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Ibukun Ajayi: Be Thankful for the Little Things

In 2017, I had a major crisis that had me on an oxygen mask for days. The doctors didn’t want me moving about because of the oxygen I was taking, so again I had to pee via a catheter throughout my stay in the hospital.

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I can go on and on about terrible experiences that I’ve had, but I choose not to dwell on those. We, as humans, always find a way to magnify our wants and needs above the things God has given us on a platter of gold! We fuss, compare and contrast. This forces us to overthink, and then we discountenance the things we have and long for those things that others have.

Ibukun Ajayi

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Has there ever been a time you wanted to get up from bed but you physically couldn’t? Like your mind and body wanted to get up but your legs couldn’t. And as much as you willed yourself to, the pain just wasn’t worth it and you had to lie there at the mercy of others, waiting for the next person who will come to check on you so you could ask for help? Have you ever wanted to pee so badly but you couldn’t? I don’t mean in a sense that you were pressed and there wasn’t a restroom close to you, but rather, your bowel was full and you were terribly pressed but you physically couldn’t get the pee out?

Has there ever been a time that you were hospitalized and the doctors needed to set a line for a drip and they couldn’t find a vein in your hands so they had to resort to using a vein in your leg or your neck? When was the last time you took a breath freely without the help of an oxygen mask?

Back in 2016 when I had my last surgery, for the two hours that I was being operated on, I was also being infused with fluids via a drip. Before the procedure started, they had injected me with anaesthesia on my spinal cord to numb my body from my waist to my legs.

After the surgery was done, and I had been taken back to my ward, I became pressed and needed to pee. The spinal anaesthesia they gave me hadn’t worn off and my brain had signalled that I needed to pee badly. But my waist down to my legs was still numb, so I couldn’t get the pee out.

The nurses tried using hot balm, hot water, massaging and a lot of other methods to wake up the lower part of my body so I could pee, but nothing worked. You can’t begin to imagine how painful and uncomfortable it was to be in that situation. To make matters worse – because everything they had tried didn’t work – I had to have a catheter inserted so I could pee.

I didn’t feel the pain at the time because of the anaesthesia but after the anaesthesia had worn off, I felt a sharp pain every time I tried to pee for the next few weeks. In 2017, I had a major crisis that had me on an oxygen mask for days. The doctors didn’t want me moving about because of the oxygen I was taking, so again I had to pee via a catheter throughout my stay in the hospital.

Throwback to 2001, I was 8 years old when I had a terrible crisis that required me to have blood transfusion immediately. The doctor’s searched over and over, but they couldn’t find a vein on either of my hands to use. When they suggested looking for a vein on my legs, I thought they were joking until they found one on my right foot and decided to use it.

I was not about to let them use my leg because I had never heard of it before or experienced it. The doctors tried to explain their logic but I wasn’t having it, so they had to call in backup. My uncles came and held me down by my arms and the nurses held down my left leg while the doctor inserted the cannula into the vein they had found on my right leg.

I was crying and screaming, and as I cried and screamed out in pain, my mum was crying because she just wanted me to get better. I walked with a cannula and drip in my leg for the length of time I was on admission in the hospital and it was not an easy task.

I can go on and on about terrible experiences that I’ve had, but I choose not to dwell on those. We, as humans, always find a way to magnify our wants and needs above the things God has given us on a platter of gold! We fuss, compare and contrast. This forces us to overthink, and then we discountenance the things we have and long for those things that others have.

All of this is because we don’t see the gift of life as a blessing, or the fact that we can talk, move about, hear and breathe freely every day as major breakthroughs.

Everyone should have dreams and goals but when life isn’t going as planned, don’t act as if that’s the zenith of all problems. The fact that you can get up in the morning should be a boost to your morale.

I know so many people who have attained all qualifications but can’t use them because they are confined to the four walls of a hospital room. I used to be one of them, and I would lie in bed thinking about all the things I could do if God would just give me a chance to.

I usually say that I’m not like everyone else. When you’ve experienced the kinds of things I have, you form an appreciation for the things the world deem as ‘little’. I have so many hopes and dreams, but like Korede Bello sang: “I wake up see today lasan, na God Win”.

If the people you are comparing your life with open up to you about their secret anguish and pains, you wouldn’t dream of walking in their shoes. What problem of yours is so great that the One who woke you up this morning and caused all your organs to function can’t resolve?

Someone once said, “A thinker is a thanker”. Lol. This simply means that if you can think of all the things you have that God gives you freely, you will be more grateful. A grateful person remains positive, and positive energy attracts positive results! Worrying and stressing has gotten no one anywhere great, so of what use is it? The good book says “if you’re faithful in little, you will be given more”.

Think about this: if you had to pay for the life you have and the air you breathe, could you afford it?

Ibukunoluwa Imabong-abasi Ajayi is a Content Developer, Writer, Model, and Motivational speaker. She studied Business Administration at the University of Lagos but has always loved writing. A lover of movies, music, and great conversations. Follow her on Instagram @theimabong and She can be reached for talks and commentary at [email protected]"

12 Comments

  1. Adebola

    November 10, 2019 at 6:54 am

    How beautiful and inspiring.
    Thank you.

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    • Saidi

      November 10, 2019 at 9:29 am

      Wonderful piece

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  2. Ndidi

    November 10, 2019 at 9:49 am

    Thank you for this🙏🏾

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  3. Melinda

    November 10, 2019 at 11:25 am

    Very true. Thank you Ibukun for this reminder. Great to know God brought you through of all that. Congrats.

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  4. Ajala & Foodie

    November 10, 2019 at 5:16 pm

    Okay, I understand that this is about being thankful but who gave you an epidural without a catheter? You not being able to get to the restroom after the ansthesia in your spine go hand in hand. Inserting a catheter should have happened right away until it wears off. Using hot balm for what? Somethings we consider spiritual or ascribed to God has nothing to do with God because he has already given us the tools and knowledge. I have stopped the excuse that our medical practitioners are ignorant because they have no problem getting it right when they move to Canada and other countries but can’t seem to get it right with our own. And please before we say government or not having the right tools or equipment because in this case that was obviously not the issue because catheter was used eventually which should have been the case right from the beginning. Maybe it is my understanding that is skewed sha.

    • Anon

      November 10, 2019 at 11:25 pm

      Dr Ajala, you completely missed the subject of this article.

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  5. Ibukun Ajayi

    Ibukun Ajayi

    November 10, 2019 at 11:13 pm

    This issue is not about the intricacies of what should have happened or not. The whole idea is that despite the fact of it all, I’m still grateful… The point being passed is that things may go wrong and life doesn’t always give you what you desire, but there are people going through worse. So be thankful for the “little things”

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    • Ajala & Foodie

      November 11, 2019 at 6:39 am

      I believe i reiterated your point in my very first sentence. I get it, the point is about being thankful. Nevertheless, it does not minimize the gravity of what was done or not done in this case. I am glad you still choose a heart of gratitude in the face of such severe health challenges.

    • Vera

      November 11, 2019 at 11:39 am

      Nice and inspiring one dear

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  6. Tega

    November 11, 2019 at 3:52 pm

    I am awed by the level of maturity on bellanaija

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  7. Deb

    November 12, 2019 at 11:47 pm

    Battling same health issue and just at the verge of breaking down completely but God sent this message through you, really do appreciate and I thank God for your life. Thank you so much for this! #Warriors forever

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  8. theaduni__

    November 13, 2019 at 7:32 am

    So touching dear.. Glad you were able to share the and inspire a whole lot of people… Proud of you dear…

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