Comments on: If He Likes it Why Hasn’t He Put a Ring on it? 5 Reasons Why Men Get Married

By: adaeze

adaeze — Wed, 27 Jul 2011 17:13:21 +0000

i especially love the part men are ‘not ready animals’ if a man don do u sometin for this life you go really yell am ‘anumpama’

By: zaizai

zaizai — Fri, 25 Mar 2011 01:16:15 +0000

puhleese, d notion or ‘ready’ is a decision….u can decide b4 u r financially/educationally/emotionally at ur destination or b4, its choice, choice, choice….

By: Eno

Eno — Fri, 07 May 2010 15:13:06 +0000

interesting and funny piece.

while i’d keep my (rather extreme/radical) views to myself, i’d say this; let the divorce rates in our immediate society do the talking.

What is time if you really want to be with a person? What are the guarantees that if you do marry the person @ the “right” time, things will sail smoothly forever more?

Why do we want to know the reason guys get married? Why can’t we girls ‘pop’ the question to our ‘him’, if we feel we’ve waited for ‘too long’?

By: Josie

Josie — Fri, 07 May 2010 13:38:13 +0000

Love the ending!
You truly are gifted in writing. Great piece.
Btw: I agree, in Nigeria #1 and 2 seem to be the most common reason why men jump the broom. Owell….guess we just have to accept them the way they are *sigh*

By: Divaliscious

Divaliscious — Sun, 25 Apr 2010 14:56:41 +0000

Your so right, Glory.. does the name Simon Cowell ring a bell? (finally ready to marry after wasting so many women’s time! the bastard!) lol

By: sharon

sharon — Sat, 27 Mar 2010 09:03:35 +0000

All marriages are not a bed of reses, I would rather be alone and happy than to be married and miserable. There are marriages that last for a lifetime, and some does’nt.

By: Ehikioya Susan

Ehikioya Susan — Fri, 26 Mar 2010 11:59:36 +0000

its a good thing to get married but what is marriage if you are not happy?regardless of any of the above reasons, we wld definitely get old someday n wld want to be with our loved ones,who would these loved ones be?the one you were never happy with? if u r getting married as a guy or a lady, happiness d is first consideration pls….

By: R-C

R-C — Sat, 20 Mar 2010 06:43:51 +0000

@loveis not abuse…LOL,i totally agree in short..cyber hi-five to u for ur comment!

By: joseph udoh

joseph udoh — Thu, 18 Mar 2010 14:56:48 +0000

some men wish they get married early,the storm of life sometimes does not allow.I 4 one was unemployed 4 10 yrs after graduation.no visible means of income.In as much i was riped 4 marriage,I could not c any woman who wanted me 4 a wife.When Igot ajob they were allover d place looking 4 me.Even in my local church.Financial status in aman determines a man ealiest response 2 marriage.No cash 4get about LOVE dat wl lead 2 marriage.

By: WaleAdeniji

WaleAdeniji — Tue, 16 Mar 2010 10:05:17 +0000

Glory, i am a man and i want to let you know you got the right answers from the men you interviewed. We sometimes discuss this issues within us when we sit together. Presure from the parents sometimes is what forced many of us into deciding to please them by going into marriage. I remember a time i visited my mum and in the middle of the night came into my room and sat me down weeping. I was scared. I thought something was wrong. But alas! nothing was wrong as far as i was concern. She asked if there was anything i was hiding from her. I said “like what”? She said i’m i sure i’m complete as a man? I didn’t at first get her point until she queried why i haven’t brought whoever i would marry to her. I really was not ready. I had a girlfriend and i was having nice time but was just not ready to burden myself with a woman and possibly a kid. I go out whenever i want and come back home whenever i wish without anyone asking me questions. I had no one to think about but just me. However, when i was almost killed with pressure from mum and dad, ahhh! i had no choice than to satisfy them and decided to get marry. But tell you what? The fear we nurse before we get married is not really worth it. I later discovered there is joy in marriage when you are lucky to marry the right person.

By: Loveis not abuse

Loveis not abuse — Mon, 15 Mar 2010 20:26:16 +0000

I guess this analysis was done in Nigeria, i think Lagos where men view women as nothing.This was not God’s design for marriage, how can a man not chose his wife without thinking of love. Marriage is all about companionship and love, you can go through major issues in marriage and it only takes love to withstand the rough times. I guess the reason why these men are saying that they are pressurized is bcos they do not love these women, and for any woman to trap a man with pregnancy is a shame. If a man does not love you in the beginning even if he marries u, he will definitely cheat on u bad. Another reason given is to procreate, what about when the kids are grown? are u not going to be in the same house. Some men can be selfish sha, I personally think it is an insult if men are saying these are the reasons why they marry.Most men in Nigeria cheat continously bcos they are chosing wives based on the wrong ideas. My fellow women pls marry someone who loves u abeg, marriage is no joke and we need to be happy and not miserable in it.

By: silva

silva — Mon, 15 Mar 2010 00:21:38 +0000

”i dont know of any guys that have chosen their partners based on pressure”.
well, do u think dey’ll tell u…
no man will own up and tell you dat he did somtin or took a decision bcos he was pressurised. men like to be in charge, so even wen its not his choice, he’ll nt admit it, just to save face.
my dear, lots of men get married bcos of pressure these days… esp, the kind dat comes if he’s the only son or wen the girl is pregnant… hv u eva wondered y 80% of brides 2day, are already showing on their wedding day?
some scheme and connive with either their mothers or the guy’s mother and b4 u know it…wedding bells…
i’ve seen it happen ova and ova, guy is slacking, b4 u know…’belle’…
have u seen the movie Reloaded? Exactly wat happened btwn Steph and Van Vicker… they dated for yrs, suddenly anoda chik is pregnant for him, and due to family pressure, he has to marry her…happens all the time….

By: salsa

salsa — Sun, 14 Mar 2010 23:31:52 +0000

Davies… okay you say women cant be trusted, dont categorize all women in a box. you should try and be faithful in ur relationship and see what you get back in return. i constantly have this argument with guys and trust me, most women i know dont cheat however i know some that cheat, they claim its bcos they are not getting enough from their current relationship, so they are trying someone else before they move on. Do i think thats right ? no .. . . do 80% more men cheat that women ? yes….
Apparently theres a new fad in naij, where guys dont get in a committed relationship with one babe, they just have fun with different babes, are they aware aids is real ??!?!?!?!.
My celebrity friend wants to get me hooked up on him, i know better bcos he is a fine dude and are girls going to run after him? yes, can i handle that no? so for that reason i am not interested, bcos he will get too busy… blah blah
so you need to get over the fact that women and not trustworthy and just pray about getting the right woman!!! A change of mindset is a good start x!

By: Lala

Lala — Sun, 14 Mar 2010 21:03:45 +0000

Thanks for your comment R-C. I don’t think its fair for people to generalize all men and women as thinking/ wanting the same.

By: Foxtrot

Foxtrot — Sun, 14 Mar 2010 19:33:23 +0000

Dear! dear! – Im not sure which men you spoke too – but it seems that you worked with a very small group of similar men – and when you do that you get these kinds of results – where it seems like most men think alike.

Unfortunately, my dear – you are way off the mark – i dont know of any guys that have chosen their partners based on pressure. I think if anything many more men are beginning to understand the importance of “getting it right” the first time. They now chose to marry someone they truly love and with whom they are comfortable.

While your article is very well written, there is nothing in it that indicates that you met with men with different backgrounds – education, religion, tribe, exposure e.t.c

sample = bias = inaccurate findings. sorry luv.

By: F

Sun, 14 Mar 2010 16:23:35 +0000

That is untrue.Most women I know can be trusted to be committed, loving and are great companions. Sadly, I can’t say the same for most men even though there are a few good ones. This is not even about gender wars, its just reality

By: waffarian

waffarian — Sun, 14 Mar 2010 07:39:46 +0000

The very thought of human beings thinking this way makes me cringe. Good luck to all, it sure is faker than fake out there.

By: MelonX

MelonX — Sun, 14 Mar 2010 04:32:49 +0000

@Olowo don’t you just hate it when that happens…typing stuff and it disappearing. @others-someone alluded to this earlier,we really need to discuss women that aren’t interested in marriage, I am seeing more and more of these women, not because it hasn’t been offered, but because they too are afraid of commitment and the biological aspect — u know sacrificing the Vee JJ;or it could be that they are financially independent and would rather have a life-partner without the hassle.

By: Friend of Zara

Friend of Zara — Sun, 14 Mar 2010 03:23:24 +0000

omo…2 years is a critical reassesment point. just enuff time to get comfortable and know if u want the same things, but short enuff to cut ur losses if u need to. 6yrs kini?!?!?!? in the extra 4yrs i could have possible met another man, fallen in love, married, pushed out one, pregnant with the next. . hehehe.

i honestly dont understand10yr courtships regardless of starting age!

By: R-C

R-C — Sun, 14 Mar 2010 00:46:59 +0000

@Nneka & Big T,it is possible as i am a prime example my spouse and i met before we got into college and married 10 years later. Trust me,it took a lot of patience and perseverance from both of us but we knew what we wanted.we never felt any pressure and there was(and still is)mutual respect.
@Inez..,yes unfortunately only a handful of people marry for love.It is ultimately up to the people involved to decide if they want to take the plunge for love or the other stuff.
I must say i have seen way too many marriages that resulted from pressure,age,the need to procreate or financial stability and all that may work for a while.Anyways i digress…love,communication and mutual respect are a winning combo anyday!