Aunty Bella: Miss. How Do I Keep a New Guy Without Intimacy?

Aunty Bella is our agony aunt column on BellaNaija. We launched this column in the early days of BN and periodically feature issues sent in by BN readers.

A BN reader left this message in the comments section on one of the posts published today. We decided to share it. We hope the BN family can offer insightful advice.

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Hey guys,

I need some opinions about something so I decided to share a true story.

We live in a world where sex has become the order of the day…. well not for everyone. I’m 21 and ready to start a sex free relationship ? The joke’s on me because it sounds impossible but I’m serious.

I had this boyfriend that was extremely randy we had three wild rounds each day ? I’m glad I survived … but behind the love making was this void. I felt I needed more. Everything became monotonous and his skills with his magic stick faded ?

So did my appetite for him. In summary we broke up and went our separate ways after five months in May, after he cheated on me.

In less than a month I met someone else and instantly we had this weird connection ?? I stared into his eyes for more than two minutes and he stared back in a weird but cute way. My mum saw him trying to introduce himself but he wasn’t properly dressed ? so she stopped him but I enjoyed the view?.

I couldn’t tell his tribe but his name said it all. He has the side beard and I consider it sexy. So we got talking and now we’re dating.

He’s not the patient type and I’d like to take my time. I don’t want to rush into serious intimacy. My question is … What do I do, knowing he’s not patient and I’m scared of losing him?

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