The Secret Unleashed? TV/Radio Star (Husband & Father of 2) IK Osakioduwa reveals #Ik’sTipsToGettingAMan on Twitter


Today, Big Brother Africa Host & Rhythm 93.7FM radio personality IK Osakioduwa “vexed” (his words) and unleashed his “IK’s Tips to Getting a Man“.
So far, he was tweeted 10 tips and generated lots of buzz on Twitter which led to his handle (@ik_osakioduwa) trending.
IK is married to Olohi and they have 2 beautiful children.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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So what do you think?

143 Comments on The Secret Unleashed? TV/Radio Star (Husband & Father of 2) IK Osakioduwa reveals #Ik’sTipsToGettingAMan on Twitter
  • lol September 12, 2012 at 5:38 pm

    haahhaa..got it..very correct!

    • Laila Ikeji September 12, 2012 at 6:21 pm

      over correct. lov the 7th n 9th tips. easily overlooked but so true.
      http://www.LailaIkeji.com

    • Viva September 12, 2012 at 6:25 pm

      Tips 1, and 2 are exteremely correct! worked for me. at 27 when I seriously got ready to settle down, I made alot of young and both trendy and old fashioned female friends who tell the truth, ‘cos I notice alot of women will never be true to you as to what “skills” the adopted as style of life which got them a serious man.

      So honestly I started hanging out solo! the only times I was seen with my friends were only in their house or at mine. ‘cos I noticed that alot of times a guy got interested in me, while my female friends where there, they will make an effort to talk me out of it or diss him or talk him down or do something nasty or even gossip or out of sheer jealousy, do something nasty that made it not work! So after speaking with my married friends, I took the advice on board and started hanging out solo.
      Within a year of making these decisions, and all IK said up there to be honest! I am now very sucessfully and happilly married with a child and honestly I got married b4 them all!

      Ik, you are darn right!!

      • JJ September 12, 2012 at 8:23 pm

        Nice that you are happily married. Also, congrats on getting married before ALL your friends… -____-
        This competition for who will get married first among Nigerian women na wa. I wish we used that competitive mentality for various things in life besides acquiring men, getting married, and giving birth.

      • Viva September 12, 2012 at 9:12 pm

        @JJ: You don’t have to misinterpret everything you hear or read! and you mustn’t be sacarstic. Gees! and to think you spoke of girls and their beef for each other…..honey, you sound just like one them absolutely

      • Layo September 12, 2012 at 11:55 pm

        Ode, JJ’s comment touched a nerve ehn. You sounded sooooo superior, as if you have all the answers, you are better than them. To crown it all, in your self righteousness, you had to add, you got married before them all. Clap for yourself madam. Your only achievement in life is that you are married with a child. Call it misrepresenting what you said, that is what it sounds like. Geez, it is people like you, that make women feel pressured. You got married before them all, and so. is that a measure of your happiness, abi there is a prize in heaven for those that marry first, or have children first. You will have a girl now and pass on that ignoramus mentality to her too. Shior.

      • gf September 13, 2012 at 12:22 am

        I guess congratulations are in order..SMH!

      • bf September 13, 2012 at 10:05 am

        @ gf: Yes, Congratulations ought to be very well in order! you have good manners ;-)

      • bf September 13, 2012 at 10:31 am

        @gf and JJ: I see that what Viva said is true! and I support, good you realised it

      • Changing Faces September 13, 2012 at 1:34 pm

        I wouldn’t want to have a friend like u, sure ur friends are grateful you’re “happily married”. For your info, being married doesn’t make you better than anyone else, after all na for ya pocket!

      • Mayowa September 13, 2012 at 2:15 pm

        @ Layo: If you are soo upset like this over a very harmless comment someone made and took time to give a long response filled with alot of venomous remarks with all vile in your nerves and surely I wonder what kind of a person you are. Get a life pls!

      • Pam September 13, 2012 at 2:23 pm

        @ changing faces: Sure her friends must have been happy for her when she got married. Trust me, I’m so sure she wouldnt want to be associated with someone like you by the way. The feeling is mutual! and for your info, as its clear you were not reading properly so let me educate you. Reading from what she wrote she didnt seem to try to imply being competitive with her friends as you’ve understood it. You just sound like a child! lol! growwwww

      • ANA September 14, 2012 at 11:45 am

        Viva, it seems you think you are better than your friends. No, you didn’t hit a nerve with me as I am married too but have friends both single and married that i love dearly and I do know that a friend’s appointed time for marriage by GOD is not a reason for you to feel superior to them.

      • Lolade September 14, 2012 at 2:18 pm

        ANA: Well, point of correction. 1stly, man’s mistake to derail from God’s ultimate purpose for them at times isn’t God’s appointed for them. Alot of times, human beings derail from God’s appointed time for them….and then turn around to blame it on God. And if you were reading the same comments I read off Viva, she never mentioned that she cut her friends off! she only said she cut down the frequency and started going solo!
        Meanwhile you don’t know who these friends of hers are, or do you?

        2). I’m actually astonished reading the foolish remarks from you all who choose to misinterpret Viva’s remarks with all you have been blabbing.

        3). I percieve no air of superiority from reading her comments. It appears to me that as person, you lack self confidence and you are filled with bouts of inferiority complex together with other like minded people who choose to take out their time to swoon over what she wrote.

        4). Apparently the Viva chick will be reading all of your comments and having a ball! I really wish people’s pictures were to be published on bella so we can see her. She must be a crowd puller honestly! Need to know who she is……for such idle minded people to keep retorting over what she said since like 2 days ago?…..SMH!

      • rew September 14, 2012 at 4:16 pm

        Nawa Viva, marriage is now competition…ok congratulobia on marrying before all your friends…what a shameful mentality you have!

  • abike September 12, 2012 at 5:39 pm

    very Apt… he hit the nail on the head… and LOL @ Get that don king hair done*.. some girls are taking this natural look too far, looking like they got a bird and nest on their heads…

    • Bukky September 12, 2012 at 9:02 pm

      The ones that are taking it too far are those that are buying and using hair that belongs to someone else.Hair that was chopped off another humans head o.As in,if u saw a white person with an afro wouldn’t you think they were insane.

      • JJ September 12, 2012 at 11:08 pm

        Lmaooo @Bukky. Funny reply.
        I think women should support one another’s hair choices though. I’m natural and love it but I have no problem with relaxed hair or weaves as long as you are don’t think you aren’t trying to boost your self esteem with it/ try to tell people it is your real hair coz it sho aint ur hurr.

      • Oma September 28, 2012 at 10:21 am

        Hahahahahahaha…

    • bidibang February 9, 2013 at 8:41 am

      HALELUYAH to the fake hair…AMEN!!! BRAZILIAN BRAZILIAN BRAZILIAN HAIR ka’m g’eso ma ona eje eje ma ona ana ana BRAZILIAN HAIR k’am g’eso!! HOLLA HOLLA cos i aint no HOLLA BACK girl

  • slimtemmy September 12, 2012 at 5:48 pm

    you correct my guy

  • sister in the Lord September 12, 2012 at 5:51 pm

    First….where is my trophy??
    I love this, especially tip 3 and 4. God bless u IK.

  • belinda September 12, 2012 at 6:01 pm

    Hehehe… Thanks IK! This sounds like fun.

    http://thewritingsofaghanaiangirl.blogspot.com

  • Janded September 12, 2012 at 6:04 pm

    Mostly correct but do not agree with the natural hair comment. women can look good with their fro.

    • fulani hair September 13, 2012 at 2:06 am

      Same here. To each their own. If a dude has a problem with natural hair, then he has identity issues because we’re born that way except of course one looks a complete mess which can apply to natural, relaxed, braided, dreaded, woven etc.

      No one was born with Indian hair on their head, if not he should go marry an Indian. My ex (and many of my guy fries) hate weave with a passion so ladies, there is market for natural hair abeg. All that head slapping and scratching aint cute.

      “oh natural?” abi “au naturel?”

      • fulani hair September 13, 2012 at 7:33 am

        *friends

      • signature September 13, 2012 at 8:36 am

        ah! my sister help me ooo…if u do d wig na dey will say it is forming….i think dat no matter wat u wear on ur head, as long as u can make it look presentable den u’re good to go, and personally i’d rather stay true to my natural grown hair..
        wash,dry, comb, straighten n let the wind do da magic ;)

      • Ginika September 13, 2012 at 9:14 am

        What I got from that statement is make the damn hair look good. No matter if it is a fro, weave, braid etc. Just put in the effort to make it look really clean, and cute, one that works for your face.

  • cathy September 12, 2012 at 6:06 pm

    the guy na correct bobo and him talk better yarns there

  • AC September 12, 2012 at 6:10 pm

    When is there going to be a list on tips to get a woman? Why should the burden of getting a man fall on a woman? Did the bible not say that HE who finds a wife finds a good thing and obtains favour from the Lord? What favour is a woman obtaining from the Lord getting a man?

    • Chattyzee September 12, 2012 at 6:18 pm

      I’ve seen comments like urs on here for a while now and you are totally right! That’s why I’ll be writing about it tomorrow on my blog!
      Stay tuned @ http://dprodigalchild.wordpress.com/

    • damaris September 13, 2012 at 12:02 am

      Thanks you jare, you speak well

    • Audrey September 13, 2012 at 3:22 pm

      Thank you AC ! Goodness,I’m tired of all this trying to get a man.If in your late to early thirties you are not married,you don’t know how to get and keep a man.What happened to men getting us?

      • me October 3, 2012 at 3:42 pm

        then wat if i may ask, are u doing here..u shd av ignored the post and move on..no??

      • Mya October 4, 2012 at 6:22 pm

        @me : Your comment has left me in stitches ! DEAD!

    • let them say September 14, 2012 at 3:15 am

      In order words, these tips you what a man needs to see in a woman to find her!

    • Eerinmide October 17, 2012 at 5:14 pm

      LMAOOOOOO!!!!! *rolling to Boko Haram headquaters* Funny but true tho! Why must we women get the man?-___________-

  • Ama September 12, 2012 at 6:14 pm

    I dont think he literally means naturally hair…hes just exemplifying that we shd always do something nice to our hair be it natural or whatever

  • Chattyzee September 12, 2012 at 6:17 pm

    Well, you gotta give it to him, the guy sure knows what he’s talking about….
    http://dprodigalchild.wordpress.com/

  • Madam the Madam September 12, 2012 at 6:26 pm

    In general, he had some good points but I disagree with #2, just because I don’t necessarily think that married women are more knowledgeable. Besides, they may have an idea of what thier husbands want but this is not a one size fits all scenario.

    #5 – This is why I always say that Nigerian men cannot handle natural hair. Don King hairstyle? Forming Oh Naturale?
    Please ladies if you wanna “Don King” it up, please do. A brazilian weave or a sleek and shiny head of hair does not necessarily guarantee that you will get a man either. Do what makes YOU feel good, and don’t base your hair decisions on men.

    Last but not least, I agree with the comment who asked when they will drop a “tips for getting women” rulebook. Frankly, I’m tired of everyone and thier ideas on how to get a man. Ultimately, I say that as a woman, you should be yourself and don’t fake it for anybody. If a man is in the cards for you, then he will come.

    • JJ September 12, 2012 at 8:58 pm

      You are right. There are many women who spend their weekends in the salon, relaxing, frying and pressing Brazilian hair and are still not happy in relationships too. If you are confident in yourself, there is no doubt that you will wear whatever look you have so well. A man will see that and accept you for who you are. Men say they want this and they want that but eventually go for something else. They tweet that they want women like Michelle Obama and next thing they want or go for women like Kim Kardashian. I realize that when it comes to men, it is really how you present yourself.

  • what September 12, 2012 at 6:30 pm

    Lets just assume that he wasnt fully implying about natural hair…….. i get his point but that one was not funny…mind you i am not natural but i would never criticize anyone who wants to…afterall its our real, right from birth, God given hair …keep deceiving ourselves and having complex that we are whites and indian…sigh ……..as long as you keep your hair neat ..do you natural or weaves…….but i agree with the other points sha….

  • what September 12, 2012 at 6:32 pm

    im guessing the ‘ oh naturale’ is natural as in no make up and all that?

  • X factor September 12, 2012 at 6:49 pm

    On point bro

  • elleven45 September 12, 2012 at 6:50 pm

    The whole options are good and tru, but if u have a bf pls heed more to the last Option, some guys get pissed when u asked them questions like that.

    • JJ September 12, 2012 at 8:25 pm

      Then eff the guy… you need a man instead!

  • Donatus September 12, 2012 at 7:27 pm

    tyt man..i love this guy…..Tell them joor

  • Toyin September 12, 2012 at 7:34 pm

    Abeg, enough of what women need to do. What about the list for men. It’s easier to find a good woman, and easy to mold her. For men, it’s a different ball game. Many men need to fix themselves but they always think they are okay, even perfect. So, let’s talk about that one.

  • Dexter September 12, 2012 at 7:51 pm

    Splendid Words on marble.This to me is more than advise.

  • Nkechi September 12, 2012 at 8:16 pm

    Ik dear, lets focus on tip 3! Have u seen guys who just dont want to be needed, infact if they could, they would tell u everyday how much they need ur wallet. I have dated an unfortunate guy who just refused to be needed, infact i learnt that independence has part 2 for women. I love the other tips tho

  • tolula September 12, 2012 at 8:28 pm

    There are some useful tips here but I find the tip about the natural hair quite distasteful. So basically he is saying girls without weaves are perceived to be of lower standing and not worthy to be considered future partners? What a shallow principle. The thing is snagging a man or a woman is not mathematics. We are not guaranteed results with all this so called advice. Be yourself and the man or woman that likes you will love you for you. Just because IK is married doesn’t mean he is an expert on r/ships and just because people are married doesn’t mean they can lead you to your future spouse(tip 3).Only God can magnetize you to the bone of your bone.

    • choclate September 12, 2012 at 9:20 pm

      Abi ooo

    • cindy September 12, 2012 at 9:23 pm

      i dont think he was referring to hair per say, i think he meant women who dont take care of themselves in general

  • Pattuy September 12, 2012 at 8:36 pm

    I am wary of these r/ship advice because it is not one size fits all. If you have been dating a guy seriously you are in the right to ask “where is this leading”. Any mature guy knows that a girl that has stayed around in a committed & exclusive r/ship want to be married and if he takes it to mean that you are pressuring him, then he should take a hike .

  • JJ September 12, 2012 at 8:48 pm

    I’m tired of men saying what they want and everyone applauds but when a woman does, people say she is demanding too much and should tone it down. This why desperation allows many of us settle for less and we end up being in marriages solely because of our children.

    Now, what this guy has said is nothing brand new.

    Tip 2 is BS to me. Every relationship is different and not every married couple knows what the eff they are doing. In life, you do not know it all. Marriage and relationships aren’t just black or white. Some people are desperate and rush into marriage and some are in love but they are still learning how to make their marriage work…etc. So many situations. My man and I define our relationship how it best suits us. It works for us and so I do not see why I should follow a couple’s formula when I don’t know what really goes on in that marriage. Bullsh*t to me.
    Tip 5- Take care of yourself for you first. Most of the time, I have noticed that men go for women that you never expect them to. That is why most of us still wonder why Arnold Swarchenegger cheated on his beautiful and slim wife with a bigger woman who isn’t unconventionally pretty. You never know what men really want! Which is why I think it is important to happy and content with yourself first.
    Tip 7- A man SHOULD know how to cook as well. His woman shouldn’t be his chef. That is why it is partnership. Your woman is like your colleague and not your house maid.
    Tip 10- communicate with your partner so you know where your relationship is going. Don’t be doing mumu because you are waiting for the man to bring it up or else you will have an everlasting boyfriend…unless that is what you want.

    • JJ’s lover September 12, 2012 at 9:09 pm

      Omg!I love you #GBAM!

      • JJ September 13, 2012 at 5:35 pm

        I love you too! lol.#KPOM!

    • Pd September 12, 2012 at 11:34 pm

      Tell dem oh…..word

    • damaris September 13, 2012 at 12:11 am

      Thanks you jare, you speak well
      God bless you we think the same way. i don know why we have to bend to men standard most time. what the eeff with tip ten, find it stupid

    • Ginger September 13, 2012 at 4:44 am

      another muahhhhhhhh to you…..i also wanna hug you.Thank God there are women like you who can civilly articulate why these kind of write-ups are nothing but male ego’s unending quest to be treated like a king

    • portable-oge September 13, 2012 at 9:01 am

      JJ,u r so on point i wish i could hug u! The tips about cooking and not asking abt ur r/ship status pissed me of!A guy should knw hw to cook @ least d basics,n asking him abt ur r/ship status is d wisest thing any girl should!

  • Missy September 12, 2012 at 9:15 pm

    BS pls I hv tired 7/10 still didnt work some guys can’t tell u good girl even if she is right under their nose. Guys get distracted easily they start chasing other chick n by the time they realize they just lost a good woman we’ve move on. I am not one to dwell on the past I keep moving n dnt look bk.

  • cindy September 12, 2012 at 9:38 pm

    i dont think he meant to offend anyone he was just having a laugh on twitter. if you dont agree with the rules then dont apply them to you life. and to everyone saying they’re tired of seeing rules written by men, well there are just as much written for women plus i dont really see anything wrong with men saying what they want after all they’re the ones who propose to women so knowing what men what is important. With that information it is up to women to decide the kind of man they want to be with and the kind of woman they want to be. To those saying that they should discuss where the relationship is going while in the relationship i have a question-why will you enter a relationship with a man if he hasnt discussed marriage with you? why waste your time?

  • Tolu September 12, 2012 at 10:05 pm

    @what and @madam the madam. If you listened to his show, you would have known that the “Oh Natual” bit is not necessarily saying that you should do Brazilian hair. It’s simply saying that if you decide to have natural hair(one that is not relaxed) you should keep it well. Too many girls use the Afro centric look as an excuse to be all scruffy

  • Tolu September 12, 2012 at 10:12 pm

    @JJ He didn’t say don’t talk about marriage at all to your boyfriend. He said don’t PRESSURE him about it meaning it shouldn’t always be the topic of discussion if not you may also come across as desperate.

    • Molly September 13, 2012 at 2:36 pm

      WELL said! It comes across like this JJ of a person is a real JJ! (Jonny Just-come) Been reading lot of her comments and back lash on what people wrote. Any grown up person will articulate her words carefully without coming across as vindictive or sacarstic. She sounds very off putting really!

  • Amber September 12, 2012 at 10:16 pm

    Thank you jare@JJ….u can imagine making friends with a frustrated married woman who is really not being treated nice by her man,abeg what do u expect the woman to advise the girl o.most men are are put off with the long extensions,some like the natural ,some can’t stand lipsticks and the likes..I can’t just say enough.people set their own standard and rules,thatz what worked for him,find what works for u,one mans meat is another mans poison

    • Pd September 12, 2012 at 11:37 pm

      I know some married women that tells me to stay clear of marriage…..when they tell me what they are going through i fear ohhh.

      • Gimmer September 13, 2012 at 1:08 pm

        Tell me about it…and I know some who remind me that I am not missing anything and it’s their children that brings them joy not the husband that they once thought was the best thing since sliced bread

  • Tolu September 12, 2012 at 10:19 pm

    @tolula If you have ever heard Ik speak, you’d know he is not into weaves so when he talks about Natural here, he’s not referring to your own relaxed hair. He’s talking about those that have unrelaxed hair that don’t take care of it all in the name of being natural. Looking like a mop.

  • Mz Socially Awkward…. September 12, 2012 at 10:27 pm

    If that wack comment about Don King’s hair was regarding ladies with untidy hairdos, that’s all very well. However, because he ended it with the reference to being “au naturale”, I’m wondering if IK’s trying to tell us that his brand of men rate chicks with weaves higher than they do the girls who rock their natural hair.

    As a girl rocking her natural hair (aired it for the longest period of 4 months during summer and, damn, I gotta say, my fro was all kindsa fab), can I just go ahead and tell IK and his band of brothers to bite me? “Men want babes”, my yellow & ibo arse. Women want REAL men, how’s that for a list topper? Not these sorry jokers who think just because it swings between their legs, their stock is hitting 3 figures per share-price. Real, GOD-FEARING, straight-talking, responsible, HARD-WORKING, grounded MEN.

    I’m DONE with people targeting these lists at women and thinking they’re solving the actual problem that’s preventing Adam from finding his rib…. DONE. Take your list to the other sex and keep it moving. Eeeesh!

    • damaris September 13, 2012 at 12:12 am

      Thanks you jare, you speak well
      God bless you we think the same way. i don know why we have to bend to men standard most time. what the eeff with tip ten, find it stupid
      true talk

    • Wahl September 13, 2012 at 3:19 am

      Why must they be God fearing? I find everything about religion limited in its practicality, and that’s why I focus more on making my interactions with my immediate environment the most peaceful? I do not believe that ancient men with very little knowledge of science could tell us what made man speak in different languages, or fully understand the ways of an INCORRUPTIBLE GOD. Or why the creator of the solar system built his place of stay, with only elements found on earth?

      • cindy September 13, 2012 at 8:49 am

        this whole sentence does not make sense. a man being God fearing is important to her, how does that concern you??

    • Ginger September 13, 2012 at 4:32 am

      muahhhhhhhh…..i so wanna hug you. thanks for putting these “modern day chauvinist disguised as female power advocates” in their corner.

  • faith September 12, 2012 at 11:02 pm

    I like the list but I think dats his list…it won’t work fOr all men…B 4 I married,I used to dat a guy dat said he liked tall slim girl(like Me) but he cheated on me with one fat short girl…sometimes I think guys don’t know wat dey want!

  • Moses September 12, 2012 at 11:07 pm

    Una no dey tire, of all the talk of what a woman should do to get a man. I’m a guy, and seriously, all these talk tire me. Let me let you girls know this now, a good proportion of men, i mean the serious and smart ones, know when you are playing according to all those rules. The type you read about everyday, and the the Ik put up. We just know. So, if some of you women, have managed to hoodwink a guy into marrying you. More the fool for the guy, cos he has just been played, into slipping a ring on the girls finger. I wonder how long such a girl will keep up the act. It is such women, that will start running helper skelter when they are having marital problems, because there are no rules on how to keep your husband. It is always on how to snag a man. When you snag him, yes, and what next, you don’t know you have to keep him too, and you wonder why many married men cheat. Women spend so much effort putting themselves in the right place, time, look, whatever you can think of to get a man, then to keep the man, trouble starts. You let him fall for the fake you, the contrived, manipulated, altered you. You finally get your prize, and you don’t see the need to be that person anymore, because now you have the rings, then bros gets bored, or disappointed, and he starts looking for the next thing in skirts. He has at least married you, finally you got want you wanted, why complain. Women should stop seeing getting married as a prize or a goal. Its just a ceremony, you wear a ring, throw a fancy party. The real work starts as soon as the last guest leaves. Haven’t you all wondered, with all the scheming to get married, you all don’t end up in happy homes. Food for thought. You can scheme to catch a man, that scheming will only take you so far to keep him. Watch out. All the married men that cheat, find out from their wives, “how they got the man”

    • mama September 13, 2012 at 1:11 pm

      YOUR REALLY SICK, GUYS CHEAT COS THEY R DOGS…PERIOD…ALL THE TALK ABOUT MEN CHEATING COS THEIR WOMEN R THIS OR THAT IS JUST BULL%eu…WE KNOW COUNTLESS CASES OF WOMEN WHO TAKE CARE OF THEIR MEN YET THEY GO CHEAT…….MEN LACK DISCIPLINE WHEN IT COMES TO THEIR ROVING EYES……SADLY SOCIETY AND THE USELESS TRADITIONS OF OUR SOCIETIES THAT ONLY OPPRESS WOMEN HAVE MADE THEM TOTALLY LACKING SELF CONTROL…….THEY THINK THEIR MASCULINITY IS MEASURED BY THE NUMBER OF WOMEN THEY SLEEP WITH…….HOW SICK….MEN SHLD LEARN TO ZIP THEIR PANTS AND STOP ALL THAT DOGGY BEHAVIOR…….RUBBISH

      • Amazeballs! September 14, 2012 at 3:03 pm

        why are you screaming??!!!!!

    • JJ September 13, 2012 at 5:32 pm

      “When you snag him, yes, and what next, you don’t know you have to keep him too”
      Moses, are men dogs or properties that you need to planning rules on how to keep/maintain them?
      This is why couples should communicate! What works for your relationship may not work for another couple. so f**k those general rules. And a man who respects himself and honors his commitment will not cheat on his partner. He will communicate his needs to his woman and vice versa like a sane human being would. If you do not talk to your partner you will continue to have failed relationships and will continue to settle for less. Stop thinking collectively and think like an individual. Not every man is weak and dumb. I know some dignified men that value their relationships and stay faithful. They do what they can to maintain their relationships with their women.

  • miztinak September 12, 2012 at 11:26 pm

    There’s nothing he tweeted that has not been written about or said before.

  • Tolu September 12, 2012 at 11:26 pm

    YAWNS!!! Some real bitter people here. It’s not by force na. No one is forcing their opinion down anyone’s throat. It’s simply what it is…..Someone’s opinion. Laugh about it….. or Not or move right along. Jeeezzzzzz.

    • bukky September 13, 2012 at 1:20 pm

      When Bella Naija put this discussion\tweets on a public forum they knew people were going to discuss it.Mature human beings look at a subject matter and make their arguments. Since you cannot comprehend that,why don’t you take a hike and keep it moving.

    • Madam the Madam September 13, 2012 at 1:46 pm

      Are you IK’s wife or what? Girl please. This is a public forum and we are very much allowed to air our views on this topic. So if you can’t handle it, then shift on to the next. Shiooo.

  • Kemi September 12, 2012 at 11:26 pm

    Well said!
    journeyofthechosen.wordpress.com

  • Moses September 12, 2012 at 11:31 pm

    I remember chasing my fiancee die, I have stories to tell at our wedding reception. The chase was interesting, because she was a breath of fresh air, and I knew I couldn’t let her just slip away. I had dated the same girl over and over again (different women mind you), but mostly the same. They say we stereotype our nigerian women, and it is unfair, I’m afraid it isn’t. Most of you are the same thing, the same mindset, birds of the same feather, and you wonder why they have the same problems with men. Both married and single. Men cheat, men lie, men are insensitive, men don’t know who to show love, men are unromantic, men this, men that. All you girls are dating the same average Joe, and you are expecting him to perform wonders, and suddenly make you feel special. Its like driving a Toyota, and you are expecting it to perform like a Jaguar. How now? Shey it is the same car. Cars have grade my dear, they have their levels, and so it is with men. All those rules IK put up, are just BS, and he has just shown that he is a regular guy, more like the Average Joe you can pick from the street. Nothing special, and nothing unique or outstanding, or amazing. He is just there. So, if you are a regular Mr Average, of course those will be your rules. Women, if you want Mr Average, please follow those rules, you will get him, cos they are a dime a dozen on every corner you turn. If you want, Mr Special, Mr Unique, Mr Outstanding, he exists, he is just a diamond in the rough, looking for that mate too, that is also a diamond in the rough. Such women don’t live their lives by such BS to catch a man. A man doesn’t need catching in their opinion. He won’t settle for all the slim pickings. So you can continue following those rules, you will meet your type, but don’t complain when you get him. You don’t sow corn and expect strawberries. Distinguish yourself, and be amazing and unique in your own right, don’t be that every woman on the street, be your amazing self, and the man that appreciates that will notice you. The ones that are around you now, and not noticing you, don’t fret, you don’t need such, they are doing you a favour, if I can have you know. Their types are on the ladder beneath you, you don’t need to go down to their level to catch the average Joe’s that operate at that level. You deserve better. Don’t cheapen yourself and follow all those rules, and be expecting Mr Outstanding to fall for it. He’s smarter than that. A man’s perspective.

    • berry September 13, 2012 at 4:43 am

      Thank you very much!!! U just said the TRUTH

    • TallChica September 13, 2012 at 5:02 am

      Bella Naija needs a like button. I mean, seriously–you’ve made some good points here! All these “lists” have it to where the woman is bending over backwards to get a man–who says that that is the end-all-be-all of life? I mean, after you get the man, then what? All that primping, posing, and fronting continues? No, it often does not. Add children to the mix, a working wife/partner, family obligations, and a fixed budget and certain “primperies” will have to go. Then what? What you end up with is a man who may think he’s been trapped into a relationship and a woman who is disillusioned, trying to keep the marriage/relationship together. Albeit the prior sentence is a bit simplistic and a gross overgeneralization, that is the only logical conclusion I see from following these “lists” as a life guide. Like attracts like, in my opinion. Changing yourself in order to “catch” a man is a waste of time. Change because you WANT and DESERVE a change for self-amelioration. If, as a woman you want a man that is ambitious, SHOW AMBITION YOURSELF JAREY because you desire it! If you want a man that is well-read, pick up some books and read yourself; if you want a man that is fit, omo hit that treadmill with a vengeance! If you want a man that can cook…well, good luck with that, you may have to date a ghanian boy (I’m joking o…but to date, I’ve been hard pressed to find Naija “boys” that want to cook for their mates; but I’m not saying it is not possible. Note that I said boys, not men. A man who is secure in his role in the relationship will have absolutely no problem shining his cooking skills in front of his lady. If he’s good, it only pushes her to become better. ) What I am trying to say is, improve yourself first, because you want to, not because you think it will attract a man. Men of calibre want partners in life, not doormats, drill sergeants, or mumus — women they can be proud of being associated with. But hey, that is just my opinion of the situation, o! Abeg, no crucify me.
      Moving on, I’m not going to touch on Ik’s assesment on natural hair save to say this: taking care of your appearance is important–again not to “catch” a man, but to bolster up your own feeling of self-worth. Do YOU! I think women, especially Nigerian women, need to look at themselves in the mirror and say out loud what they see. If in assessing themselves they see beauty, they will attract men who admire beauty; if brains, they will attract men who love intellect and witty conversation; if curiosity, they will attract curious men; if wealth…tor, for this one you will attract ALL kinds of riff-raff but on the whole you get my drift. In one phrase, if I were to provide an addendum to the content of Ik’s tweets into one 140-character missive, it would be this: “Women, rather than casting out your net/setting “traps” and hoping you catch a good man, BE the attractor of the quality of man that you want, and you will attract a mate of like quality”.

      Toh, I’m done waxing eloquent. Till later y’all!

      • pretty September 13, 2012 at 3:04 pm

        Nice oneeeeeeeeeeeeee TallChica

    • Gimmer September 13, 2012 at 1:04 pm

      Outstandingly written …thank you Moses.

    • Madam the Madam September 13, 2012 at 1:54 pm

      LOVE, LOVE, LOVE!

    • partyrider September 13, 2012 at 4:01 pm

      OH WOW! Outstanding!!

    • JJ September 13, 2012 at 6:05 pm

      A problem is that a lot of us do not know ourselves individually. I will speak from my view as a Nigerian. Everything about most Nigerians is” look at what your neighbours has /are doing.” People are constantly comparing you to another person. Like when you do poorly at school and your parents say terrible things and compare you to another smart kid without talking to you to see what they can do to help you do well at school. At least get to know their children’s strengths and weaknesses. Or because you are not jumping up and down and rolling on the floor at church some people will say you don’t love God. They do not understand that having a personal relationship with God is more important than showing off you acrobatic moves. I feel that is why we do not know ourselves as individuals and cannot think for ourselves.
      Everyone wants their children to be lawyers, doctors, and engineers. When these kids are sent out of Nigeria to study they return home with their engineering/accounting degrees to become stylists, musicians, and socialites. I;m not saying there is anything wrong with being a stylist etc but it is really because of the pressure people put on us to be something we are truly not.

      This is why brother Ik can comfortably put up” tips to getting a man” because he believes that is what every man (Nigerian?) wants. There are some Nigerian men that do not care if their women can cook because they know how to cook up a storm. I know a Nigerian guy ( in Nigeria) who passed away a few years ago that enjoyed cooking, baking, and doing household chores . His mother and siblings knew that was his responsibility and it was ok. No one made him feel less like a man because of his interests. There is another Nigerian guy who is not gay enjoys cooking for his siblings and babe.

      In Nigeria, most of us want blackberry phones, lace wigs, Brazilian/Peruvian hair, etc because that is what the “cool”/”correct” people have. And some people feel inferior because they cannot afford it……

      Sorry, I have said a lot.Lol. I’m very passionate when it comes to topics like this.

      • Paula September 13, 2012 at 7:04 pm

        Indeed you said alot! talkative. been commenting on this topic all day! pls swallow saliva small. take seat __/ sit down !

      • JJ September 14, 2012 at 6:41 pm

        Yes o Paula Abdul, stay the f*ck mad! I’m yet to read something sensible from you.x

  • naijasportsgists September 12, 2012 at 11:34 pm

    Ik you are quite on point. I am sure the ladies will love the tips.
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  • uyi September 12, 2012 at 11:44 pm

    It’s just his own tips. From his own point of view. Ladies You don’t have to follow them.

  • Nosa September 12, 2012 at 11:56 pm

    # Tip 11: Most men get turned-off by a girl with some kind of attitude. I am not saying you should not have an opinion of your own but men generally hate girls who like to turn everything into an argument. Men want to converse and not have his opinion pitched against yours. Also, for the most part, not all the tips will work for everyone in every situation. If you don’t agree with any, just ignore it rather than spleen venom about it. For those who consider the tips sexist, just do something about it rather than argue against it. Put up tips for men to find their dream angels. Many of us will admire and use them . Bottom-line, keep the attitude baggage to yourself.

  • Nosa September 13, 2012 at 12:16 am

    #Tip 12: Have a set of things you like to do by yourself alone. Go get a hobby. Don’t loiter around trying to be part of his world all the time. When my ex and I broke up some years back, she went to a therapist and the first question she get asked: What hobbies do you have? Do something for your self. Join a Yoga class or learn how to paddle a bike. Just learn to do some stuffs alone.

  • NNENNE September 13, 2012 at 2:06 am

    @jj…THANKS!!!!!!!!’

  • Wahl September 13, 2012 at 3:01 am

    Simpletons, he didn’t say ‘Universal tips’, he said ‘IKs tips’!!! In some way, everyone’s opinion will have to be biased as a result of their personal experiences.

  • Olanne September 13, 2012 at 4:05 am

    I am with some of you ladies, why do we keep reading “how to keep a man” “how to screw a man” “how to make sure he never leaves you” i am so tired of crap like these. I am a 25 year old Nigerian woman of Igbo descent whose father has never for once spoke to me about marriage but education. I discuss my future educational plans with my dad (law school, phd) all that sort of things that matters. My father would be the first to tell you that he would never allow any of his daughters to get married without a first degree and something tangible she is doing. I am lucky, i grew up surrounded by men who never saw an issue with me dreaming of following my heart. Never was i told what i need to do and how i need to act to keep a man. I am surrounded by positive successful girlfriends who had to struggle to get where they are. We are young, beautiful and powerfully independent women. I am tired of this sort of article again and again by men who have this idea of women being desperate. This dude’s advice is laced with ignorance. How does embracing yourself as a natural woman look bad? Is it wrong that i have chose as a young woman to carry my natural hair? Please, give us more info on how men should learn how to stop mishandling women, give men advice on how to not rape women. Give men advice on how to be there for their women. Enough of this crap. Enough of these men wanting women to be submissive. I am all for women needing men but not wanting them or being desperate.

    I am a proud feminist.
    I am a natural sista.
    I am Igbo.
    I am Nigerian.

    The most important issue is education and moving women forward.

    Olanne.

    • Miss Bonnie September 13, 2012 at 4:52 am

      I wish there was a like button for this comment.

    • portable-oge September 13, 2012 at 9:11 am

      Nwannem nwanyi,u r too much jare! thumbs up and a bear hug fronm me!!!

    • partyrider September 13, 2012 at 4:03 pm

      bless you sister!

    • Mayowa September 16, 2012 at 7:05 am

      Preach Sista!!!

  • Ginger September 13, 2012 at 4:27 am

    Chai…see how women have been commoditized? I am bored to my guts of how we as women are constantly bullied about tactis, methodology and algorithms to make ourselves desirable to men so we can be deemed worthy of being hitched.

    the truth is when you meet the right person, you stars just line up and even you are blown away cos you didn’t need to try so hard. if you find yourself trying so hard, mastering some rules a random dude typed up cos he’s proabalby having a poopy day, then that just means your time hasnt come yet. i mean when did this whole marriage thing become a friggin blackjack game?

    • Idak September 13, 2012 at 9:51 am

      Even as a man, i humbly request that you take a bow!
      Well said.

  • TallChica September 13, 2012 at 5:07 am

    Bella Naija needs a like button. I mean, seriously–you’ve made some good points here! All these “lists” have it to where the woman is bending over backwards to get a man–who says that that is the end-all-be-all of life? I mean, after you get the man, then what? All that primping, posing, and fronting continues? No, it often does not. Add children to the mix, a working wife/partner, family obligations, and a fixed budget and certain “primperies” will have to go. Then what? What you end up with is a man who may think he’s been trapped into a relationship and a woman who is disillusioned, trying to keep the marriage/relationship together. Albeit the prior sentence is a bit simplistic and a gross overgeneralization, that is the only logical conclusion I see from following these “lists” as a life guide. Like attracts like, in my opinion. Changing yourself in order to “catch” a man is a waste of time. Change because you WANT and DESERVE a change for self-amelioration. If, as a woman you want a man that is ambitious, SHOW AMBITION YOURSELF JAREY because you desire it! If you want a man that is well-read, pick up some books and read yourself; if you want a man that is fit, omo hit that treadmill with a vengeance! If you want a man that can cook…well, good luck with that, you may have to date a ghanian boy (I’m joking o…but to date, I’ve been hard pressed to find Naija “boys” that want to cook for their mates; but I’m not saying it is not possible. Note that I said boys, not men. A man who is secure in his role in the relationship will have absolutely no problem shining his cooking skills in front of his lady. If he’s good, it only pushes her to become better. ) What I am trying to say is, improve yourself first, because you want to, not because you think it will attract a man. Men of calibre want partners in life, not doormats, drill sergeants, or mumus — women they can be proud of being associated with. But hey, that is just my opinion of the situation, o! Abeg, no crucify me.
    Moving on, I’m not going to touch on Ik’s assesment on natural hair save to say this: taking care of your appearance is important–again not to “catch” a man, but to bolster up your own feeling of self-worth. Do YOU! I think women, especially Nigerian women, need to look at themselves in the mirror and say out loud what they see. If in assessing themselves they see beauty, they will attract men who admire beauty; if brains, they will attract men who love intellect and witty conversation; if curiosity, they will attract curious men; if wealth…tor, for this one you will attract ALL kinds of riff-raff but on the whole you get my drift. In one phrase, if I were to provide an addendum to the content of Ik’s tweets into one 140-character missive, it would be this: “Women, rather than casting out your net/setting “traps” and hoping you catch a good man, BE the attractor of the quality of man that you want, and you will attract a mate of like quality”. But not just mates, friends in general. This trouser chasing business has got to stop, na by force?! Ha! I woman’s value is more than having what it takes to get a man. Education, intelligence, community service, faith, and leaving a legacy after she is gone are just a FEW of the merits of a woman. Notice, catching a man is not on that list.

    Toh, I’m done waxing eloquent. Till later y’all!

  • AnONYMouS September 13, 2012 at 5:07 am

    Well said Olanne! I am so over all these “how to have a man” article. When did marriage become like this?? Argggh. I am so over it. I told my parents if I get married fine, if not the living will continue living biko…enuff of this story jare

  • AnONYMouS September 13, 2012 at 5:10 am

    Many men don’t have an idea what they want especially these days when sex is so easy to come by. It is super annoying.

  • iamfascinating September 13, 2012 at 6:10 am

    Trust I.K. to say it like it is.

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  • pynk September 13, 2012 at 8:04 am

    Women we can do better. Men are always giving us the bullshit about how to keep them, they are never keen on how to keep us. Lets cut the crap and keep it moving please.

  • Kem September 13, 2012 at 8:50 am

    Some will even present marriage from the onset and when the woman finally commits to the relationship, he treads off and comes with excuses like “she’s pressurizing me for marriage” Girls, dont be decieved, most of these rules dont fit for all but i totally agree with rule 4.

  • bbb September 13, 2012 at 9:24 am

    @jj love you…u said it all…xxx , moses well said nosa awesome…. I feel you dont have to have to do much in keeping your man.If hes the right man for you. All you need is to be yourself ,open honest and good communication . Talking to married women or getting close to some is BS….Most or some of the so called married women are unhappy in their marriages and seeking advise from them ,they end up telling worse things. MEn are mean, men are this that…. Just be your really self in your relationship or in seeking for a man. Learn how to cook, change your character if its not good , respect your men, pray for your man and ask God to direct you . I don’t believe in all this talk talk about getting man and the men end up doing otherwise. Just be real about who you are.

  • biola September 13, 2012 at 9:32 am

    be yourself ladies, that’s all we need and pray concerning your life partner. Tell God what kind of man you want and you want to be with. you don’t need to read all this or go and meet married women or talk to someone or listen to all this talk..Just be yourself

  • bbb September 13, 2012 at 9:57 am

    real* not really ..gbaganun X-X

  • efe September 13, 2012 at 10:18 am

    The likes of Moses, Olanne, JJ, Tallchica have spoken well,but for me the concern is what is happening to marriages of our days compared to those of the past l mean parents,grandparents and great grand parents who remained in their marriages and had less of the divorce or separation cases.The so called STANDARDS we have set for ourselves from dating to whatever is bringing all these issues of pretending to be who you are not and all.
    We have got to watch it,because we are replicating our selves in our children.Marriages differ for all.What is needed basically is to marry one who loves you for who you are,most questions l ask people or couple is that are you ready to take a bullet for the other,and then when you grow old and all those physical features that attracted you to one another has faded ,What next?Go chasing younger gals or blokes.GOD help us and bless our marriages.

    • let them say September 14, 2012 at 3:40 am

      Don’t forget that in those days you must remain married ir order not to be stigmatized as a woman and moreso not all of these women were happy in their marriages then but they just had to stay there all in the name of custom and their children between most of them cann’t look there so called husbands in the face. Women/wife are like property/ possesion then not companions

  • Lekkiwife September 13, 2012 at 10:27 am

    Generally i don’t read such maybe because i’m married but hey when someone with a voice like IK says something….
    A good man buys into what you are-and if you’re not yet the woman, you have the rest of your life together to grow..
    Every woman don’t need a man ..every woman needs a GOOD man
    So IK do your daughter and women at large a favour (since you have a voice) and enable men to be GOOD MEN.

  • maaay September 13, 2012 at 11:08 am

    mtcheeeeeeew crap

  • lola o September 13, 2012 at 11:21 am

    1. IK’s tips – not yours.
    2. Deliberate on it – don’t take it personal.
    3. Formulate your own tips – not all will agree.
    4. Its called ‘my opinion’ – you have yours too.
    5. Always do you – pretense is such a b**ch.
    6. Evolve – Change is the only constant in life – Change for the better (f***ing awesome)
    7. Seek God – ‘Seek ye first the kingdom of God, and all other things will be added. This includes that man, or that woman, that career, that home, that peace, that joy, that love!

    Peace oooout!

  • nino September 13, 2012 at 11:28 am

    Ultimately the goal is not to snag a man and get married, it is to make heaven.
    No i am not being religious, i am just saying it as it is.
    Marriage is a gift just as being single is.
    Marriage is not a goal, you do not win a prize, it is not the end, it is merely the beginning of what can be a good thing or what can derail your from being who you were created to be…

    I am tired of all this marriage talks, i am 28, i am single and frankly as much as i would love to get married, i am afraid of all these lists and stories i hear. Its just too much work to scheme your way into a man’s life, how about living right and doing you and if a guy comes along and makes you feel like together you can each be better people in all aspects of life, then go for it.

    in the meantime LIVE…stop putting your life on hold waiting for one man to come and be you ALL…and guys please never hook up with a woman who is waiting to meet you for her life to begin…you will never be able to satisfy her….she has no life of her own…

    IK is entitled to his own opinion, but i doubt his wife played all these games to get him…

  • Priscy September 13, 2012 at 11:41 am

    luv u jj and oloane….plz Men should be the ones looking for ways to please and keep us den we will do our own part joooorrrr

  • sister in the Lord September 13, 2012 at 12:14 pm

    But seriously guys, all he listed are tips on how to get a man. He didnt say how to stay married or have a great relationship. Its simply HOW TO GET A MAN.
    Now the type of man you get is not in question. The tips are practial and honest (and I dont think he was referring to “natchi” hair in tip 5). Look good, hang out a little more (husband will not find you in your sitting room), define your relationships, learn to cook (abi you wont cook for your husband or kids when you get married) etc.
    I am a single lady patiently waiting for the right man to come around. I have my standards and I dont see marriage as a do or die affair. Some marriages are free tickets to Hell fire!
    Life is worth more than marriage and children and all the other ceremonial things we count. The most important thing is that you live your life fully, attain all your dreams, spend all your potentials etc, cos thats all that matters when we stand before God in the end (MARRIAGE OR NOT!) Does that mean I dont want to be swept off my feet? No. I’m saving my self for that special man but I’m not pausing my life till he comes.

  • chocolady September 13, 2012 at 1:49 pm

    Marriage is just a means to an end. its not the end.
    when you get married and have kids what next? #food for thought

  • A.D September 13, 2012 at 2:41 pm

    Thats the prob with this generation, we want everything spelt out to the letter, IK has given his own idea of how to get a man, whether he’s a real man or a player, he is sha a man, and now we are asking for ‘how to keep a man’ #smh

    We have to learn to stop looking to people for opinions we should have, u pipo r looking for how to keep his tips now do that when it fails, you blame IK, somethings are meant to be experienced for oneself.

    Good one oh jare, personally love the , solo trips, loool

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  • Gods child September 13, 2012 at 2:59 pm

    Marriage is beautiful with the right person. There isn’t a perfect person but there’s a right person for everyone.

    I personally don’t believe in all these tips or looking up to someone as a role model like dis guy who typed all these ish – it doesn’t necessarily mean he’s having the perfect marriage!

    As a christian the bible should be your guide – not tips! Seek ye first the kingdom of God and all other things will be added to you!

    Marriage is not an achievement, it doesn’t make u superior – I’m a married woman with single friends and I don’t even make them feel inferior- no need! I don’t bore them with marriage talks either !

    To those comparing themselves with anyone, stop it! Na turn by turn – ur own turn will come one day! Ape ko to jeun ki je baje! Be patient and while waiting pls find something to do! Get a job, go to school , make ur own money, get busy and more importantly keep ur head up!

    Don’t look at ur married friends and start to envy them – look unto ur creator! Not even ur pastors cuz u don’t knw wat goes on in their lives!

    It is well!

  • partyrider September 13, 2012 at 4:12 pm

    any lady who knows her self worth,has a high self esteem,is well grounded and knows what she wants will spit at this article.
    As for me and my household,i will always be myself,grad to become a kick ass doctor,remind myself each day of my worth as a woman and you know what the MEN will find me.

  • Chidinma September 13, 2012 at 6:29 pm

    THANKS IK

  • Chi September 13, 2012 at 9:52 pm

    Interesting points, but getting a man is not the beginning or end of life.

    Check out African Sweetheart my dears.

    http://africansweetheart.blogspot.co.uk/

  • a-gie September 14, 2012 at 8:53 pm

    nice tips u got there ik @ olanne, put the blame on women who show dey’re in desperate need of a man. U can come up wit ur own tips u knw, like , ” 10 tips spinsters need to b independent and have d best of her life wit out a man”

  • ihuoma September 17, 2012 at 7:57 pm

    The tips may not work for every lady but I am sure dat there are some ladies that need to see them and will benefit immensely from them.Some will see what they need to do right and head in the right direction.They r just tips.Nothing there suggests a change from who you originally are.Just some “cleaning” so to speak and some additions that takes one from good to better.The same lady,just better.You are likely not to need or appreciate all.Just take the one you need and leave the rest for the next person.I am sure IK means well for us sisters.I like all the sides of the argument though.I see the point.

  • ngodoo ihom September 18, 2012 at 10:21 am

    moses and nina y’all make a lotta sense. I recommend Ten Stupid Things Women DoTo Mess Up Their Lives By Dr. Laura Scherlinger to womenfolks! Why in the blazes are we so wrapped up in Snagging A Man? Fact is aint no dang thing a woman can do to keep a man when he dont wanna stay. The menfolk know when they wanna get lassoed and when they dont so when you find yourself with a guy who is not walking the marriage road, please take a hike and get a life. There is no man alive who dont want to be with a strong confident woman who knows what she wants. I really wish women would stop making men validate them, God does not do that. Women get a life, go somewhere new, do something fun and know that GOD does everything for your good.

  • Eni September 19, 2012 at 1:24 pm

    There’s really no formula. What will be will be!!

    • taesugar September 20, 2012 at 8:41 pm

      it is really sad that we females have lowered our standards down. this is one of the main reasons why men act like the whole world revolves round them!

  • sweerymoi September 24, 2012 at 4:04 pm

    there is no handbook to getting a man, neither is there one to keeping him.just be yourself,be a good, responsible and worthy woman.

    In God’s time your man will find you. Meanwhile i think the writer is trying to share with us what his wife did to get him

  • Mina October 7, 2012 at 11:08 am

    Ahahahah ik you r so on point all u said is true thats if our girls will listen

  • olateju juliana October 17, 2012 at 8:48 pm

    hahaha..this is great, u are mouthed dear.

  • joy January 17, 2013 at 4:20 am

    Some good point. But what will be will be . God knows best. I met my man in my natural state, no weave and all. but he tot i was attractive and beautiful.. …

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