“Ghosting” is the Trendiest Way to Break Up in 2016! Find Out More…

The trendiest way to breakup a relationship in 2016 is by “Ghosting“!

Ghosting? What’s That?
Ghosting is basically completing cutting off a romantic partner with no explanation. It mainly applies to people in dating relationships. Typically, the “ghosts or ghoster” stops answering all calls, deletes and blocks the “ghosted” from social media including but not limited to Facebook, Twitter, WhatsApp, Snapchat & Instagram.

The New York Times defines “Ghosting” this way – (the term) has also come to be used as a verb that refers to ending a romantic relationship by cutting off all contact and ignoring the former partner’s attempts to reach out.

Sounds cruel, doesn’t it?

Do People Really Do This?
In 2014, YouGov/Huffington Post poll of 1,000 adults showed that just 11 percent of Americans had “ghosted” someone.

This week, a new survey released by the dating site Plenty of Fish revealed that 78 per cent of single Millennials have been ‘ghosted’ at least once! That is a major jump which shows this trend is truly popping.

Ghosters speak out
Ameena – I was in a very serious relationship with this guy for 3 months, we met and fell hard for each other. He invited me to go on holiday with him and we travelled to the Gambia. In Nigeria, we hardly have the freedom to do sleepovers and things like that so this was our first time “living together”. It was like he was a different person, he was impatient and got angry easily and he put a lot of pressure on me to have sex with him (I wasn’t ready and didn’t), though on other days, he was ok.
He didn’t even realize he was doing anything wrong, I just acted like everything was ok.

As soon as he dropped me at home in Abuja, I completely deleted his number from my phone and blocked him online. He kept calling and calling until I eventually blocked his number.

Ini – I dated this girl for a year around the time I was ready to settle down. She ticked all the boxes and was wifey material for sure but she just didn’t excite me. Everything about her was perfect and Emma is really a nice girl.

I had already hinted marriage and she had met my sisters. I felt trapped somehow. I couldn’t bring myself to break up with her so when I travelled to the East for a work retreat, I just didn’t call her while there or when I came back…

The Ghosted
Tunde – I was talking to this babe for a while. We went on a few dates and it was very cool. I thought we were going in the same direction. We talked everyday and all that. One night, we were chatting on WhatsApp and I was telling her how much I was missing her. I promised to send her a pic to show how much I was missing her…
I sent a pic of something special…and she immediately blocked me on WhatsApp. I tried calling her but she never picked up. She didn’t even bother blocking me on Twitter, she just carried on her life.

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We dedicate Phyno & Olamide’s “Ghost Mode” to all Ghosters and the Ghosted.

BellaNaijarians, share your Ghosting stories and tell us what you think of the trend!

Cruel or Efficient?