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Leke Babayomi: Combating the Pornography Addiction Epidemic

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There is an epidemic that nobody is talking about (in Nigeria, at least). Several epidemics have set off a flurry of activities from both the WHO and liberal donors. During the Ebola outbreak that occurred in West and Central Africa, the international community swiftly contributed more than US$459 million to the WHO Ebola Response Fund.

True, the epidemic in focus is yet to take 11,000 lives like Ebola did during that period; neither has it manifested the same destructive potential as drug addiction in Nigeria. It does not even have the same fanciful description and obviously dangerous capacity as “bluetoothing” in South Africa. Yet, this epidemic is real and we are either denying its existence or downplaying its effect on our generation.

Apart from pathological outbreaks, atmospheric concerns have also set off a burst of political activities. The outcomes of climate change, due to the atmospheric pollution by greenhouse gases, have prompted nations to invest billions of dollars in green energy. This is clearly due to our concern about the impacts of climate change on future generations. Oddly, we are unconcerned about the emotional and spiritual climate that these “future generations” will live in.

We appear to be focused on physical and economic prosperity to the detriment of emotional, mental and spiritual prosperity. The well-being of the present generation is fast-declining due to pornography and its offshoots. This attitude is probably because the symptoms are mostly emotional and psychological. The pornography addiction epidemic is real. Some people invest lots of time in the semantics. They say that there is nothing like pornography addiction. They prefer to call it a compulsive pornography consumption disorder.

Whatever your preferred moniker is is fine. I will stick to Porndemic.

The statistics on this subject speak for themselves. 47% of Christians say that they have a problem with pornography in their home. 72% of males visit pornography websites, as do 28% of females. Also, the porn industry is larger than the combined revenue of Microsoft, Google, Amazon, eBay, Yahoo, Apple, Netflix, and Earthlink. In addition, more than 64% of South African children have seen porn images online (South Africa Film and Publications Board). Bringing this home to Nigeria, we rank very high on Google search ranking for porn and gay porn. Our percentage search for the subject relative to other terms sometimes ranks higher than the popularity of the search in America. So, just like Subomi Plumtre noted, Nigerians are obsessed with sex. We just pretend not to be.

It is common knowledge that sexual lust is a congenital weakness that we ought to keep under check. Habits like porn-use feed the “beast of lust” with “hard drugs,” making self-control very difficult or practically impossible. Internet porn fuels the modern man or woman’s sex addiction. This may be the reason some have labeled the internet the crack cocaine of sex addiction.

This uncontrolled sex drive is causing a surge in violent sex crimes. Rape is one category of reported crime that is on the increase in Nigeria. The FBI reports that porn is found at 80% of the scenes of violent sex crimes or in the homes of perpetrators. Similarly, US states with the highest rates of readership of porn magazines have the highest rates of rape. Hence, the high level of sex addiction
and sex crimes we record today are closely linked to pornography.

Times have changed. Society has evolved. However, the direction of change and evolution calls for concern. In the past, it was the norm for guys to chase girls just for fun or to satisfy their lust. Those who were too timid to do so aspired for the day they would be courageous enough to ask girls out.

In contrast, today, we have a category of males and females who do not bother about relationships with partners because they have found alternative fantasies and satisfaction in porn. And as we have learned from the statistics on the porn epidemic, while the early business model of the industry targeted men as the main clients. The industry today has a sizeable number of females who use their products too.

Likewise, the odds of a divorce are at an all-time high of 50%, with infidelity contributing significantly to this. What’s more, our ivory towers that were once the exclusive factory of brilliant minds are now breeding sites of intellectual drug addicts and sex addicts as well.

With all that has been said, it is obvious that an enormous challenge has come to us. We need to engage in constructive dialogue to solve this problem. Ingenious techniques to address this product of globalization need to be proffered. As Africans, we were raised in a culture that forbade the discussion of private issues like this in the public domain. Unfortunately, this loud silence is killing many. We must act very quickly and decisively in order to protect ourselves and our children. Everyone needs to get involved. An attitude of indifference to this matter may boomerang, because someone very close to you may be addicted already without your knowledge.

Collective, concerted efforts are required to first create a solid movement and then a revolution against all that is corroding our humanity.

Do you agree? What do you suggest as solutions to combat this menace in our society? How can we save our families from being corrupted? How has Porndemic affected you, your family or someone that you know? Please share your thoughts.

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Leke Babayomi is a practicing registered engineer in the aerospace industry. He has won numerous career awards and prizes including the GTBank-Ayoku Liadi Prize for Academic Excellence. He is the author of The Silent Killer: Kill Porn Before it Kills You. He also blogs at https://lekebabayomi.wordpress.com/

15 Comments

  1. Lol

    June 19, 2018 at 1:52 pm

    Devil makes porn for idle minds. Lack of jobs in virile strong age group..people only looking for partners with job prospects..just look at Nkem’s article. Well porn offers release, distraction and voyeurism in a semi conservative poorly infrastructured society like us. Hard labour in the form of farming is not even an option most youths look at today. Why should they when someone like Dino with no legitimate qualification is making millions. So whilst waiting for their slice of national cake what more to do than feed on porn in meantime.
    Our society is decaying…not just corruption…moral decay…people no longer no what right or wrong is anymore. Poverty and corruption os truly evil and Nigeria is infested and suppurating with both.

    • Leke Babayomi

      June 21, 2018 at 7:55 pm

      Thank you Lol for your comment. Indeed, idleness, unemployment, under-employment and jobs that are unengaging contribute to the diversion of energy into vices. You have brought up and insightful dimension to this.

  2. Deleke

    June 19, 2018 at 2:18 pm

    The government should outlaw pornographic contents so that you cannot access it on the internet. That is what is done in UAE.

    • Vera

      June 19, 2018 at 3:04 pm

      lol as if outlawing something has ever solved a problem. People will always find a way. When you look at data, the amount of porn viewed in the UAE even with this will surprise you. Addictions are meant to be dealt with gradually and patiently not drastically and with immediate effect.

    • Leke Babayomi

      June 21, 2018 at 8:23 pm

      Interesting point you’ve raise here Vera. Outlawing it provides an impetus for people to explore alternatives. But laws provide one layer of barrier that could protect minors.

    • Tony

      June 19, 2018 at 5:10 pm

      A very bad example is the UAE. The supposed restrictions has rather fueled the usage. Bypassing those restrictions is ABC. The internet has come with its vices and porn addiction one. Availability is the main problem in addition to the fact that these things are now normalised and done privately.

    • Leke Babayomi

      June 21, 2018 at 8:26 pm

      Tony, thanks for this cogent point about people finding ways to bypass laws.

    • Leke Babayomi

      June 21, 2018 at 8:10 pm

      Thank you Deleke for taking out time to share your thoughts. Government bans are one option to restrict access to porn. However, they bring up the debate about government intrusion into the right of adults to information and access to what they desire, especially if they are not causing any known harm to others. Bans also internet encourage traffic to migrate towards the deep and dark web.

  3. Dayo

    June 20, 2018 at 5:57 am

    The only way that only “28% of females” have visited porn sites is that over 60% of them LIED! LOL!

  4. TheRealist

    June 20, 2018 at 6:18 am

    Abegi, do not knock porn! It was porn that kept the Internet going all those years until regular e-commerce became financially viable. Seriously though, while I am for restricting the access of minors to porn, it is interesting to witness parents who have little or no qualms about their kids watching violent movies (even cartoons with their pseudo-violence) and playing with toy guns and laser tags go apeshit if same kids as much as look at National Geographic much less stumble upon some porn.

  5. Dr.N

    June 20, 2018 at 3:57 pm

    Children hawk pornographic DVDs under our bridges in Nigeria.
    I once saw a a teen of about 16 years shoving a DVD with an obscene photo in front of it in the face of a boy of about 12 who was trying to look away repulsed. One of them was responsible for selling the movies.
    That was 8 years ago.
    Who knows where they are now and who they have become?

  6. Leke Babayomi

    June 21, 2018 at 8:18 pm

    You’re right Dr N. The easy physical access of minors to porn in our society is very disturbing. Something definitely needs to be done about it. Objectionable materials should not be on display in public the same way national dailies are.

  7. Let’s Talk Nation

    June 21, 2018 at 9:03 pm

    First of all, can I give Mr Leke a hand shake for articulating this so intelligently.? You hit the nail on the head for me. As an avid watcher of crime shows, I can back you up on the point you made about pornography being present at the homes of sexual predators and also perpetrators. It isn’t only violent sex crimes where pornography is present, even in cases of murder, porn seems to have its nasty roots deeply rooted in the homes of the offenders. I always used to wonder what the connection was.

    People love to play off pornography like it isn’t a big deal. People have exchanged real connections and intimacy with real people for sexual fantasies that can never be satisfied by one real person.

    This is Morden day slavery, young girls are being trafficked into this industry on a regular basis. Predators pose as model scouts and target these young girls who are about 18 years old, and lie to them about getting them a modelling contract. These girls are mostly naive and fall for the trap, just because they want to become the next gigi hadid or Kendall Jenner. They also ask them to send nude pictures, which can be possibly used for the modelling gig. Before they know it, they find themselves in some off locations with people demanding that they do obscene things. And the young girls get threatened to carry out whatever is required of them, if not they stand the risk of their nudes being released and their parents possibly finding out. In order for that not to happen, they get sucked into this obscure life that they had no business with in the first place.

    These girls are oftentimes beaten and raped, they turn to drugs and alcohol to numb the pain, and some of them end up committing suicide. Don’t let the theatrics fool you. Those people are in pain and need help. The more you click to watch, the more there is a demand for it, the more they go out to find their next victims. And the more society gets broken and the more sex crimes increase and even murder. Not to talk about all the infidelity issues in relationships and marriages. It’s just a huge mess, don’t you guys want a healthy household?

    One thing we have to understand is that, lust never gets satisfied, you cannot watch porn one day, and just be free the next day. You will definitely want more. Before you know it, just watching a man and a woman having sex is no longer as exciting, now you want two women and one man, then 3 women, then you don’t even want to see a man again. Then you start getting a kick out of a full blown orgy, then who knows what will be next?

    Pornography is definitely not worth it, it is an illusion and people need to break free. I don’t know how and where we can begin to fight this battle, but I know every little step counts. Even if it’s you who just stops watching porn, and talk about how you got free, it can cause a ripple effect. Porn isn’t normal, it is sex slavery, say no to pornography.

    Thank you for your insight mr Leke.

    • Leke Babayomi

      June 21, 2018 at 11:51 pm

      Let’s Talk Nation, you just blew me away by the breadth of your analysis of the effects of porn. True, it has a strong connection with violence. Unfortunately, it sucks people in only deeper and deeper until they find themselves craving to watch what they used to find repulsive. Eventually, they act those things out. We will explore more areas in future writings in this series.

  8. Goodwins

    June 22, 2018 at 12:56 am

    One of the best solutions for overcoming a porn habit is the book Power Over Pornography Its innovative methods rely on cognitive behavior therapy and really work. I recommend it.

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