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Precious Uwisike: What Tag are You Wearing?

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When I think of a tag, what comes to mind is a squared thick paper hanging off the collar of a shirt or the strap of a bag. I never relate it to a person. I have, however, come to realise that everyone is wearing some kind of tags with different inscriptions written on them.

Many of these inscriptions define who we are; some describe our qualities, while some define our roles: joker, housewife, foodie, razz, rigid, nerd. These tags cast us in a role that informs almost every choice we make — even our appearance and the way we speak, laugh, sit and eat. Everything is defining.

Many people suffer enormously from negative tags attached to them; dumb, weak, unconfrontational, slutty, talkative, boring, reckless. The most unfortunate situation is when we let these negative tags get to us –
unconsciously wearing it like a badge.

Truly, using a name tag helps us navigate dozens of complex interactions and it is a crucial part of understanding the world and how we fit into it. While it may be easy for people to tag us based on their preconceived notions or firsthand experience, we must ensure that the set of qualities that are our personal-inner- core, remains intact.
There is the possibility that people meet this core part of us when they get closer; that’s when you hear phrases like; “And he is not that bad o. You just have to get know to him”. Still, this genuine inner us still gets far less play than our social self.

When the tags attached to us do not align with our true self, we start to feel disconnected. Clearly, negative self-definitions are torturous. Once, I had thought myself to be obtuse, because a classmate had called me that. Kai! I carried this tag for a long time until I realised that was not me.
I am quick to understand and I always bring something valuable to the table. The only force that gave me the sense to yank off this negative tag was the fact that my inner self questioned it so much and would not accept it.

Rewriting an uncomfortable tag that does not define our person is a mindset thing. If we can figure out the tag with which we have defined ourselves, and then determine the truth or falsehood of that definition, we can begin to free ourselves from a world of torture.

We are often to blame for the tags that people attach to us because they pick this from our narratives. We may tell ourselves, I am so clumsy, I can never get anything right. We unconsciously feed this to people’s perception of us.

People will only take the story (even though it is not our reality) that we give them and define us with it. Rewriting these negative tags is so important to defining and accepting our uniqueness and authenticity.

We have so many descriptions and these often make us be different people at different times. If we persist in deeply inquiring into the truth of who we are, we’ll eventually see that we do not fit completely into any one role. We’ll see that we contain multitudes. This can be a bit problematic and make us feel uncomfortable—the goal is aligning these identities with our inner person. This is the only way we can be true to ourselves. The moment I examined the tag obtuse and saw it to be a lie, I yanked it off. Just as we let go of erroneous thoughts like “the world is flat”, you can question and rid off negative definitions.

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Kevwe Uwisike is a Communications Specialist; a lover of words, PR Girl, Social Media Enthusiast and Content Developer. You may reach her via email on [email protected]

6 Comments

  1. Judgejudyjudy

    April 24, 2017 at 11:54 pm

    I don’t know why this hasn’t garnered any comments but I absolutely enjoyed reading it. Especially as it is something I have often pondered on myself. I have recently had to yank off some of the tags that had inadvertently been placed on me, and due to justifiable reasons too but that had been who I had been at that time and as I grew out of that stage and point of my life, it became quite glaring that that tag was no longer in alignment with the evolved me. In yanking off this tag, I had to yank off some “friends” too who became uncomfortable with the evolving me and thought it was their place to “call me to order”, to tell me why I should not write a blog,or this or that.

    Lovely read. 🙂

  2. Judgejudyjudy

    April 24, 2017 at 11:56 pm

    I don’t know why this hasn’t garnered any comments but I absolutely enjoyed reading it. Especially as it is something I have often pondered on myself. I have recently had to yank off some of the tags that had inadvertently been placed on me, and due to justifiable reasons too but that had been who I had been at that time and as I grew out of that stage and point of my life, it became quite glaring that that tag was no longer in alignment with the evolved me. In yanking off this tag, I had to yank off some “friends” too who became uncomfortable with the evolving me and thought it was their place to “call me to order”, to tell me why I should not write a blog, or this or that.

    Lovely read 🙂
    musingsofjudgejudyjudy.com

  3. Temii

    April 25, 2017 at 1:47 pm

    I think this is very wise and true. Well done Precious!

  4. Phenomenal

    April 28, 2017 at 9:25 am

    This is a struggle, really. Trying to stay true to yourself and trying to fit into roles and expectations of people. I struggled with this complex a lot until I found myself in the environment that helped me work on my self-image. Honestly, negative tags an be torturous. I like that I can now breathe and revel in my person.

  5. Gbadebo

    April 28, 2017 at 9:29 am

    Tags! Deep article. Shey it is in this our country that many people will wear negative tags and still be proud of it. *End time tinz*

  6. Ms. Bams

    April 28, 2017 at 4:55 pm

    People will only take the story (even though it is not our reality) that we give them and define us with it.
    I swear, this is soo true. This is why people package a lot. They do not have it but they can fake it. Although, that is one angle of seeing it.

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