BN Our Stories, Our Miracles: “Born Too Soon” – Dolapo Taiwo-Fajolu Shares the Story of the Loss of Her Son & Her Second Chance

Posted on Wednesday, October 17th, 2012 at 11:41 AM

By BellaNaija.com

To celebrate our 6th anniversary, BellaNaija embarked on a mission! Our mission was to share OUR Stories and OUR Miracles – BN at 6, Our Stories, Our Miracles. Each and every African at home and in Diaspora has a unique story. Many have been through experiences can only be described as miracles. Tragedy and strife converted through faith and perseverance. 

The response we received has been overwhelmingly positive and BN Our Stories, Our Miracles is now an ongoing feature on BellaNaija.  Dolapo Taiwo-Fajolu lost her baby who was born pre-term. For any mother, that can be a very harrowing experience. She tells of how she pulled through and of how her second son was born too soon. We hope that you’re truly inspired by Dolapo’s story. 
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Dolapo Taiwo-Fajolu
I am the 4th child and last girl in a family of 5.I have three brothers and a sister. My parents moved around a bit while we were younger but by the time I was born in 1977, they had settled in the then Ondo State. I grew up in Akure and Ado Ekiti and my childhood was fun. We lived in the GRA called Ala Quarters which was the residence of middle/low managers in the Civil Service. Growing up was quite normal. Boarding school in secondary school, went to the polytechnic first, and then got my degree from the University. I work as a facilities manager in one of the banks in Nigeria.

Meeting my husband
I got married in December 2007. I met my husband during our youth service year in Lagos and we just clicked. As much as I thought that marrying someone close to my age wasn’t possible for me, he was really matured in his approach to things and is highly spiritual, and at that stage of my life, I needed someone with his spirituality and maturity.

Taiwo & Ibidolapo Fajolu

Ready to start popping babies
I was ready for babies at the time we got married and never thought anything could stop me. My periods had always been regular. I used to joke with my friends that one could set a clock by my period. After 8 months of active unprotected sex and nothing happened I began to worry. At 31 I knew deep down that I need to know what is happening. There was absolutely no pressure from anyone but I just wanted answers because I wanted babies badly. Although, a few years prior, I had discovered milky-like discharges from my left breast. The doctor said it was probably nothing to be worried about as there were no lumps. I had no idea that that “nothing” was actually a major sign of an abnormality that would delay my attempts at conceiving.
I didn’t give it any thought again. However by the time I got married, it had become much more and both breast were secreting milk. I began to suspect the discharges from my breast were something more than nothing especially as it now leaked from both breasts. I googled it and what I discovered was frightening. It was from medical journals and researched articles that I discovered a world of prolactin levels and infertility. I went to a specialist hospital armed with the information I already had about my condition and the blood work revealed a higher than normal level of prolactin. The doctor confirmed that my periods, though regular were just my uterus shedding its walls.
I was not ovulating at all! So I began treatment to reduce my prolactin level and quite soon afterwards I conceived.

Pregnant and glowing
My pregnancy was fun. I glowed and enjoyed it. No morning sickness, no nausea. I ate anything I want and was quite strong. I didn’t stress over anything and I was my merry self until one fateful evening on January 3, 2009.

We lost the baby
It was the third day of a new year and I was at a 70th birthday bash with my hubby. He told me earlier that we would leave the party by 3pm but I told him I won’t leave until I have had a taste of the barbecue being grilled. Just some few minutes after 2pm I just felt really sick and told my husband that we had to leave. He joked about the barbecue being my cue to leaving but I couldn’t understand how I felt again. During the short drive from the party home we called my brother-in-law who is a medical doctor and I told him my symptoms. He told my hubby some drugs to buy and he dropped me off at home to go and get it. However I had to call him back as I had started bleeding. We called the hospital ahead and rushed down as fast as Lagos traffic allowed that fateful Saturday.

We lost him
By the time I got to the hospital that fateful 1st Saturday in January 2009, I was 24 weeks into my pregnancy and 4cm dilated! The doctor told us the prognosis was bad, my baby’s lungs were immature and could risk grave infections if born at that age. We had two options: evacuation or cerclage. We chose the latter. He did an emergency cerclage that night. Cervical cerclage is a rarely used type of surgery that involves sewing shut the outlet of the uterus (cervix) to prevent it from opening before a pregnancy is carried to full term.
I was placed on full bed rest and we began to pray for a miracle. The doctor opined that if I could keep my son in for four to six more weeks, he would have a high chance of survival. I must add here that the cases of premature births in Nigeria are very high and WHO through the Born Too Soon: Global action report on pre-term birth in 2012 ranked Nigeria as the 3rd country with the highest number of pre-term births after India and China. Unfortunately there are no government policies for pre-term births and most hospitals are not equipped for the care of such delicate babies. Three days into my bed rest, my water broke and I had to deliver my son prematurely. He didn’t survive the delivery and died immediately after.

Emotional support
My hubby was a pillar of strength during the days following that devastating loss. This was a child I sought with tears and humiliating treatments and I lost him “just like that”. My body wasn’t going to make it easy for me either as I had all the after-pains of a new mother but no child. Friends, family and colleagues at work were very nice but that nagging sense of loss was sometimes unbearable and I really cried a lot during the days after. I also discovered that a lot of people have similar experience as those who came to see me where recounting their own stories of loss. I wondered why we never hear about this.

Getting back
I knew from studying that I needed to bounce back so I started trying for a child again after my doctor gave me a clean bill of health but I had other issues to contend with now. When I didn’t conceive after 6 months, I did an HSG (Hysterosalpingography is a kind of x-ray that looks at the inside of the uterus and fallopian tubes and the area around them). We discovered the trauma of the birth had blocked my tubes so I had a procedure to re-open them but nothing happened. I resumed fertility treatments and in June 2010 it happened again for me

Oromitope at different stages

Second chance
The pregnancy was unlike the previous one. I was in and out of the hospital. At 8 weeks I bled for a while and was placed on bed-rest for some days. At 12 weeks I had a cerclage placed in to prevent premature dilation of the cervix. From then I progressed and kept my fingers crossed. When I passed the 24 weeks mark I was really happy.

Challenges
I was lucky, really favoured to have an understanding boss and supportive colleagues. I told my boss my story and he was fully supportive. As I neared the 30th week I began to see blood and water. The doctor ordered complete bed-rest and that was quite challenging. I was scared but hopeful at the same time.

My son’s arrival
I had been having contractions off and on for about 7 days earlier. On the 8th day my hubby couldn’t bear it anymore and took me to the hospital very early that Sunday morning of December 12 2010. I was placed on IVs and my contractions were being monitored. The next morning my water broke and I had my son Oromitope Edwardquickly without complications. He was 31weeks and weighed only 1.6kg.

Oromitope at 2 months

The anxieties and fears of the mother of a pre-term baby
The NICU is a place of anxiety, fear and prayers. I didn’t have any prior knowledge of premature babies. I bless God for good doctors and nurses who took great care of my son. The hospital stationed one nurse in the NICU just watching over him. He had problems breathing so was on oxygen for a while and I couldn’t hold him until weeks after. By the time we started feeding him, his weight had dropped to 1.35kg. Gradually he started breathing on his own. From 20mls of breast milk every 2 hours he began to eat more and the day came when he left the isolette and roomed with me in the ward. My ‘kangaroo’ baby was gradually ready for home!

Lessons learnt from first experience
I accepted all the help I got. The hospital was marvelous – Good Tidings Hospital, Surulere. The doctors were awesome but I was on the internet looking for clues on how to care for him. There was nothing that was remotely close to my Nigerian experience. My mum had never cared for a preemie before. For the first 2 months of his life I didn’t bring him out for people to see. I also didn’t bathe for him during that period. He was cleaned night and day with olive oil and cotton wool. Every information I had online was imported so to speak. I began to wonder if we ever share knowledge and experience in this country. I resolved that I was going to share my experience with all. I use every opportunity I have to talk about my experience so those struggling with same issues will know it is not a peculiar problem and together we can draw necessary governmental and well-meaning attention to prematurity in Nigeria. I sought out groups like March of Dimes (www.marchofdimes.com) who linked me up with their Nigerian partners, LittleBigSouls (www.littlebigsouls.com) together we are working at using social media to draw attention to prematurity in the country. The first step is joining the world to celebrate World Prematurity Day come November 17.

The time at the hospital and what I felt
We were in the hospital for 1 month. Christmas day 2010 was the loneliest I had ever had. I felt real fear. I had the worst dreams in those days. I was in the hospital with him throughout. I later knew from my visits to neonatal units that some mothers go home and commute daily. What a time in my life! Some nights I rush from my room to the NICU and I get there to find him sleeping peacefully. One can almost see his heart beating under the thing layer of flesh covering his so obvious ribs.

Not quite ready to give up
I knew God was taking me through this for a purpose. My husband and I had prayed for strength to face everything that came our way and I just knew that it will be ok. Just that I didn’t know when so there was definitely anxiety.

Oromitope today
My son will be 2 years old in December. He is such a delightful boy and full of life. People can’t imagine he was the one. When I take him to the hospitals they use him as a case study to mothers wondering how their babies will turn out. He is a shining star in our life. He smiles so beautifully and is just a happy healthy boy

Feeling drowned or overwhelmed
I always tell people that these children are fighters! They mostly survive the worst condition. I have seen babies who weighed 0.8kg at birth! And gradually they pick up. The problem is that we oftentimes give up quickly. The care of pre-term babies is not cheap either so the financial strain is also very heavy on parents. I was always looking forward to when he will fit into his clothes and I am glad to say that by the 7th month, he had meet all his timelines and could pass for his birth age then.

The Fajolu Family

Have a preemie and you’re worried?
Have faith. Talk to your care givers about your anxiety. Go to a good hospital. In Lagos I strongly recommend LUTH. When my son celebrated his 1st birthday, I got some of my friends to donate gifts and I took the stuff to LUTH neonatal unit. There is comfort around you if you seek it. Trust God to do the best for you. Seek out help. With March of Dimes and LittleBigSouls creating greater awareness around the world and now in Nigeria, we can help more mothers get the information, then help they need. Knowledge is power and with it, you can know what to do and where to find help. Expectant mothers should also ask questions and never think your issues are peculiar to you. I have since gotten pregnant again naturally and given birth to another boy, who was full term after my baby.

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  • 82 Comments on “BN Our Stories, Our Miracles: “Born Too Soon” – Dolapo Taiwo-Fajolu Shares the Story of the Loss of Her Son & Her Second Chance”

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    • pynk October 17, 2012 at 11:54 AM

      thanks for keeping it real bella naija! to the woman who came out and shared her story, thatnks for being able to talk openly. Many women struggle and look for hope. You have given it to many.

    • Me October 17, 2012 at 11:58 AM

      Love to hear stories of encouragement, everything you go through in life is for a reason. God bless u and ur family for this

    • Go October 17, 2012 at 12:05 PM

      This is a story that will give hope to many people that read it. So touching…..

    • Farida October 17, 2012 at 12:08 PM

      God bless you and your family

    • Chattyzee October 17, 2012 at 12:08 PM

      Amazing, may God bless and keep their home…
      http://dprodigalchild.wordpress.com/

    • enkay October 17, 2012 at 12:11 PM

      very inspiring

    • magnanimous October 17, 2012 at 12:13 PM

      And see how beautyful, the boys turned out! God is Awesome. Thanks for sharing Sis. Looking forward to Nov 17!

    • Nana Nasiru October 17, 2012 at 12:18 PM

      Reading your story, i remember my experience six months ago, i had preemie identical twin boys. like you said, it seems no one talks about preemie birth in Nigeria and yet i see alot of this and mothers who struggle and live with worry everyday about the welfare of a preemie baby. Any woman out there with a preemie birth, keep the faith and pray, they do grow with God’s help. My boys are soo big now, no one will believe they are preemies. i’m happy for you and thankyou for sharing your story.

      • New Dawn! October 18, 2012 at 5:43 PM

        Thank God for your testimony! God bless your boys.

    • versence October 17, 2012 at 12:20 PM

      May God bless your Home.

    • Omo Bolanile October 17, 2012 at 12:25 PM

      I so can relate with this. God bless you for sharing

    • Abs October 17, 2012 at 12:26 PM

      Quite a long read but more than worth it. Great piece! We serve an awesome God!

      http://www.abadawoode.com

    • MoiGAL October 17, 2012 at 12:27 PM

      Ah! if one has never been pregnant, its hard to understand these things! the anxiety each time u enter the bathroom for instance…at the end of the day, it is God that keeps us all!

    • Bukky October 17, 2012 at 12:32 PM

      Wow, your story made me cry as I relived all what I went through with my daughter who was born at 29 weeks. Her birth was very quick and of course unexpected, but what was I was totally unprepared for was the emotional pain and anguish my husband and I experienced seeing her in the incubator fighting for her life. She had a condition called NEC which basically meant her organs were not well developed and so she could not digest milk. For the first 18 days of her life she was on a cocktail of drugs, and because she was so small, the doctors had difficulty finding a vein to put the IV line in. On the night of the 13th day, we thought we had lost her. The Pediatric surgeon was called in at least 4 times to do cut-outs (and so till this day she has a few scars on her body). She spend 4 weeks in the incubator was barely 1.9kgs when we were discharged after 6 weeks. I am thankful to say she turns one very soon and has caught up excellently. She is a real bundle of joy and energy and for one who they said couldn’t eat, she now eats EVERYTHING in sight! I know I went through all that to help someone and was happy to provide advice and support to a colleague’s sister who went through the same ordeal (albeit outside Lagos). I will definitely sign up to LittleBigSouls!

      • ibidolapo October 18, 2012 at 7:29 AM

        Thank Bukky for your story.There is need to form a support group tohelp others cos we cannotrun awayfrom the fact that our country is one of those with the highest rate of preterm birth. Oromitope didnttake breast milkuntil the 17th day too. It was pure anguish Sis!. Please join littlebigsouls and letus do this together. God bless your familyand hugs for your champ!
        http://ibinike.blogspot.com

      • ibidolapo October 18, 2012 at 10:24 AM

        @Bukky, Thanks for your story. There is need for us to join hands with littlebigsouls in helping others who are going thru this. Having a preterm baby can be an harrowing experience. My son didn’t take BM for 17 days too. He was 1.7kg when we took him home. Let’s keep November 17 open as we organise a walk, give gifts to women with preterm babies and raise our voice so government and well-meaning Nigerians can help equip more hospitals. Being 3rd highest in the preemie chart in the World should be a source of concern. Thanks Bellanaija for the feature and to all who has made a comment. God bless you too! xoxo

    • Onyinyec October 17, 2012 at 12:43 PM

      Tnx 4 sharing this inspiring story … Information is the key! What a lovely and healthy child. U will fulfill ur destiny Oromitope!

    • Annonymous October 17, 2012 at 12:49 PM

      God will keep you and all yours for sharing this story

    • sofy October 17, 2012 at 12:55 PM

      sooo inspiring!

    • Duchess Jacob Abayomi October 17, 2012 at 12:58 PM

      Wow! God is indeed a miraculous God and u too a strong woman

    • kem October 17, 2012 at 1:00 PM

      OMG so touching God is always faithful, see how cute he turned out to be, praise be to God

    • Engel October 17, 2012 at 1:01 PM

      God bless u. so touching.

    • faithful October 17, 2012 at 1:03 PM

      what a touching story

    • flakky October 17, 2012 at 1:16 PM

      this story is really touching…………..i thank God for ur family…………..the Lord we serve is a living God.

    • sparks October 17, 2012 at 1:17 PM

      Bless God alwaysssss

    • Sandra October 17, 2012 at 1:33 PM

      am happy for u congrats

    • Malika October 17, 2012 at 1:38 PM

      very inspiring story,God bless your family.The boys are too cute

    • NNEKA October 17, 2012 at 1:49 PM

      Knowledge is indeed power. People need to be aware of cases like this. It could happen to anyone. I thank God for this family and pray for God’s continued guidance and protection over them.

    • Babe October 17, 2012 at 2:00 PM

      this story is truely inspiring, it really touched me and it has given me hope.

    • TOOTSY October 17, 2012 at 2:04 PM

      Thanks for sharing this. am glad i read this

    • Izzi October 17, 2012 at 2:07 PM

      Definition of Handsomeness…….. may his days be illed with Joy.

    • herroyalsexiness October 17, 2012 at 2:13 PM

      Now this is one of the most inspiring stories i’ve read on BN!…thank you for sharing your story with the world and serving as an encouragement to so many others in the same situation. You will continually have reasons to rejoice over your lovely children.

    • ibi October 17, 2012 at 2:17 PM

      many more blessings to your family! thank you so much for sharing, our GOD is best!

    • oyin October 17, 2012 at 2:18 PM

      God is marvelous, all glory belong to him. Thank you Taiwo and Dolapo for sharing your testimony. Handsome boy, God will continue to keep him.

    • Purpleicious Babe October 17, 2012 at 2:19 PM

      WOW………………………………………… SUCH A BLESSING AND AMAZING STORY.

      I pray God will keep them strong and healthy and give you and hubby the grace to enjoy them.AMEN.

      I am glad you are helping to raise awareness. Pls keep it up…xxx

      I enjoyed reading it and I pray your happy ending will never tarnish..

      God has been awesome and I pray many people in this position will find strength and faith in him. JESUS BEST…..

      LOVES… and he is one fineeeeeee boy with swagger and awwww at the last pic ohh… *winks*

      http://lifeinstagesdoz.blogspot.co.uk

    • ade October 17, 2012 at 2:25 PM

      My dear, I can relate with your story. Everything you have said is true. My first child was born at 28 weeks in Lagos here. She had very good care at a private hospital here (Premier Specialists). Today, she is an intelligent ,beautiful 15 year old girl. I never stop thanking God for his mercies! When I remember all the days I spent on my knees praying to God while she was in the Incubator and how diligent the medical team were, I just thank God. When she sees pictures of how tiny she was at birth, she can’t believe it. We thank God for everything.

    • Scarlet Xianne October 17, 2012 at 2:29 PM

      Awwwwww, he was such a beautiful baby, still is. I bless God for their family.

    • my beat October 17, 2012 at 2:39 PM

      Very inspiring. God is truly awesome, His ways are past searching out.

    • Abena October 17, 2012 at 2:45 PM

      Thanks for sharing. God bless you and your entire family. He is indeed faithful!

    • Bella October 17, 2012 at 2:46 PM

      Very inspiring story that sent cold shivers down my spine, i’m soooooooo proud of you madam, thanks to GOD for your life and even for your cute son, to GOD be the Glory.

    • zambia October 17, 2012 at 2:53 PM

      am really encouraged by this family;s story and given me much hope.
      thanx be to God.

    • Moi October 17, 2012 at 3:13 PM

      A truly inspiring story, this has really encouraged me, you know we never know what the next person is going through till they share their story. I feel really encouraged with this story, knowing what i have experienced in the past, but I trust that the Lord will definitely put a smile on my face soon.

    • Anonymous October 17, 2012 at 3:33 PM

      oh my I just cried… I have two friends in the US who have been through this experience. Both had twins @ 24 and 27 weeks… I felt their pain and I know how that period was for them. Glad to read about a success story here in NIgeria. Thank God for you and your family!

    • konnie October 17, 2012 at 3:40 PM

      God bless you all. Lovely children

    • Eugenia October 17, 2012 at 4:11 PM

      so inspiring. God bless u.

    • ti October 17, 2012 at 4:20 PM

      God bless you for sharing your story

    • Idak October 17, 2012 at 4:21 PM

      very lovely piece. Blessed by it. I ‘M sending it off to all my pregnant friends.
      Glad to see BN share such enriching features.

    • Seun October 17, 2012 at 4:35 PM

      Thanks for sharing. God bless and keep your wonderful family

    • teewhy October 17, 2012 at 5:16 PM

      God is indeed very faithful. Am happy for you Mrs Taiwo-Ibijolu, may your joy over your children be full in Jesus Name. I rejoice with you.

    • nnenna October 17, 2012 at 5:18 PM

      Oh Nike thanks for sharing…. Very encouraging. I should reach out more, i see your status on facebook but never say hello not knowing this was all you were contending with…wow

      My sister had similar experiences, lost her first child premmie to preeclampsia. and had her two children early but both are doing well even though she developed many complications….people should share more…it helps encourage others…

      thanks BN team too

    • Godlovesme4me! October 17, 2012 at 5:20 PM

      All glory to God for His faithfulness. Congratulations to the Fajolu family. I rejoice with you and your story is definitely a great eye-opening to other mothers/families facing the same…
      The good wonderful Lord will protect and guide your two adorable handsome boys for you and your hubby and you will always have cause to rejoice and be glad. Lovely Family!!

    • new bride October 17, 2012 at 5:56 PM

      Those of us who breezed through pregnancy absolutely take it for granted! Thank God for the gift of life and joy of motherhood.

    • Florence October 17, 2012 at 6:24 PM

      Woow,beautiful story.. Thank you for sharing this wonderful testimony with the world.. I have a niece who was born prematurely and if not for God and the dedication of her mum, she wouldn’t have been here today. She has grown to be an intelligent 22yr old who is on her way to making a First Class in the University.. God is still in the business of making miracles.. May He answer us when we call..

    • mide October 17, 2012 at 7:26 PM

      wow!!!very scary and hopeful…different experience for everyone.. God bless u!!!

    • Ademola October 17, 2012 at 8:35 PM

      I’m a guy but this brought me to tears man. Thank God for this child’s life. What an inspiring real life story. I can’t even imagine what mothers go through in these type of situations. Knowledge is power, we have to share our stories, you never know who is going through similar and needs some encouragement, advice and information.

    • busyybee October 17, 2012 at 11:25 PM

      I read this story sitting at my desk at work and tears came to my eyes.
      I literally have goose bumps all over.
      What a story! You’re so right. We always hear the ‘everyone look at me, showing off’ stories but very rarely hear the meaningful, real life stories like this that encourage, uplift and make people realize they are not alone.
      I have been married for almost 4 years but haven’t been able to have children yet because of a condition called PCOS. Every day is a struggle because when the ‘baby bug’ bites you it doesn’t let go. It’s just God that helps you through.
      I can identify with your struggle 100%. I’m so glad that you came out victorious!
      God Bless you for sharing.
      I can assure you that you have touched many peoples lives positively just by being honest and open.
      Thank you

    • Concerned October 18, 2012 at 12:01 AM

      God is forever awesome.

    • Eve October 18, 2012 at 9:07 AM

      I must confess that I shed a few tears! I thank God for ur story. I’v been privileged to work with premies, and I ‘m glad that we are bringing the awareness to nigerian hospitals. Thanks for sharing your story, and I pray that it continues to inspire others. Good luck n best wishes!!!

    • O'kay October 18, 2012 at 12:09 PM

      Thank you.

    • bimbo October 18, 2012 at 12:35 PM

      @Ibidolapo, I still can’t forget OT’s tiny body,when u btought him home from the hospital. And everyday I see his pictures now,I keep blessing the name of our most high God. I still keep his old pics as a reminder that God can always make impossibilty become Possible. Good work friend for sharing ur story and giving hope to the Hopeless.

    • Bukola October 18, 2012 at 1:33 PM

      You story is so inspiring and took me down the memory lane. Though my son was not pre-term, but it took me 4 years of treatment before having him. He was born at 40 weeks and just about the time we were about to welcome him to the world the unexpected happened, he’s heartbeat could not be traced on the monitor . Right inside me the heart stop beating, I could see the doctors panicing and I started to cry, but my hubby was so calm, he placed his hand on my mouth and said YOU MUST NOT SHED A SINGLE TEAR BECAUSE HE HAS THE LIFE OF GOD IN HIM. It felt like my creator was right there beside me. We named him when I was 8 weeks pregnant and my hubby said he will definately answer his name. I went through CS, they found out that he was strangling himself with his umbilical cord which he had around his neck and tangled with his fingers. They brought him out, remove the cord, he took his first breath without any help. Oluwafikayomi is the name we gave when I was 8 weeks pregnant, he is 5 yrs old now, he answers he name and will continue to. Am happy for you and joy of the lord will not depart from your household.

    • Evechichi October 18, 2012 at 5:38 PM

      God indeed is Awesome may your name be praise now and forever, am so happy for you and your faith Dolapo Taiwo-Fajolu.
      .

    • ady October 18, 2012 at 8:06 PM

      this is so inspiring,my elder sister went through thesame ordeal and i can say its not easy,the first child survived but the second baby couldnt make it,it was very sad seeing d lil baby fighting for life.God bless ur family sister.

    • lazioman October 19, 2012 at 8:23 AM

      It’s great to hear stories of encouragement. Congratulations!

      lazioman.blogspot.com

    • bumsylee October 19, 2012 at 9:54 AM

      Dolapo, thanks for sharing your really inspiring story. I am Pediatrician who sees parents especially mothers go through this experience on a daily basis. I agree that awareness is lacking. It might be because of our hush hush nature as passed down generations. We the medical practitioners are often too busy to make noise all over the place and that is why we need more sincere NGOS like littlebigsouls. As a people we need to be more open about our experiences because they could encourage others. That is why I am loving you for sharing. God bless you and your family.

    • Mrs L October 19, 2012 at 10:15 AM

      This is so touching. God bless your family.

    • esther oni October 19, 2012 at 10:57 AM

      wow,God indeed is great,im so touched by ur story,i pray God to put smile on many out dere dat might be passing through dis nw,he is really oromitope indded.congrats ma.

    • graco October 19, 2012 at 12:41 PM

      I can’t stop smiling. God is awesome.

    • Tosin October 19, 2012 at 1:03 PM

      Just sent you a bbm invite.

      At my desk and welling up with tears – I rejoice with you and may you continually find joy in your children. I can relate with your story, although in my case, the endings and reasons were somewhat different. In the end, the glory belongs to God – who turns mourning into dancing.

      I am based in England and even here, there was a huge feeling of loneliness and definitely a gap in caring for some of these issues. I like you, wanted to straight away write a book, join a group, make a difference but I have allowed life to get in the way.

      Today you have encouraged me to share this story and do something! And by god’s grace I will…lets talk.

      God bless you for sharing!
      T

    • Hadassah October 19, 2012 at 2:22 PM

      To Dolapo and everyone that shared thier stories, God bless you and the joy of the Lord would continue to be present in your households.

    • Ife October 19, 2012 at 4:13 PM

      Am muved, even though am nt marid yet, but very soon nw. Thank God for your life and dt of your baby. may d gud Lord watch over him.

    • Ibidolapo October 19, 2012 at 4:20 PM

      @ Bumsylee God bless u Doc! Are you in Lagos or Abuja? You can join us to give talks on November 17 or any of the media awareness program set up for World Prematurity Day. Please do send your details to me @ ibinod77@gmail.com. @Tosin, Let’s talk. Send bbm invite via ibinod77@gmail.com

    • Lulu October 19, 2012 at 6:52 PM

      ***IN TEARS*** AND ENCOURAGED!!!THANK YOU!!

    • OmoMakun October 20, 2012 at 12:34 AM

      In tears…truly INSPIRING. God bless you my sister

    • Miracle October 20, 2012 at 2:20 AM

      IN TEARS, Lot of tears…Thank God for His Mercies endureth for ever. May God continues to protect your family Amen. I went through this ordeal during my second pregnancy it was a sad story, not in naija ,they couldn’t save her. Who am l to question God. It is well. Thanks for sharing.

    • fisayo October 20, 2012 at 3:26 AM

      im very happy for u nd surprised at the statistics. i also had a preterm baby.the pregnancy was a battle frm the beginning to the very end and what was worse was the absense of a mother figure or at least someone with such experience.it was after i put to bed that i discovered people considered it a near taboo to speak abt it,its so myopic and annoying d way we africans reason sometimes.anyway,thanks to my hubby who is a doctor and some seniors at my nysc PPA,i got d much needed info nd today she has caught up nd even surpassed her peers in every ramfication.

    • faith October 21, 2012 at 3:32 PM

      this is so enlightening and inspiring…thanks dear for sharing…

    • femi October 22, 2012 at 12:46 PM

      im deeply touched as i had my twin girls at 8months premature too.i almost lost the second twin if not for God and the beautiful and wonderful nurses at Ikorodu General Hospital.they are seven now and very pretty also,now im trying to conceive after seven years now wot do u think i should do?pls send ur reply to my email.will love to hear from u

    • Ade December 19, 2012 at 4:04 PM

      God bless you Ibidolapo for your honesty and openess.@Bukola Oct 18,1.33pm, I thank God for Oluwafikayomi. My first son (his name means ‘wait on the Lord) also had his cord around his neck and God allowed them to pick up from the monitor that while I was contracting, the cord was tightening. To the glory of God, an emergency C-section was successfully carried out. By God’s Grace, he will soon be 6 years old and I know that in Jesus Name ALL the days of the long life God has blessed him with, he will ALWAYS wait on the Lord.:) God bless you. With lots of love..

    • Ade December 20, 2012 at 9:23 PM

      *God allowed them to pick up from the monitor that the breathing was at that point irregular. Later, I found out it was because while I was contracting, the cord was tightening. I soooooo Praise Jesus Christ for saving my first son.:) HalleluYah!!!!-Amen.

    • dolapo March 28, 2013 at 10:05 PM

      So touching,God’s grace indeed!