What is your perspective on friends and friendship?
I’ll tell you mine. I have always thought that your friends (people you know in reality, not social media followers) are those folks you hang out with and tell your life stories and issues. Or people who know your parents and family.
For a long period of time, I held on to that perspective of who friends are. However, an encounter with a specific human changed the whole narrative for me. And the intriguing part? I initially did not consider this person to be a friend.
You see, your real friend is not necessarily the person you often hang out with or the person that knows almost all your family members – and perhaps your village people.
Your real friend, however, is the one who seeks your prosperity. The one who is always happy to see you on your feet. The one who cheers you on and corrects you in love – regardless of whether things are going well or not in their life. The one who contributes positively towards you achieving your goals. The one who does things that are essential for your growth – even before you ask them to – and will never take credit for whatever they do for you. The one who, though may not be related to you by blood, has your best interest at heart.
That person is not envious of you, is not envious of your success and is not envious of your accomplishments. It’s almost like he/she can always tell when something is not right with you, no matter how hard you try to hide your tears with smiles.
That person might not be the first you think of when you’re thinking of people to chill, flex or go partying with. But, deep down in your heart, you know that when push comes to shove, when things don’t seem to be going the way you want them to, when you’re down, troubled and can’t find the words to even explain what you’re going through to your parents or siblings, this friend will always be there for you; standing by you and sticking closer.
You probably don’t see each other all the time, but whenever you meet, there is joy and an inexplicable sense of comfort that you feel within you. It’s like you are breathing in a different kind of air… clean, fresh air.
If you’ve got a person like that, never trade them for anything. That is a friend – a true friend! Always show them love, appreciate them, and let them know that you are grateful to have them in your life.