Put On Your Safety Belt Ladies – Rape Cases On The Rise as 4 University of Lagos Students Gang Rape 17year-old Female Student
Posted on Thursday, March 29th, 2012 at 5:35 PMBy Adeola Adeyemo
This frequent news of rape is getting really creepy. What is happening in our citadels of learning? Why are the people who are supposed to have high moral standards, the so-called “educated” people in the country now turning into rapists? In Nigeria where there is a tough clamour for admission into tertiary institutions, much is expected from one who is sent to the University, rape not inclusive.
It is therefore annoying and at the same time saddening for me as a former female student of University of Lagos to read news of a gang rape among its students.
This is how Vanguard News reported it:
Four students of the University of Lagos were on Tuesday charged before an Ebute Meta Magistrates’ Court in Lagos for allegedly gang raping a 17-year-old girl.
The accused – Jeremiah Bamigbayan, 18; Lanre Olayemi, 19; Abisoye Atoyegbe, 18; and Nelson Onyeoziri, 18 – are facing a three-count charge of rape, conspiracy and assault.
They pleaded not guilty to the charges.
But the prosecutor, ASP Innocent Effiong, said the accused, all of the Business Administration Department, allegedly committed the offence when they conspired and raped their victim on March 17.
He said the alleged victim, a student of History and Strategic Studies of the same university, was overpowered and raped at about 10.30 p.m. at Ozolua Boys Quarters on the campus.
Effiong said the offences contravened Section 258, 259 and 409 of the Criminal Code, Laws of Lagos State 2011.
Magistrate Adesola Ikpatt granted the accused bail in the sum of N100, 000 each, with two sureties each in like sum.
She adjourned the case to April 30 for mention.
While we are still recovering from the shock of the gang rape at Abia State University last year where the students had the effrontery to shoot a video of their sexual assault of the victim, four Unilag students are following suit with an act such as this!
What is more saddening is the fact that the perpetrators and their victim are just teenagers. From the way it looks, they were probably friends with the girl who must have trusted them enough to go with them into their quarters.
I remember what Ozolua Boys Quarters was like as a student – the choice accommodation for the “big boys” who didn’t want to stay in the cramped student hostels. It was in a serene and secluded area of the campus belonging to lecturers who charged jaw-dropping rents for the students who stayed there. Without trying to sound condescending, these boys were probably children from affluent homes who might have been under the influence of alcohol or some substances to do this to a fellow student.
I say that for obvious reasons – Unilag is an institution that has one of the least records of cult incidences among other government-owned tertiary institutions in the country (at least that is how it was a few years ago). The environment was generally peaceful and free from threat. This is not to say students weren’t cautious of moving around dark places at night. However, for her to be at such a secluded part of the campus at 10.30 pm, she was probably dating one of the guys or planned to spend the night there.
In a society where cases of husbands brutalizing, stabbing, maiming and killing their wives is on the rise, this incidence puts more fear in the minds of young ladies. Isn’t it safe to stay around young men anymore? Who then can you trust, if you can’t trust your husband, your “friends”, your colleagues at school?
Early last year, another 17 year-old female Unilag student was drugged by a male “friend” when she went to his house for a visit. Sadly, she died from the effect of the drug the day after.
I think this is a wake-up call to ladies. Please be more careful with whom you trust, who you stay in secluded places with. If your instincts tells you to run, please run. Tread softly with people whose character you aren’t sure of. You can never be too careful.
PS: And in case you didn’t know, there is something called an “Anti-Rape Female Condom”. Also called “Rape-axe”, it was designed by a South African doctor. It features rows of jagged hooks designed to attach to a man’s penis during penetration. Once attached, the condom can only be removed by a doctor (at which time he will get caught). When attached, it hurts the man, he cannot pee and he cannot walk and if he tries to remove it, it will clasp even tighter. I’d surely like to see a rapist caught on this! Read more about it here.
News Source: Vanguard News
Tags: Rape, university of lagos
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I just couldn’t help laughing at the ‘Anti Rape Female Condom’ suggestion. How you moved from a pressing social issue to genital ‘mutilation’ spurn from the dark ages was classic.
Its sad that we live in a country where crimes against women go unpunished and until recently unrecorded. Makes you wonder where r the female law makers and “womens groups”. why r they doing nothing??
Who told you that women’s groups and female lawmakers are doing ‘nothing’? You are probably doing nothing yourself and not keeping updated with information about the people that are working tirelessly to effect change that’s why you can say such things. KIND, Baobab for Women’s Human Rights, Project Alert and numerous others are avenues through which lawyers are sought and provided to try such cases and give women the justice and protection they need. And you are very welcome to find them online and support them monetarily or in kind and by helping publicize their initiatives as they work against preventing and also prosecuting unfortunate incidences like these so that perpetrators do not go unpunished instead of being an arm chair critic and asking ludicrous questions like why women’s groups and female lawmakers are doing ‘nothing’. You think it’s easy? Excuse me.
There was really no need for your rude reply. Grow up please. If you wish to inform people do so in a mature way. thanks
Babe i’m sure a lot of us wonder as well why there are no motions to increase the punishment for violence against women and that is the truth. With all the sensational cases we have had regarding violence against women , i have not heard or seen one single female law maker put forward a motion to change the laws targeting sex offenders. In other countries the punishment for rape and other sexual offenses is stiff and even stiffer when it involves a minor or a child. Sex offenders are put on a list and are by law not allowed to live within a school district. These are laws that show that the government of these countries place a value on the lives of its women and girls. I am yet to hear of any motion by any female or even male lawmaker sef before either the house of assembly or the senate on these issues and to to put these kinds of structures in place. Instead we have motions targeting and seeking to punish people for being gay and other silly issues. Now KIND and the other groups you mentioned are doing a great job of supporting and raising awareness but my sister they are not lawmakers and unless someone in the senate or house of assemble starts the conversation , it is highly unlikely that we will see these changes the nigerian woman so desperately needs. It is one thing for these groups to provide representation in a court of law for these cases it is another thing for the LAW to provide the stiff penalty for the case.
All these NGOs with their fanciful acronyms and names.Pray tell me what they have done about the ABSU case that received unrivalled publicity months back? These organisations may be trying but not hard enough.
Before you start sounding pious on the web,tell them to get their acts together and produce results.
As Emi mentioned above, NGOs are not lawmakers and so do not have the power to enact laws, however they can and do play a very pivotal role in influencing policy. For instance, the Lagos State Protective Law against Domestic Violence, which came into being in 2007, was the result of years of lobbying by civil society and with support from concerned legislators.
Civil society can help shape or push for policy in certain ways: by highlighting the issues and educating the public about them; by educating lawmakers (the people who would pass the bills into law) about the issues; finding legislators who share a particular concern for the issues they are seeking to address (e.g. women’s rights, education, maternal health) and inviting them to be a ‘champion’ for these issues; identifying celebrities and inviting them to be spokespeople for the issues they are trying to raise awareness about so that people who might not ordinarily have taken an interest in said issue learn about it (such as what Project Alert has done by having Kate Henshaw, Omawunmi among other actresses as spokespeople about domestic violence).
All these strategies play their different roles in creating awareness among the public and the government about problems in society and proposing solutions (e.g. appropriate laws and penalty). And while one organization might choose to focus on raising awareness, another might be more concerned with influencing policy. One strategy or focus is not necessarily better than the other. Rather they can and often do complement each other, which is why a critical mass of effort is important.
Now, I certainly cannot speak for all Nigerian NGOs, but many are working very hard to make our country a better place for its citizens. For instance, with the Lagos State law against domestic violence mentioned earlier, although it was passed in 2007, many judicial officials, law enforcement agents, legal practitioners, social workers and victims are unaware of it. So, it is a big problem if the people we – the public – depend on to protect us are even unaware of legal instruments that exist to protect us.
To address this, organisations like BAOBAB for Women’s Human Rights and Project Alert seek to educate the police and religious leaders who are custodians or enforcers of law; along with the media who report these incidences and other stakeholders about laws that protect women from violence and disrimination. Another organization, Media Concern Initiative for Women & Children, also does an excellent job in educating the government, social workers, schools, the media and the general public about sexual violence and the legal instruments that exist to protect victims.
Not all NGOs have the resources of some larger or more well-known organizations. The reality for most NGOs is that they are under-staffed and have inadequate resources to tackle the enormity of the myriad issues they have set out to address. And then let’s not forget that change (e.g. introducing a new bill, introducing stiffer penalties, changing mindsets) takes time and very often the efforts that lead to these changes in the short run often appear small and inconsequential.
As Emi mentioned above, NGOs are not lawmakers and so do not have the power to enact laws, however they can and do play a very pivotal role in influencing policy. For instance, the Lagos State Protective Law against Domestic Violence, which came into being in 2007, was the result of years of lobbying by civil society and with support from concerned legislators.
Civil society can help shape or push for policy in certain ways: by highlighting the issues and educating the public about them; by educating lawmakers (the people who would pass the bills into law) about the issues; finding legislators who share a particular concern for the issues they are seeking to address (e.g. women’s rights, education, maternal health) and inviting them to be a ‘champion’ for these issues; identifying celebrities and inviting them to be spokespeople for the issues they are trying to raise awareness about so that people who might not ordinarily have taken an interest in said issue learn about it (such as what Project Alert has done by having Kate Henshaw, Omawunmi among other actresses as spokespeople about domestic violence).
All these strategies play their different roles in creating awareness among the public and the government about problems in society and proposing solutions (e.g. appropriate laws and penalty). And while one organization might choose to focus on raising awareness, another might be more concerned with influencing policy. One strategy or focus is not necessarily better than the other. Rather they can and often do complement each other, which is why a critical mass of effort is important.
Now, I certainly cannot speak for all Nigerian NGOs, but many are working very hard to make our country a better place for its citizens. For instance, with the Lagos State law against domestic violence mentioned earlier, although it was passed in 2007, many judicial officials, law enforcement agents, legal practitioners, social workers and victims are unaware of it. So, it is a big problem if the people we – the public – depend on to protect us are even unaware of legal instruments that exist to protect us.
To address this, organisations like BAOBAB for Women’s Human Rights and Project Alert seek to educate the police and religious leaders who are custodians or enforcers of law; along with the media who report these incidences and other stakeholders about laws that protect women from violence and disrimination. Another organization, Media Concern Initiative for Women & Children, also does an excellent job in educating the government, social workers, schools, the media and the general public about sexual violence and the legal instruments that exist to protect victims.
Political education is a component of KIND’s programmes for young women. They also have a programme specifically targeted at supporting more women’s efforts to get into the executive and legislative arms of government. If successful, a programme like this will yield benefits for women in the longer term.
The reality for most NGOs is that they are under-staffed and have inadequate resources to tackle the enormity of the myriad issues they have set out to address. And then let’s not forget that change (e.g. introducing a new bill, introducing stiffer penalties, changing mindsets) takes time and very often the efforts that lead to these changes in the short run often appear small and inconsequential.
Lady T, if you believe my reply was rude, that’s your own opinion and you’re entitled to it. I don’t believe it was but it sure is angry and I have a right to be angry at all the naysayers that very easily criticize but are probably not doing much if anything at all to help the effort to effect necessary change. It is not easy at all. I have worked at an NGO that was concerned with effecting social change and I’ll tell you, it’s like an ant trying to chop down a bush. Even when many NGOs are partnering with one another to be a stronger force, it’s still tough. And as for the female lawmakers that are being dissed, there are many who are really trying to do something good for Nigerian women but they are working in a male-dominated environment in the Senate and House of Reps that makes it very challenging to pass laws in favour of women’s rights. Many of the people working in NGOs are trying very hard. I said it before and I’ll say it again, it’s easy to criticize but what are you who are criticizing doing? So Lady T, is this more mature for you? Funny you could accuse my comment of being immature but you had nothing to say to Ice Tee, who in my opinion exhibited the height of immaturity with his/her statement. Or are you one and the same person?
@ Gidi, if you think that they should get their act together and produce results, why don’t you try and help them so that they can produce results? Why don’t you tell them yourself and go further to give them advice as to what you think they should be doing better, that is, if you actually have a better plan than what they are doing already?
Please, where can we get d anti-rape condom from? It is seriously needed in nigeria these days
what is happening to this world? Young boys raping girls, men beating and maltreating their wives and even the case of acid being poured on a woman by her husband. May God be the judge
Nigerian men !!!!
gbam!!!
DOUBLE GBAM !
This is so sad!!! I hope they get convicted and charged! I pray for comfort and God’s peace over the victim.
About the anti rape condom, ♌o one knows she will be raped so ȋ̝̊̅ don’t see ow that ȋ̝̊̅ dnt see ow dat will work
You can say that again!
My sister is a student there and she told me she visited her ex boyfriend who wanted to have his way with her, she refused and it turned into rape with his friends…this is wat happen wen a girl would remain close friend to an EX, either you keep him far and avoid intimacy since it OVER rather than flaunting and tempting them, not a good reason for rape but prevention is better than cure…you never know what is in the mind of the other…girlfriends please take charge and overcome sentiment or pity, the heart of a man is wicked!!!!
Very much cosign this.
Oh really…?
O_o
So now, people cannot talk to their exes again? Why are some men so animalistic that they cannot control themselves, ex girlfriend or not?
Ex girlfriend =/= Girlfriend.
Girlfriend wants to have sex with you.
Ex Girlfriend does not want to have sex with you.
Obviously simple comprehension is becoming difficult for some Nigerian men.
omg! now rem a case bac then in 2000 or 2001 when a notorious cult guy raped a chic. seriously that guy was dealt wiv, he was beaten to core and taken round campus all female hostels naked. back then nigerian goverment were not really keen about ”rape”
I just couldn’t help laughing at the
‘Anti Rape Female Condom’ suggestion. How you moved from a pressing social issue to genital ‘mutilation’ spurn from the dark ages was classic.
Absolutely barbaric!!! What is even happening to the girl at this point in time? How will this affect her future relationships and even marriage? This is a wake-up call. Let’s say no to rape! It should be condemned ad shunned at every level! Educate the women in your life on how to put on their seat belts. May God’s peace and love renew the rape victim.
I’m just going to post this video:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MgIz1f0bEZI&list=FL8UIn1VbJ7rJPeUBdcNASxg&index=9&feature=plpp_video
Until we teach our men almost everything in that video, this will always be an issue in this country.
Anti rape wat, how will u no wen u will be rape, Trust is the issue, you trust someone and they act like a beast, girls really need to be informed even from the womb because as little as 5 years, they rape them, such a world, d little you can do in a school environment, don’t walk alone, boys are not comfortable with group of friends because they always feel intimidated…just take control of yourselves girls, and the boys should be dealt with seriously!! Rubbish, beware of the kind of friends you keep cause they always come as FRIENDS!!
We shud not only put on our safety belt we shud put on everytin dat won’t allow such to happen even it means learning karate.These abuse lately is quite alarming ,God have mercy.
THIS IS JUST HEARTBREAKING. @ KEM, REALLY? AN EX? WOW!! THAT’S WHY I SAID SOMETIME EARLIER TO A FRIEND, WHEN AM EX ASKS “CAN WE REMAIN FRIENDS?”, THAT’S LIKE A KIDNAPPER ASKING ONE TO ‘KEEP IN TOUCH’!
I’M OF THE OPINION THAT A STIFFER PENALTY BE DEALT OUT TO CULPRITS OF RAPE, DOMESTIC VIOLENCE AND MOLESTATION/ABUSE OF MINORS…..EG. CASTRATION.
I feel bad for the babe!! Bt the its wierd how d person dt wrote this piece ASSUMED she was dating one of the guys n wanted to spend the night (u shud confirm b4 writing, dnt speculate), n the girl dt died last year wasn’t drugged, it was caused by the generator fumes!
its soo sad when Nigerian men r trying to win the Olympic for raping the most young teenage girls! i used to be soo proud of my country and say atleast they dint rape like other african countries but now i see that Nigerian men have turned into rapists! Women plz train your boys!
I can’t at this point…this issue has to be addressed before it gets out of hand.
Oh wait a min, duh, the men are in charge in Nigeria.
Oh and they also rape their wives (yes, if she says No=rape) and beat them to stupor.
Then they have these stupid kids that are beyond useless in the society following their father’s steps—raping young girls.!!
Ashamedly Nigerian
If they can afford pricey quarters, why not for prostitutes? They must be severely punished to immediately put an end to this evil acts. They should be castrated!
The devil has always been on this land of Nigeria but in 2012 – he definately has a strong hold on yall. Yall better pray.
Meaning dat men cant control demself any more.dat is pure child abuse
Sinc I learnt my experienc sumtym ago,I never trust no man again.I was almst a victim.I neva knew a singl man cld rape.I was ovapowered by a long tym frend,wen I was 2 folow hm 2 hs hauz 4 a chang of cloth,to hangout only 2 dscova dat he had hiden agenda,it was God dat save me dat day.I hve 2 lie dat am unda oath wit my guy,dat gav me d grace.can I stil visit any guy again?we can only meet n an open place,or were dere is entry nd exit
my advice dnot let one man cause you hatred for others, seriously all you need to do is take caution of yourself, follow your instinct and dont over feel comfortable in gus such as friends place., even after you know he has a soft spot for you….
Why aren’t we confronting the men? Why is all the advise being given for the ladies? Why?
our lives are now in our hands as women wen it cums to ths rape issue. u can only be raped if you let yourself get into a scene that turns out to be an opportunity for the guy. av always told girlfrends, girlenemies, families – never, never compromise your safety. u cant be raped in public, so never get into hidden, unsafe lanes at odd hours wt a man. they lose their heads once their third legs are up. never trust a man wt your life unless you dnt mind going to bed wt him. some uncles, fathers hav evn turned out to rape their own daughters and nieces. not to talk of male strangers. its crazyyy and sooo painful!!!!
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This is officially the STUPIDEST comment here.
Please if the only comment you can leave on a story about rape is to blame rape victims and imply that women get raped because it is their fault, kindly shut up and go back to your blog.
haba! na wa!. what is wrong with what she just said. She’s in no way implying that rape victims are at fault; she’s only saying that one should take precaution. I dont understand how people will just express their opinions at the expense of disrespecting others.
I wonder where nigeria is headed wv all this? U̶̲̥̅̊ would even fnk that ppl r tryn †☺ cope wt price hike in evrytn includn sch fees Ω̴̩̩̩̥ here we have tiny boys, lil kids experimentn wv rape. Irrespective of whatever families they come from, they must b charged Ω̴̩̩̩̥ convicted accordingly. Girls should also be warned. Animalistic behaviour is not expressed on the face
Rape, homo sexualism, lesbianism, indecent dressing by our women, show of shame of our ladies in musical videos and movies, the love of money, corruption etc, i strongly believe that SATAN has taken over, true Christians need to talk to God the way King David of old did.
What has homosexuality and indecent dressing of women plus music videos have to do with rape? It is this rapist mentality that encourages men to do commit atrocious crimes against women. Why are we always blaming the victim? When will you men take responsibility for your actions???
So music videos are to blame for rape and you have facts to prove it right??? very ignorant narrow minded comment
And some them are H I V positive, no negative can try that or do they do with condom well! i dont think so.
I belive nike has a right to her opinion just like everybody else,she really raised a good point which i firmly support. It all has to do with the visuals,especially what is being transmitted through the television today(obscene musical videos of half nude girls dancing/movies showing x-rated scene/level of indecent dressing among ladies/movies showing violent scene of a lady being gang raped and brutalised/pornography/etc). You see this visual pictures are stored away in the memory and gradually they have a way of manifesting,we are all different and we all process information differently,while some could watch this and not get moved,others may not find it easy…one needs to be mindful of what he feeds his mind with,cus you gradually become what you see…think about.LUMY.
Do we even have a president? Really isn’t this why a country elects a government?
This is very saddening .. The violence rate towards women in Nigeria is just alarming, scary and heart wrenching … I am not here to cast any judgements on anyone… I just want to know what women ever did to humanity to receive this inhumane treatments from men, some of which they trust and love … My heart cries as I write this because I am aware that at the end of the day, there may be little or no consequences on the offenders; it would probably be swept under a rug and left to be forgotten, while the victim’s bruise affects her whole being.
I just wish I can understand the psychology and thought process related with abuse. I just wish that the men who exert violence on women can have some sort of empathy, Just a little! What is the thought process behind hitting the one you claim to love -swollen lips, bruised face and black eyes; what fulfilment do you gain by chopping off the fingers of that lady you claim to love and possibly the mother of your children? Does it ever occur to you that these people were beautifully made in God’s own image just like you? I would like to understand the mentality behind hitting a woman and raping her even while unconscious because I don’t think jungle beasts portray such characteristics! I need to understand the gratification of inflicting pains on another human being and the satisfaction from watching them suffer; As a Christian, I am pretty sure God did not create eve to be assaulted or violated by adam; I need to see what your actions will be if this crime were committed against your cousin, niece, sister or even mother. Do you even have a heart? Why? Why?? Why??? So many questions but no answers … It is sad that the only way some men seem to exercise power over a woman is through their physical strength! How does good communication ever make you less than a man? Please I need answers! This is so unfair!
My heart bleeds because this maybe one of the numerous cases that will get no justice. My heart bleeds for the numerous wounded mothers and girls who suffer from all sort of emotional, physical and mental abuse. MEN NEED TO START TAKING RESPOSIBILITIES FOR THEIR ACTIONS; YOU ALL NEED TO BE THE KIND OF MAN YOU WOULD WANT FOR YOU DAUGHTERS AND SISTERS! UNTIL THEN … It’s a Shame!
Its alarming the rate of rape cases we see in the news papers and hear around us every day.. We need to give ourselves and our future daughters a voice by speaking up against this disgusting crime and also be cautious!! How can we make our country great when at such a young age these evil is destroying our young ladies and even kids!!! We need to stand up against this and fight together, Women should not be made to bear the burden alone of the trauma of rape!!
i remember while i was so young in nigeria i should be about 11yrs, then i was in secondary school…Jss1.. me and my sis had to travel to ibadan from Lagos to see our uncle..we board a car from ojota..there was this man sitting by my side…he was watching me..i didnt even imagine anything until i discover someone was trying to finger me in d the car i scremmed..and this was a well dressed man of about 50 55 looking responsible .. really i was shocked i never imagine that and others i couldnt share here cause of time..really when it comes to SEXX Men are beast
My sincere condolence for experinecing such evil.
However,your tendency to generalise is not a very intelligent one and is obviously wrong. When it comes to sex,all men are not beasts. there are a few beasts around, male and female.
I think you degeneralizing is what is unintelligent here, did you say FEW???
I was discussing with some Nigerian young girls just early this week on the issue of why they don’t have any male friends except their boyfriends. Well guess what, they all said because their male friends start to sexually advance them at some point, now not a romantic approach but a raw animal-like lust they hide underneath till they get to isolate this girls. So it certainly does not sound like a few, a GOOD number of Nigerian men are controlled by their libido & sick minds !!!!!!
When we say bad guyz are bad , some ladies just dont wanna hear ,they just want to be with the bad guyz to feel ‘good’ and at the end of the story , they actually leave battered and broken , deformed and mangled . The good guyz are those who a girl can rely on and you can actually judge based on their character old and new.
AAH Bella Naija are u guys not a bit educated? Do you have information to back up ur topic? Or anything from the relevant parties? Because we are hearing of more rapes, it doesnt mean they are on the rise, it just probably implies information gets around a lot quicker. Please do not create unecessary paranoia.
That said- it is mostly women that frequent these sites. Part of the solution to the woman battering and mistreatment of women from the home is by training ur male children. yes i said it, teach ur sons to respect and cherish the women around them, to a large extent it determines their outlook in their later years.
To the folks who think that there is no one doing anything, there is a lot being done. It might not be on a visible scale, but it is being done. You dont expect a highly patriarchal society to all of a sudden turn around and present u with womens rights on a platter. Its something we have to fight for. Fight for it by training ur children, ur siblings and talking to the men around u. support the women around u, stop mocking the 35 yr old unmarried woman u know, lets start glorifying the things that matter.
God made us for beautiful reasons. encourage the woman next to u to be the woman God made her to be. Its amazing how far we get sometimes when people believe in us more than we believe in ourselves. I speak from a broken engagement standpoint, he never hit me but he was emotionally abusive; my father sat me down and told me it was ok to walk away, he didnt want a dead child, and was not concerned about losing the money he had spent. He doesnt pressure me about getting married, and tells me to understand that marriage is about a man who will cherish me.
he reminds always tells me this “Make no apologies for the woman u are, or the one u aspire to be, provided u are happy being that woman”. Ur worth is more than being a Mrs, ur worth is ur life and how u chose to live it.
That about sums up everything……..”Never apologise for the woman you are and who you aspire to be”
where can i gett o buy ohh
Apologies if this has been raised by earlier bloggers.
What is the latest development in that ABSU case?After all the noise Bolaji Abdullahi the Youth minister made in addition to all the publicity youths raised on LIB, BN and other social media that case has died a natural death.
Tell me why this one will be any different even with less publicity?
Rape is not on the increase.Awareness is on the increase.
Unfortunately, effective law enforcement is not matching the rate of increase in awareness. That is the crux of the matter and a vexing issue that needs to urgent attention.
lol @ them “win the Olympic for raping the most young teenage girls!” i was almost slaughtered by BN critics when i said women should take care of their girl child, teach them the things they need to know about men and their for their safety. that does not in any way mean these ‘useless’ men should go on raping. What ever it is, any man who in any form or way abuse a woman physically, emotionally, verbally, psychologically or any wise….WILL NEVER GO UNPUNISHED! hear ye the WORDS of the Lord, MEN!
@ pynk well said from your second paragraph I totally agree, but your first paragraph is way out of line. you can like to do a background check on some of these BN writers, before making such comments.
oyin it isnt. The headline is irresponsible. We are civil, lets not oversensationalise things. THis just causes paranoia instead of passing a message. It should simply read “rape @ university of Lagos, lets discuss” or something. There is power in choice of words, and that is all that i as a reader ask of the writers.
I heard this story is not true o..inquired from peeps I know in Unilag and they said it did’nt happen.. I hope stories are not being made up now just to attract attention. Don’t know o, just saying from what I heard
I remember Ozolua days….girls r partly at fault. they want to roll with d big boyz on campus. i also stayed in those BQs back in d days…saw so many girls go down, if u know what i mean. but 18 year olds in Uni, i dnt expect anything less from such spoilt brats.
ds z y i keep sayn girls shld stop goin to guys houses…..neva trust em, n even if u insist on goin, pack ur frnds, d girl z 99% at fault, just one girl amongst four supposd big boys, she also wants to roll with the biggest boys n nw she knws how it feels to roll wit big boys who u probably dnt knw a lot f things abt em……..unilag girls especially have low self esteem, dey want to live a big life to be amongst the so called “big girls”, even if u r frm a poor home be proud f who u are ur today to a grt deal does not determine ur tomorrow……..
lets hope other babes will learn from this cuz guys will always be guys no matter wat so we ladies shld give ourslves a whole lot f respect n knw d type f ppl we move wit.
WTH!!!!!!!! So it’s like wrong to be a female in naija or what!!!!!! WTH!
N no1 shud freaking blame d female for rape! even if she was interested at first, once she says no, no means no and if d guy goes ahead, it is rape! No excuse! Stop blaming the female! Arrrgh!! It is unfair!
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@3axes..some are just being blunt u know..think about it..what are the chances of getting justice??..a place where Police would say they don’t get involved in such matters see ur Pastor..better to be safe than sorry..stop hanging around this boys trying to belong..some see this girls as nothing but a piece of meat with the hope she would never squeal cos of reputation..you would be surprised the number of girls amaongst us that have been raped but kept quiet past and present ones..as someone did say it has always been this way..ALWAYS..even in Sec school..wasn’t uncommon for guys to do rounds on a girl..and it starts with the girl fancying one of the boys..people are only becoming more aware due to technology..its a shame but there would be gals round that same compound tonite!!..
Adeola Adeyemo,
This is an extremely sensitive topic not a frivolous one. If you are going to write about rape in Nigeria do your research well. The first part of your header annoys me.
(Why are the people who are supposed to have high moral standards, the so-called “educated” people in the country now turning into rapists?) Education does not dictate moral standards. Just like HIV knows not class, Rapists do not belong to any class. Rapists will rape anyone, any age , any class and any sex.
(Without trying to sound condescending, these boys were probably children from affluent homes who might have been under the influence of alcohol or some substances to do this to a fellow student.) I want to believe you did not just make an excuse for rapists. Being under the influence does not make you a rapist. Rapists do what they do because they can. End of. I don`t understand what coming from an affluent home has to do with this unless you want to say that gave them the impunity to rape.
In short I am tired of quoting this writing. You do know without facts you cannot say definitively how she got there or why she was there. I smell victim blaming here.
No one will quarrel with taking precautionary measure if one does not feel safe, after all as a girl and woman in Nigeria one has to navigate a landmine filled daily life just to be safe. However I wonder why this message is directed at ladies when we know that the only person that can prevent rape is the rapist.
On rape-axe, will you wear it every day, what about when you have your period, what about if you go next door to borrow some garri and forget to wear it, too many questions not enough answers to its practicality.
Most rapists are men ladies know and already trust. Most date rapes go unreported. Most same sex rape goes unreported. I doubt if rape is on the rise, the reporting of rape is what is on the rise.
For the ladies if you find yourself in such a terrible situation,try to talk your way out and vomit, piss and shit on yourself quickly, don’t be ashamed, it is not your fault, you can wash it off.
If he is violent in any enclosed space then don’t fight back so he does not maim or kill you, continue trying to talk your way out. If this is in public or you are in close proximity with others, shout FIRE or OLE.
To our young men. Rape is rape. If she says no. Stop. She is not forming. Her no does not mean yes, and this is not a funny joke. A lot of you will come abroad and will not leave with a degree but a criminal record after serving jail time. You do not have any right to her body, no matter what she is wearing or how much you have spent, if you want to trade money for sex, that is the reason why prostitutes are everywhere. Despite what you watch in porn movies , no girl enjoys rape and gang rape.
Watch your drink when you are out and if you have to use the rest room, finish or leave your drink and get a fresh one when you return. When possible use the buddy system, we come together we leave together etc.
And to sisters, mothers , aunts tell your men , No means no and stop victim blaming and shaming.
@ Beverly
My sincere apologies for any misunderstanding about the post. My intention was never to blame the victim but to tell ladies like myself to be more careful. Your points are well taken.
Well said Beverly!
Women should also stop playing smart by eating free money.
It often purges at the end of the day.
Don’t let greed lead you into dark paths.
Beverly, seriously you are my hero!
No overly emotional nonsense, no statements tending towards the Nigerian model of religious zeal, no beating about the bush, you just nailed it with facts and sensible advice.
Men, women, pls read and digest Beverly’s comment abeg!
Sorry to crash the male-bashfest, but rape and sexual assaults in Nigeria (and just btw young MALES are regulary sexually assualted in certain parts of Nigeria) is merely reflective of the reality that Nigeria is a very violent society, where violence is regularly visited on servants, housemaids and houseboys, tenants, land disputers, political opponents, etc. When a people (or nation) employs physical violence as a tool of interaction, is there little wonder that the physical strongest seek to prey on and dominate the physically weak.
Its so sad dat these rapes atimes are caused by d gals, in a case were a gal wears a cloth dats very provocative y wont she b rapd. just lk d bible said in d book of romans, just as d people refuse to retain God in dere knowledge he ‘God’ gave dem up to a reprobate mind to do those tins which are not convinient.dese guy dat dos ds rapin dont av d knowledge of God and some of d gals d victim dont av d knowledge of God either.bcos God said in d bible let ur moderation b known to all.with moderate and gud dresin dat covers a gal properly i dont see a reason a gal should b raped.but stil d guys involved shud b prosecuted.