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BN Hot Topic: A Lady in the Streets Can’t Be a Freak in the Sheets?

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Recently, for the sake of conversation, I’ve been asking for people to explain to me what makes Kim Kardashian a woman of loose morals. For every point they raise, I provide a counter argument and when they are unable to go any further someone slips in the “God said so” line! It’s utterly frustrating; nobody wants to present logical facts to back their stance – but what can we do? It’s the society we live in.

So really what makes one a woman of “less virtue”? I’ve been told it isn’t whether she’s a perpetual gossip, or a pathological liar or that she’s greedy and extremely malicious. It is not about the fact that she’s a perpetual debtor… It is simply about how many people she has or has not had sex with.

I find this point of view really hilarious but I heard something more interesting than funny while I was on this topic. Some guy said that there are certain sexual styles and positions he would engage in with only a certain type of woman.

Of course this piqued my curiosity.. “Ehn? Explain further please”. He proceeded to say that he wanted to have sex in certain ways with certain types of women before he gets married because he wouldn’t want to be “doing bad bad tingz with the wife I marry”. This kind of “interesting” logic always gets me because I like to understand how they are unfurled. So I asked again “Ehn? So some sexual styles are good and some are bad?” He tried to explain that he just believed some girls were adventurous and more experienced and they weren’t the type of girls one married. I needed more clarification. “What positions are good girl positions and what ones are for Bad Girl-trained-On-The-Sidewalk?”

When I shared this with my friends, we laughed and someone said “So how does this not add up to the “virgin bride” theory?” -the one that says that as a girl, you should wait until within the confines of marriage to “Do and Undo” with your husband. If the husband already believes that any evidence that you’re forming “contortionist” in bed is evidence that you’ve been a “bad bad gurl”

Anyway, what do you guys think about this? Do you agree that certain sexual styles are for certain types of women? Do you think married couples should not be adventurous with their sex lives? What would you define as a bad/good girl sexual style/position?

Let’s discuss!

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