes? Then they have the mind to reward the mugus with terms like ‘you’re a virtuous woman’. Talk about the chauvinist’s interpretation of the holy book.

By: U.Dee

U.Dee — Sat, 10 Apr 2010 20:51:08 +0000

The same goes for men who date us for the looks and other superficial things and expect to have it easy with us. If you’re going to go for that then don’t complain when we want something for tolerating your attentions in return

By: Ayodeji

Ayodeji — Wed, 31 Mar 2010 13:13:36 +0000

Girl, you just keep rocking. Am in love with you already Yes i am a God-fearing, praying woman, but I hold my own financially too. The Bible says men are the head of their homes- in every way that means! If that makes me a gold-digger, I will gladly be one!

By: Friend of Zara

Friend of Zara — Sun, 14 Mar 2010 03:02:39 +0000

OMOOOO!!!!!! LMAO> gaddamn! i wish i wrote this article. its sooooo hard to swallow but OH SO TRUE! my brothers accuse me of dating “starving artists” but in the same breath…drag me away when a rich 419er comes a-knocking! lol. There’s a fine balance ladies. and we all know. in ur heart u know. That man must be able to give u what is most valuable to him cause he loves u. For the rich ones, its their time and attention. For the struggling brothers…ambition and devotion goes a long way….plus i need to know u’d give me ur last dollar just cause its me, and cause i asked! pere. av been there b4 and i’m not going back! Ladies, Know ur worth! as long as u can hold ur own…know what u want and demand it from urself, from ur guy and from life! No matter how rich i become(and i plan to be VERY wealthy)…i still expect my man to be the primary provider for our family. let my riches sit in a bank account and accumulate intrest…watever. REAL MEN KNOW WASSAP! young boys, keep quoting bible…that psalm 31 woman will smell out ur BS and move on to the next!

Fabulous read!
x

By: Caramel4u

Caramel4u — Sat, 13 Mar 2010 15:36:47 +0000

am learning all the guys i dated in the past where stingy i didnt even realise cos i just thought i was simple, not demanding, i love him for him and not what he gives me bla bla…very foolish me, i even dated a guy for over a year and he never got me tom tom imagine
and at my age i’ve never had a special valentines cos by the 14 there would have been a split or argument…birthdays included

By: miss jones

miss jones — Sat, 13 Mar 2010 13:14:02 +0000

omg!!!!!!! this is d best piece i’v read in aeons…it is imperative that a guy asking me out must pass the financial-acid test..o yes!!! all women are gold diggers, except for the very-desperate ones who’d buy men over. proud to be one tho….

By: Glory Edozien

Glory Edozien — Sat, 13 Mar 2010 09:37:38 +0000

hey, just read thru your blog! Very intresting article….loved the analogy on the kardashians!

By: Anon

Anon — Sat, 13 Mar 2010 03:19:05 +0000

Well Said TeeKay!
Is it too much to ask for someone who can hold his own next to you ehn?

By: Anon

Anon — Sat, 13 Mar 2010 03:10:39 +0000

Ho my God!
You ask people to be God fearing, and in the same sentence, you turn around predict their downfall, and even go as far as creating inscriptions for their headstones… All because they do not see your point of view (which might not necessarily be the “right” point of view)

For people who are not well versed in “your religion”, you sure do make it sound attractive.

Didn’t you know that “Even love is a client at specsavers”.
I know my worth as a woman, and I know that I will be an asset to the man lucky to have me. I know this, not because I am full of pride, but because I humble myself, work hard; and leave the rest to God, and so far, he has not let me down.
I cannot pretend to be someone else… throw away my God given GIFTS, and lower my ambitions, just to make myself more approachable to a man!… MY MAN is someone that respects my ambitions, and contributes positively towards them. HE is someone I look up to and RESPECT greatly…
WHY? Because he is smart, intelligent (want proof? Check my purse… and my wardrobe :-p… ), and he’s very supportive of me, and that makes me want to work even harder.
If I’m handling my business, handle yours… And prove to me that you can do what I do… better.

I apologise for derailing… Omoye… Are you sure you don’t need to take your religion to specsavers too? That a man is God fearing does not mean that he lacks ambition. If he’s trying to make changes in the world, he needs a woman with vision.

By: Brad Pitt

Brad Pitt — Fri, 12 Mar 2010 17:58:19 +0000

“Every man should take pride in being able to afford to take care of his woman” Believe me most men do but those same men do not want to be used. If babes choose to ‘mine’ us and get treated like crap, they shouldn’t sulk. They’re traded their dignity for said gold.

By: olukofi

olukofi — Fri, 12 Mar 2010 03:28:38 +0000

every lady has expectation frm her man,so if that is what is she wants so be it.irrespective of what ever you think,a guy is out there ready to meet her expectations and that to her and him is………………….love

By: Nma

Nma — Fri, 12 Mar 2010 03:12:23 +0000

ride on anon! nonsense and concobility. Talking about “gold-givers not gold-diggers”. Since u (temi) chose to go the bible route please hear this (in caps): “BUT IF ANY PROVIDE NOT FOR HIS OWN, AND SPECIALLY FOR THOSE OF HIS OWN HOUSE, HE HATH DENIED THE FAITH, AND IS WORSE THAT AN INFIDEL” 1 Timothy: 5:8

Have u heard???? gold-giver ni….gold-digger ko!
Look, we are all well aware that we shouldnt sit on our butts and do nothing with our lives…personally, i think a lazy woman is a big turnoff….but even with her hardwork and education, she still needs to be well assured of her man’s financial security!

By: Nma

Nma — Fri, 12 Mar 2010 02:42:13 +0000

*She was trying to refute the claim that every woman who seeks financial security or atleast compatibility from a man IS a gold digger….

By: Nma

Nma — Fri, 12 Mar 2010 02:38:30 +0000

what does ur uncle’s kids doing bad in school have to do with the “never marry just for beauty” talk u are yarning? Please, if ur uncle himself is smart, ALL his kids won’t have to be struggling in school….so the iti bolibo issue obviously isn’t just from his beautiful wife. Infact what does ur response even have to do with the article?! Its clear that ms Edozien wasn’t encouraging us to aim towards being a stay at home wife who “shop shop shop” like u put it, and does nothing for herself. She was trying to refute the claim that every woman who seeks financial security or atleast compatibility from a man is not a gold digger since we as women are being scrutinized by men on our looks, housewife abilities etc…. so a woman seeking a tall, dark, handsome, God fearing, financial stable man is not breaking the law!
Just reread the article please!