We Just Love ❤! Read Ferdinand Adimefe’s Beautiful Ode to His Fiancée – “20 Reasons Why I Love Miss Cooper”
Posted on Wednesday, February 20th, 2013 at 9:45 AMBy Ferdy Adimefe
As I walked down the stairs, my eyes caught a glimpse of a beautiful face. Beautiful, despite the dull NYSC khaki. ‘A new corp member posted to serve in my office’, I thought. I was deep in such appreciatory thoughts when suddenly she asked, ‘Excuse me, I was asked to meet Ferdinand. Do you know his office?’
‘Hmm…He is not on seat at the moment, but why don’t you sit and wait, he will be back soon.’ I said and walked briskly, praying to return before she elopes.
Walking back to the office I saw her smiling, ‘So you tell white lies?’
Obviously my colleagues had exposed me. ‘No, I don’t tell white lies, it is usually in different colours. But you know I referred to myself in the third person, so I am technically right’
‘Are you always this crazy?’ she asked
‘More like controversial’. I said and she giggled.
‘My name is Lily!’
Today, Lily is more than the stunning lady who walked up the stairs. Over time, she walked up the stairs straight into my heart. She did not only end up becoming my colleague, but five months ago, I got her engaged (my friend has the details in his blog – HERE). In a few months, we will walk down the aisle.
We have gone through a lot together, yet still standing strong. I once screwed up big time and she gave me a second chance to be a better man. She never quits on me or on us. I am so moved by the depth of her love.I call her Miss Cooper or Missy (a special name with history). There are a million reasons why I love Miss Cooper. I chose to share just 20 reasons. I believe she is 20 amazing women wrapped in one, 20en times a lady. Enjoy as I unravel this her.
1.She is a model lover
Miss Cooper is one woman that knows how to love her man. She is not only a great friend, but an amazing lover who has loved me every step of the way. More importantly, she lets me love her. She long made a vow to love me inspite of my flaws. I have learnt from her that relationships never work until one person decides to love the other no matter what.
2. She lets me be me
To find someone that will love you-warts and all-is the greatest gift in the world. My faults are many, but she chose to see the best of me. This gives me the courage to stay on the path of change. She is not judgmental, and in Naija, that is rare.
3. She is patient
She gets angry, but never allows things to escalate. She is one lady who is quick to apologize even when she is not wrong.I learnt that the winner is not he who receives the apology, but he who is humble and wise enough to give peace a chance. She is very accepting of my friends and family. I have some difficult folks in my life, but she accepts them because I have accepted them, and loves them through my eyes and the eyes of Christ.
4. She is on my side-but not blindly
She is my biggest critic, albeit my best friend. Loyalty is a religion to her. She is a fan of my many crazy ideas, but yet she calls me out when I have pushed the limits. On certain days, she is like a coach “Go on! You can achieve it, you can do that, you can be great at that and you can be terrific at that.”She stretches my imagination by supporting my goals and dreams with enthusiasm.
5. She complements me in a way that completes me
See, I am a big picture person, she is detailed. That is one of the many ways we complement each other in a way that completes us. If you see an error on this piece that is because she didn’t get to take a look at it.
6. She laughs at my jokes
She laughs at my old jokes as though they were told for the first time. She gets amused when I make funny faces. She is working hard to smoothen my rough edges, but as a Port Harcourt-Warri boy, that is a lifelong journey-we keep uncovering diction issues that need some refining.
7. She will make a fantastic mom
She is never careless with words. I have no doubt that she will make a great mom to our kids. We agreed to have two kids and adopt one.
8. She is a natural
She looks great without make-up. She is comfortable in her own skin. She’s not perfect, but she is perfectly Miss Cooper-and that’s more than enough for me. She has perfection in her feminine allure and that makes her very sexy. We can’t wait. Wish me luck *wink*
9. She is hard working
She is an amazing, brilliant woman with a sharp wit and great sense of humor. She is not afraid to try out new things. She is never afraid to get in and get dirty.
10. She is soulful
From Aretha Franklin, Anita Baker, Nina Simone, Etta James, Jill Scot, Indie Arie, Adele, John Legend, Sade Audu, Michael Buble, Ella Fitzgerlad, Barry White, Diana Ross, Corrine Bailey Rae, Frank Sinatra, Temptations, Nat King Cole, Michael Bolton, Nora Jones to more, she knows the lyrics to lots of old school stuff-and that’s my thing. She is not just musical, she is soulful
11. She is spiritual
She is a big fan of God. She believes in the power of prayer and values intimacy in her relationship with God. Miss Cooper is spiritual, but not religious. Through her, I have come to experience the joy of God’s love.
12. She is content with the (present) little we have.
13. She knows when I least deserve to be loved, is when I need it the most. I love the way she says “I love you” every time we say ‘Good night’.
14. She makes sure we don’t get cheated on bills.
15. She tolerates my book buying addiction.
16. She is an amazing dancer.
17. She gets mad when she sees injustice.
18. She isn’t afraid to let her emotions show.
19. She insists that I don’t compromise on my values.
20. She is constantly improving herself.
Don’t get it twisted, she is not perfect-yet she is my perfect match. Her imperfections have become woven with mine to form hues on a beautiful canvas. It is these differences that weave into the tapestry called our lives. Even though some of the fabrics may crack and bend at times, they are not at risk of coming apart because they are joined together by the strongest force I know-Our Love. Our love grows every day and I intend to keep this piece close and add to it over the years, as I allow God unravel this beautiful mystery called Miss Cooper and love her the way she deserves to be loved. No doubt, she will always remain my Number One.
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Ferdy ‘Ladi Adimefe is the curator of Creative Nigeria Project and of Styrax Consult one of Nigeria’s leading creative enterprise. He serves as a brand and content development executive with Century Group. Ferdy is a social commentator, political analyst and a freelance writer for print and digital media.With a Bachelor’s degree in Human Anatomy from the University of Port Harcourt, his passion for creativity, ideas and strategy led him to study for a Master’s degree at the School of Media and Communications. He has successfully packaged, promoted and staged conversations for change events and a theatre musicale event themed ‘FOR THE LOVE OF COUNTRY’
Tags: Ferdinand Adimefe, love, Miss Cooper
pls wat was wrong wif d camera guy abi na fone dem use snap d pix, cant even c who he is refering to…………..
hahahahahahahahaha can’t you see the photos were taken at dusk/sunset lol you have made my day!
Obviously, the point of the pics is for you not to see their faces…abi you no get????
i taya o @ anon. must she even see make she no go abuse the girl se warapa de her body
Its called ART, look into it
Haahaahaa, wowza! such a hater though *sticks tongue out*
Lmao!!!
Love indeed is a beautiful thing…its not about being perfect, its about fine tuning the imperfections
Tell that to my hubby. He seems to want ms perfect n is forever trying to change all my “imperfections” to his own idea of perfect.
Sorry to tell you the truth girl, you are just with the wrong person and it will only get worse over time because you are who you are and no human being can change another. That is God’s job…I speak from experience, the sooner you can cut your loses and run, the better for you.
@Most men re like dat,it does not mean they dont love you,they just wish u re perfect.Get used to it honey…mine is like dat too but outside,he tells his friends i’m perfect.
I concur…. It was nicely dedicated…
The guy has initiative…. THAT WHAT I CALL BLESSED WITH COMMON SENSE.
I pray their union is forever blessed. xxx
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This is a beautiful piece! ferdy has obviously been shot by cupid! good for you. Miss Cooper, keep improving him and you improve yourself lest he be loyal to you.
Nah wah oh……
Beautiful post. Love is a beautiful thing.
Deng! if you don’t read the blog: chipsonmarble.wordpress.com/2012/10/29/on-each-cake-was-a-letter/
then you’ve missed out on a whole lot! Chai! Its so lovely!
Being in love is amazing but being loved is even better
Thank God for u for finding dat one person dat makes u forget U…Hope to find mine one day…..U guys re gud…..Neva knew there were stil Nja guys dat are so romantic
This is so nice. *she’s not perfect, yet she’s my perfect match*. Wish you guy all the luck in the world.
this is beautiful and heartfelt
To Lily, you’re a good soul and I wish you guys the best of eternal life… and to Ferdy… you’re fired. You’re no longer my manager. It’s official and you know why… YOU PUT LOVE OVER BUSINESS!! LOLLL… LOVE YOU BOTH.
Whao!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Awwwwh……………someone needs to say this about me
fantastic stuff. u gotta love real love. i’m so green with envy right now(in a good way tho). i wish you both the best and may your love never wax cold instead may it get better like wine. Lord of mercy, when will i see a man that will love me like this naa? Very soon my daughter says the Lord. i love love!! loool
Beautiful!!
I smiled deeply after reading this beautiful piece. It’s beautiful to love and be loved in the midst of our imperfections. Happy Married Life in Advance, I see you celebrating 40 yrs wedding anniversary together and in good health, in Jesus’ name. Amen.
Now you see!! You ladies that the only thing you know how to bring to the marrital table, is your ‘vagina’ and ‘brazzillian-wigged empty brain’… Now you know it takes more than that to get a good man,,,so please sit up! If that’s the only thing you have, just keep yourself with your father, there is nothing unique in you, everybody has what you have, it can’t earn you husby!
lol… ‘preash heet’
Ferdy!!! Your own too much!!!
Ferdinand and Lily are a LOVELY couple, and we’re happy to have contributed to his proposal. Looking forward to the wedding
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@ chic..thanks….sunset fotos….@ ese,you have made my day as well.
Ferdy Ferdy! Sweet Words! Miss Cooper must be blushing somewhere. Congrats!
Dont get it twisted love is a beautiful thing!!!! Its Don Jazzy againnnnn
awwwwwwwwwwwwwww! *sigh*! God bless their union!
#SuckerForLove!
Hmmmmmmm, Congrats Ferdy and Lily (Miss Cooper). I wish you both only the very best now and forever. I can see me dancing at your Wedding already. Lol. Thank God i know the both of you very well so i must chop plenty rice that day. hahahahahahahaha
wow,sweet.
omgg!!!!!! sooo cute and beautifulll sigh
wow…..this piece is not very different from the poem my bf wrote me on valentines n i was over the moon. i know how she felt reading this if he showed her, really loved n i tell u folks, u have to be patient bc with time, u wud find ur true love. i have found mine n its nothing short of what ferdy described n may b even better. like someone said, its good to love but being loved is even better n i am loving my life right now……my bf is just not one from this planet esp since he is african, i love the way he loves me n i love our love…
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awwwwwwwwww……. this is beautiful
well well well love is beautiful but loving God and enjoying God’s love is the ultimate.
lovely write up.
Awwwwwwwww Ferdily!!
Ferdy is ferdily in love with Lily…..
God bless and keep you both and may you continue to grow deeper in love with each other and in Him.
My two sweethearts…
Great to see african men expressing such deep thoughts & appreciation for his babe. Congrats & we look forward to seeing your wedding on BN.
Freddy n Lilly..wishing u both an awesome life. God bless u Freddy for this piece. Love, is truly a beautiful thing..
Awwwwwwwww omg!!! so sweet!
now thats my frueeeend! you wan try.
am proud to know you, proud to be associated with you, proud that we know and believe in the power of loving a man and making a difference.
am with you all the way babe.
and ferdy, thank you for opening your eyes, otherwise i would have personally chopped offf your balls *wink*
l love this, so romantic. l wish them the best.
Story!
Story abi? If u never c person love u b4 no mean say e no exist……just pray make u sef experience am…
just show up man, can swear that he never cheat on her since they met or he is not going to cheat on her. Most Nijja men cheat on their Wives.
you just had to dampen the mood! mschew…..and NO not all nigerian men cheat and no he wouldn’t cheat on her by God’s grace
Speak for yourself.
Congrats to the beautiful couple! God bless your union!
roasted “beef”.
Lol…..mr Tim u just don’t get it do you…..u r just a killjoy, he has not promised that he would not cheat neither do we care if he has or will…..this is how he feels and he has expressed so beg no use your bitter leaf belle spoil better gist……we r basking in this flow of love so park for the next street biko
hahahahahaha naijaaaa badtalk plenty 4 us oo..bitter leave belle…lollll cnt stop laughing….its true though some cnt just me happy with others not even 4 a second…smh too bad
this is soo touching……….lily is so lucky to have a guy who appreciates her and cherishes her………..no every girl is that lucky………. believe me, i know ladies that has done more for their guys than one can imagine and at the end, they still get unappreciated by these guys …………..well, i think its about meeting the right person, the love of your life..the one who will truly appreciate you even when you dont do much for him, who will truly cherish you even as imperfect as you are. CONGRATS TO LILY AND FERDY.
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So sweet
awwwwwww how sweet..beautiful it is
This is a complete masterpiece. A great rendition of a man’s love for his woman…Thanks Ferdy for blessing us with this beautiful piece.
Oh Boy! Nice thing.
awww…this is really sweet. Here’s hoping you get your happily ever after.
I love No 8. This also got me: ”
Don’t get it twisted, she is not perfect-yet she is my perfect match. Her imperfections have become woven with mine to form hues on a beautiful canvas. It is these differences that weave into the tapestry called our lives”.
Ferdy, you are so romantic!!! You were even bold to share it.
off to find my own Mr. Cooper. Wish me luck.
Good luck oo hehehee
Awwwwww
very good……
nice…i think he expresses himself well cos of his passion for creativity..some men may not be this vocal or eloquent but think the same of the women in their lives…
Aww bless you Ferdy and Lily!!! I’m soooo happy for both of you and i pray it stays this way forever!
Hmmm lyrics!!!! Congrats Ferdie!!!!! Send my invite o! B
Awww!!! How sweet. I hope that he can feel this way forever.
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This is love made in heaven. When is the wedding? Please the date so I can start preparing. I love number 5 on your list Ferdy…… Higher grace bro
Beautiful piece. When it gets tough, look back on this piece and both of you should remember why you fell in love in the first place. I wish, African men will express their inner thoughts, passion and creativity more. Not the fake American hopeless romance but real passion and love.
Bless
Love is a beautiful thing..i pray this love never grows cold.. As you continue to make God your foundation, you will continue to bask in this wonderful thing called love..
Awwww…….
Love made in heaven. Any date yet for the wedding? I like your 5th reason. @ Tim there are still some nice guys like Ferdy. And to Miss Cooper how lucky/bless you are….. More bless all the way
Love made in heaven. Any date yet for the wedding? I like your 5th reason. @ Tim there are still some nice guys like Ferdy. And to Miss Cooper how lucky/bless you are….. More blessing all the way for you guys
Awwwwwwwwwwww… Love sha!!!
@Roxanne,on a lighter note, I think it’s always better to wait for the man to find you. You know the bible says “He who finds a wife finds a good thing…”. I hope your Mr. Cooper finds you soon. Just keep your fingers crossed.
Lily my coz. Congrats on ur upcoming wedding. God has blessed you with a good man. May God bless ur union.
AWW Fred n LiLY………cnt wait for the wedding o, congratulations sweethearts
How romantic… Chei na.. I’m a corper, y didn’t they send me to my own Ferdy kwa
Lol…..sisterly no worry ur own ferdy go jam u soon
Great stuff Ferdili..
awwww…..lovely…. for those who wants to see their faces, read the story again and click on the enagement part that says HERE. you go belle full..*wink*
Ferdy this is a beautiful piece!
Miss Cooper!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I was blushing for you as I read…:)
Love you both may God continue to sustain and strengthen your love.
x
(First ever Bella Naija comment…whoop! whoop!!)
Simply Beautiful…keep it real bro.
This is breathtaking, beautiful. May God bless you both. I pray love finds me too as it found LIly.
waoooh, Am xo loving the No. 7 point, and am a Huge fan for that, wish some of our men would welcome such ideas. congrats to the couple
so romantic , now i am happy and now realised i am not stupid after all , for showing my bf love . even with his excesses
Absolutely beautiful!!! I want this!
In this world of ours where Miss Coopers are hard to come by.. You must be lucky to get your self one! I wish you guys the very best of love!!
wow!
nice.
Ferdy Ferdy!!! A man with a passionate soul! Well done on telling the world how much you love Miss Cooper!
.. May God bless both of you as you begin your lives together and forever!
Awwww,this is just soo romantic,Bella naija I love you guys for posting stuff like this.it just gives single people like me hope that we wld find true love soon.im happy for mr ferdy and miss cooper,I pray God will strengthen your love for each other.
Kai! Don’t I just love the way u love ur woman Freddy…….. ur first conversation with miss corper unhanded me too…… lolz, i swear I wuld have fallen in love too…… I totally admire ur chemistry so intense. I salute miss lily cos its not easy to capture a man’s heart and keep ur love alive d way u have done… he’s so in awe of u miss corper and isn’t ashamed to profess it… and it’s such an exciting tin to know dat guys like dis exist in 9ja…… I’m so gonna search 4 mine!
Simply beautiful!
This ode was written with so much soul, wriitten from the very depths of his heart…..Mr. Ferdinard…wishing you and your wife God’s SUPER BEST not only in your marriage but in your career, finances, relationship with God and so many other things…..God BLESS the both of you.
Great piece, straight from his heart. Love you guys.
Wishing you both marital bliss.
So touched by this heartfelt piece! Love is so beautiful, every1 deserves to experience it
Awwwwwwww.lovin ds ooo wish yu guys the very best…
Wow! Such love, finding love is like one answer to so many prayers. Congrats Ferdy and Lily
@temi, ur advise 2 nala, dt ws a bit 2 harsh o..she sd her ‘hubby’ rem,nt bf. “cuttin off d head is nt d remedy 2 a headache u knw” @FM,hahahahaha! ouchh! lols..
A hapy lyf 2geda couple,wish u all God’s best.
hmmmm…So ferdy this is what you did with my works of art….hehehe….nice one bro….glad I was the one to capture the moments. @ese…lol…i havent stoped laffing at your comment on why u cant see the face.
It was sometime in July 2002, Ferdy and I met, and we got connected instanta. We used to handle a particular event called “Campus” Connect.And I guess all of Ferdy’s ideas got fertilized during our many programmes. Ferdinand is a visioner, armed with a creative spirit that attracts like mined folks. Little wonder why his first magazine was produced on campus! Names like Henry Ossai, Moses Olowoporoku,Zech Abi-Bezam, Owen Dabo Etela, Ime Umoyo, Tony Ochigbano, Iyoyo Samuel Iyoyo, & Ambrose Opubo-Hart are all in the same league as Ferdy Himself but there is something I found amazing as at then! Ferdy had a cult-like following. With his ‘Permanently Stuck-on -the-nose’ reading glasses, He would talk the whole class into excitement and thereafter, a thunderous applause would follow. When leaving the classes, you could hear the freshman guys running after him asking; can we” have ur number? erhmm erhmm Bro where do you stay? . And with all humble disposition, he would take his time to attend to them all to the point of almost missing some classes!
I’m sorry I have to go this length at describing Ferdy.But permit me to state that He was one person I could vouch for, that NEVER DIVED INTO ANY FORM OF UNGODLY RELATIONSHIPS. One day while walking down from a seminar, I asked him how he dealth with folks who usually lambasted him for not having a girlfriend and his reply was rather strange (to me). Hear him “Ozor eh, I WOULD PATIENTLY WAIT FOR MY OWN”… SOMETHINGS ARE WORTH WAITING FOR, & WHATEVER IS WORTH WAITING FOR, IS SOMETHING THAT REMAINS INVALUABLE ” His answer took me unawares.
Fast forward 2013… Enter Ms Cooper’s Letter. Reading through it, I found it taking me through those times when Ferdy spoke those words that melted my doubts about what true love really meant and I’m so so sure God has answered his prayer.
To LILY:
Dear Lily, My name is Anslem, and even though U’ve known me well, I must confess that the first day Ferdy introduced You to me, I had a deep feeling of fear if U’ would fit into the soul and match the contents of Ferdy’s deep and transparent heart. I kept my distance and cold-read you and then, with a nod, I congratulated him in advance, for in Ferdy were too many talents yet unexplored but an exceptional &God Loving, woman would nurture the relevant and help him filter away the residue.Today as I read this, my mind reads thus:
Many men live through life
Some wail in pain, Some see their fears, some meet their errs, while some heed the words,but who a man becomes in life, the glories be ascribed to God and the praises be lavished on the WOMAN (LILY)
You’ve met a man who is a fountain of human virtue, a born orator and you’re the one who would water his heart and nurse him again after his mum.
I’m proud to say U’re more than a woman, U’re the one who sharpens his thoughts and puts a bridle to his swift moves.
God be praised for women like you. For you give “LOVE” a taste !
“”God could not be every where, hence he created women)
Jewish proverb
“God was everywhere, but he choose Lily and handed Ferdy to HER
Anslem
Happi Married Life In Advance !
Congrats to you both… Wish you GOD’s Love in ur journey of Love…
Beautiful,Romantic, Breathtaking…Good stuff!
Congrats luv birds
lily is my friends baby sis!!! see u at the wedding love u loads *kpapiiii
Not on seat? ? They will sack you for that kind of language where I work! Lol!
was carried away …….
Breathtaking….. Absolutely stunning…. Had to click on the blog to read the proposal… Short of words about so much love radiating from my screen….. Wish you both the best of everything…!
OMG, i loved every moment of it. Damn, that was passionate. I pray i find someone like this in the future
These two??? I give up! It’s an honour to witness this phenomenal union first hand. These two are like ying and yang, fire and water. Complimenting each other in so many ways.
i go love ooo, gye dat wat dey always say at first site
My guy well written … I’m see truelove in u both great pole… Bless
My twin, I’m so proud of your achievement. I knew it would come to this since our days in Uniport. Congrats on your engagement. Wish you all the best
So So Sweet happy for u lilly…..All the best