BNer Spoke to the Neighbour Beating Her Teen Househelp … Here’s What Happened

Yesterday we told you about the BN-er who had witnessed a bruised teen help beat up many times by her madam – her neighbour.

She decided to intervene in the situation – here’s what happened…
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An Update on my Neighbor and her househelp situation.

Sharing this issue here and getting suggestion from BN community helped me put a lot of things in perspective and emboldened to go speak with my neighbor in the most peaceful way ever.

I started by telling her that I came for an intervention. That after seeing her help with bruises from a whip or whatever was used, that I taught I should meet her to discuss other ways of channeling her anger. I spoke from the point of condemnation on anything the househelp has done to irritate her so much, thereby giving her room to share what the help did. To my astonishment, she said the househelp left the house dirty especially the kitchen unattended to from the time she returned from school till the late evening. Generally speaking that the help was sluggish and cant manage the house and cater to her 4 kids (all below the age of 5).

I told her that firstly she has got to realize that she is a teenager that require coaching and guidance and not an adult that could get everything right. Moreso she shouldn’t forget that taking care of 4 kids is almost impossible for an adult even a mom, how much more a teenager. I equally told her that raising her kids and having them watch her pummel the help is only passing the very wrong message on humanity to these kids.

She tried to make excuse of how her and the husband thinks the girl is spiritually troubled hence deserved to be beaten or rather evokes so much anger in them and in turn gets beat up(is not only the madam that heats her). I insisted that she is just a young girl that even gets scared and more confused as she could be traumatized by the serial beatings.

So I pleaded that she should try the following in 1 week space:

• Correcting her from a place of love
• Do not shout or reprimand her when you feel she has not done exactly what you want; rather seat her down and talk to her making her to realise that she is supposed to be evolving into adulthood and not slacking i.e be her mentor.
• Walk away from any annoying situation she creates or rather tell her to get lost from your sight so you do not behold her and reason beating her
• If all things fail please send her back home because it would be a different ball game if this beatings results to fatality, then am sorry would be your case then.

Apparently she don’t want to take her home as she claims she is doing her a favor of sending her to school as the girls’ mom in the village can’t do that; but I also noted that she cant send her home as there’s no one else to assist in taking care of the madam’s four kids.

What she doesn’t know is that I have her on my radar now and I wont let them get away with maltreating the poor help any more, as I would bring the law on them if they do not discontinue the ill treatment. There are alternatives to ensure the girl gets the education she craves in a decent and conducive environment and I will be pursing those alternatives if it comes to that.
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