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BN Prose: The No Nonsense Wife by Abimbola Dare



“Biyi hasn’t worked for that long?” Dayo’s voice drips with resentment. “For real?”
“He’s been trying,” I say in feeble attempt to defend my husband. “You know how the economy is.”

My husband and I had vowed never to bring in a third party into our relationship but with a bank account screaming for revival, I need to share my burden with someone else. I grip the phone. Dayo is unusually quiet. “You still there?” I ask. “Hello?”
“I am here,” she says. “I just didn’t know things were this bad. And all this while, I thought Biyi was providing for the home.”
But he is, I argue silently. Well, maybe not financially for now, but in every way else, Biyi is a rock. “It’s not that bad.” My words sound frail.
Dayo clucks her tongue. “You might as well be a widow.”
The words hit me like a fist.
“Na you I blame,” she continues, oblivious to the damage her words have caused.
“Me? Why?” She is blaming me for this? Seriously?
“Why do you keep paying the bills?”
“Because there is no one else to do it,” I protest, upset.
“For real? He drives your car too?”
“He needs it,” I mutter. “To attend job interviews and stuff. He gets back late sometimes.”
“How late are you talking?
“Nine, ten…ish.”
Dayo pauses for a second. “I hate to say this gurl, but your husband spending your money on another woman.”
Whoa! Hang on. Where did that come from? “Haba, Dayo. Biyi would never—”
“Look, I know men,” she slices in. “You are his moneybag and he will take you for a ride as long as it takes. Where is your dignity, gurl?”
Ride. Dignity. Moneybag. Ouch. “But he’s a good guy,” I manage. Can my husband be using me? It had never crossed my mind in the past, but I now wonder if Biyi is actually having an affair.
“I trust my wonderful Dennis…,” Dayo is saying. I barely listen. My eyes are on the clock. It’s almost midnight and Biyi isn’t home. I force myself to hear what Dayo is saying about Dennis Ono, her multimillionaire-oil- company-golden-husband. Gosh I envy her life, her perfect marriage.
“My marriage is wonderful,” Dayo says, as if in affirmation to my undeclared words. “But only because I show Dennis who the boss is. He cannot try nonsense with me. Abi, you think it’s easy to get ten thousand pounds a month as pocket money?”
She really gets ten grand a month? That’s like, my entire annual salary in my crappy job plus bonuses. Life is unfair. Honestly. “I am Biyi’s wife,” I say. “I cannot just desert him.” Or can I? At this rate…
“In that case,” there is an edge to her voice now, “give him an ultimatum. He gets a job in two weeks or you are out of that marriage.”
“Look, I know his type,” she says with conviction. “He conveniently won’t get a job as long as you keep dishing out your money.”
“Starve him,” she adds. “No sex. Make life hell. You are not an ATM machine.”
Keys jangle in the hallway. Biyi is home. “Talk later,” I say to Dayo. “He’s back.”
“Stand your ground,” Dayo whispers menacingly. “Ultimatum. Two weeks.”
I hang up with a sigh. My husband is leaning against the door frame. For a second my heart falters. He looks tired, drawn. But Dayo’s words punctuate my compassion. “Where have you been?”
Biyi gives me a side smile. “No hug?”
I jerk my head at the wall clock.” Its midnight.”
“I had a job interview in Birmingham,” he says. “I called you tell you I was stuck in traffic but I kept getting your voicemail. What’s wrong?”
I cock my head. Is that a whiff of female perfume? It is. Dayo is right. He has been with another woman. With my car. Spending my money. My head spins. “Biyi,” I glare at him, “Where are you coming from?”
He steps back, surprised. “I went to Birmingham—”
“Did you get it?” I screech. “The job?”
Biyi shakes his head. “I didn’t—”
This is the last straw. I wrench my hand out. “My car keys.”
He gives me a hard level stare. “What is wrong with you, Toni? Did I offend you?”
“Pass my keys!”
He thrusts the car keys to into my palm. I push past him, grab my duffel bag and stuff my overnight things into it. I know I am acting crazy but I have to show him that I would not be taken for a ride. That I am not a moneybag. That I have dignity. I zip the bag up and spin around. My husband is staring at me. “Is everything all right with you, sweetheart?”
“Get out of my way.”
“Where are you going with that bag?”
“I need to clear my head.” I am still yelling.
“Can we talk first?” Biyi suggests.
“I don’t want to talk. Get out of my way.”
He moves out of my path. I swipe a hand across my face, smearing my cheeks with mascara. “Don’t look for me. I will be back when my head clears.”
I rush out of the house, jump into my car. My rage doubles as the feminine scent permeates the car. He has been with a woman in my car. I feel like an idiot.
* * *
I pull up in front of Dayo’s mansion. Her husband’s Porsche is in the driveway, and the porch lights illuminate my dreary form as I reach the door. I ball my fists to knock, but a scream freezes the motion.
“Kill me!” I hear Dayo scream. “Good for nothing idiot. Womaniser of the century!”
Whoa. Momentarily, I am unable to move. My hand hovers in the air.
Dull thuds, muffled screams. Dennis curses. “I warned you never to serve me stew that is not freshly cooked!”
“Am I your slave?” Dayo yells back. “If you want fresh stew, get your PA to cook it for you. Or you think I don’t know about her? You think…”
Dayo’s words are silenced by another thump. My hands fall to my side as a flurry of blows stifle her cries. I want to call the police, do something…anything. But I cannot move. And so I shut my eyes tight and listen as my friend is pummelled by her husband. The beating stops. I should dash to my car, but something holds me back.
“I am sorry I got you upset darling,” Dayo finally says. Her voice is laced with pain. “It is my fault. I should have cooked for you. I…Toni wouldn’t let me get off the phone…its her fault.”
“Next time you talk to me like that, I will tattoo a punch on your forehead,” Dennis growls. “Get into the kitchen and make me fresh stew. And do something about that leech you call a friend.”
That is enough for me. I sprint back to my car and drive home.
* * *
A knock sounds on the window. Biyi. I wind down and he gives me a smile. “Head clear now?” he asks.
“Leave me alone,” I mutter. Dayo’s wonderful Dennis beats her up? And she never mentioned?

“I will leave you alone in two seconds,” Biyi says. There is a twinkle in his eyes. “But first, get out of the car.”
I oblige, grudgingly. “What?”
He reaches under the car seat and pulls out a small basket. “I didn’t come home straight from the interview. I stopped over at the Perfume shop to get you this.” He hands the basket over. Inside is a range of exotic feminine perfumes and a small card. I pull the card open, read the words:
“Thank you for your support during the hardest times of my life! I love you.”
“That’s why I was late,” he explains as he pulls me into a warm embrace. “You have been so good to me, Toni. I couldn’t have asked for a better wife.”
I can’t reply. My throat is lumpy.
“When you left the house to clear your head, I got a call back from the recruiter,” he says with a beam. “God answers prayers, babe. I got the job. It’s a package you won’t believe. Let’s go in. I’ll tuck you into bed and you can tell me what’s bothering you?”
* * *
I awaken to a text message from Dayo. “Dennis is flying me to Seychelles this weekend. This is what you get when you stand your ground. You have to be a no nonsense gurl! Don’t you just love my life? Ciao sweetheart xxx.”
I type a quick response back: “Ciao!”
And then I promptly delete her number from my phone.


Abimbola Dare was born in Lagos, Nigeria.   She started writing as Bimbylads the blogger, in 2006 before she turned her passion to writing what she calls Fiction With Intention. She has written three novels, all of which have received excellent reviews, including the hugely popular short story The No-Nonsense Wife which has been made into a short film. She attended Vivian Fowler Memorial College for Girls in Nigeria, and has a degree in Law from University of Wolverhampton, an Msc in International Project Management from Glasgow Caledonian University where she was awarded the best performing student by the Association of Project Management, and an MA in Creative Writing from Birkbeck University. In 2016 and 2017, she was recognised as one of top 100 Most Influential Writers in Nigeria under 40 by the Nigerian Writers Awards Association. She lives in the UK with her family.


  1. impervious

    November 27, 2012 at 11:00 am

    I could see that one coming lol but such a nice story… had a good giggle at the end. Keep writing please!

    • Flo

      November 30, 2012 at 8:57 am

      Speechless! Really don’t know what to say….. But, its a good lesson to learn

  2. Yetunde

    November 27, 2012 at 11:06 am

    Ah! Bimbo o…please when is your next book out..i was just telling my boss about The Small Print…you are truly talented. God bless the work of your hands..

  3. Purpleicious Babe

    November 27, 2012 at 11:08 am

    hahahahahahah i immediately knew the other lady Dayo was covering something.. hmmm it was too obvious.

    I am glad Toni didnt make a big mistake of her life.

    Moral of the story: no marriage is perfect, appreciate what you have in yours and aim to improve on it. Dont follow follow advice, filter words and use wisdom. Plus COMMUNICATE and NO to THIRD parities with bad belle intentions. I bet Dayo even envied Toni’s marriage hence the evil advice.

    Nice prose but being a savvy in this approach i.e reading etc I had already predicted the end from the beginning/middle part. xxx

  4. yawn

    November 27, 2012 at 11:12 am

    nice one..thank God she saw what was really going on with dayo and her ‘wonderful husband’ before doing something should would regret.

  5. yawn

    November 27, 2012 at 11:13 am

    sorry typo..*she*

  6. nana

    November 27, 2012 at 11:14 am

    hmmm no one knows what happens in one’s home mehn. nice right up anyways

  7. Viv

    November 27, 2012 at 11:16 am

    Wow…..evil friend

  8. Lola

    November 27, 2012 at 11:19 am

    Chai! Truly no marriage is perfect. Stupid woman trying to mislead her friend.

  9. Misskhadiva

    November 27, 2012 at 11:20 am

    Nice!!! I actually read all of it, that’s how good it is. Misery needs company. Friends will tell you how to manage and control your relationship when they have zero control over theirs.

  10. adetola adeyinka

    November 27, 2012 at 11:24 am

    The grass always looks greener from the outside. You do not see what the garden owner sees.

  11. Nomy

    November 27, 2012 at 11:44 am

    lol i can’t stop laughing! Nonsense Dayo!

  12. Bambino

    November 27, 2012 at 11:49 am

    AVOID THIRD PARTIES!..including you mums( some mums feel what worked for them wld work for u but u are married to different guys) and talk to God first

  13. ruth

    November 27, 2012 at 11:49 am

    its gud 2 apply wisdom in all we do,esp in seeking 4 advice.ppl dont always tell u d whole truth is either a lie or abit of truth.Goes a long way 2 say d best 3rd party is God.


    November 27, 2012 at 12:05 pm

    It’s good to appreciate what u av nd d situation itself, all dat glitter is surely not gold, nd dis is very similar to the novel FULL CIRCLE BY AYANA ELLIS.

  15. Annie

    November 27, 2012 at 12:05 pm

    When it comes to relationship, me thinks we all should be careful who we talk to, we do not really have to talk to any1 aside God, people are bad, they see u ve a good thing going for u and they find ways to spoil it for u, Dayo was fronting biggie, Toni however was a good wife and it paid off at the end of the day, thank God she didnt spoil it at the end, in relationships/Marriage best we all can do for ourselves is keep the friends frm our biz, yeah they are/were friends before mayb he came along but once he comes along, he becomes our “friend”, no1 is saying dump ur friends once ur man finds u, but always go with ur instinct and go to God.

  16. Teniola

    November 27, 2012 at 12:13 pm

    Yyou know what is wrong with this story. I pushes thee stereotype that you can’t have it all. The poor man doesn’t have to be Mr Nice husband, and the rich one a jerk. I’ve read such storie(ories over and over again, its not fair to hard working successful men who are great husbands and fathers. As you have some poor husbands that are monsters, you also have it too in rich men. Let’s stop pitting them against each other. The woman that has the seemingly perfect life, really can be perfect. Not all women with great lives are crying inside abeg. If the writer wanted us to see that it is nyou should appreciate what you have and don’t envy other people eople, there are other ways of doing it. Anyone remembers that luther Vandross’s song, about a man that has money. I think the lyrics of the song is, people think the deeper the pockets, the shallower the heart, and it is not always so. . Just because I can give you the world and he can’t, that’s not why I’m trying to win you over. Sth along those linbes. Let me go look for that song and comment again.

    • Topsy

      November 27, 2012 at 12:49 pm

      Aactually, I think the writer was trying to point out how friends can easily mislead you in marriage rather than the “no one’s life is perfect” scenario you painted above.

    • Alexis

      November 27, 2012 at 1:33 pm

      Thanks for putting that up.

    • Ruth

      November 27, 2012 at 2:23 pm


    • Damie

      November 27, 2012 at 5:32 pm

      You response was perfect. Sick and tired of these . Abeg if you don’t have anything new to write about, just do not write. How convenient, the rich dude beats his wife and the poor 1 gets the job immediately. IT IS IMPORTANT TO TALK TO PEOPLE. Instead of deleting her friend, couldn’t Teni (protagonist) talk to her and help her out of such a hellish marriage? Instead she’s comparing and thanking God for her own. Balderdash! She’s just as bad a friend as Dayo. And maybe if Dayo talked to 3rd parties that actually cared about her, she would finally realse not to cover up but see the danger she’s in.

    • Uber Posh

      November 27, 2012 at 9:58 pm

      You have a point! what are friends for if not helping each other come out their messy life style, bad attitudes and behaviour.
      After she found out what was going on, she ought to have come out clean, confronted her Dayo friend why she had to paint a false impression of her marriage all this while and it would have been an opportunity that would have strenghtened their friendship and not draw them apart. Deleting the girl’s number from her phone wasn’t the right thing to do

      In life you don’t know it all. I’m married too and Yes like you mentioned, IT IS IMPORTANT TO SPEAK TO PEOPLE IF YOU ARE GOING THROUGH PAINS. But know who you are speaking to, and be wise with what you say too

  17. Billiomaires in dollars

    November 27, 2012 at 12:16 pm

    Nice Story Bella Naija you are the best.i enjoy your website

  18. AWEsome

    November 27, 2012 at 12:16 pm

    nice…lesson learnt

  19. laiyefa

    November 27, 2012 at 12:21 pm

    NICE story.Really there should be no 3rd party and one should never compare one’s relationship with others.Always communicate with your partner and do things that will make your relationship work.So many bad friends out there and assuch one as to be extremely careful and wise.

  20. ooYanu

    November 27, 2012 at 12:22 pm

    I have always wondered y women do this to each other,we really have to stand up for each other,with friends like dayo, who needs enemies

    • tatafo!

      November 27, 2012 at 7:20 pm

      So true.

  21. Lue

    November 27, 2012 at 12:22 pm

    hahahahaha……..i love his story!!!

    • Lue

      November 27, 2012 at 12:23 pm


  22. GEE

    November 27, 2012 at 12:27 pm

    so lovely!!!!! Mind hu u make frnds with….

  23. Benson

    November 27, 2012 at 12:29 pm

    hmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm.What a world we live in.FRIENDS!

  24. Soum

    November 27, 2012 at 12:30 pm

    Lovely piece…….no marriage is truly perfect..a warning to us ladies.

  25. barbz

    November 27, 2012 at 12:31 pm

    WOOWWW!!!! lovely write-up, Bimbo weldone.

  26. Janyl Benyl

    November 27, 2012 at 12:38 pm

    Nice one hun
    This happens in so many homes. People not being able to see their blessings because they are caught up in other people’s illusion.
    Keep writing dear, you are good

  27. TEE

    November 27, 2012 at 12:39 pm

    I think i’ve allowed so many Dayos into my relationships. Lesson learnt now thank God!!!!

    Most men just want lady to listen to them and be there for them when they are going thru stuff. But women want to talk, then friends tell us to react and then the guy runs away!!!!

    Thanks Abimbola

  28. raffy

    November 27, 2012 at 12:49 pm

    The institution called marriage.. That’s why God gave us 2 eyes,2 ears,2hands&1 mouth.. 2 hear,see,act but say less. Thank God she ddnt lash out @ him&say anything..

  29. Onyinye

    November 27, 2012 at 12:49 pm

    Feel like hugging the writer…Wz almost dreading the end..ouch!!! Really, That is y i alwyz say…There are no third partners in relationshps/marriage especially family and the dreadful one are friends bcos they will alwyz try to tel u wat u want to hear even the ones dat are jealous of u….Watever u re passing thru in marriage/relationship, neva bring in another entity be ye who…

    • abimboladare

      November 27, 2012 at 2:50 pm

      e-hugs. Thank you.

  30. adenike

    November 27, 2012 at 12:50 pm

    Just the right tonic for my already irritable day.
    The grass is always greener on the other side,besides,no marriage is perfect. Well done! Good writeup.

  31. dee

    November 27, 2012 at 12:50 pm

    very nice…. but not all rich guys are the demons.

  32. Aseni

    November 27, 2012 at 12:51 pm

    Ha! In your face Dayo! No nonsense wife indeed!

  33. shaynee

    November 27, 2012 at 1:00 pm


  34. dp

    November 27, 2012 at 1:02 pm

    na wa for people oh, one has to be very careful with friends oh and so called advisers or else u will just find urself in d grave

  35. Topsy

    November 27, 2012 at 1:15 pm

    As in!!! I can sooo relate. Friends who constantly talk about their “amazing husbands” should be put in their places.

    • Iphie

      November 27, 2012 at 1:33 pm

      lol. . .

    • Amazeballs!

      November 28, 2012 at 4:13 pm

      LMAO!!! Tell me about it! they sometimes almost make you wanna roll your eyes till they pop out!

  36. oluwaseun

    November 27, 2012 at 1:31 pm


  37. isaid!!

    November 27, 2012 at 1:33 pm

    This is story is so on point!! beware of “friends” who are quick to tell you what to do in your relationships.As much as we need them (friends) sacrifice,tolerance ,understanding in addition to the love we already profess are the ingredients to a successful marriage. lesson learnt!

  38. keppy

    November 27, 2012 at 1:40 pm

    friends can mislead you.

  39. Miss Me

    November 27, 2012 at 1:50 pm

    Every marriage has challenges… Take your issues to God and not any 3rd party.. Your marriage is between you, your partner and God… No one else… In the same vein, do not gossip or caste judgement on someone else’s marriage… You really don’t have a clue what’s going on…

  40. Elizabeth

    November 27, 2012 at 2:16 pm


  41. ADDY

    November 27, 2012 at 2:35 pm

    This story just reminds me of the friends who I taught were trully friends almost ruined my relationship with bad advice and insinuations of a perfect relationship they claimed to have, I am so glad I had sisters who I spoke to and they hv me good advices and I also to the courage to cut out those friends off my life…, It hurt to do that but it saved my relationship and gave me no reason to try to impress any of my friends or anyone about what a good relationship I hv with my man. Honestly when I lost those gurls I called friends my relationship blossomed and I got engaged to my boyfriend, after all the comments said in my face n behind my back by those who I called friends. All I can say is some friends will look for ways to destroy what you hv especially when they want what you hv.

    • annie

      November 27, 2012 at 4:41 pm


  42. grapes

    November 27, 2012 at 2:42 pm

    A very imaginative story. A very commendable writing. Thumbs up Abimbola

  43. Kiks

    November 27, 2012 at 2:55 pm

    Well done Abimbola! Proud of u. Great story and soooo true. Lets put God first in our marriages and let no man put asunder

  44. cathy

    November 27, 2012 at 2:56 pm

    hahahahahaha always appreciate what you have, simple as that.

  45. ESI

    November 27, 2012 at 3:04 pm


  46. flo

    November 27, 2012 at 3:22 pm

    Very nicely written.!

  47. yemi L

    November 27, 2012 at 3:31 pm

    Well written short story about the danger of allowing outsiders ‘ideologies’ to permeate your home, especially when oblivious to the fact theirs is infinitely worse ! The only small blame I had for Toni is that she told Dayo all that was happening in her home. Some humans feel better when others have having a torrid time. Makes them feel special (sarcastic tone).

    Well done aburo.

  48. kemi

    November 27, 2012 at 4:05 pm

    Wow! I love this… Really the only third party should be God.

  49. Feelitx

    November 27, 2012 at 4:22 pm

    Nothing is what it seems.

  50. Beverly

    November 27, 2012 at 4:29 pm

    Is this Bimbylads? What seems lost to me is the lack of empathy for Dayo, who is clearly in a bad place. They are not good friends for each other. I cannot stand outside the door of my worst enemy and listen to her cries of agony while her significant other pummels her. Even if I walk away, I will walk away knowing I have called the police. To me, they are both selfish and self-serving.

    It is also this do not tell attitude we have that endangers women and children. We say do not tell others about family matters, do not tell others about marital matters, so we become a culture of secret keepers. Discernment is key.

    • Bisqo

      November 27, 2012 at 4:53 pm

      Where is the like button BN? you need to get one ASAP!!!!! I don’t know about calling the police, it’s obvious that she will rather die rich with her 10,000 monthly allowance than live normal… her choice sha. But me o, I will let “madam no nonsense girl” know what’s up….. shiooor!!!!!!

  51. Mo

    November 27, 2012 at 4:49 pm

    Majority have missed the point of this story. Its not just about marriage and relationships, its about life! Never be envious of people because you dont know thier journey. Be content with whatever it is you have. If your friends get there before you, (‘there’ could mean marriage, graduation, having children etc) they are only there on time to witness your arrival. Ki won fi ara buruku bale!!

    • Pd

      November 27, 2012 at 10:52 pm


  52. iffy

    November 27, 2012 at 5:25 pm

    Really funny one though, people want to remove the speck in your eye when they have a log blinding them

  53. abimboladare

    November 27, 2012 at 6:04 pm

    Thanks to everyone for all the comments. I wanted to reply individually but iss a very long task :-). Although I wrote the piece, but I am learning even more from all the comments. Bless you.
    And yes, it is I, Bimbylads- another one is a counterfeit ;-).

    • Bleed blue

      November 28, 2012 at 2:49 pm

      Good story Abimbola. Most people can relate in one way or another.

      However, please why is this recruiter calling after midnight? I live in the UK and frankly…that’s odd and not likely to EVER happen. #JustSaying

    • Abimbola Dare

      November 28, 2012 at 3:49 pm

      No mind me jare. Bad editing skills! :-). Thanks for pointing that out.

  54. oyin

    November 27, 2012 at 6:42 pm

    NICE NICE NICE I enjoyed every bit

  55. i no send

    November 27, 2012 at 7:35 pm

    wao wao ..this is fiction but is very very real… Im married and have come across so many “dayo’s” thank God for the wisdom of my mother i would have fallen ladies don’t compare ur relationship with another because all is not as it seems or all that glitters isn’t gold..

  56. MamaDMama

    November 27, 2012 at 7:43 pm

    Seychelles noni…. #OneLifeToLive Ride On Dayo Darling!!! LOOOL

  57. Ewurafua

    November 27, 2012 at 9:51 pm

    A note to the writer:
    I highly doubt that recruiters call successful job applicants well after midnight. Please take care to avoid such blunders for your future pieces.

  58. faith

    November 27, 2012 at 10:19 pm

    I loved it….wow!

  59. Ariyike

    November 27, 2012 at 10:28 pm

    Fantastic write up my dear friend. I enjoyed reading every bit of it!

  60. D

    November 27, 2012 at 11:05 pm

    It is a good piece Abimbola. I like how you showed the uniqueness of a relationship and how it is not a one size fits all when it comes to advice. Beware of ppl who give you relationship advice based on their own experiences i.e.what works/does not work for them. Like another commenter pointer out i think discernment is key. For me, it was too fairytale like for Biyi to get a call about a job offer right after Toni left the house after midnight. As a realist, I will be more inclined to have the story in fact be that Biyi was actually cheating on Toni or Dayo was actually living the life that she portrayed. For the readers, all this 3rd party is only God business is tiring…..I am true believer and I also believe in practicalities…..believers can be used greatly by God as an extension of His love towards others. There are people in your life hopefully that will always give you sound advise, words of wisdom and knowledge, which could be taken to me from God if it resonates with you **discernment**. Yes there are certain aspects of your relationship you should keep to yourself, however, if you need help or support…..yes pray to God but also reach out to a trusted friend or family member or at best get some professional help. I think ppl read these stories and then assume that nonone is to be trusted in these matters or someone’s life is worse off than theirs or not what it seems, which actually ends up creating the falsehood ppl make up.

  61. adetutu

    November 28, 2012 at 3:33 am

    As much as I love this story, I think the writer should take not of the fact that recruiters don’t call their prospective candidates after midnight…That was some huge error!..

    • Abimbola Dare

      November 28, 2012 at 3:22 pm

      !! Lesson learnt there for me.. I shall edit more carefully next time. Thanks for pointing that out!

  62. Mama Put

    November 28, 2012 at 9:46 am

    Story of my life! Through my three year relationship, I was constantly plagued with stories of how my friends were in better more secure relationships and I should leave my man. I later found out, they were all suffering, when I saw their true predicaments, wouldn’t have wished to be in their shoes. Meanwhile, I was envying them prior to. Sigh! In the end, we broke up and guess what? One of these so-called friends went after him! Life!!!!

    Be satisfied with what you have and do not get envious or wrapped up in other people’s illusion of perfection. Believe me, they also envy you.

    Seek counsel from only the right places. People will honest, mature and trusted wisdom.

    Above all, make God first in your life, relationships and everything.

  63. omolabake

    November 28, 2012 at 10:56 am

    nice one ……………….

  64. Aniwura Omolayo

    November 28, 2012 at 12:40 pm

    My first thought, after reading to the last full-stop, was ‘BLOOD of JESUS!’ Absolutely correct! We really must value our men (the correct ones, please) and shut out the ‘greener’ voices/ladies. Hmmm, I have learnt another lesson that would be with me for a lifetime!

    Read this last night and passed it on immediately as a broadcast on BlackBerry! Comments have been rushing in!

    God bless you, Abimbola Dare. Brilliant read and a forever-touch on my heart & previously gullible, thick skull! Good bless you, Moremi Ojudu-Enwenreji, for forcing me to read this last night on my way to the kitchen. Girl, I stood on that spot till I finished!

  65. SFA

    November 28, 2012 at 4:51 pm

    Nice one Bims… on point as always! love the lessons to be learnt here… never grows old no matter how many times one hears it, GOD’s the 3rd party in every marriage.
    btw still impatiently waiting for your next book

  66. A1

    November 28, 2012 at 6:11 pm

    Which nonsense Seychelles…… Dayo needs space to nurse her wounded face……… BEWARE OF FRENIMIES!….. Gbam!

  67. Myne Whitman (@Myne_Whitman)

    November 28, 2012 at 8:07 pm

    Great story!

  68. liily

    November 28, 2012 at 11:44 pm

    WOW!!! What an amazing story! This is one of the reasons I love to ride solo and have my peace of mind. I have learnt the longest time ago to be content with what i have from experience. Thanks BN for this article. I hope people will learn from this.

  69. King_Kyav

    November 29, 2012 at 10:15 am

    You would have reminded her to prepare early fresh stew when when gets to Seychelles! Bloody Wash!

  70. oluchy

    November 29, 2012 at 10:26 am

    lrony of life: you can never have it all. Just thank God for the one that He gave you n don’t envy anybody, we all have our cross which differs.

  71. Honey

    November 29, 2012 at 2:53 pm

    Wow. Some friends will mislead you;if you allow them.

  72. Temitope

    November 30, 2012 at 8:50 am

    Wow. Interesting article and reminds us of truths we should know but sometimes forget.

  73. Olori

    November 30, 2012 at 9:34 am

    WOW! I’m giving u a standing ovation right here. You had me at “Dayo’s words punctuated my compassion”. You’re a very creative writer and I totally enjoyed the story too. Thank God girlfriend didn’t lose her marriage to the devil’s deception.
    FINALLY, a happy story on BN prose. Well done Abimbola!

    Teniola and Daniel. I really don’t get what u’r upset about. The fact that this storyline has been cliched doesn’t mean that we all can’t learn from it or that it doesn’t happen anymore. Their are always different sides to life and if someone chooses a particular side to write about, I don’t think we need to bash her for it. Teniola didn’t need to try and mend Dayo’s marriage because even Dayo was not ready to admit to herself that she has a problem. It’s just a story guys, get over it. Besides, I think what Bims is trying to pass across is that people should not let others plant envy and bitterness in their hearts so much that they lose what they actually have in pursuit of uncertainty. Please beg me to stop typing…lol

  74. edy

    November 30, 2012 at 11:32 am

    i still stand my own ground, never let a third party into ur relationship…NEVER! guys n ladies especially if u most talk with som1 den he or she must be older n deep-in wit God.


    November 30, 2012 at 3:08 pm

    Please do not use my name for such a character again please… thank you…

  76. omada

    November 30, 2012 at 10:04 pm

    love this story… 🙂

  77. Mariam

    December 3, 2012 at 9:19 am

    wow!!! the story took my breath away. what a lesson to be learnt

  78. Yinka

    December 3, 2012 at 2:10 pm

    2 or 3 grammar errors but overall it make me smile at the end
    well done!!

    • Tope

      December 6, 2012 at 12:27 am

      2 or 3 grammar errors in the whole write up, meanwhile in your one line comment there is already 1 grammatical error! Na wa smh

  79. H.A.W

    December 5, 2012 at 12:39 pm

    I love!!! Amazing!

    I Laughed so hard though.. Loved the twist

    A relationship is between two people and the two people alone.

  80. pawpawandmango

    December 6, 2012 at 8:28 pm

    Great work sis, so proud of you!

  81. Auta

    December 8, 2012 at 9:34 am

    This piece is a must read for all and sundry.

  82. Tony

    December 8, 2012 at 9:42 am

    Men this is a very good or should i say excellent story believe me, u hold me spell bound for 25mins. Give another and share it the whole world ll be searching 4 u. Nice

  83. Ayoola

    December 8, 2012 at 12:26 pm

    Wonderful Story. Straight to the point

  84. ifeanyi

    December 8, 2012 at 3:28 pm

    everyone thinks that she has it all but she is so empty living inside the castle walls.#be contented#

  85. Dee Nina

    December 10, 2012 at 6:11 pm

    This is one of the best pieces I have read in a long time. My dear, you should strongly consider a career in writing. You have a gift that should be nurtured.

    • Dee Nina

      December 10, 2012 at 6:18 pm

      Silly me – you already are a writer =) Great work!

  86. Prince Agbonika

    June 4, 2016 at 12:36 pm

    This is a lovely piece for Marriage Counseling. God Bless You for this inspirational marriage story.

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