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Namicit Nanshall: Be Social Network Smart



In a remote village in India, a farmer checks the price of rice in Chicago, U.S.A., to determine the best time to sell his crop. At the same moment, a pensioner smiles as she reads an E-mail from her grandson who is thousands of miles away. A teenager lies in his room, smiling to his iPhone as he chats with his new online friend. A mum returns from her pre-natal scan with the picture of her unborn child, she immediately creates a profile for the baby and uploads the scan. It is the first of many photos of the baby that will go online- an online presence for her baby! How wonderful! All thanks to the Internet.

An estimated 600 million people use the Internet worldwide; the Internet revolution has transformed the way the world communicates and does business.

Most of us have embraced, with open arms, this feature called the internet. In fact, you are reading this post using the Internet. The internet has evolved to cover various aspects and one remarkable aspect that the Internet covers is social networking – a dedicated website or other application that allows users to communicate with each other by creating, sharing or exchanging information, career, interests, ideas pictures/videos, in virtual communities and networks.

Persons of all ages make use of Social Networks, but research has shown that a higher percentage of teenagers make use of it. Although the Internet has proved so useful since its invention, it also has its dangers. In the wake of this, the EU recently amended its data protection rules to raise the ‘age of digital consent’ of Social Network users who are teenagers from 13 to 16. Any child below 16 who wishes to use social networks would need the express permission of his/her parents. I think it is a good rule and Nigerians should borrow a leaf from this and push for this bill.

Should teenagers be left to use Social Network unsupervised? One of the benefits of social network especially to kids is that it helps people stay in touch with friends and family and meet and interact with like-minded people. How then are social networks dangerous?

Children do not understand the need for privacy, neither do some adults. When one creates a social network account he puts up personal details which is accessible to all. Social network platforms have chat rooms where kids can meet and interact with other people who they think are their age mates. In reality, if you could increase your age to sign up for a social network platform or enter a chat room, how are you sure that there are no adults in such rooms who reduced their age to pose as teenagers?

The fact remains that an online friend who you do not know personally in real life is a stranger. Kids do not possess the perceptive powers to distinguish who is really trying to be just friendly and who has an ulterior motive. Even an adult can be deceived.

In 2012, a young lady named Cynthia was killed in Lagos by friends who she met online. She was 24 years old, way past her teen years. Also, another Facebook post that went viral showed the need to be careful of our online friends:
A guy sends you a friend request, you don’t know him, but he’s got a cute profile pic, so you accept. It’s baby girl’s first day of school, she looks so sweet in her new outfit you just have to take a picture and put it on Facebook so all your friends and family can see. You’re so excited dropping her off that you check into her school on Facebook saying, I can’t believe how big she’s gotten, time sure flies. One proud mum/dad right here.
“Meanwhile, the mystery guy whose friend request you hurriedly accepted this morning is saving that picture you posted of your daughter in her cute new outfit to his phone and texting it to 60 other grown men across the world with the caption “Caucasian female, age 5, brown hair, green eyes $2,500”. Not only did you provide a picture of your little girl to a child trafficker, but you also handed him the name and exact location of her school on a silver cyber platter.

You go to pick her up at three this afternoon, but she is nowhere to be found, little do you know that your precious baby girl was sold to a 43-year-old paedophile before you even stepped out of her school this morning and now she is on her way to a strange country with a bag over her head, confused, terrified and crying, because a man she has never seen before picked her up from school and now she doesn’t know where her parents are, where she’s going or what is going to happen to her.”

In the light of this, it is necessary for parents to monitor their kids’ use of social network. How can they achieve this? A father in Kentucky, Kevin Jones forced his daughter to wear a shirt that read “I am 10 years old” boldly written in front and “5th Grader” behind, because she lied about her age, created a social network account and started dating.

Well, what works for this family might not necessarily work for another family. Seizing your kids devices or not buying them one at all would not stop them from creating accounts. Making up stories to scare them away from using social media is also not a good idea. Kids are more internet savvy than most parents, so they could quickly find out the credibility of your story, thus making it difficult for them to believe anything you say in the future. It is best to alert them to the dangers of social networks, periodically monitor their use of social network, and trust that they’ll take your advice having played your role as a parent.

As we enjoy the internet and all of its beautiful and exciting facets, let us be wary of the inherent danger especially to our kids. We should be social network smart!

Photo Credit: Dreamstime

Namicit Nanshall is a Computer Scientist who is still trying to find her feet in the profession, she works as a Data Processing Officer in an establishment that has little or no Data to process. She loves reading and sleeping but unfortunately she is yet to grow fat. [email protected]


  1. Blueberry

    January 11, 2016 at 9:45 pm

    Word. Social media and privacy to me should be two parallel lines that never meet. Period.


    January 11, 2016 at 10:05 pm

    Actually thought it was a write up on how to use social media to promote ur business effectively. Anyway, u have raised valid points just like dstv has parental control so also shld parents have for the Internet. No Internet on fones or mobile devices except with supervision.

  3. Tosin

    January 11, 2016 at 10:13 pm


  4. Adaeze Writes

    January 11, 2016 at 11:09 pm

    You’ve raised very valid points Nammy! I brought up this same subject during the holidays with my cousins…they are fourteen and sixteen respectively. They kept nodding their heads to my explanations but it was obvious that they were like ‘what is she yarning?’
    Nice write up!

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  5. priceless

    January 12, 2016 at 7:02 am

    Reminds me of the debate back then in secondary school…. Internet has done more harm than good.

  6. ardnas

    January 12, 2016 at 12:12 pm

    Thank you for the reminder. i don’t know why i am still talking to this guy i met online. even gave him my BBM pin. shld i delete him or shld i not? #thinkingaloud… thanks for the reminder.

  7. True Talk

    January 14, 2016 at 3:30 pm

    Thanks for this beautiful write up. I pray people especially the young ones will take caution as it is highly essential.

  8. shamaki

    June 29, 2018 at 7:15 pm

    Quite a write up this is. As said by all, you really raise some valid points…want to check you up on fb and add you but now I’m scared I might be screened

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