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BN Hot Topic: Man U, Chelsea, Arsenal – Why?! The Premiership is BACK to Steal My Boo




When my friend JoJo started dating this guy who was older than the guys I was used to seeing her with, I asked her how she came to “agree for” this man! She responded that he was a very kind man and that she’d always prayed to God for a man who wasn’t fanatical about football (that’s SOCCER to you Americans). It was the first time I was hearing that sort of thing! I didn’t know that “Not fanatical about football” was a criteria for some people. It’s interesting because I’ve never been a fan of sports! I mean, I watch it and all but I don’t animatedly discuss the league table (please, I don’t stick my nose where I don’t have enough information to be opinionated). However, when I’m in “like” with a guy, there’s a tendency to join my alliances with whatever team the guy is supporting! It’s all love, isn’t it?

The English Premier League started last weekend and lovers of football have started adjusting their schedules accordingly! Those who prefer to watch the match among friends or at a sports bar are excitedly making plans for it. A friend of mine said that his wife doesn’t really like when there are too many guys in the house so he’d rather watch the match at a sports bar. However, the Mrs. complains that he’s out all the time and they don’t spend enough time together. His response? “WOMAN! THIS IS THE PREMIERSHIP!”

On the other hand, there are some women who are die hard sports fans and they go toe to toe with their men on the computation of the league table and what team has 3 points and what team has none. My friends, Lara & Kayode are like that. The two of them are ardent Chelsea FC fans and they go on so animatedly about the team and the games that I’m just lost. When I’m in their house, I just carry my laptop and go to the room to watch my Alicia Florrick in peace! If you  can find a partner who can jump hoops with you when Arsenal finally ends their trophy-less run then, you’re lucky I guess.

What do you do though, when you’re not interested in the game and it’s all your man can focus on during the season? Surely, it would be unfair to leave out gaming or reality TV! I mean Basketball Wives, The Real Housewives of Lekki, Big Brother Africa and all those things. How do we determine how much we can take? What do you do when your ‘better half’ is addicted to his Fantasy Football League. How do you find a balance in the tussle for the remote control? One couple told me that they got dual view because the husband liked to watch the game and the wife was a Series junkie! It gets worse when you have kids too! They wanna watch Special Agent Oso and all I want to do is watch my Law & Order in peace. I mean, I pay for the thing; I should call dibs on what we watch, dontchya think?

On a serious note though, what do you guys think about this?


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  1. Layo

    August 23, 2012 at 2:44 pm

    Simple, my one rule is this. I’ll watch it with you, as long as you are right there beside me watching Desperate Housewives too. O pari. Watching football together has actually gotten us closer, and while i still don’t get the off side rule, or won’t know whose team has so so points, it has helped us connect as a couple, and watching my series with me has helped soften him a bit. He can tell you his favourite housewife and why, he enjoys watching The Good Wife and most of my shows. The only thing he gets a teensy bit jealous is when i start drooling over the male actors. He has learnt to live with that too. These days we have Tivo, Sky box, PVR’s, there should be no problem. When he’s away, we talk on the phone about what happened in the latest series of The Vampire Diaries. I know he’s making a lot of effort too, just as I have with watching football.

    • fokasibe

      August 23, 2012 at 4:44 pm

      As per the offside rule – on the off chance that you want to know:

      You’re in a shoe shop, second in the queue for the till. Behind the shop assistant on the till is a pair of shoes which you have seen and which you must have.

      The female shopper in front of you has seen them also and is eyeing them with desire. Both of you have forgotten your purses.

      It would be totally rude to push in front of the first woman if you had no money to pay for the shoes.

      The shop assistant remains at the till waiting.

      Your friend is trying on another pair of shoes at the back of the shop and sees your dilemma.

      She prepares to throw her purse to you.

      If she does so, you can catch the purse, then walk round the other shopper and buy the shoes.

      At a pinch she could throw the purse ahead of the other shopper and, *whilst it is in flight* you could nip around the other shopper, catch the purse and buy the shoes.

      Always remembering that until the purse had *actually been thrown* it would be plain wrong to be forward of the other shopper.

      The pictures below should help…

      As for me, I’m happy the Premiership is back!! *Dances Azonto*

    • Msunderstood

      August 24, 2012 at 3:16 am

      Wow, @ fokasibe, great explanation. U should try lecturing as a second career if you are not already a lecturer.

    • Diva

      August 24, 2012 at 12:43 pm

      Whao, am impress with what u used to explain the whole thing….hugs

  2. moi

    August 23, 2012 at 2:44 pm

    the picture is a replica of my husband and i, in my own i sit down to watch his display of enthusiasm and his analysis of the players, infact while the match is going on, he creates his own field at home with his legs displaying each moves, i am now loving it and always laughing at him.

  3. Chattyzee

    August 23, 2012 at 2:45 pm

    hehehe I just love BN Hot Topics, ok here we go ….
    There is something called compromise right? Meeting each other at the middle? yeah, that’s what this is all about. There is nothing wrong in a man loving sports (I mean there’s even hardly any Nigerian man who does not love soccer … except my friend Tumi) but anyway, my point is the lady should get over it!
    The lady should either learn all there is to know about her guy’s team and go along with him or she should suck it up and deal with it. The premiership is only on certain days of the week. Maximize the other days that you have with him and when it’s time for “his” time, let him go. Or better still, if you have a huge flat screen and a generator in your house, buy some snacks and drinks; Invite the boys over to watch the game. That way you are still spending time with your man. (This should not be done every time though).
    In America, when it’s either football season or basketball season, everyone is going nuts about the games… couples even make it a “date night” to watch some games. That’s fun too. As long as the guy is not obsessed with it, and he knows to draw the line between reality and his support of Arsenal, then I don’t see a problem. A man can be madly in love with you and still love sports, he can successfully do both. We can walk and chew gum at the same time. …. Don’t start acting all jealous of Chelsea and complaining and nagging, you are just gonna push him away….
    When he’s out watching a game with the guys, why not go out with your own friends? Go dancing or shopping, or go serve in church …. I want to believe you do have a life outside your marriage or relationship……

    • lilly

      August 23, 2012 at 6:10 pm

      GBAM!! chattyzee you are so on point. Using myself as an example I’m a lady and you can say i’m a tomboy i LOVE sports ESPECIALLY BASKETBALL infact i drink, sleep, wake up with basketball (since i’m a HUGE LAKERS FAN). I can talk about it all day and night and argue from who’s the best to placing bets on who’s going to win That’s how addicted i am to basketball. My ex is a huge football fan (buccaneers to be exact) and me i like football (Giants fan) but can’t compare my liking football to basketball. So what we did was that during football season we watch it together and talk/argue about each game. And when it’s time for basketball trust me he’s right there with me watching it too. So it’s all about compromise.

    • Rachael Kelly-Taylor

      August 23, 2012 at 6:59 pm

      Lilly this is totally like me. I have loved sports since I was in middle school. I played Soccer, basketball and volleyball in high school and college. I am a very huge Lakers, Arsenal and Colts fan too, you have no idea. Actually My obsession might be worst than some guys. When I was in college I will print the Lakers Schedule and create my study time so that it doesn’t clash with a Lakers game. I had to reschedule some of my midterm exams while I was in college so I wouldn’t miss a game. I did so many crazy stuff in college. I went for my first Lakers game last season and trust me I was screaming my lungs out at the STAPLES stadium. I could easily hang out with guys and talk about sports all day. Gunner for life

    • Tade

      August 23, 2012 at 6:12 pm

      Word, Like your way of thinking

  4. Layo

    August 23, 2012 at 2:48 pm

    One thing i’ll tell ladies i, please don’t ban him from having friends over to watch the game. Don’t be one of those women. His friends actually look forward to coming to our house, even the married ones because I actually make home made snacks, finger food, barbecue bite sized meat and chicken, mix up cocktails, stock the fridge with beer, and sodas, and when the game is over we all sit down to a proper dinner. I plan for this days in advance, and he really really appreciates it. If he wants to go to a sports bar, I am right beside him to show my support. Hopefully this summer, we’ll go watch a live match together. if football is a huge part of his life, and you are also a huge part of his life too, what does it cost you to go with the flow. its just 90mins, it won’t kill you. The real housewives of Lekki can wait, your relationship can’t.

    • remi

      August 23, 2012 at 3:11 pm

      I want to marry your younger sister.
      On a serious note.

    • Amazeballs!

      August 23, 2012 at 3:36 pm

      lol @ real housewives of Lekki. I gotta say i like your approach actually Layo, but i’ll also understand those that say it may be too much wahala, lol. Luckily for me, my husband doesnt watch even a second of football and we do kardashians, real housewives etc together!!

    • Penalty kick

      August 28, 2012 at 12:25 am

      If your man is over and over and over the top with his obsession and this is killing you, I suggest you do a simple thing. Take the DStv remote, BLOCK ALL THE SUPERSPORT and ESPN CHANNELS, change the “locking password” and keep the remote its place. When he starts searching for his favourite SuperSports 3 or 5 or 7 but doesn’t get anywhere, he’ll certainly realise just how serious you were when you earlier complained about the EPL.

      Warning: please do not try this if the man is a welder or a metallurgist! He might reach for his tools and re-cast your face!! [Hope you know what I mean???]
      * * * * * *

  5. AA

    August 23, 2012 at 2:57 pm

    Typical…i wasnt a football fanatic until i got married. now my husband and i are avid Chelsea fans and seat to watch the games together. Believe it or not I have also joined a fantasy league and enjoy all the thrills that come with it. My hubby has also learnt to watch my ‘other’ kind of TV with me and can even tell you all the names of the Kardashian clan or the cast of Grey’s Anatomy. In the end, it has brought us closer together and it even makes him proud when I discuss football (soccer) confidently with his ‘boys’.

  6. temitope

    August 23, 2012 at 3:03 pm

    [email protected] moi’s comment. Anyway. i dont have much choice regarding this case, my fiance is not only an ardent football fan, he plays professional football in europe too. thou its not a big club like man -U , Arsenal and the rest, i still have to support my man, so i watch him play and we watch football 2geda too and honestly, its an interesting game especially when you watch with group of guys that make funny comments and creates their own fields with legs like moi’s husband

  7. Theodora

    August 23, 2012 at 3:40 pm

    Honestly i love BN HOT TOPICS…now i never liked the sports football, but grew up with an only brother who loved the game, cause of him we all had to learn how to watch it and enjoy it cause he loved analysing what went wrong and not, now not only do i love the game i am a die hard MANCHESTER UNITED FAN….So ladies if you can help it try and watch it with him if you cant just look for something to occupy you doing this season…..

  8. X factor

    August 23, 2012 at 3:59 pm

    Atoke Atoke Atoke……U too rock….this one na major hawt topic ooo….God help us all

  9. alexie

    August 23, 2012 at 4:01 pm

    Its rily annoyin wen my bf does dat buh wah choice do i av dan to comply wiv him. now i fink im now beginning to enjoy every bit of it….. it kinda turns me on………*covers face*

    • Italian Princess

      August 23, 2012 at 4:25 pm

      Ewww!!! What manner of hot mess is this that you’ve typed here? *shudders*

    • faith

      August 23, 2012 at 5:04 pm

      Hahahahah…am telling u…”olol

    • Purpleicious Babe

      August 24, 2012 at 3:51 pm

    • Whoa

      August 23, 2012 at 4:48 pm

      Omoge, please you need to write like a human being! What was that?

  10. Engel

    August 23, 2012 at 4:11 pm

    this is my best sport. i developed the love for football during my university days. when my dad and brothers watch, discuss and argue so much that my mum and sisters(including me) will be laughing. cos i love my younger bro (we re very close) so much i joined his club(Man u). Today, my hubby loves football but he is Arsenal fan. We watch it together (home and Bar) and discuss it so well that his friends also enjoy my company. hehehe. Even when Arsenal and Man u are playing we laugh over the loser and move on. We have the best relationship cos i love what he loves. Cheers

  11. chimmydizzle

    August 23, 2012 at 4:14 pm

    sorry but bn i dont fink this a hot topic seriusly!

  12. winifred

    August 23, 2012 at 4:28 pm

    @Chattyzee and Layo – well said!

    • faith

      August 23, 2012 at 5:13 pm

      My husband’s own is too much…he like watching TV and I love TV too…wen Eva he comes bck from work, we hav to watch wateva he wants the excuse he gives is that i av been home all day n av been watching TV . Now that av started working his attitude is reaLly pissing off. I neva watch wat I like. its either we r watching football of reality TV or crime TV.mine is a special case n I don’t know what to do.

    • someone

      August 23, 2012 at 5:47 pm

      get a job so your husband won’t tell you “you have been home all day” lol

    • Purpleicious Babe

      August 24, 2012 at 3:53 pm

    • Kim K

      August 24, 2012 at 4:59 pm

      use yout laptop/ipad tow atch ur own stuff or better still elarnt o love his gmaes……… only takes one person to change

  13. lahips

    August 23, 2012 at 4:52 pm

    where are the guys and their take on this, seems its only the ladies talking

  14. Onyi

    August 23, 2012 at 4:56 pm

    @chimmydizzle, shattap! chief critic, mtcheeeeeeeew

  15. klaw

    August 23, 2012 at 5:58 pm

    “If you can find a partner who can jump hoops with you when Arsenal finally ends their trophy-less run then, you’re lucky I guess” sounds like u clearly are an anti arsenal fan.

  16. Amiphat

    August 23, 2012 at 6:16 pm

    @Layo, please make we hear word. Do you know how many games each team has to play, from group stages to knockout stage? Hint, the first stage is 6 games – God help you as a woman if your husband is a FOOTBALL (in general) fanatic and watches rival English teams, Carling Cup, La Liga and even the Nigerian Football league.

    So I should sit at home making finger foods for NFA (no future ambition NOT Nigerian Football Association) friends who do not even bring a bottle of wine to show appreciation. (insert talk to the hand smiley here).

    Women of the world – put thy hands together and pray your hubby does not do the “gbogbo ero come to my house” thing.

    That being said, I still do not understand the footie addiction, but I am a “Gunner for life” (LOL).

    • OmoMakun

      August 23, 2012 at 6:47 pm

      @Amiphat: E dey pain you? Lol! You can pick and choose when you would host his friends and you can use style to invite your friends, sip some wine and crack jokes. Shikena

    • Bili

      August 23, 2012 at 8:13 pm

      Lmaooooo! too funny! *choking

    • Purpleicious Babe

      August 24, 2012 at 3:56 pm

      [email protected] friends that dont show appreciation lmfo.. 🙂

  17. chinco

    August 23, 2012 at 6:29 pm

    Sorry I stopped reading when I saw, ‘the real housewives of lekki’ is that a real show? Seriously?

  18. Mum Enoch

    August 23, 2012 at 7:17 pm

    Am a man utd fan and he is a barceleona fan. We try to manage our differences when it comes to watching football, We watch football match together, and after each match the next day we play soccer together via iPad and it’s so much fun that we catch fun as if we were still very young

  19. OmoMakun

    August 23, 2012 at 7:52 pm

    Hubbs is a die hard Chelsea fan, therefore i had to become one too! But i still have no clue what the hell the rules are…shhhhh! don’t tell I made him sign a contract stating what is expected of him during the World Cup because that was his excuse for not doing anything around the house or paying me any attention…LMAO! Its all part of comprise, I give him his space when he screams and jumps around the house, as long as when its time to watch my fav shows i hear no complaints …=)

  20. T

    August 23, 2012 at 9:51 pm

    Ohhh my days! I haven’t even read the article but the heading alone is Enuf for a comment! Why why oh why have these silly leagues started again, Kmt now someone will not hear word again

  21. Sola

    August 24, 2012 at 1:25 am

    LMAO …. Girl I feel you on the basketball wives and what me I watch here is the real wives of Atlanta while the boo watches football and basketball while cursing and screaming at the TV intermittently.SMH. But during the sports off season, he grudgingly sees basketball wives or the real housewives thingy with me. He ll always say ” shey won fi drama shey e ni” LMAO. But he ll never understand. But on the flip side… I’m LMAO on the real housewives of lekki. But I don’t know if I can find it here in Yankee tho. Gotta see it.

  22. Dammie

    August 24, 2012 at 2:51 am

    I so love dis topic…….my frnds always hate me and call me all sorta names anytime we hanging out wif guys and they start talkn football cos I go in2 overdrive analysing every step of the games,d players etc and I came 2 love and support Man U due 2 an ex and now ma present who totally gets me is an Arsenal fan(which I was b4) is always bitching anytime I mention Man U and its funny cos we totally similar and agree on most stuff xcept dis bt newayz I’m nt bothered cos it gets 2 bring us together more…….I’m glad premiership is bk!!!!!!!!

  23. Tos tos

    August 24, 2012 at 11:21 am

    yer yer…footie time is always fun time wt ma boo…it gives us room to bond well especially half time of the game…hiz travelled out nw bt dat doesnt stop mi from watching footie…i luv dat a new season has began….more things to talk about now wen he calls! *grinning*xx

  24. Purpleicious Babe

    August 24, 2012 at 3:59 pm

    I enjoyed the comments more.. and it made me lool. 🙂 .

  25. toyin

    August 24, 2012 at 4:41 pm

    Its not that’s serious .trust me I know.
    My husband is a die fan Man U ……I am not into footie but at times I join it with my mau U T shirt he got me but 90% of the time I watch my own show in another room or chill in the room with him but I am on the laptop
    Then the kids came long……he watches his footie
    children av taken over the tv in the other room

    Well I still av my laptop …so its all good ( I watch all my shows through tv sites till the kids go to bed)

  26. toyin

    August 24, 2012 at 4:42 pm

    pls will this house wives of Lekki air?…………..I cant wait

    • Pd

      August 25, 2012 at 3:26 pm

      Theres no real wives of lekki reality show…..use want efcc and armed robbers to come visiting ni?

  27. mama

    August 24, 2012 at 8:58 pm

    Did someone say premiership? Ha! Gives me time to do somethin else by myself! Provided he’s not in the living room with other noisy dudes and somewhere else. Provided that said football obsession doesn’t encroach on madam and oga’s “time together”. Who doesn’t want some alone time?

  28. feelitx

    August 26, 2012 at 10:26 am

    We love it when our women loves football. we love it more when they love our clubs. Big ups to all the women who share our love of soccer.

  29. Nuel

    September 1, 2012 at 12:41 pm

    If You are a Chick and You want to watch Football with Me, Call Me 08162170679 😉

  30. Tiki

    September 4, 2012 at 8:50 am

    The comments are hilarious! When my bf wants to watch football, I tend to just let him be, because at that time, even snuggling is a no-no! I just whip out my book and/or computer and do my thing until the match is over. I don’t mind him watching football because either it riles him up when they lose, in which case I am guaranteed an evening out so he can argue about it with his boys, or puts him in a really good mood when they win, in which case I can usually ask for anything and get it! It’s more or less a win-win situation for me.

    Plus if I really want some quality time, all I need to do is sob; TV goes off pronto!

  31. Florence

    September 20, 2012 at 1:50 pm

    Babes, your comments got me drooling.. My case is different, I come frm a football family. Dad former referee, brothers footballs although local, lol. I once dated a guy who is an ardent Man U fan, he tried to make me a Man U fan but I didnt turn. Each time i watch a Man U game, I don’t feel anything, just there kind of feeling. But I also noticed that anytime I get to watch a Chelsea game, my heartbeat just increase ESP when the game is intense and they are press on.. I just said to myself girly, stop deceiving yourself and go where your heart is. And since then I hv not look back ooo… No wonder, my first point of call when I visited London for the very first time was a visit to Stamford Bridge, the home of Chelsea Football Club.. Oxford Str and shopping had to wait one more day… Lolzzz.. Come on you Blues!!

  32. Oga O

    September 23, 2012 at 7:09 pm

    Omo…see comments. Lol to real house wives of lekki..Any show like that? Watching keeping up with the kadashian, una wan turn una man to p*ssy. She better not ask me to watch that!! y’all dont see how that woman’s husband is gradually developing v*rgina. 1st he got a plastic surgery, now he wears ear rings. @#$%

  33. teema

    November 2, 2012 at 2:38 am

    I feel for all the ladies that don’t like their men’s sport addiction. I’m in the same shoes as u ladies. Hubby and my step-son play, love and eat(?) soccer. Hubby used to play pro and his son wanna match up to him in near future, my solution is in my bedroom TV. There i can watch live or recorded tv in peace!

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