“She Was My Real Love…” Governor Adams Oshiomole on Why He is Yet to Re-Marry

Adams & Clara Oshiomole - November 2013 - BellaNaija

In December 2010, it was widely reported that the wife of Governor Adams Oshiomole of Edo State, Clara Oshiomole is dead.

Clara Oshiomole lost her battle with cancer and died at the Abuja Clinic, Maitama on Tuesday 7th December 2010. She was 54 years old.

Ever since then, Gov. Oshiomole is yet to re-marry. To celebrate 5 years of good governance in Edo, he had an exclusive sit down with Punch Newspaper.

He spoke on his opponents, the ongoing ASUU strike, and his take on the Anambra election taking place today.

The one question he wished the reporter had skipped was that on his wife. But he gave a bitter-sweet account on why he is yet to get married again.

Read it below;

I wish you would have avoided the question because really when I talk about my late wife, people may not understand why? You are in a position to judge whether to agree or disagree. When a man in my own case has the privilege of being elected as a state governor or president, your wife’s status changes automatically to the first lady of the state or the country with all the glamour that goes with it.

To have the kind of wife I had, who was familiar with all the police stations in Kaduna and outside, and sometimes searching for her husband who might have gone to work and detained by Police on account of trade union work, it was her lot to stand by me and she bore all the deprivations of a husband you were never sure where he was going to be at the next minute. At a point, she called me an absentee husband.

In one interview she said “I have donated my husband to the Nigerian workers”, so she went through all that pain and the day we were inaugurated is usually the day where women put on their very best, befitting a stature of the first lady of a state. But on that occasion, we discussed how to appear  because we didn’t have the opportunity of long planning.  I was declared on the 11th as the winner of the election and was to be sworn in on the 12th.

So I said to her, I can’t change my identity now because I have been a worker and have used khaki as a factory worker and President of the NLC, and I don’t want to look different and she agreed. Rather than going to buy lace, she opted to wear the same khaki, except that my own was better sown than hers because the woman who made her own was not used to sowing khaki for women.

So I looked around and imagined that she should have been by my side today to share the joy of my 5th year anniversary. If you come from my background, any woman who agrees to marry a man who is not rich, a man who alternates between police stations and cells and lives in a one or two bedroom apartment, that is your real love.  When my wife said I love you, it was from her heart.

I just imagined how she would have felt seeing all these people. The only worry she  ever had was  who was going to employ our children owing to my agitations with big establishments, because as an organized labour, when we leave the NLC,  we fear that our lives would be lonely because it would be a payback time for all those big people I have harassed in the course of my work. So, it would have been joyous for her to see that five years down the road , I have more people around me than I have before.

Her second fear was that she never approved my involvement in politics because she was very proud to be referred to as the wife of Oshiomhole because then she gets all the favour and saw the affection because most Nigerians were happy with my stewardship at the NLC.

She was worried that once I get into politics, I would be ridiculed and all of that would go. She felt I should keep the name. But I told her even before I went into the NLC. NLC was a write off as military apologists, the human rights community distanced themselves from the NLC and I said you can always chose how you want to be remembered; that I’m going into politics to redefine and demystify governance and reconnect with the very ordinary people and politics offers that platform for anyone who believes the ordinary man deserves a better deal.

So for all that and for many other reasons, that is one thing that I regret that she should have been there to also see the other side of life. I have seen it all, in this state now, they are people who  will call me the oppressor and you know who they are, the oppressors of yesterday.

If you ask ‘Mr fix it’ who I am, he will tell you I’m oppressing him because I have de-fixed him. It would have been nice for my wife to see life’s full circle; that those guys who feasted on us and cheated, that we have reduced them to political vegetables and placed them on permanent political oxygen.

To read the full interview, click HERE

39 Comments on “She Was My Real Love…” Governor Adams Oshiomole on Why He is Yet to Re-Marry
  • SOLO ACT November 16, 2013 at 9:06 pm

    hes an honorable man!

    • ebrufles November 16, 2013 at 9:33 pm

      he sure is

    • CarliforniaBawlar November 16, 2013 at 10:39 pm

      As much as I’d love to believe that, I have a gut feeling that would be contradicted by some folks who have “inside info” on the Edo State government house shenanigans…..waiting on their comments… lols.

      • ILoveGenevieve November 16, 2013 at 11:28 pm

        Not re-married doesn’t mean celibate. So their comment deserve to the bin I suggest.

  • Just saying… November 16, 2013 at 9:35 pm

    Eyah
    may her soul rest in peace

  • rootwoo.com November 16, 2013 at 10:00 pm

    she was a beautiful and humble first lady. we miss you.

  • Meet9jasinglesHERE November 16, 2013 at 10:02 pm

    This is love at work. I thought oshiomhole is a stone. Didn’t know he stil love

  • mostbeautifulgirlin9ja November 16, 2013 at 10:04 pm

    Are you sure? Cos i heard u chase anything on skirt in benin.
    Lips sealed

    • ILoveGenevieve November 16, 2013 at 11:35 pm

      Chases any under skirt ….who’s talking about that? Of
      course he still has a penis inspite of his wives death. He stated
      why he isn’t re-married ….why no woman deserve to enjoy the
      supposed benefits of his late wife. Unseal lips.

  • frances November 16, 2013 at 10:18 pm

    May her soul Rip.

  • Vics November 16, 2013 at 10:22 pm

    Lol @ d last paragraph…dude calm down that was not d question…anyway about his first lady, he’s right what he had was true love and will be hard to forget. But he will probably still move on sooner or later

    • Worship and Swag November 17, 2013 at 9:09 am

      Lol I know! “…that we have reduced them to political vegetables and placed them on permanent political oxygen.” When I read that I thought this page had refreshed and I landed on another Bella Naija page. Politicians and verbosity…lol :D

  • sideyeblankstare November 16, 2013 at 10:32 pm

    brought tears to mi eyes

    • Idak November 17, 2013 at 9:08 am

      almost everything brings tears to your eyes :-)
      Is there a problem with your tear duct?

      • slice November 17, 2013 at 10:05 pm

        you are just a trouble maker :)

      • Fashionista November 19, 2013 at 4:54 pm

        ROTFLMAOOO!! Idak you wont kill somebody.

  • ILoveGenevieve November 16, 2013 at 11:41 pm

    I respect him for honouring his late wife as to not put another woman that knows not about his journey where she laboured. Whether or not he is sowing wild oats at his age, his respect for his late wife should make any sensible person give him appraisal.

  • SNL November 17, 2013 at 12:02 am

    What a lot of women are yet to understand is that a guy can
    sleep around with a lot of women and not get emotionally tied to
    them ,so if he decides to sleep with every tom ,dick and Harry,he
    still loves and respects his wife.That’s the reason why girls
    should zip up if u know ur body means so much till u find someone
    who really loves you.

    • Idak November 17, 2013 at 9:15 am

      As a guy i struggle to understand what you have written here.
      Having sex devoid of emotions is not an exclusive preserve of the male specie.
      Besides, ability to have sex with every woman is no way to respect his wife.
      By the way, i am not judging Oshiomole. I am not qualified to. I’ve got my own demons to sort out.

    • mama mia!!! November 17, 2013 at 1:01 pm

      Sorry o, but, that ain’t respect… if you think his sleeping around should be justified because he is a “man” you have got a long thing coming. Sha, that’s anoda topic for anoda day not to take away from a tribute to a good woman…

    • Idak November 17, 2013 at 5:53 pm

      As a guy i struggle to understand what you have written here.
      Having sex devoid of emotions is not an exclusive preserve of the male specie.
      Besides, ability to have sex with every woman is no way to respect his wife.
      By the way, i am not judging Oshiomole. I am not qualified to. I’ve got my own demons to sort out.

      • Autoprincess November 17, 2013 at 9:22 pm

        Idak, you are a guy????? Kai, I don gok

  • slice November 17, 2013 at 12:37 am

    Awwww who says Nigerian men are not romantic

  • Silvia November 17, 2013 at 2:09 am

    She was a great aunt..humble to the call…

  • NNENNE November 17, 2013 at 3:32 am

    May her gentle soul rest in peace.

  • Ada Ada November 17, 2013 at 7:43 am

    *Bawling*

  • anon November 17, 2013 at 8:26 am

    He was cheating on her while she was battling cancer and has two kids with a 20-something here in San Diego, California. Don’t believe the propaganda…..

  • Zeezah November 17, 2013 at 8:36 am

    This is truely REAL love.

  • iba November 17, 2013 at 9:36 am

    Certainly all them girls till date dont come close to his wife i guess….

  • Linda November 17, 2013 at 10:07 am

    Yeah right, After BBA’s Dillish said no to your ugly Ass….LOL

  • Modella November 17, 2013 at 12:09 pm

    RIP..I luv the man..with all the money they had,she should have been treated abroad

  • Alero mii November 17, 2013 at 4:17 pm

    God bless you Oshiomole for proving that all Nigerian men are equal but some are more equal than others! You are a rare breed

  • mulika November 17, 2013 at 4:33 pm

    We knw u luv ha, but we re born 2 live and die, evry soul in earth owns d death and we must pay it,but is tym 4 u 2 re-marry again u can’t stay lyk dis 4evr

  • i no send November 17, 2013 at 7:20 pm

    idak is a guy???… on a related note i keep my lips sealed
    about this man cos it may require a whole blog ….don’t know why
    people wait till a partner is gone before they see their
    worth…

  • baby November 18, 2013 at 1:51 pm

    big deal if he doesnt remarry…..women do it all the time so why should his be news….sleeping around is much a dishonor so whats the biggie? if na woman una go expect say she will die lonely not minding that marriage is also much about companionship than just the sex…..

  • baby November 18, 2013 at 1:54 pm

    modella dont say what you don’t know…….the fact that she died here does not mean she might not have gone abroad at all…..so except you have first hand information that they were being stingy with spending money then i don’t think u can justify that statement..

  • Endo November 19, 2013 at 11:04 pm

    Aawww . May her soul rest in peace. Share your
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  • June November 22, 2013 at 2:54 pm

    Truly touched. Omg! Idak is a guy. Wow!

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