A BellaNaijarian Shares a Heartbreaking Story of Her Husband’s Infidelity

We hear so many horror stories of infidelity in marriages that breaks our heart. Love and trust add the spice of happiness to life. We share these stories, not to elicit public outrage that has no meaningful impact, but to sensitize people to the plight of members of our community. It is our utmost desire that people are more mindful of how their decisions may be hurting others. We also hope that, through shared experiences that we can reduce the number of sad stories and find more uplifting experiences in marriages.

Today’s story was posted in the comments section of an article by Girl Spice {Click here if you missed it}. The BellaNaijarian, whose moniker is “Bitterwife” shares the heartbreaking story of the her husband’s infidelity.

Our hearts go out to all members of our community who is going through difficult periods.

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Finally got a place to pour my heart. I hope one day internet brings this up in one of my husband’s Google search; but by then, I would have left with the kids to somewhere far away from my pastor and mum marriage talks.

My husband is cheating on me and I know, and he knows I know –  but he didn’t understand why I kept quiet about it.

I got married to the love of my life. Nope, he never cheated on me during our relationship. He’s a blunt person who never hides anything he’s doing so I trust. Like I’m proud of him everywhere and I pray and fast for him. I give him my all.
He sent a cheating signal when I saw his chat with his EX on the third day after our wedding. He apologised and said he’s trying to lay all them girls off his back .
I’m vertified team snoop and I’ve been watching him since then but throughly nothing. He loves me and he’s never afraid to show it .

Second signal: one of his exes that we’ve talked about during courtship added him up on Facebook. Told the girl that I know her and she should back off my page. She reported to Hubby and my husband begged and apologised to me with several excuses. I believed him and continued my support.

The third and final chance, I gave him. He was asleep. I wasn’t even snooping on him, just charging my phone right next to him while browsing on my own o. A chat entered his phone with a guy’s name that says, “hello, my crown”. Ha, what is this?  I opened the chat and na one babe. I composed myself, replied her like my husband will do. This is 3 days to our first anniversary o. Hubby had booked a hotel for us and my gifts are on the way, this is a man I’m always holding up dinner for. I don’t eat till he comes because it’s our chat and play time. We’re  friends and we talk about anything and everything. I’m active sexually even after our twins birth *sorry i digressed*.

From the chats I engaged with the babe,  I saw that they are having a date the next day after close of work at the same hotel he booked for our anniversary. Hubby didn’t tell her he’s married and all sort of nonsense. I realized she and hubby meets anytime he travels to his hometown to check on our site. All this the girl told me after I told her I’m his wife. She did not even feel any remorse. She told me to go to hell and if I’m doing it right, my husband will not come to her. Hubby woke up and saw me with his phone and our chats. He cried and apologized and we even had sex; but right there I know I have moved on from him. The painful part is he denied me and his children. Who does that because of toto? Anyway, I moved on and now I know my husband is cheating like every other useless cheater out there.

Yep he’s useless too. Since then he has mastered the art of clearing his chats and all, but devil caught him and same ex that added and insulted me on Facebook chat came in while he was sleeping too. But she didn’t say anything when I replied. I guess hubby has given her code to know if he was the one or not.

I formed vex the next day and for a week we didn’t talk. I’m not angry with him again because in my mind, heart and soul. I don’t have anything for him again, I’m just living with him because I have to. When I couldn’t keep up with the silence, on a Saturday morning. We talked and I asked him his reasons for cheating. That son of a b*tch denied it and said I’m just insecure –  after all he has told me he has many bitter exes and they will definitely want to poison my mind . He told me to be happy he’s not bringing them home; because his friend does that and that he has never slept with any of them. He swore with his life that he just like chatting with them girls because he’s bored and there are things he can say to them but he can’t say to me because I’m his respected wife who he can’t be raw with. Can you imagine?

I cried that day, but I told myself that will be my last tears for that man. I withdraw all my support morally and spiritually . It’s 2 months now and I have never say a word of prayer for him. I laugh at his misfortune. I opened a fresh account and saved all my money there. I left little in the account he knows, stopped plans of being a stay-at-home mum, working hard, employed a nanny for my kids and work extra hours – saving so hard. I stopped buying things for the kids;  they are his children, and while we are still under his roof, he should provide for them. I don’t support anymore than cooking and buying foodstuff for the house. I’m always singing brokeness to him. I told him they slashed my salary and I don’t have anything again. I caught him checking my account balance on my phone one day. I have 100k, 5k, 1k in the 3 accounts respectively while I have 2 million saved somewhere.

These days his job is giving him issues and I’m always happy. If na before, I would have borrowed him money which he normally returns; but now, not doing that anymore. Let him go and meet the girlfriends he sends money to. I see different chats while we go to work but I ignore and I have never asked him.

I don’t call him again but I’m still the loving wife who gives him peace at home. I no longer get angry. Why should I? I’m going for my 5 years implant family planning this Saturday. I’ve been using female condom for him because I didn’t want to get pregnant and will continue to. I will never let him know I did family planning. Once I can save up to 5 million, and made him save enough for my twins, we will leave him and move far away from everyone.

I’m happy he’s broke now. He called me this morning, he needs 200k and he hasn’t even given me money for Christmas shopping. I’m happy all this is happening to him. Yes, I am.
You can all blame me, but I will never say a word of prayer for him anymore. He lost me the day he denied me and his children because of a girl.
Glad I did this. I will always come back to this post and make his my 3-year action plan.

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