“It was Love At First Sight” | Read the Love Story of South African TV Star Nonhle Thema and her Fiance Arthur Bolton

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“Age is not an issue for us. What matters is that we love each other. Besides, I’ve never been one to bother about what people say and I’m not going to start now.”

South African TV Star, Nonhle Thema (32) and her British aspiring musician/entrepreneur beau Arthur Bolton (25) can’t wait to tie the knot. And, with how happy they look, a seven-year age difference is the least of their worries.

Although a lot of controversy has surrounded their relationship, for the first time, Nonhle was ready to speak about it. She explained that she kept quiet about it because she wanted to keep it sacred and know where it was heading first.

In the May 2013 issue of popular South African Drum magazine, the beautiful couple spoke about their love story; from how they met in 2010, kept the relationship going even with the long distance, all the way to prepping for their grand wedding day.

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What she thinks about her fiance, Arthur Bolton

“Arthur is the most humble man I’ve ever met. He’s just what I’ve always wanted. He makes me believe that good men do exist. He still buys me flowers.”

Arthur, whose mother is originally Zimbabwean, is from a big family. He has 11 brothers and 4 sisters.

“I love that about him. It’s amazing because the whole family is so supportive of us. Even when times were bad, they were rooting for us to stop our nonsense and get together again.”

“I’m the happiest I’ve been in a very long time. Finally, there are two people who are mine; they are part of me and have filled an empty space I has inside me.”

What he thinks about his fiancee, Nonhle Thema

“It was love at first sight for me. I just loved this woman from the time I laid eyes on her.

Arthur insists that Nonhle meets his whole family. As a result, the couple will spend a few months in England and the US before the wedding.

“I want all of my family to meet this amazing woman who’s stolen my heart.”

How They Met

“I met Arthur in Los Angeles, where I was working on my TV show ‘Nonhle Goes to Hollywood’. He was there to listen to his rapper brother, Lupe Fiasco, performing. We became friends but at the time I was very focused on my career and didn’t give much thought to having a relationship.”

 Although they became friends, the romance didn’t start until two months before Nonhle had to leave for South Africa.

Now, Nonhle is sporting a white gold and diamond ring on her fourth finger. They have a posh home in the northern suburbs of Johannesburg, South Africa where they have been raising their six-month old daughter, Star Phoenix Ivy Zime. But, the relationship wasn’t always this rosy.

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Arthur had some contractual engagements which kept him in the US so eventually, the long distance took its toll on them forcing them to take a break.

The Long Distance Relationship

“That’s when I met Young Nucho ( a local Lil’ Wayne look-alike rapper) and Arthur also got involved with someone else. My relationship with Young Nucho didn’t last long and soon Arthur and I found each other again.”

“I was very sad because every time we wanted to come together there was just always some problem. And at the start of my pregnancy, I felt like he had chosen his career over me and Star. I was very upset because he was globetrotting with his brother while I had to be alone with the growing baby inside me.

The Young Nucho connection

Alone and pregnant, Nonhle reconnected with Young Nucho, who was aware of who Star‘s father is and was ‘supportive in the early days of the pregnancy’.

According to Nonhle, people were quick to assume that Young Nucho was Star‘s  father when a photo of him carrying Star surfaced online. But, in response to him not knowing who the father was, she said,

“No, that’s some fabricated stuff. We’re friendly now and there’s absolutely nothing wrong with a friend taking a photo with my baby”

Star’s Birth

Regardless of his ties in the US and their short separation, Arthur was present for his baby’s birth. He said,

“It was nerve-wracking but we were singing a church song during the birth, so that was very calming. I found meaning in life that day when I saw my baby come into this world.”

The Proposal

After another few months apart after Star‘s birth, it began to tell on their relationship again so Arthur decided to make South Africa his base. And that’s when that special day that Nonhle will remember for a long time came.

“It was so special. He gave me a number of gifts before he surprised me with an engagement ring at our early dinner outing that day. We were at a restaurant and I just saw the waiters singing to me and then they handed me a tray with the engagement ring box on it.

Arthur got down on one knee and popped the question. Without hesitation, he got a resounding ‘Yes!’ in response and the fellow diners started to cheer them on.

The Grand Wedding

In South Africa, it’s part of the tradition that the marrying couple’s families go through ‘lobola negotiations’. 

“Lobola was a foreign concept to my hubby-to-be but he researched it and wanted to do everything properly”

Here’s how Arthur felt about them.

“I was not part of the negotiations because that’s how things are supposed to be done. For now, our job is just to love each other and let the families handle the traditional formalities.”

As for the wedding plans, Nonhle says

“Back when I was still very active on TV, I’d have tons of people there and they’d be screaming for me, so in a way I feel like I was getting married all those times. So I want something different now. I’m thinking that we might have two weddings.”

Arthur adds,

“I’ll marry her over and over again, any time.”

While their plans are still under way, there are only a few things certain about the big day right now. Arthur is set on ordering his favourite caramel cake from the US – he says it’s non-negotiable. And, Nonhle wants to plan the wedding herself, with help from hers and Arthur’s family.

“We’ve decided to have the wedding once Star is able to walk because we want her to be actively involved on the day.”

Until then, the preparations continue! Here are some photos of Nonhle wedding dress shopping.

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There you have it! What a beautiful story! Nonhle and Arthur still spoke on a lot more details of their relationship. But, for more details on their interview, you’d have to pick up the new issue of Drum Magazine.

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Photo Credit: Instagram | Drum.co.za | Vandrusville

21 Comments on “It was Love At First Sight” | Read the Love Story of South African TV Star Nonhle Thema and her Fiance Arthur Bolton
  • eniola May 30, 2013 at 12:15 pm

    ok

  • KEKEM May 30, 2013 at 12:38 pm

    HAPPY FOR U GIRL,AGE IS NOTHING BUT A NUMBER

  • floxy May 30, 2013 at 12:39 pm

    Wow…. Just wow!

  • OK May 30, 2013 at 12:45 pm

    The girl don shack too much Umqomboth…talking all this nonsense

  • OK May 30, 2013 at 12:45 pm

    * Umqombothi

  • Retrochic May 30, 2013 at 12:56 pm

    sorry guyz, i need someone to straighthen this out, is this the former Channel O Vj, if yes thought she was engaged to some producer a few months ago, someone kill ,y curiousity

  • Pace May 30, 2013 at 1:04 pm

    We are not interested in South Africans Bella. Stop it now

  • loveth O. May 30, 2013 at 1:10 pm

    From young Nonhle to Arthur

  • Sandra May 30, 2013 at 1:12 pm

    lovly the Lady is realy taking care of her self the guy look older to me o….i will always say this age is nothing but number….

  • Alamodeweddingsng May 30, 2013 at 1:24 pm

    Beautiful and simple wedding dress nice!

  • tessa May 30, 2013 at 2:15 pm

    true love always finds a way

  • Doll May 30, 2013 at 2:24 pm

    Her edges need a breather!!!

  • Nonnie May 30, 2013 at 2:24 pm

    what a stupid comment Pace-i am a south african.

  • Teddy Bear May 30, 2013 at 4:17 pm

    She’s pretty!

  • http://mytestimonys.blogspot.com/2013/05/bishop-feb-idahosa-testifies_20.html May 30, 2013 at 4:19 pm

    true love finds a way

  • Specs May 30, 2013 at 7:41 pm

    She’s coo-coo….why do they have wedding photos?? the post read “can’t wait to get married”
    seems a little psycho to me.

  • Mariaah May 30, 2013 at 10:41 pm

    LAWL… U know what, I saw this story and I thought to myself “wasn’t she the one dating on Lil-Wayne look-alike?” the I saw d cute guy’s picture and became confused…

    Good for the both of them..

  • Naveah May 31, 2013 at 4:09 pm

    EHYA BN, you didn’t like my comment, huh? *wipes eyes*

  • comment awaiting moderation! May 31, 2013 at 4:43 pm

    Awwwwwwww

  • Idak May 31, 2013 at 6:31 pm

    so what happened to my comment? On0s O, this story is very incomplete without the Young Nucho angle.
    This girl probably does not even know whose semen produced this baby.
    Weeks ago she was Young Nucho’s baby mama and today she is Arthur’s fiancee. Where did this Arthur appear from?

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