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Aunty Bella: Mr. Violently Abusive Wife

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A BN Reader, KM, left this in the comments section and  BN commentator and contributor, Mz Socially Awkward has suggested that we make this into a stand-alone post.

The BellaNaija team feels very strongly about domestic violence and we do not believe that victims should suffer, or be blamed. We encourage all victims of violence to walk away from it. The value of a human life can never be understated.

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KM December 9, 2014 at 9:59 am
Marriage is just so hard!!! God, if I had a chance, i wont even go into that institution!! This weekend, the wife gave me so much hell for something that was her fault. locked all the doors and hid the keys, stopping me from going out to avoid the trouble. Woman rough handled me, jacked, pushed and climbed all over me and I couldn’t do anything. even if I try to carry her off me, her hands where I gripped will be bruised. and she locked all the doors, I couldn’t even run outside to avoid her blows. I was so miserable, divorce was just on my mind all weekend cos this not the first time. And the shame of it, is that even though its her fault, she will insist I apologize to her, which I do regardless, if not, I might not even go to work that week. Yet I hear people say, walk away when a woman is violent. How will I walk away when all the doors were locked. And she does this because she was sure I wont touch her back.
She is really taking advantage of my seeming meekness and nice attitude. Sometimes I try to be the bad guy, but just does not have the heart for hanging out after work and come home drunk, I find myself driving home straight from work with trepidation . I am so tired, been hoping she gets this admission for her PHD in the UK instead of uniLag, cos that will give me at least 3 years of space!!!!
Marriage just equals depression I swear!!!!
Maybe not related to the article but I already feel better airing this to strangers instead of family.

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