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Toke Makinwa calls out Restaurant after she was “humiliated”, “assaulted” & “bullied” by a Chaperone

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Media personality & best-selling author Toke Makinwa this morning shared her experience with the chaperone of movie star John Boyega at Crossroads restaurant in Lagos.

Toke Makinwa explains that she also had an unpleasant encounter with the same chaperone at the Wizkid concert last month.

Detailing the experience on her Instagram page, she wrote:

I cannot believe I stayed up this late to write this. I have an early flight to catch in the morning and I would normally just ignore it all but I thought about the amount of women this can/might happen to and thought naaaaa, I’ll share it anyways. My experience at crossroads tonight was very interesting.
P.S it was the Wizkid show and not rhythm unplugged

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91 Comments

  1. chi

    January 4, 2018 at 9:08 am

    Too bad. Naija, a lawless society, where anything goes. that’s how they open up businesses and the business dies cos of poor customer service.

    • Nelly

      January 4, 2018 at 10:45 am

      Toke is stalking John Boyega simple!

  2. Concerned Yoruba lady

    January 4, 2018 at 9:13 am

    Crossroads… very what? Very good!

    So it means I can get beaten up at your restaurant and nothing would happen.

    If you can treat a Toke MakinwA like this… then I’m afraid!

    Make this right and fast too! No one should feel like they can treat another human that way. Male or Female. I does not matter the gender.

    • Saint Peter

      January 4, 2018 at 1:49 pm

      Toke was trying to shoot her shot because John Boyega joked on Twitter he was in Lagos to search for a bride. Running into his chaperone once could be termed a coincident but twice? It’s questionable.

      Moreover, when Toke was denied service, she sat down there for 2 hours because the food/drinks weren’t her target, the mission was John Boyega. Ordinary citizens that aren’t celebrities wouldn’t take such nonsense from waiters, why did Toke tolerate such rubbish?

      Toke should confess why she was really there & why she tolerated humiliation & verbal abuse for 2 hours.

    • Ottawa Queen

      January 4, 2018 at 4:25 pm

      Kpele Toke! But my only question after reading this story is why do you sit at a place for 2 good hours without receiving any service? I mean is that the only joint where you can have ur self a drink? Was ur bum stuck to the chair that you cldnt get up to leave after the humiliating act? Or were u really waiting for someone?

    • Seriously

      January 4, 2018 at 5:21 pm

      @concerned Yoruba woman
      Yep, no human should be treated less than. Whether Toke exaggerated her story or stalked John Boyega is whatever.
      The problem is the customer service in Nigeria is Extremely poor. People are treated based on last name, popularity, who has more money, more degrees the list goes on. And this applies to average Nigerians as well. Toke take this to remind yourself to treat people with respect as well. It’s not just a racial or sexist thing.

      Damn, I still can’t get over the recent designer who decided to give another client/celebrity a bride’s dress. It’s appalling to say the least.

  3. Ijeoma

    January 4, 2018 at 9:18 am

    I have to echo Toke’s points. It’s alarming the level of misogyny one experiences at restaurants and service establishments in Nigeria. The first time I came home as a 22 year old I remember waiting patiently in line at Genesis in Enugu only for the attendant to look past me to the man behind me. I had to remind her and the gentleman that I was in line because apparently I had somehow become invisible due to my gender. Women too can uphold misogyny..

    Another infuriating experience was at a Dry cleaning place where the female attendant had the audacity to ask that I wait because a male customer had walked in just as she started to seve me. I was incensed. I told her and the customer that I was a person and I would not tolerate that nonsense. The guy pleaded with her to serve me first. The fact that she needed his permission was so humiliating and demeaning.

    Odiegwu

    • breezy

      January 5, 2018 at 9:17 pm

      But, judging by your no-nonsense attitude displayed in your response, you wouldn’t wait two hours if you received disrespect. The treatment was wrong but she clearly had ulterior motives in waiting there so long AND in making this post. Even spelling John’s last name wrong lmao she’s tried. She won’t receive personal apology from him nor the bodyguard.

  4. Mrs Olatunde

    January 4, 2018 at 9:20 am

    This is totally unacceptable! Why should they be treated like that? Anyways we caused it for ourselves, when we don’t place value on ourselves ko…What effrontery.

  5. vicky

    January 4, 2018 at 9:21 am

    Some typical Nigerian people mentality. This usually happens when you walk in to Nigerian community social events. Unfortunately, it has transcended in to business cultural etiquettes and has become normal to them. Some group of people would envy you for no reason all because you are well put together and all.. When they know you’re a force to be reckoned with, they begin to have inferiority complex with you at the slightest given opportunity of social meeting. I believe this was planned on purpose by the owners of the restaurant to prove a point based on her celebrity status. If not, why should someone you don’t even know have a grudge against you for no reason.

  6. The wise one

    January 4, 2018 at 9:25 am

    When are we all going to stand up against big mannism? Forget that it happened to Toke, it could have me anyone of us, how about we show them the power of WE the common folks #boycottcrossroads

  7. Eric

    January 4, 2018 at 9:29 am

    This tried to happen to me at an event. I didn’t budge! Shame on the chaperone and that nonsense girl that whispered in your ear trying to intimidate you. That’s how you go into a bank, get in line to get served by the teller and someone comes from no where to tell you they were in line Infront of you. That they went away to fill their form. Isn’t that madness!!

  8. Hmm

    January 4, 2018 at 9:30 am

    Girl you should have put him on camera while he was displaying his stupidity. Camera makes all idiots behave themselves because once it hits the internet, say bye bye to your career. You no do well jare. He wants to display and show himself abi? Give him a stage.

  9. caramelbeauty

    January 4, 2018 at 9:37 am

    This story is funny, how come Toke Makinwa “accidentally” sat at John Boyega’s table TWICE at different locations? how come she stayed there for two whole hours after the said humiliation? but hey what do i know?

    • Clare

      January 4, 2018 at 10:15 am

      Seriously WHAT DO YOU KNOW, cos obviously you didn’t read what she wrote well.. biko try n read b4 passing out your comment ?

    • BlueEyed

      January 4, 2018 at 10:38 am

      I loathe the misogynistic nonsense that Nigerian establishments now abhor (well that’s why I love Abuja tho, they don’t know who is who so they just assume that everybody is rich or related to a senator, honorable or minister). That said, Toke Makinwa should’ve just left at the smallest sight of that bullshit, save herself the humiliation but still putting out her truth and calling out the establishment. Whether or not she was stalking Jon Boyega (which is funny to me) she didn’t need to give that man any more audience, except truly she stayed because she deeply wanted to prove a point and clearly her celebrity status didnt hold water and the joke was on her.
      See it’s not everywhere your money or celebrity status would hold water no matter how much you’re willing to spend, and that there is where the problem lies, be it in the form of racism or chavisnism. It has happened to Oprah when she visited a high end store in Europe to buy a designer bag, and the store clerk vehemently refused her service, However she wasn’t hell bent on making the store clerk know who she was, she only attacked the problem (racism) with the establishment.

    • Supo

      January 4, 2018 at 4:24 pm

      If you have something to say, say it and stop being childish and ridiculous. We don’t know what happened ok, because we didnt witness the incident and the circumstances that led to it. Your innuendoes are leading toward a narrative that is unsupported based on the little we know now, but until all the facts are out, enough already. If you have a beef with this lady, take it up somewhere else. Haba!!

  10. Oma

    January 4, 2018 at 9:39 am

    Poor customer service is one of the biggest issues with most Nigerian businesses. My dad runs a business where we have almost 50-80 customers visiting each day. You dare not neglect anyone, no matter the amount of money he/she is willing to spend. Every customer is treated right. In fact, they know that if we don’t talk to them properly, they can report us to my dad who will first apologise and deal with any of us involved decisively.

    To think that the guy was also a customer like Toke, but used his masculinity to bully a fellow customer is worrisome. Tbh. And no one thought it wise to challenge him, or maybe because he was huge or what? Or was it a personal vendetta? Because Toke indicated that he did same at Wizkid’s Concert

    When Women protest against such arrogance, they are termed feminists okwia? And umu broke will cry foul. Ihe a adiro mma at all! ? If fighting against this kinda of shenanigan is Feminism, then let it be

    • Oma

      January 4, 2018 at 9:40 am

      *umu nwoke

  11. Brizola

    January 4, 2018 at 9:40 am

    This is how difficult it is for a woman to go out and have fun without a man in Lagos. I and my friends couldn’t go to a lot of places this Christmas holiday because we didn’t have a table or a man to accompany us. It was frustrating because nobody wanted to be embarrassed or assaulted by these bouncers even with your own money. They tag every girl a hoe as along as she doesn’t have company. Reservations are timed everywhere in the world except Nigeria. That crossroads gives me bad vibes. The first time I went there with my friend was really frustrating, we had to stand for hours to get a place to sit or to be served by waiters, when we finally found an empty space beside a group of guys, we asked for permission to take the sits. The guys blatantly refused saying they were expecting people, we just walked away. I kept staring at that table looking out for the awaited guests, nobody came. I felt really terrible, only to find out few days after from social media that the guy who did that was Agbani’s Hubby. I pray for that union. It’s so sad that a lot people especially women on social media are attacking Toke’s person instead of seeing things from her point of view. Imagine waiting for hours to be served. I would have just walked out in Peace. These bars need to do better especially Sip and Crossroads. I hope their management looks into this.

    • vicky

      January 4, 2018 at 10:38 am

      Wow! what a shocker that the guy you referenced was Agbani’s husband. If it is true, then she needs to be wary of him. I once read a relationship book where the author says women should cautiously observe public interactions of their significant other with people they aren’t familiar with. If they act like a smug and disrespect others in front of you, while treating you differently, it’s a red flag to a relationship. Its a mistake most Nigerian women make. They believe if he didn’t do that to me or disrespect me, then it doesn’t matter. It eventually shows later in the long term as people will eventually be themselves and can’t pretend forever.

    • Eric

      January 4, 2018 at 2:10 pm

      The reason they tag women as Hoes is because a lot of women going to venues are literal hoes driven by greed rather than survival.
      That is why this expectation exists. Go to any club on the island and you’ll see young ladies selling themselves to Lebanese and Indian old men.

  12. Ese

    January 4, 2018 at 10:10 am

    Toke is a liar. She accidentally sat on John Boyega s table twice within a week……..A desperate lady is stalking a young handsome actor. She has to write an epistle to support her quest for John Boyega.

    • XO

      January 4, 2018 at 10:44 am

      LOL..How does that relate with the issues she raised.. you must be ….(I almost typed mad.)

    • Fizzy

      January 4, 2018 at 5:55 pm

      She is mad simple. So, becos Toke is involved, we should not address this silly issue. Wait until it happens to you.

    • Smh

      January 4, 2018 at 6:52 pm

      Fizzy take it easy with this like button nau.

    • Bia

      January 5, 2018 at 3:38 am

      Like your own. It is free.

  13. Rukky

    January 4, 2018 at 10:17 am

    Africans and our egocentric mentality where women are bullied given the slightest opportunity. That was how some 3 ladies here in Ghana were humiliated at one popular hotel cos they have no guy amongst them the day the visited the place to have fun, they sued the hell out of that hotel and they were lawyers too, the issue was all over social media and the newspapers. Nonsense

  14. Rukky

    January 4, 2018 at 10:18 am

    * they had no guy…….

  15. Pat

    January 4, 2018 at 10:25 am

    I shall play devils advocate here in a hypothetical situation. Toke feels becos she was a woman that happened to her.but if she was a Caucasian woman would that happen??The nigga won’t try it. I delibrately used the word nigga cos i feel the black “man” is cursed, very very few aren”t. The black man/race holds his oppressor that degrades him in every shape or form and calls him all sort to higher esteem. LOL. The nigga which includes the waiters would have given Toke special tratment if she was Caucasian. The black man’s amazing foolishness and ignorance has made him feel lesser than he is. Too many men/peeps with inferority complex but conceal it by been a bully to feel strong. Toke’s “status” to him might have given him complex and he just had to exhibit his bully characteristic to feel powerful. ?

    • Osa

      January 4, 2018 at 8:03 pm

      Best comment here. The lack race loves his oppressor

    • Osa

      January 4, 2018 at 8:17 pm

      * the Black race loves its oppresors

  16. Sass

    January 4, 2018 at 10:32 am

    Bella Naija people.
    Always forming feminists.
    So from this epistle you people have not deduced that Toke heard John is looking for a Nigerian bae and is stalking him.
    The two times she was ”assaulted” it involved John Boyega.
    Aunty please leave this petty behaviour in this new year.

    • XXX

      January 4, 2018 at 2:42 pm

      Personally I don’t believe this is a gender thing, if the man was a bodyguard, be it female or male, he would have done the same, his job was to protect his client regardless of gender. That does not however say what he did was right. Secondly, Toke confirmed she heard the lady telling the waiter that people were coming and the seats were taken, knowing Toke herself in that lagos and if her own friends were coming, she would protect the seats for them, we all would do that. We don’t know what the waiter told the lady, maybe “don’t worry they will get up when your friends get here”, I’ve heard that before.

      The lady also went ahead and still told toke that the seats where taken, that when her friends arrive they would need to get up, but she insisted knowing it they could get into argument (I mean if you chose to do that then accept the outcome, I am strong headed too, I would have stayed but won’t be ranting afterwards).

      if I go to a place like that and I am being bothered or treated in that manner, I’ll simply take my money somewhere else, if the bar is full it’s full.

    • Fizzy

      January 4, 2018 at 5:58 pm

      You are as insignificant as your brain. So, STFU whe human beings are talking on this platform. Hating Toke does not detract from the rubbish she went thru. When people like you keep quiet, change can never happen. Oloshi ni e.

    • Spicy

      January 5, 2018 at 9:06 am

      So what if she’s stalking him? Does that excuse the restaurant’s behaviour? Use your head pls!!!

  17. Shazy

    January 4, 2018 at 10:45 am

    Terrible customer service. Good she brought her experience to light. Businesses in Nigeria need to take customer service seriously. And if this helps, great! The article could have been more objective though like she should have explained what was so special about that particular restaurant that she endured 2 hours of humiliation?!

  18. XO

    January 4, 2018 at 10:54 am

    At some point every woman can relate to this story.. as common as when you go shopping at our local markets. Once a young guy abused my friend and I ..what happened? the manner less boy dragged her to check out his shop at Yaba, Irritated, she questioned why he did that…the guy started insulting us.. Like… I do not think I have met a guy prior to him who could rant for the whole world. Every one tried to calm him down, there was nothing he did not say.. From prostitute to ugly.. I told him to be ashamed of himself because I know he has sisters and a mother before he eventually stopped. Why do some men think every money a woman gets is given her by a man…lmao..I feel the men that think this way are the ones being fed by their female counterparts

    Nothing is as humiliating as someone using any form of power to oppress others.. I am sure that guy posted about the slavery in Libya!

    • Miss Pee

      January 4, 2018 at 5:28 pm

      You see this shop episode is something I can NEVER in my existence tolerate. That’s how one guy in Ariaria almost touched my breast when he calling me to come buy from him of which I was shaking my signifying I wasn’t buy cos I was following a guy who was in front of me, I simply asked him do you want to touch my breast he authoritatively told me he has a breast while also pointing to his dry chest I mouth washed him and told him to touch me and I’ll break his head, he felt like a demi god followed us to where we were going and kept threatening me, the guy I followed kept apologizing I shunned him explained to the women where I was they carried matter and insulted him, he was still feeling like a god and reported me to one guy, the guy came immediately I explained what happened he left us and was shouting at him that he did very wrong he felt ashamed and left. I’ve poured a guy pure water in Port Harcourt once he touched me, I don’t fidget, shebi you want to craze I’ll craze for you and you’ll run. Nonsense!

  19. Sarah

    January 4, 2018 at 11:00 am

    I am particularly pained about anyone bullying me..reading this story brought to mind the experience i had at domino’s pizza beside Thomas estate Ajah.i walked in there with my fiance ( now husband), to order for a pizza, there was this waitervguy over the counter taking my order, next thing you know, a pot belly, no neck, ‘i am expensive because my perfume will choke you’ man walks up to the counter , and just like a robot controlled with a remote, this waiter guy turned to this supposed important man, cutting me off in the process, and proceeds to ask the man, please sir what can i get you..How rude! I snapped out of my shock and yelled at him, my fiance’s hand on my back stayed me from doing anything crazy. My fiance told the waiter guy to collect our order first, he didnt even need to shout at him or threaten him, the waiter guy just obeyed..i was so Mad eh! I felt so small and helpless..
    Another incident was at my office, the male interns dont even greet me when they see me walking with another male colleague, they would just greet the male colleague and pretend i am invisible, Even the same male colleagues that are my surbordinates. I quickly addressed the issue by confronting them, no time to be sulking or feeling small ..Are they mad?..The only solution i think in my opinion, is for we women to raise our sons to respect women irrespective of their age and as for the Agbayas who cannot grow big tootg at old age, we must stand up to them and not cower when they disrespect us..
    I dont even want to know or buy into the possibility that it might be more than a coincidence that Toke mistook John Boyega’s seats for her own 2X..what is wrong is wrong!!!

    • Lol

      January 4, 2018 at 7:02 pm

      The way she was treated by the establishment was wrong. Even if she wanted to network or socialise with John, and the attention or intention not reciprocal…there are gentlemanly ways of putting one’s point across without bullying and harrassment. I hate the way Nigerian men disregard women forget their mothers and sisters amd objectify women to the detriment of the whole society. When Kerala in India educated its women…poverty fell, infant mortality dropped, standard of living improved. It’s time we respect the humanity in one another in Nigeria.

  20. Boss

    January 4, 2018 at 11:35 am

    I can totally relate with her experience. Had similar experience at Velvet, so this ignorant bitch that calls herself the manger asked the bouncer to walk my friends and I out of the bar , our crime was we were standing at her spot. How does a manger make herself the priority at the expense of a paying customer?? The bouncer was even more reasonable apologizing on her behalf. We called the restaurant the next day to demand an apology, they were also apologetic saying they would have the manager call us for a formal apology, anyways three weeks later no word from them . People like her have no business managing anything in the first place, she needs to go learn how to manage her nasty attitude. Like how do you employ someone who cannot even manage here emotions to manage an establishment?

  21. Rossypetite

    January 4, 2018 at 11:38 am

    Sorry about this Toke. but why did you continue staying there for 2 hours with no drinks or peace. Did you have an appointment with John Gboyega? if not, you should have just left that place and not continue to tolerate the humiliation. I cannot allow some guy or any one for that matter humiliate or embarrass me for coming to spend my hard earned money at their dead bar abeg.

  22. Miss Anoni Moss

    January 4, 2018 at 11:43 am

    I am sorry but Toke just likes attention, when the lady told you the seats were reserved for her friends you should have listened to her and insisted the waiter get you another table, when he moved their table for you and your friend, you could have declined to seat there, when the guy started yelling at you simply request to speak with the manager or leave, I don’t understand why you sat there for 2hrs while they ignored you, I am not even a celeb but I won’t do that. Also, the fact that you “accidentally” sat on John Bodega’s seat twice is questionable. Please leave the young man out of your drama he is just a small boy.

    • bruno

      January 4, 2018 at 11:52 am

      what makes john boyega a small boy? is it his age?
      nigerians and their stupid mentality. its only in nigeria where people love being old.

  23. bruno

    January 4, 2018 at 12:02 pm

    I’m surprised she didn’t say she was raped cause this girl likes playing the victim.
    toke u are a bloody liar and an attention seeker. u sat for two hours as someone humiliated and embarrassed u? really? u couldn’t stand up to leave. u don’t have dignity or self respect.

    why u need to mention john boyega in ur epistle is beyond me. abi u want him to notice u. toke ur not his type. u are too old too razz and too fake.

    • Uberhaute_Looks

      January 4, 2018 at 12:46 pm

      A bèrè

    • Bea

      January 4, 2018 at 1:37 pm

      Bruno, your stupidity is astounding. It knows no bounds. You speak so confidently about something you know nothing about. You were not there, so your calling her a liar is the height of foolishness. I can’t even believe you have the confidence to call someone an attention seeker. Pot, meet kettle. Granted, Toke revels in drama and attention-seeking. But you shouldn’t actually be accusing anyone of the same, based on your history of silly comments on BN. See how casually you mentioned the issue of rape like it’s something to be joked about. Are you actually insane? Don’t worry please don’t answer that, I already know the answer. Mschew.

    • John

      January 4, 2018 at 3:26 pm

      I dont blame her ..I blame grandpapa yoruba demon for the money the attention seeking, bleached,drama queen is spending on restaurants. My happiness is that I love the way people are seeing through her shenanigans and blasting her in other blogs .

    • yaz

      January 6, 2018 at 4:45 pm

      But she stayed with Maje for 12 years despite the horrible things she claimed he did to her so why is 2 hours a big deal?

  24. 3ples

    January 4, 2018 at 2:00 pm

    One time=coincidence, 2times=hmmmm….. oh well, u know what they say… third time’s the charm

  25. Cocoa

    January 4, 2018 at 2:04 pm

    Customer service is a big issue in Nigeria, I always say go where you are appreciated or at the very least …welcomed. If i go into an establishment and they act like I’m invisible…I will get up and walk out like a dignified person. 2 HOURS is too long to waste trying to prove a point about customer service. If every Nigerian showed their protest by walking out…soon they would change because they need your money.

  26. NdidiAmaka

    January 4, 2018 at 2:35 pm

    2018 has just begun and this witch is bringing another black man down

    Ershewo waiting for two whole hours just cos she heard John is looking for a new bae. Toke you need deliverance. ALL MEN SHOULD STAY AWAY FROM THIS INCUBUS SUCCUBUS

  27. Gorgeous

    January 4, 2018 at 2:36 pm

    Please where’s this crossroads resturant so i don’t mistakenly enter there for any reason before someone will beat me up because hanging out/drinks/food.
    I beg where’s the address so i’ll advice my colleagues /friends not to go there for any reason.

    • Fizzy

      January 4, 2018 at 6:00 pm

      Address: 1415 Ahmadu Bello Way, Victoria Island, Lagos, Nigeria

    • Bey

      January 4, 2018 at 10:30 pm

      @Gorgeous do you think they care about you? I guess they care about celebrities. They may not notice you didn’t enter. When they tell you a table is reserved, stay away from it.

  28. courage

    January 4, 2018 at 3:00 pm

    Maybe she wanted his attention SIMPLE!!!

  29. Anonymous

    January 4, 2018 at 3:18 pm

    Any slight unpleasant encounter with a man, the next statement from the feminist is “what kind of men are being raised in this generation” Address your issue with the specific man and don’t bring all men into it.

    • Supo

      January 4, 2018 at 4:28 pm

      Anonymous. I agree.

    • POTTER

      January 4, 2018 at 6:42 pm

      GOD BLESS YOU FOR THIS, THIS IS MY PROBLEM WITH THE FEMINISM S—. WOMEN MAKES IT IRRITATING, YOU HAD A BAD ENCOUNTER WITH A GUY, JUST ONE HUMAN THEY’LL SAY MEN ARE THIS AND THAT…
      EVERY DUMB BRAIN WANTS TO BE SOME KIND FEMINIST HERO EVEN WHEN THE OCCASION AINT SEXIST.

    • Mawi

      January 4, 2018 at 8:18 pm

      Thank you oooooo

  30. Lola

    January 4, 2018 at 4:04 pm

    I went to my neighbourhood local market yesterday to buy chicken. The owner has 3 workers that normally attend to customers but yesterday she had 2 sorting paper receipts and just 1 of them attending to customers. I Greet and ask to be given a kilo of chiChen, no response. The others were “busy sorting receipts with the owner” and ignored me. I wait 1 minute or less, pivot on my heels and make to walk away.
    Suddenly I hear, “madam please wait o. You people should leave that and attend to customer” screamed the only girl attending to other customers. One of them immediately abandons receipts and asks what I need.

    I don’t care if that’s the only place they sell chicken that evening, I will not be debased when I’m spending my hard earned cash. Will go buy fast food instead or drink cereal and go to bed. Local market is even better cos tmrw they will have a brain reset but these fake establishments, I won’t even wait for a free table. There are other restaurants in lagos.

    Toke, why you will wait to be humiliaTed for 2 hours worries me…Nothing, I repeat nothing is worth being disrespected for.

  31. Supo

    January 4, 2018 at 4:27 pm

    My comment above is a reply to Caramelbeauty’s.

  32. Truetalk

    January 4, 2018 at 5:00 pm

    “Africans and our egocentric mentality”…please don’t tar all Africans with one brush. I have just spent three months in Kenya and found the reception and staff (male or female) extremely courteous (even better than London). Nigeria is Nigeria…..

  33. Marvel

    January 4, 2018 at 5:32 pm

    I am glad Toke decided to tell all about Crossroads. A few of the restaurants on the mainland I regularly go to, know never to try any of that rubbish with me. I can’t stomach bullies and bad behavior. Most of the staff that deal with me are female. They remember how I like my tea, how my children like their food, they greet warmly so I tip them handsomely and then the idiot guys start jostling to carry doggy bags. Olodos! Nada!!

  34. Smh

    January 4, 2018 at 6:52 pm

    Fizzy take it easy with this like button nau.

    • Anon

      January 6, 2018 at 2:12 pm

      Now you are a stalker. This is ur second comment.

  35. Somto

    January 4, 2018 at 7:31 pm

    She was really stalking JB Cos she was really embarrassing herself on Rythmn unplugged trying to get close to JB just to take a picture with him but she didn’t succeed i taking any. STALKING A LA CARTE.

  36. Lola

    January 4, 2018 at 7:35 pm

    Bella naija someone will take time to type comment and you people will swallow. Issokay. It’s my fault na.

  37. Mrs chidukane

    January 4, 2018 at 9:10 pm

    It’s funny how everyone assumes she wants John Boyega for romantic purposes. What if she just wants an interview with him for EL TV or rhythm? She’s actually a broadcaster you know. She’s not the first to stalk celebrities for interviews. We always love assuming the worst of toke.

    • Nahum

      January 5, 2018 at 5:07 am

      Thank you!!! And even if she wants him, is it a crime?

    • Akeweje

      January 5, 2018 at 1:59 pm

      Yes, because unlike you, some people know Toke better than she tries to make herself

  38. Story for the Gods

    January 4, 2018 at 9:15 pm

    Yes, she embarrassed herself at Rhythm Unplugged. I saw that with my two eyes. As soon as she came close, Boyega’s team whispered in his ear and then moved him away from her gaze. She kept trying to make conversation with the other celebs on that table all in attempt to get close to Boyega, she was being a nuisance. This story doesn’t add up, especially because of what I witnessed. Stop stalking Boyega!

  39. tunmi

    January 4, 2018 at 9:54 pm

    Thank you for naming the establishment.

  40. Felinda

    January 4, 2018 at 10:20 pm

    Toke Makinwa
    I want to ask you one question
    WHY ARE YOU BENT ON BRINGING EVERY BLACK MAN DOWN.
    Did you have to mention Boyegas name in this whole wolf cry What has Mr Boyega got to do with this. Like someone said I am highly convinced you are a demonic witch who is hell bent in bringing every black man down. You could have narrated your whole story and not bring Boyegas name into this. Next thing you know some bloggers will associate his hard working brand to harassing some woman. What the fck do you want Toke, you want an innocent man Boyega to pick up the phone and apologize to you. Is the dude who harassed you on Boyegas payroll. The man just came home to Naija to have a peaceful Christmas, not all this drama which he’d being included in. Matter of fact you need to apologize to Boyega for including him in your drama.

    I feel sorry for any man on the planet who ends up with this Jezebel. Opps my bad, Maje did, and now old man Fadeyi is next

    • Bia

      January 5, 2018 at 3:56 am

      You are not funny. Get lost. Date a serial cheat, marry a broke ass and suffer plus smile. You want Toke’s life but, biiiiish, you are ugly.

    • Nahum

      January 5, 2018 at 5:07 am

      So you that you are calling her jezebel, are you clean? And Toke is not trying to bring black men down, they are doing a wonderful job of it on their own. Aunty, please focus on yourself and read books, Toke is successful while you are still a keyboard warrior

  41. Ajala & Foodie

    January 5, 2018 at 1:33 am

    Ok I have to admit that I read the entire story and my first reaction was why? Why the need to bring John Boyega’s name into it. He was not involved in all of this. While I do not want to take the issue she has raised lightly because we all know such errant nonsense exists in our society, that Ms. Toke and this somehow questionable story is what is bringing it to our attention and giving us cause to talk about it, should not negate the message.

    I would have however expected better of her in handling this issue, first she needs to do away with the Nigerian mentality of throwing names to pull weight, just like the “chaperon” she threw John’s name into her story to give it more weight. To fight a successful battle against such misgyonistic tendencies in our society we (women) have to stay a step ahead of such bullies, and never stoop to a level where we are just as badly behaved as those we are trying to correct ( see the Oprah story).

    I would have expected what the lady with the bouncer did, record the incident, leave the establishment. (just like they figured out Mr. bouncer’s boss, they would have this dude too). 2 hours to get a drink? Abeg unless that drink is living water from Jesus himself, I no want!!! not to mention the embarrassment… no way!! Even if she wanted to prove that Crossroads did treat her unfairly and listened to Mr. Bully, 1 hr max would have made the point clear. The moment she put in John Boyega’s name in an issue that had nothing to do with Mr. Boyega himself, already put me off, unless it is a ploy to get Mr. Boyega’s attention, (which by the way. does not have to be for sexual reasons) . If it is, I salute your hustle even though it leaves a bad taste in one’s ?, I mean going to this length I.e writing about an incident to garner someone’s attention or maybe I am missing another perspective.

    • Bia

      January 5, 2018 at 4:05 am

      What you taste is your own bile Aunty wakawaka. Why will she not mention JG?? THE BODY GUARD WAS THERE TO PROTECT A CERTAIN SOMEONE – NO? The certain someone has a name – YES? So, why would his name not appear in her write up? When Don Jazzy’s body guard mis yarned, why did people call him out? Becos, he worked for Don Jazzy. This body guard at crossroad is a nobody without John Gboyega in this particular instance. You now get why his name was mentioned? Stop being a Nigerian village rat. Chopping my heels and blowing cool breeze.

    • Ajala & Foodie

      January 5, 2018 at 2:24 pm

      @ Bia, I would address the one thought you raised but why bother? I am the one filled with bile and the “Nigerian rat”. Yet, I stated my thoughts on said topic without once insulting any party or calling anyone names. You have not been able to successfully champion your cause ( What ever that is) without the need to insult people or use inappropriate language and you really think I am the one with bile and the rat? Disagree if you most but please do so with logic and decorum not throwing tantrums and inappropriate language. If you can’t then I guess we really do not have a case here now… do we?

    • Smh

      January 5, 2018 at 3:47 pm

      Nigerian village rat? Some of you have no clue how to express yourselves without resorting to insults. Very unrefined behaviour.

  42. ok o

    January 5, 2018 at 3:55 am

    Toke na wa for you oh!

  43. Nahum

    January 5, 2018 at 5:04 am

    I don’t understand how some village people on this blog think. So if Toke is trying to stalk John Boyega, does that mean she deserves to be insulted and humiliated? Is that the issue on ground? So because she wan marry, the man has every right to touch her and harass her, abi? You people should use your heads please

    • Ajala & Foodie

      January 5, 2018 at 3:26 pm

      Nahum, while I don’t believe Ms. Toke was after Mr. Boyega for marriage. And while I want to believe no one is excusing Mr. Bully’s behavior. We however, have to agree that fighting battles such as this we need to be careful as women because wether we like it or not people judge us by what is perceived as our intention i.e what our action dictates as our intent. It is why Robin Roberts responded “bye felicia” to Omarosa when she said she saw things at the white house. The truth is we know things obviously did not go as planned for Omarosa in the white house, while it does not negate her message, her desire to profit from it (by insisting on only revealing the truth by writing a book) makes people like Robin Roberts and many others ignore the message and instead focus on Omarosa and her intent. At the end many are no longer interested in what she has to say. What I am trying to say is we (women) have a lot we are fighting against and fighting for, but to win we have to make sure we are fighting right, which is why I said in my original spill I said to win we have to fight at a higher level than those we are trying to correct, if not many will be telling us to remove the log in our eyes before looking at the plank in someone else’s i.e shifting focus from the issue at hand. Mr. Bully’s behaviour is beyond appalling but seeing the loop holes in Mrs. Toke’s story makes it easy for people to focus on the irrelevant which in my opinion makes the battle harder for us women. I however, agree that it does not excuse the dude’s behaviour.

  44. Temi Tope

    January 5, 2018 at 5:18 am

    I truly like Pat’s comment.. indeed the black man is cursed and love his oppressors. I do sympathize with Toke but don’t know much the real story. I was in Maputo on Mission and was staying at the Avenida hotel while my male colleague was staying at the famous Polana .He invited me to have coffee and discuss about our paper to be presented. It was around 3 pm and I found him at the lounge of the hotel.. You know this was in 2014 during the huge economic crisis in Portugal. Remember Mozambique is a former Portuguese colony.. so imagine the flux of Portuguese.. dirt poor, economically desperate.. arriving in Maputo for opportunities.. You should have seen them… poor, trashy.. I mean the Trash of Portugal if I may say so.. both me and my colleague work in a well known financial institution in Washington D.C so when i walked in I found my colleague waiting for me as he has not placed an order yet.. the gentleman he is. When I walked in , we sat there for almost 5 or 8 minutes and the Nigger waiter man.. just ignored us.. walking, licking the ass of these trash whites i was shocked.. so i turned to my colleague and looked at him .. referring to the attitude of the waiter.. knowing the type of woman i am .. A NODE TAKE NONSENSE. he just told me.. please, patient.. and yet the waiter continued to ignore us and at that moment I could no longer bear it.. i just sprinted from my seat and confronted him.. You should have seen me that day.. I treated him with all kind of names..
    We Africans.. we should stop our colonialism, uncle tom’s mentality.. In many countries in Africa.. when they see a white person.. even if that white person is a criminal where he came from , and you the Medical Doctor standing.. they will worship the white man.. It bleeds my heart to see such actions that demean the black man.

    P.S:: Mozambicans are dark and come in all colors but are the most racists, most ignorant group of people towards West Africans. this is a warning. before traveling there.

  45. Sanu

    January 5, 2018 at 2:15 pm

    So people , lets try to be objective in all of this.

    Toke is a witch and i am beginning to believe that even more…

    First of all, it is very apparent from the write-up that she was actually stalking the John guy. So she left her house to a restaurant that treated her like shit and then she decided to wait that 2 hours length of time????? for what?? if not because there was a pre-conceived intention….

    She had the 411 that John was going to be there!!!

    Now Toke is not the type of broadcaster that needs to scout for people to interview…so let’s get that straight and again, emphasize that this whole saga was brought upon her linked to her personal interests.

    *****

    On the other hand, over the holiday seasons, I watched on TV, Moments on EL – the one with Toke, Bolanle and Talulah, and they were talking about Faking a Fairytale lifestyle and things…

    During that discussion, Bolanle and guests swayed towards dating old people to achieve a certain lifestyle being bad or good…and to my utmost surprise, Toke tried to justify every reason why such is an OK to do lifestyle. ….????like for real????? justifying immorality because that’s what she does and how she lives…on public TV…. imagine the number of your girls watching that show same day….. too much ill in the society and to think this #bedwarmer of a lady would justify such scenario. Which actually isn’t the first time I see her justify ills especially when she does them on the regular.

    It is well. Again, Charity begins at home…..

  46. WeeFree

    January 5, 2018 at 9:10 pm

    Sorry Toke, if I tried twice to get a guy and failed I will be pissed too and I will throw a tantrum and blame everyone on earth for working against me. Now please move on, we know you are great with geriatric men so stick with that line, John Boyega is just 25 years old, let a young lady have him not your old bones, adult diaper loving self.

  47. Molly

    January 7, 2018 at 7:26 am

    Toke did not deserve to be treated this way. I wouldn’t have put up with it for 2 hours but we don’t know why so it’s not fair to judge so hastily, No customer or potential customer deserves this type of treatment, she tells us she confirmed again with the waiter before sitting down but he went ahead and seated them there. The lady on the next table – if the table was for friends of theirs why weren’t they moved together? Typically if you have friends joining you and your own table is not large enough, the two tables get merged together so it is clearly reserved for you. As a business, Crossroads owe her an apology, that’s what good businesses do regardless of if the man in question acted without the management’s authority – it happened on their watch.

    I am glad that in general we as a people are using social media platforms to enforce better services, to place a value on our buck & selves.

    Cash is not always king – power has left the building – social media is trumping now! After reading this, I would definitely hesitate to visit this establishment – the reviews on TripAdvisor are mixed which even makes it more likely I won’t be going there. Maybe the guy has money and thot so I have power who does she think she is? Well, money is not always everything, you just ruined the rep of Crossroads.!

    Hope they make amends publicly,…

  48. Ada

    January 8, 2018 at 2:07 am

    We need to get somethings straight. 1st it’s not our business why Toke went to Crossroads. 2nd there are so many sides to a story plus the truth. This means that when three parties are involved, there are 3 perspectives and the truth making it 4 sides. So lets learn to be slow in judgment. Everyone has a right to fair hearing. Until we hear from all involved, I humbly think its unfair to pass judgement. However, we need to join hands together and fight evil – be it racism, chauvinism, inequality. Customer service in our country is blah. I once worked in an organization with zero customer appreciation. In fact, I was over persecuted for treating customers right. I was baptised miss goody goody for insisting the customer is king. it’s Toke today, tomorrow it’s either you or me. So let’s kick evil out of our beloved nation. This is my 2 pence.

  49. wifematerial

    January 9, 2018 at 4:36 am

    I DON TIRE JOR!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!LAUGH SO TEY AT THE COMMENTS AND RIBS CRACKED. LOVE ME MY NIGERIA AND NIGERIANS………………….

  50. Dena

    January 16, 2018 at 7:36 pm

    After having my own bad experience with a photographer recently, I had resolved to start a customer service column/blog ( I have worked as an event vendor in Nigeria and currently live outside the country). Customer service in Nigeria is rubbish. However reading this story and that of the bride whose dress was denied her, my resolve to this has strengthened. Pls if this is a good idea to you, do me the honour of liking this comment, so I know I have support on this. Thanks guys

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