BN Confession Box: I’m Attracted to the Maid but My Wife Won’t Send Her Away

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The Confession Box is our virtual confessor’s box where BellaNaijarians can let loose and say their deepest and rawest fears.
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My wife called me a “f*ck husband” today. I am just weak. Women have issues! They know how to push a man to the wall …and the worst part is they will now claim right.

Before we got married we agreed that we will be open to each other – no secrets. Even if we ever got attracted to anyone else, we would be open and tell each other, so that we can support each other to avoid falling into temptation and ruining the marriage.

Yesterday, when I sat my wife down and told her to sack the new house help, she shocked me with a very dramatic reaction. I confessed to her that I found the house maid sexy, and it is a huge risk considering I am a coding engineer. I work from home every day. When she goes to work, it is just me and the maid. The temptation is too high; but instead of her being grateful that I opened up myself, she slapped me, then opened her mouth call me f*ck husband. What does that even mean?

If I did my runs quietly now, will she have the opportunity to open her mouth anyhow? Telling her was even a sort of last resort, because I have been managing my emotions for the maid since, and hinting my wife on how unfit the girl is. My wife said it took her too long to find a good house help and my ‘randy behaviour’ will not force her to send the girl packing… and that if she later finds out that I tried anything with the girl, she will divorce me. I am just tired of this.

If you are good, problem; if you are bad, problem. Women just have serious issues. I am just wishing I did not even say anything in the first place. The way she was shouting, the maid even heard everything. I am just regretting discussing the issue with her. In fact, I will never consider her in these kind of things anymore.

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