“Not Only Depressing, But Also Scary!” – Buying a Size 18 Dress Forced 28 Year Old, Tayo Badejo to Get on the Fitness Ride | 6 Tips for Effective Weight Loss

The turning point

I spent the Christmas/New Year holiday of 2011/2012 in the UK and I found that I was buying dresses in size 18. The stay-at-home period during the Occupy Nigeria strike was a time for sober reflection and I gave myself a reality check. As a 28 year old single mum the thought of what I looked and felt like was not only depressing, it was scary. I dusted off my expensive but never really worn 2-year old running shoes and started walking. It all started with walking because at 98 kg, there was not much I could do anyway.

When work resumed, I enrolled into a gym somewhere around my office. I didn’t take it seriously initially, but  the turning point for me was when I changed my gym routine to the morning. I met an old trainer from my old gym and several fitness enthusiasts who did not joke with their exercises at all. You see, I have tried to lose weight many times but this is my best success story yet.

First steps

I engaged the personal trainer to walk the walk with me and he did. We started working together sometime in February and same month he insisted he thought I should move my running outdoors. Sincerely, I was quite intimidated by the people who ran outdoors at the gym as you would feel the adrenaline oozing out from them whenever they came back. When they discuss their routes, it was really the height of intimidation. I remember the days we started running, I’d installed Endomondo on my Blackberry which shows the distance covered within the period and I also opted to share the details of my run as a status on the Blackberry, I used to run about 3.5 km in 50 minutes.

Little did I know that real road runners watching me were simply smiling at my so called achievement. I did not know that a few months down the lane, I would be covering a 10 km distance for 60 minutes. I guess this came with consistency over the months. Rome was not built in a day and is still a work in progress.

Tired and exhausted
I got encouragement from everyone around me. They were not all truthful but the encouragement came and it gave me the motivation that I was on the right path. There were times when I looked at it all and said to myself ‘What is the point of all this?’ but the fact that I had to be accountable to other people pushed me.

I remember one fateful day; it was our early morning run around the gym. Unfortunately, we either started late that day- yes we ran as early at 5.30am- or we had short nights, but people were already out pursuing their daily work. I felt the eyes of passersby and as with the popular saying ‘The eyes can tear a piece of cloth’ I saw myself fall down flat on a popular road on the island. It was very embarrassing but instead of laying down there feeling sorry for myself, I simply got up, dusted the dirt off, said thanks to people saying “sorry” and continue to run. Everyone around thought I was crazy; I was very bruised and did not even know it till I finished the run at the gym. That is one experience I would never forget.

In April 2012,  I had lost 17kg and coincidentally, it was the month  many of my friends chose to get married. I dove into my wardrobe for some dresses I had only fantasied about but could not wear before.  I bought myself a very tight size of a body magic girdle which was simply to help me say ‘NO’ to some food and drinks that were passed to my table. I called that period my “Coming Out”  season. It was a surprise to a lot of my old friends who had not seen me in ages. Don’t get me wrong, my whole weight loss process was not secret; I knew I was constituting a nuisance on both my Blackberry and Facebook account because I was very eager to share my progress. If you were not close to me you would think I went for a surgery because if I have not mentioned before, I HAVE NEVER EVER BEEN SLIM IN MY LIFE.

Achieving my plateau

So back to the point, after showing off to all my friends, I realized I had reached my plateau and the weight was not going off any more. The good thing for me was I read a lot now and I know what I had to do was to change both my workout routine and diet. So, on day1 of my new ‘out of plateau plan’, I just finished a plate of wheat and some oil free vegetables and decided to go for an evening run. Not only was that a bad plan because my food was yet to digest, I suddenly developed heartburn which made me feel faint. To top it all up, half way through the run, I saw the clouds shift but I thought I could get away with it. I was only half way gone and I couldn’t run back home now. The rains started to pour and I did not know whether to laugh or cry. I simply laughed. I tried to stop some bikes (Okadas) but I guess they thought I was crazy because I kept running. I eventually ran home in the rain. As crazy as it sounds, it was very exciting. It goes with what I am known for though, getting the best out of every situation. Also I learnt from my several supports that food was 80% of the challenge so I had to clean up my diet.

Cleaning up my diet

I researched all over the internet until I could put together a sustainable and realistic Nigerian food diet plan which is what is now known as the ‘FADD Food Plan’.
Gradually, the scale moved and I saw my form change from my usual Orobo self to a curvy young lady and finally to the lepa I have now become.

The weight loss took 10 years off my age. It’s been an exciting few months. I lost all of the weight in 7 months and I have been tried maintaining my weight since then. I lost a total of 25 kg (55lbs).

Weight loss takes a lot of self-discipline. No one can decide for you to lose weight. That decision has to come from the individual, straight from the heart. It is easy to start with giving yourself some self-talk on how ‘you would like to be a better and more active mum/dad to your kids’, ‘how you would like to become a better wife or husband’, ‘how you are craving for a better health’ and so on… but the actual work is in getting the weight off. We all have reasons to give excuses but it you start with the end in mind, you can overcome them. I would never lie to anyone that it is going to be easy, but as I always say, it is most definitely worth it.


6 tips for weight loss

• Write down the reasons you want to lose weight; your most important reason is for YOURSELF because you would get a lot of criticisms along the way. You doing it for yourself would keep you going at those times.

• Start by searching for and choosing weight loss mentors; those that have towed the same path and have achieved a huge success. Mine was Jenifer Hudson, Tee Morgan and I really wanted Michelle Obama’s arm- and I think I got it. Put up their pictures on your fridge at home, or by your desk at the office, on your phone, ipad etc. Start the process with the end in mind.

• Think about it as a lifestyle change and simply embrace it; calling it a diet simply means you would end it someday. For sustainability, see it as a lifestyle overhaul that has come to stay. Even after you have lost all of the weight, you would be able to get rid of it for good on your own.

• Get involved in a weight loss support system: if you do not find one, start one yourself. Identify 2 or 3 of your friends who want to lose weight or simply keep fit. You would all motivate yourselves. Trust me, it works wonders. That was the ‘X factor’ for me.

• Be self-motivated: even with all the support you get from others, YOU are still the one that would get up and do the exercises, push yourself to the extreme, establish that there are NO BOUNDARIES, stop yourself from eating that big bowl of rice, cookies or ice-cream. It all comes down to your discipline and motivation.

• Finally, involve God all the way: weight loss can be very spiritual – at least to me. A lot of times, I break down with no will to go on or I break down in strength, I always search for spiritual motivations to carry on.

Now I go around talking and mentoring people on weight loss and healthy living through my blog www.wotugotaloose.wordpress.com, FADD bi-monthly fitness parties, our runners club and most especially through my newly founded wellness consultancy company FADD- Fitness Addict. I believe this would also help me to stay focused and sustain this new lifestyle of mine.

106 Comments on “Not Only Depressing, But Also Scary!” – Buying a Size 18 Dress Forced 28 Year Old, Tayo Badejo to Get on the Fitness Ride | 6 Tips for Effective Weight Loss
  • maya January 14, 2013 at 1:08 pm

    wow….i am impressed….

  • Alache January 14, 2013 at 1:10 pm

    Wonderful, very inspirational.

  • ada January 14, 2013 at 1:13 pm

    this is a very excellent article, well written and to the point..u should be very proud…I too am trying to lose weight,thanks for the motivation

  • Not Pleased January 14, 2013 at 1:15 pm

    you go girl. I will definitely try your tips

  • MissShayee January 14, 2013 at 1:15 pm

    I am totally proud of you and what you have achieved!

  • Dapo Yussuf January 14, 2013 at 1:17 pm

    I am a witness to this great achievement.. Really wen she started den it looks absurd bt later it worth doing because she more sexier than before.

  • Ngozi January 14, 2013 at 1:20 pm

    You look fab! Thanks for sharing your experience, it really help me. I have four kids slim like you but people always put me down, saying I’m too skinny. I love my self & my hubby loves it also, I like it when you said do it for your self. Thank you so much…!

    • Let them say January 14, 2013 at 2:01 pm

      That’s typical of black people who are on the big side, they always put people who are slim down because they are probably envious of how you look and they don’t know what to do have it or rather how to go about it. From experience, some will just detest you probably because their husband/partner/boyfriend has been complaining about their weight.
      When people sound bitter about some topics like this one, know for sure that they are desperate for that thing but don’t know how to achieve it.
      Well done Tayo!

      • Let them say January 14, 2013 at 2:06 pm

        That’s typical of black people who are on the big side, they always put people who are slim down because they are probably envious of how you look and they don’t know what to do have it or rather how to go about shedding their weight. From experience, some will just detest you probably because their husband/partner/boyfriend has been complaining about their weight.
        When people sound bitter about sensitive topics like this one, know for sure that they are desperate for that thing but don’t know how to achieve it.
        Well done Tayo!

  • i no send January 14, 2013 at 1:23 pm

    I’m on the same journey thanks for the tips

    • Barbara January 16, 2013 at 2:49 pm

      I am on the same journey too. Not as extreme as this though and I am already seeing results. I am doing mine for myself and I am certain that I will get there in due time.

      Congrats and thanks for sharing your story with us. A real inspiration indeed.

  • BubblyBliss January 14, 2013 at 1:23 pm

    Wow! I have been struggling to lose weight for the longest time. I’ve already incorporated these 6 tips into my weightloss and healthy living plan and I even keep a weightloss diary. My problem is junk food 🙁 My question is how to be disciplined and keep the momentum.

    • Naomi January 14, 2013 at 2:21 pm

      I would say look for alternatives.fruits and vegetable.quite expensive but try to have something every few minutes.Especially if u work in an office.Let people know so they stop offering you junk.With God`s help you will get there.

    • Papa January 14, 2013 at 3:41 pm

      You have to love yourself (tiring but true). I mean wanting to make out with yourself type of love. If you put yourself first, every other relationship: junk food, soda, boyfriend, girlfriend, mama, papa, you name it, will either compliment you or disappear. That also means that you’ll want to lose weight for you.

  • Ginika January 14, 2013 at 1:25 pm

    Good job, good tips!

  • Joanna January 14, 2013 at 1:26 pm

    Great,Great job WELL DONE! Hope more people will be inspired by your story AND find the initiative to embark on the same path OF fitness and wellness.KUDOS!

  • Jay January 14, 2013 at 1:35 pm

    I’m in exactly the same place you were a few months ago, however, I can’t seem to get the motivation to change my habits. I’m at the heaviest I’ve ever been in my life (95kg) and instead of being a source of motivation(shock or fear for my health), it just depresses my more and I end up binging on all the wrong things to make myself feel better.

    I’ve actually lost weight before so I know what I need to do but I just have the energy to do it. Work and other things in my life have just zapped all my energy away. But my weight is making me really unhappy

  • sigi January 14, 2013 at 1:45 pm

    Wow!I rem this girl from Unilag.This is inspiring. If you do not like you, change you. now hops in my running shoes! #okbye

  • nAyImA January 14, 2013 at 1:54 pm

    aww congrats sweetie. BN a before and after pix would have been really good.

  • Africhic January 14, 2013 at 1:59 pm

    Well done Tee Tayo

  • Adejoke Braimoh January 14, 2013 at 2:08 pm

    Nice1 Tee,well said .

  • UNKNOWN January 14, 2013 at 2:20 pm

    I want to loose weight but not my hips or butt!

    • Asgrl January 15, 2013 at 7:19 am

      Then you’re not ready. There is no such thing as spot reduction. To loose weight you have to reduce overall body fat.

  • maggs January 14, 2013 at 2:26 pm

    Tayo!!!!!!!!well done..wew can!

  • Mz Socially Awkward… January 14, 2013 at 2:50 pm

    Well done, chick! I’m starting 2013 on a healthy note as well so I need to peek into your guide to alternatives ways of cooking Nigerian food (saying “NO” to carbs is the first step in my process and typical Nigerian food is on a whole different level of carbs). Also, I really hope you stay motivated with your new healthy lifestyle because once you see the weight come off, you need to maintain that same routine to keep it from coming back on. All the best!

  • Ag’ Nicole Ezomo January 14, 2013 at 2:50 pm

    POW!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Love you babes and so proud of you

  • TmT January 14, 2013 at 3:03 pm

    Tayo is an absolute inspiration…i’m on my journey now and currently working through the pain of my last fitness challenge bcos tight ABs and a toned tush dosen’t come for free *wink*. we all deserve good health and sexy bodies so invest in good food. A celeb once said to me that “Food is the only thing that goes into ur body so invest in good food” …. Nice one.xxx

  • TmT January 14, 2013 at 3:07 pm

    To anyone looking for motivation,you can’t go wrong with good food and a good workout… Challenge yourself today… desire change and just Bl**dy go for it like the world is gonna end next week.xxx

  • Bukkie January 14, 2013 at 3:08 pm

    Nice 1 dear, i am so proud of you.

  • Slim January 14, 2013 at 3:08 pm

    Happy for you girl,I saw her pic last year,the before and after,she was neva that bad but she looks so much better,I said to myself,she must have worked sooo hard.that’s the irony of life,while some of us r trying soo hard to add a lil weight. I seem to be the only slim person in my entire family, i mean both immediate& EXTENDED family,any time there a function or gathering mehn I always have to get ready for comments,the first question most people ask is don’t you want to get fat? There is a limit to what my stomach can take,a times when I try hard I have serious running stomach, I even use food supplements just to increase my appetite.Reading your article as given more reason to stay slim, God Bless you…

  • dont mention January 14, 2013 at 3:09 pm

    wow…..am i impressed and motivated to take mine seriously….i lost 25 lbs once only to gain it all back…now am back trying to loose evn if its just dat 25 bc i need to fit in my clothes….thanx for sharing and i hope i am a success story too someday or soon…..thanx alot

  • Liz January 14, 2013 at 3:37 pm

    Well done Tayo!!!!you are an encouragment to other women.much love.

  • Retrochic January 14, 2013 at 3:41 pm

    How do i join your running team

  • Retrochic January 14, 2013 at 3:43 pm

    Guyz was it just me or, cuz the fourth pix she posted was just too sexy for a run on gidi roads, just saying, lol

    • Tayo January 15, 2013 at 11:37 am

      It was me playing old silly……i obviously dont go around running like that. I did a photoshoot as a birthday present to self last November. I always fantasied to be able to run out like that and i was quite overwhelmed when i saw the picture. All Glory to God.

      • Barbara January 16, 2013 at 2:52 pm

        O wow, a photoshoot. I am a UK size 14 on my upper body but I recently tried to purchase some Uk size 18 pants and they didn’t fit cos I have hips and bum. That was enough inspiration for me to start my dear.
        barbsiesmusings. blogspot. com

  • Berry Dakara formerly Choco-Latte January 14, 2013 at 3:49 pm

    Oooooh, YOU GO GIRL!!! How long did it take you to lose the weight from start to finish?

    If you can lose 55lbs, then what the heck is stopping me from bucking up and losing 13 pounds??? Re-energized, re-invigorated, re-gottalose13lbsbymybirthdaybyFORCE!!!


  • nene January 14, 2013 at 3:50 pm

    i’m seriously impressed. she looked like she was in her mid 30’s in the “before” picture, now she looks her age. well done!

  • oluchy January 14, 2013 at 3:55 pm

    Nice, l like it. BRAVO DEAR.

  • Nwanne Makanjuola January 14, 2013 at 4:01 pm

    Well done T for Tayo! You inspire me! Keep on rocking that hot bod!

  • Daeze January 14, 2013 at 4:06 pm

    I wanna lose weight… and now Im pregnant, cant even imagine what I will end up looking like


  • Ayana January 14, 2013 at 4:16 pm

    Well done!…I’m inspired

  • konnie January 14, 2013 at 4:38 pm

    good job girl. I am proud of you. I just really got back on the train after a 6 week on and off lay off from exercise. My body hates me right now but ‘it ‘ and I will have to get over it because this mini pot belly has got to go. You have inspired me. Keep up the good job and I have booked marked you site. I’ll learn from it and share too.

    Well done (the Nigerian take on healthy food is quite educative)

  • Chiji January 14, 2013 at 4:38 pm

    Tee, i’m really impressed. Now i know the whole story.Keep up the good work.

  • wowwww! January 14, 2013 at 4:40 pm

    The first and the last pic are thesame person in the other ones?? Totally different and outer the box..no wonder no one ever believe my age,I’m 30 but pple. Kept saying,you are not above 22! Seeing this now,I know what being slim mean!!!

    • Pamilerin January 22, 2013 at 12:54 pm

      Yes been slim makes you look younger,though the genes also matters,am 32 but u can always take me for a 25yrs old lady.am a size 10 going on 12 and ve since registered to go back to my heavenly size 10 God helping me.

  • nola January 14, 2013 at 4:42 pm

    Well done tayo! Really inspiring ..

  • dami January 14, 2013 at 4:46 pm

    ….like u said my story…especially the point when the weight couldnt drop any further and you had to change your routine. in my own case, after a few drops, it just didnt go down but once i changed my habit, i lost the first 2kg and before i knew it, 10kg was gone.dropped to 66kg from 76kg thru starving(unhealthy i know but the calories story was true in my case)now my mission for 2013 is to loose more weight and tone my thighs and arms through exercise particularly jogging. i hope to tell a better story by july, 2013.and yes, i did look SEXIER. sadly am adding back the weight…….

    • Seke January 14, 2013 at 5:37 pm

      Because you starved. Starvation is not the way to go, as your body will lose the weight truly, but go into survival mode without you knowing that’s what is doing, meanwhile you are pleased seeing the scale shift. As soon as you start eating again, zoom, the survival mode makes your body hold on to any ounce of food it can get and your weight balloons again. Just picture pouring water on dry earth. See how fast it soaks up the water. Never ever starve yourself, its unhealthy and an anorexic slippery slope. Eating disorders are not only for oyinbo girls o. Some people may not believe me, but i tried portion control on Nigerian food and just 30minutes on the treadmill 5 days a week. If you are overweight, 30minutes wont be enough o, dont quote me, but if your BMI is average and you just want to lose a little weight, law of diminishing returns sets in when you over exercise, and your body just goes into survival mode and u dont lose anything. I used to spend 2hours in the gym 5 days a week, and ate less, and didnt see any results, until I hired a personal trainer. 30minutes cardio, 15mins strength training and portion control, i went down from 70 – 58 in under 5months, and i’ve also managed to maintain my 58. I had to change my entire wardrobe, but the results are AMAZING.

      • Olayanju January 14, 2013 at 9:07 pm

        Did you not see she mentioned she knows its unhealthy?Ki ni gbogbo long story wa was fun nisin?

      • Omotee January 16, 2013 at 9:56 am

        Kill joy. Instead of u to encourage her u just had to Do that.

  • Awesome January 14, 2013 at 4:51 pm

    Hey gal, keep rocking. Guess whose picture would be on my fridge. Yourss !!! I am super inspired

  • oyinda January 14, 2013 at 4:53 pm

    Tayo pls be my best friend, so dat u can push me 2 lose weight

  • YVONNE January 14, 2013 at 5:35 pm

    I’m 19 and it’s embarrassing to say because my weight fluctuates between a screaming 72-75kg.I’m really bothered because everyone keeps telling me how fat I’ll be but I’m a weight freak;meaning I watch every kg. One time I was 65kg after much starving but I don’t know what happened and the weight just increased. I do my daily sit-ups,jogging is really hard for me because of my schedule, I hate water hence swimming isn’t an option,and I’ve never skipped before(was a lazy kid). I’ve tried drafting a food time-table but I don’t know the right meals to combine,meanwhile all I eat is wheat bread,wheat and vegetable soup,ripe plantain,brown rice and fruits. I’ll really appreciate if you can help with your food time-table please. This is a new year and I’m desperate to loose 10kg at most…please I really need your help.

    • maggie January 15, 2013 at 5:27 am

      hmmm I’m 21 and trying to lose weight as well, I started by eating good.. you really dont need rice all the time, try replacing quinoa with rice (with veg). and maybe just during the weekend you eat your brown rice. instead of brown bread try oat meal with 1% skimmed milk, eat lots of friuts, make smoothies with your fruits with 1% yogurt , water and green tea should be your favorite drinks. you want to eat eba/pounded yam ? try blending your oats and eat that instead with your soup ( which should be once in a while), you can also join a fitness class nd also try to eat healthy (and this can be done by not starving yourself) I personally think losing weight has a lot to do with food and that has helped me lose a couple of lbs. just check online,apps (e.g instagram) search for healthy choices/meals. I get my ideas from so many places. Don’t give up 🙂

    • Beybi January 15, 2013 at 6:58 am

      Hi dear, I would advise you to stay away from bread and rice (yes the whole wheat). Whole wheat is good though, but if you want a significant weight loss, you need to stay away from carbs, and indulge in protein-rich diets(eggs, fish, beans), refrain from too much salt in your meals, cut out oils/fats from your meals too, or use just a little. Eat fruits and vegetables. I know most people don’t like veggies, but add some berries or grapes to your salad, it makes it appetizing and sweet. Eat your salad without cream or dressings. Stay away from meat. Just eat fish, fish and more fish. Drink plenty of water. I’m a mother of 2 kids, and I’m just 57kg, I used to be 71 kg. My belly is so flat, you’d think i have never been pregnant. I don’t even workout. I just watch I eat. I don’t overheat too. Stay away from frizzy drinks, don’t take juice.
      You can go back to the whole wheat after you attained your desired weight. I hope this helps. Stay blesses
      Summary: Protein, No carbs, Water, Fruits and Vegetables, No sugar, little or no salt. Reduce oil/fat.

      • Bibi September 16, 2013 at 7:01 pm

        Spot on……I’ll keep trying till I get there

    • ms sexy January 16, 2013 at 8:21 pm

      Yvonne, u’ll get there
      i used to be 150kg years back, i made that decision and that was it, i lost 50kg, i wanted more so i lost 8 more kilos and I was a it ok, then i broke a knee then gym was a no no for me for a long time, not that i didnt heal but i was just scared i wld loose my knee again, cause i got d injury from d gym, so i added 6kilos now and i dont really like it, struggling wt going back to 90 now, cause i have big boones, i dont want to go lower so i dont look hag and like a witch
      remove bread and ripe plantain from ur diet
      ur brown rice is good, but minimum 2 cooking spoons and limit rice to 2/3x a week, even though its brown it has some calories and carbs too, ur wheat is good but what quantity do u shovel down? it shdnt be more than a fist of a 6yr old boy
      remove drinks esp soda from ur diet, once n a while u may crave them, dilute wt water and for sure ur weight wl drop gradually – try these!

    • Chika** January 17, 2013 at 6:18 pm

      How tall are you? The reason I ask, I know someone that weighs the same but looks really slim.

      • ms sexy January 23, 2013 at 3:12 pm

        chika am 5″6

  • Seke January 14, 2013 at 5:43 pm

    I would like to speak up for Nigerian food. It is what our ancestors have eaten for generations and they were never fat, so lets stop putting our food down, its actually great, if you combine all the nutrients and dont over eat. In todays Nigeria, its not Nigerian food that is the problem its the manner in which we eat it, especially the portions and the timings. Our grandparents and going back, didnt have the crazy schedules we have now, so they didnt eat dinner at 9pm or even 10pm. 2. The portions we eat now is crazy. In a single meal people want meat, saki, pomo, huge chicken portions from TFC, Sweet Sensation, KFC etc. Fast food also wasnt readily available, with all the added salt and fats, so they were healthier. A lot of snacking we do during office hours, are not the classic Nigerian food, there’s also the issue of the alcohol we consume, the coke and fanta, and all sorts we drink with our meals. Ask most people when last they had water with lunch, you’ll be surprised at the response.
    A fist full of Eba, Semo, Amala and co is actually enough if you eat it with lots of vegetable soup or ogbono or whatever soup you choose.

    • Bukky January 14, 2013 at 9:12 pm

      Our fore fathers got away with it cos they partook in rigorous activities.Etc Farming, walking for miles.Most of us have a sedentary life style and adding all that carbs means you will gain weight.Our food is unhealthy if eaten the wrong way. For instance, you cannot eat bread for breakfast, rice or eba for lunch and yam for dinner. Portion control and exercise is the only way to maintain a healthy weight

      • Asgrl January 15, 2013 at 7:26 am

        God bless you! How can you be wacking eba and poundo but sitting at your desk or on your bed for 18 hours out of 24 in a day and expect to maintain the same type of weight our ancestors did. These days we primarily live sedentary lifestyles. And the explosion of available fast food in nigeria is frightening! We are definitely heading for an obesity epidemic

    • zsa zsa January 14, 2013 at 10:45 pm

      Can bella pleeeeeease install a “like” button for comments.

      All i can say to your comment is GBAM!!! I was thinking the exact same thing when reading peoples comments. Nothing wrong with our food, it is the way we consume it and our overall level of activity. Seke is right! our ancestors ate yams, white rice, garri etc but were hardly overweight. Infact with the recent promotion of “eating organic” in the US, Nigerian’s are at an advantage because most of our foods are not over processed.
      Please do not eliminate carbs from your diets as every nutrient(even fat) is necessary for the body. What we should aspire to is a well balanced diet…a little bit of everything in moderation, cut down on the artificial stuff/fired foods… eat your eba with plenty veggies and please don’t overcook your vegetable soups so you don’t kill all the good stuff in it.
      Be more active, i know it may be difficult especially if you live in some parts of lagos but try to walk when you can. This is what i do and have never had a weight problem and i run when time permits. I eat my white rice or spaghetti with a side of sautéed spinach/tomatoes or broccoli/cauliflower/carrots with baked/grilled chicken. When making egusi soup i use less egusi and more greens…any greens i can lay my hands on, less red meats. Oh and don’t forget your fiber! very important to get your bowels moving. 🙂

  • Lekpa shandy January 14, 2013 at 5:46 pm

    Well done. To those brave enough to know the implications and can admit it even if they don’t tackle it rather than call every slim girl bonga fish, or a self demeaning(on their parts) DON’T YOU EAT ? question, God bless your hustle. Some people are naturally slim and some work hard at it. Love yourselves and stop believing the hype of your wicked husbands that lie to you they like fat, when they search for the opposite outside. I once met a couple through a friend at a function and forgive me Lord, the very fat unhealthy woman could not hide hers insecurities by telling me, my husband wouldn’t even move or get a hard with a woman like that, I laughed and just cos I pitied her and didnt want to lash harshly, I said YOU THINK? with a big confident smile and told her yes you can. Stop deceiving yourselves about skinny girls are for dogs, no one is asking you to be anorexic but pls be healthy for yourself, children and the husband. Its a sin to be the way some people are. God spent time on us all you know!

    • omototun January 15, 2013 at 2:03 am

      You don’t have to bash fat people saying they are deceiving themselves….a fat person that disses skinny folks would diss fat people if the tables were turned (some people just have bad mouth)….plus this article is not for skinny people to come and feel good about themselves it’s for overweight people trying to get in good shape, stop the sermon already…..#stay skinny and healthy, peace out

    • Dabs January 15, 2013 at 10:27 am

      You can be skinny and unfit you know! This article is about how this lady went from being unhealthy and unfit to being healthy and fit and not just being fat to slim.

      • ms sexy January 16, 2013 at 8:44 pm

        so many skinny people are unfit, ask ur doctor

  • Lekpa shandy January 14, 2013 at 5:48 pm

    forgive typos pls

  • Veronica January 14, 2013 at 5:50 pm

    Very inspiring!


  • Tunde Asekunt January 14, 2013 at 5:53 pm

    Nice, interesting and highly motivating and inspiring. You didn’t tell us how many toasters you had during this period cos i know that one of the things that motivates men to go to the gym is the female curves that we see during gym. *wink*. I really wish some women can learn from you. Keep it up love.

  • Seke January 14, 2013 at 5:59 pm

    I want to share my own story. I was fluctuating between 56 – 58kg before i left Nigeria. I was everyone’s idea of lepa. Fast forward a few years, I got to 70kg, and was so unhappy with myself. Everyone said it fits you, it fits you, you have curves now, your face is fuller, i wasnt happy. So i joined the gym, 6months down i only lost 2kg, after gruellling 2hours per day doing all sorts of exercies, combined with yoga, pilates, zumba. Just 2kg. So I hired a personal trainer. First thing he said was bring along old pictures, i want to see your weight along the years. He was surprised i was always skinny until about 2 – 3years when the weight piled on. He said to me, your diet has changed since you mvoed here, your metabolism cannot cope. Go back to what you’ve always eaten, and we’ll fit in moderate exercise. You have it in you to be slim and stay slim, i wont stress your body with exercise. The last 6months proved it you only lost 2kg. So, oya na, i switched back to 100% Nigerian food. It was quite expensive living abroad, but I saw the sense in his words. I never used to enjoy breakfast in 9ja, but here with all the food options I became a breakfast person. So back to 9ja eating habit, I cut out breakfast (some may say unwise, but hey it works for me), for lunch, i brought my cooked 9ja food from home, in a plastic bowl, just enough for one meal. Didnt care if it was stinky (crayfish, iru, palm oil), my colleagues got used to it. At least they eat Indian food, and Indians bring food to work. I didnt send. In 9ja i always eat dinner between 7 and 8pm, so cl0se from work, 45minutes at the gym (30 cardio, 15mins strength training), i alternated with exercise classes, yoga, pilates, swimming, etc. So between 7 – 8pm, i was home, and I was eating stuff like amala and ogbono, pounded yam and efo, eba and ewedu, dodo and beans, yes for dinner, in small portions. I changed my plate size. Believe me, 6months, I’m back to 58kg. I totally cut out foods I wasn’t eating in Nigeria. Even when I go out I chose as close to Nigerian food I can think of, rather than KFC chicken I had Nandos. its close to the Nigerian chicken we cook, rather than chips, i had rice. Little things like that, and I’m back to my 58. Now I only go to the gym 3 times a week. Your body adapts I have discovered. 70kg may not be obsese to some, but it was for me. I retrained my body to what it was used to. So before you knock Nigerian food, look at the other things you are eating, they are probably contributing more, also watchthe portions.

    • Tudbee January 15, 2013 at 6:45 am

      OMG ….. your story is totally true for me. I was a lepa (60kg/ 5ft11) and used to model before I left the country 6yrs ago. 3yrs later and i had gained about 15-20lbs then with child birth and woosh came the weight. And like you everyone was telling me it fits me, I look like a woman now and a married woman at that. My mom was especially happy. Except my hubby and me. I’ve since tried all kinds of diets here but I can only last so long on veggies. So maybe now i’d try what your trainer told you. Back to naija foods (that’s mainly what I eat anyway) but in smaller portions and without all the frivolous extras. And I can definetly add some walking to it. Thanks for sharing.

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  • W January 14, 2013 at 6:17 pm

    Yvonne the magic is usually out of your comfort zone, nothing comes easy. You have to work a bit, even being slim is a not reason not to exercise, in your case you say you have the tendency to put weight on. Its about discipline, start with walks and you will gradually progress combined with your diet and portion eating. We hate many things, but we want more things.

  • Janey January 14, 2013 at 6:33 pm

    I love this,please keep it up…

  • ola January 14, 2013 at 6:58 pm

    what a great inspire tips and advice…


  • Dammy January 14, 2013 at 8:59 pm

    Go Tee Tayo.
    She is realy an inspiration to young women who want to loose weight the right way oh (food portion and exercise). You can join her in running at Alausa on Saturday mornings if you reside in Ikeja. She will drive you ehn to run.

  • elizabeth b January 14, 2013 at 9:17 pm

    Well done t, a lot of work and self determination to get here but pls dont loose any more, u look good and start living ur dream.

  • Adewunmi January 14, 2013 at 9:25 pm

    All I can say is wow!!

  • bunsky January 14, 2013 at 10:07 pm

    Ok so… this just helped me… I’m 182lbs, and 5’6″ and obese… I used to be 138lbs wen i was bk in naija and i want to get bk to being that… my target weight is 130lbs…

  • Dee January 14, 2013 at 10:49 pm

    I always thought my weight was ok until my sis that is a doctor saw me on my last vacation abroad and said you are “morbid obese” I said Lailai,how can?I even mentioned a friend of mine that is very big,that what would she say about her?My sis now calculated my BMI.I registered at a gym during my 3 months stay,I also started eating brown rice,wheat bread and a lot of vegetables.I also check my weight regularly to know my progress.i lost 2o pounds before I came back and I intend to maintain this new weight of mine?Even if I don’t loose more,I don’t intend to gain the weight I lost back.Since I got back,I have bought brown rice and I eat a lot of broccoli too which is also good for weight lost.I can say I feel really good and healthier.

  • Jide January 14, 2013 at 11:26 pm

    Now thats my girl …………..Remember when u first told me u going on diet and all .. i am very Proud of You my Partner

  • Jlo January 15, 2013 at 12:10 am

    Nice one! Well Done….

  • ikunkun January 15, 2013 at 2:17 am

    You my dear are my weight loss mentor…I just bookmarked your page…thanks for sharing your journey, God bless you.

  • nany January 15, 2013 at 12:05 pm

    Life is funny sha…when some of us cant even add a milligram no matter what we eat….at a mere 55kg i think the only thing left to be done is to inflate me with air. any weight gain techniques?

  • pynk January 15, 2013 at 12:31 pm

    Tayo good to see you made it on here. Rmbr talking to you in eko gym and you told me how you saw me running in Magodo. Glad you are there in terms of how you see your fitness.
    Ladies – your body, mind & soul needs fitness, just get up and do something. do not focus on weight loss, focus on a healthier lifestyle and things gradually fall into place.

  • bimbo olasope January 15, 2013 at 1:46 pm

    wow!!!!!!!!!! this is really inspiring……kudos!!

  • bussie January 15, 2013 at 8:15 pm

    Inspiring…i just wanna cry…. I also tried the gym thing for a while in abuja but didn’t seem to be losing any weight…fastforward ibadan (school stress, trekking, not-over-eating) and i really reduced..i’m now back in kaduna and would prefer outdoor walking and jogging but with boko haram around the corner….

  • Lisa January 16, 2013 at 12:31 am

    @ 55kg you still want more weight abeg am sure you listen to this fat girls its better to be fat in your husband house than be looking like one hippo b4 marriage the fat girls are trying to loose weight you want follow them be akpa akpu if you fat na, how you go be after having kids? most fat girls beef slim girls a lot to make themselves feel better so they tell you eat more so that you will also look like a hippo its better to be slim than to be fat forget talk about real african men love big gals na when you born pikin your eye go clear they will be the first to complain as a slim girl then you will thank GOD you are slim stop listening to hippos you are ok.

    • specs January 16, 2013 at 9:46 am

      Just tell the chick to stay slim and healthy and get out of here….once I saw this article I knew there’d be trifling people like you on here ready to run their mouths. Are you really referring to humans as hippos just because of their weight??? that is so immature , mean and ugly…..you might be skinny and (maybe) beautiful on the outside but remember your spirit-man is going to be judged by a different set of standards….na wah oh….people can loose weight but a stinky attitude like yours??? tufiakwaaa!!

  • Omotee January 16, 2013 at 10:05 am

    Very happy for u Tayo. This just motivated me. Again. Hopefully I can say this about me one day. Really inspiring.

  • anonymous January 16, 2013 at 11:39 am

    This is almost unbelievable…I remember seeing ur pic about 2 mnths ago with someone and we both concluded it had to be photoshop.Please is the realistic nigerian diet plan available on ur blog

    • Tayo January 22, 2013 at 10:06 am

      Hi Anonymous,
      Trust me, it isnt photoshop. All pics are real. Pple are shrinking all already here so it is very realistic in Nigeria trust me………

  • Lisa January 16, 2013 at 1:31 pm

    @ specs Pls shut up, why angry? its always ok for you fat girls to call us names like, bonga fish, okporoko, brooom, stick but not ok to call you fat girls hippo nonsense so is paining you this how skinny girls feel too when you call them those names so take it with ease take a chill pill and stop attacking me fat girls hate and say a lot of hateful, spiteful things to us saying we are bag of bones or they say bones are for dog you don’t find that irritating abeg go and sit down see as e dey pepper you for body *tongues out*

  • jamar January 16, 2013 at 7:21 pm

    Wow!!! Really amazing.am a size 20 and i need to shed 35kg to get to the appriopriate weight for my height. This is very encouraging. Well done

    • ms sexy January 16, 2013 at 9:05 pm

      jamar u can do it,
      try lukewarm water after ur meal, desist from drinking chilled water esp after eating ur stew or vegetables as d water solidfy d fat n them
      eat ur small portion 5x daily, remove bread -loaf or sliced from ur meal, substite ur caprice wt basmati rice or brown rice in minimal eating – 2 cooking spoons shd be enough per meal, 2x a week, cut out potatoes for now and do more veggies, do home salad wt little dressing, and there r so many low fat dressing anyway, eat ur fruits wt caution too as some of them v a lot of sugar – a medium size apple has a whooping 350 calories, pineapple esp d sweet ones has recently bn know to contain lots of sugar, a caution for people wt diabetes, gym 2/3x a week, make treadmill ur friend, u can walk or run on it depending on u

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  • dr somee January 17, 2013 at 1:48 pm

    who says cold water solidifies ur food? thats ridiculous! cold water actually helps u to lose weight as the body does more work converting the cold water to ur body temperature thereby burning calories as well.

  • eyeballs January 17, 2013 at 8:51 pm

    Hi Tayo, very inspiring story you’ve got here. i just want to know 2 things: 1) how do i join your running club 2) how can i get an invite for the bi-monthly fitness parties? i would appreciate a reply. cheers

    • Tayo January 22, 2013 at 10:04 am

      Hi Eyeballs, for the answers to ur questions 1. Running club is at Alausa Ikeja, is it close to you 2. send me an email, would always keep you posted when we are having the parties……iamafadd@gmail.com

  • ms sexy January 18, 2013 at 6:39 pm

    dr somee

    pls stop confusing people, a Dr told me that and he actually went further to prove it to me by experiment using a cup of melted fat and a cup of ice water laced wt cubes, the way Nigerians eat; after he asked me how do i take my water during and after my meals
    he poured d cold water on d fat and if u r a dr as u claim u shd know d answer, he got another cup and poured warm water and told me that when we eat all our abodis, ifun erans and shakis that r so full of fat, plus our palm oil & vegetable oil that dances on top of our stew and we top it wt coke laced wt ice or cold water wt cubes thats what u get
    forget d fact that ur tummy is warm, d water does what it has to do, even if it solidify a small portionl, is that good/healthy for d system? he further told me that why do i think Chinese drink warm water or hot tea during and after their meals and they stay so healthy and live very long?
    pls let people learn, we r not in a competition and am not T that is bn featured here, as a woman that has come from 150kilos to 92, 45yrs wt 5 kids- i think its a big feat and am in a position to encourage people
    smh for ur patients, tell them to pour a bucket of ice in their glass of water while eating all d mama put with plenty cholesterol they call palm oil and vegetable oil and when they get sick u make more money now abi???????
    afterall na una prayers be that
    pls dieters add slice of lemon/lime to ur water if you dont like plain water, it will not kill but improve ur health

    • Tania January 19, 2013 at 11:28 am

      V heard same from a friend too, her weight loss really inspired me, she called it 30 days wt warm water/lemon and she’s looking good, thank you ms sexy for sharing

  • Sy January 21, 2013 at 1:50 am

    One thing is clear from all the varied comments and success stories, different techniques and methods work for different people. People are as varied as the grains of sand on this earth and what works for one may not work for another. The principles of weightloss are the same but the interpretation that leads to succes is individual. I lost 35kg in 12months and I did every single thing people have said don’t do. Number 1 tip is to decide to do it for you, for years people asked me those fat questions and called me names and it hurt but it only made me eat more then I convinced myself I was happy as a big girl. It took a picture where I barely recognised myself and buying a size 22 jacket to open my eyes. Tip 2 there are no quick fixes, healthy weight loss takes time so dig deep and dig in to the process….Rome wasn’t built in a day and your fat won’t just melt away overnight. Tip 3 weight loss is simple maths, eat less calories and burn more equals weightloss. Top calorie killers are oil and sugar so cut them out. This is tough to do with our oil rich foods. The only oil I had was extra virgin olive oil and a maximum of 1 tablespoon at a time. I learnt how to cook our foods oil free. My jollof rice may not shine with oil but it’s just as tasty. This brings me back to my first comment, everybody says avoid carbs and I agree processed carbs are bad i.e. white bread but I ate basmati rice everyday. I couldn’t have gotten through that yr without it. I used boiled potatoes to bulk up my salads and diet coke helped me manage my sweet tooth. Let’s be clear I love food so deprivation or starvation wasn’t an option. I didn’t become 35kg overweight for any other reason and I realised earlier that making food my enemy spelt disaster from the start so I embraced healthy eating. In the aspect of finding what works for you I also realised my food trigger was boredom, once I wasn’t busy I was in the kitchen hunting down food so I made a mental note to always eat breakfast to kick start my metabolism then only eat when hungry, now if this meant dinner at 10pm or midnight then that is when I ate and I dropped the weight. I’m got to a size10 top and 12 bottom (I love my hips) and my love and curiosity towards food is not dimished so I’ve made exercise a staple (i dont love it but it’s what i have to do preserve all my hard work) and I mix it up to stay motivated. I hope these few comments help everyone understand that whilst there are basic principles and you must understand your body, your attitude to food, your lifestyle and figure out what works for you. Good luck to everyone no matter stage you’re at in your journey. p.s. a large apple is about 110 calories 🙂

    • Tayo January 22, 2013 at 10:01 am

      Well written Sy……true talk

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