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Ifeoluwapo Odedere: You’re Gay… So What?

Ifeoluwapo Odedere

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Perhaps one of the most trending things right now is the ‘gay’ phenomenon. Just take three steps in the online world and you’re sure to come across some article, post or news on being gay and other related stories. Even series and movies are not left out, as scripts are being rewritten to include gay characters and contexts. People in influential positions are ‘coming out of the closet’ at rates that make you wonder if being gay is the 21st century equivalent of the cigarette smoking pandemic.

The question that really begs to be asked is ‘What’s all the hoopla about being gay?’ Why is it attracting unusual, and if I might add, unnecessary media attention?

For one, most people in the gay community have claims akin to those of about-to-be-extinct species – the cry of being persecuted in a society that just isn’t ready for their existence. And I agree, any species at the risk of extinction normally would cry out for help and protection from the predator. What beats me, however, is the turn that this plea for help has morphed into some sort of evangelism, and if you might add, a persecutory movement. Still confused? Let me help you.

The concept of homosexual relations itself isn’t by any means new. It’s been in existence since the beginning of time and for whatever reason, it hasn’t been accepted by those who make up the majority. You see, some products just don’t get accepted by the market no matter how hard the manufacturer tries. As a testimony to its non-acceptance, homosexuality was and is still labelled a punishable crime in many establishments – (Alan Turing’s story readily comes to mind). The fact is if you believe strongly in something the society forbids, there are consequences to face (early Christian missionaries can enlighten you more about this).

The problem, however, arises when societal punishment for a belief includes persecuting or taking the life of the believer as was and is the case in many crude societies. I suppose it was at this point that the 21st Century Gay Movement began – as a campaign for both recognition and the freedom to exercise their human right of choice.

Under the circumstances of persecution, it makes sense to cry for help as I earlier pointed out. However, when the campaign for emancipation transforms into a persecutory tool, then you wonder if the movement isn’t becoming some sort of fanaticism.

This brings me to the next point I’m about to make: we all have different beliefs – it is part of our freedom as human beings – and those beliefs ought to be respected by those with whom we coexist. So it follows that a belief in homosexuality ought to be respected as that person’s belief. Note, the keyword ‘Respect’. I didn’t say approve or endorse. If you neither drink (alcohol) nor smoke but have a couple of friends who drink and smoke. Does that mean you cannot relate with them? No. Does the fact that you relate with them mean that you approve of or endorse smoking? Again the answer is No. You see, the fact that I have accepted someone as who he is doesn’t mean I approve of everything he does. And it is at this point exactly that the Gay Movement is missing it – rather than focus on acceptance and coexistence in the society, the campaign takes it a step further and attempts to shove the whole concept down our throats.

Through various media influences (TV, Soap Operas, Series, PR slants), the gay concept is being touted as the in-thing – like some sort of fashion trend; and at some point you begin to wonder if the whole theory of genetic influences on homosexuality holds water as it seems that people now become gay on purpose in order to belong.
If you speak against being gay (which also is your right as much as it is to be gay), the gay community backed up by the media and influential persons (and countries) immediately descend on you like a pack of wolves – to the extent that those who oppose the gay concept are now afraid of airing their opinions for fear of persecution. It makes me wonder who is at the receiving end of restricting human freedom: the gay or the anti-gay. If in the quest to liberate yourself you put other people under restrictions, then I wonder if you’re truly fighting for freedom or you’re just being a fanatic.

The truth is nobody has to like you as a gay person if it is against their beliefs. Period. The fact that you’re gay doesn’t change the fact that you’re a human being and it doesn’t make you special in any way. You’re gay. That’s all. It’s just another fact in the universe and you don’t deserve an extra like for that. Nobody owes you an apology for not liking your belief or sexual orientation. They’re simply exercising their freedom of choice… and expression. The only thing they are not allowed to do is persecute, maim or kill you. In which case, that should be the focus of the gay movement.

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Ifeoluwapo is a Medical Doctor, Brand Strategist and the Author of Musings of an Analytical Mind. He loves to challenge conventional thinking and is a firm believer in the coexistence of aesthetics and quality. Follow him on Twitter - @ifeodedere

134 Comments

  1. Uju

    April 12, 2015 at 10:56 am

    On a Sunday morning………. Ok o! We have ‘hear’.

    • KING JAMES

      April 15, 2015 at 12:09 am

      How did I just see this article. What bigotry! What gives you the right to speak on the gay experience with your judgmental rancid fingers? Do you know what kind of shit I passed through as a child? Because I’m gay you think I’m looking for a cookie? There is NOTHING trendy about being a gay nigerian man. Not watching my friends get teased for being “artistic”. Not watching my friends get married to women they will never satisfy. Not shaming my f-ing parents! Replace every gay word with nigger and you will be the KKK. It is not your responsibility to like gays massa but i hope you will let us live and love in peace.

  2. Brown

    April 12, 2015 at 11:08 am

    “It is the mark of an educated mind to be able to entertain a thought without accepting it”. Aristotle. Nice article.

    • C'est moi

      April 12, 2015 at 1:50 pm

      It is the hallmark of a bigot with a myopic mind. Anyone who thinks is this an educated mind lacks comprehensive & critical reading skills. Replace replace all the gay words with say Brown people and see how it reads.

    • Brown

      April 12, 2015 at 3:22 pm

      I don’t think so. In being too critical of the writer, you missed the point he/she was trying to make. We could agree to disagree sha.

    • PurpleiciousBabe

      April 12, 2015 at 4:34 pm

      He is going to get attacked…dread to read the comments.
      poor dude – maybe gay himself.
      Well written article.

  3. MizzEelah

    April 12, 2015 at 11:24 am

    A million likes honey…bless you sistah!!…pureeach!!!

    • S!

      April 12, 2015 at 4:20 pm

      I’m sorry but this post doesn’t make sense. I feel like the author wants to join the trend he is condemning. Just filled with lot of senseless observations & contradicting statements.

  4. bruno

    April 12, 2015 at 11:25 am

    the writer of this article is just an idiot who doesn’t know sh!t.

    first of all ,for you to use that picture above of that man wearing flashy clothes , that shows u don’t know anything about gay people, u are just relying on the stereotypes u have seen on tv. you believe all fashionable men in the world are gay. sweet heart you dont know anything. u have never met a gay person before, I can tell.

    for you to describe a group of people as a “trending phenomenon” may you never see any thing good in ur useless life.

    madame, you are misplaced, you talk like you know what ur saying but u are contradictioning ur self. u are a bigot and u are homophobic, just come and say it, no body is going to hurt u, u will not lose ur job. all these back hand compliments isnt going to get u anywhere.

    you are looking for an excuse to hate a group of people who are different from u, so u are using ur religion and ur bible. this is the same thing white slave owners did. they turned the bible into a whip and they used it to flog and hate on black people.

    ” Nobody owes you
    an apology for not liking your belief or sexual
    orientation. They’re simply exercising their
    freedom of choice… and expression.”

    white people also dont owe black people any apology for expressing their hate and disdain for us blacks, white people dont owe us black any apology when they call our skin and hair ugly they are simply expressing their opinion.

    • Seriously

      April 12, 2015 at 12:45 pm

      Geez, Your veins start popping out whenever gay topic comes up. Take a chill pill, ok. First of all, homosexuality is a trending topic/lifestyle, and sites in the U.S and now Nigeria is obsessed with talking about it. Which confirms it’s something folks are trying to force down your throat to accept it or see it as normal thing. However, no matter how much GLAAD, gay mafia gang up or folks say or write about how normal or cool it is, it’s not changing the absolute truth especially when someone is not easily swayed by the media. Not accepting homosexuality doesn’t make someone homophobic(a word that lost it’s actual meaning). Homosexuality is abnormal from every aspect whether biological/scientific, morally, and religion(every one of it condemns it). It’s a chosen lifestyle just like a person chooses to do whatever with his/her life. It’s a sexual perversion, nothing more to it. People will forever frown upon certain lifestyle or behavior and this is one of them.

    • Seriously

      April 12, 2015 at 1:35 pm

      Actually not accepting homosexuality doesn’t make someone hateful. It’s pathetic, that standing on your belief or saying you don’t like a certain behavior is deemed as hatred.

    • tunmi

      April 12, 2015 at 1:40 pm

      The rest is your opinion so I won’t touch that. But when you misstate facts, I have to correct them. Homosexuality is NOT abnormal. There are many homosexual animals who are not condemned, killed, ostracized, maimed, challenged, or in any way made to feel less than their fellow species. For whenever you have the time http://www.news-medical.net/news/2006/10/23/1500-animal-species-practice-homosexuality.aspx

    • S!

      April 12, 2015 at 4:24 pm

      But the author is also forcing the topic down our throats. At the time of reading this, it’s attracted 45 comments & God knows how many 1,000 page views. The post is senseless. I don’t feel gay people are forcing anything down on anyone.

    • uche

      April 12, 2015 at 12:50 pm

      Bruno, can you please read this article once again before commenting.

    • Seriously

      April 12, 2015 at 3:21 pm

      @Tunni

      Human beings are different from animals. Humans can communicate, speak out their feelings, and do so many things animals can never do. So, if they find homosexual animals doesn’t translate into finding whatever chromosome in humans. Nobody hates on gays the way blacks and Jews are hated on. people are simply saying they don’t support their lifestyle. They are not treated like slaves the way Africans were treated, where black and white schools, fountains was separated. Where they were condemned, treated like animals, chained, stripped of their natural rights. You are judged immediately by the color of your skin, and treated differently to the point of not having equal opportunities as whites. Gays are not going though any of that.

    • C'est moi

      April 12, 2015 at 8:56 pm

      Attraction is innate. You don’t choose who you are attracted to, unless biology and chemistry come together

      @Seriously
      You seriously need to read more if think animals lack their own means of communication or think homosexuals haven’t been persecuted like jews & blacks. Gays have been around fromt from the beginning, they’ve been persecuted long before the oppression of jews & blacks – from the biblical era there was God sanctioned stoning of them ISIS style in case you missed the post the other day.
      .
      The nazi concentration camps weren’t just for jews but also for homosexuals and the disabled and all the nazis deemed undersirable. In the words of Dr. Ode, because truthfully ‘the nazis didn’t have to like gays/jews/disabled/mentally ill as it was against Nazi ideologicals beliefs.
      Gays that didn’t end up in the camps were used as humans labrats by nazi medics.
      Go read more books. Like seriously.

    • Homosexuality is a sin it cannot be replaced with been black

      April 12, 2015 at 2:28 pm

      Bruno you cannot replace homosexuality with a group of people. Homosexuality is a sin in the bible..been a woman or been black, isn’t a sin. Homosexuality is just like lying, adultery and fornication. So when you are trying to make your point replace been gay with the correct similarities the bible has put it with. Been black or a woman isn’t one of them so your argument is completely off point. No one like a lying friend, cheating boyfriend/girlfriend or adulterous husband/wife, and that is the category homosexuality falls into

    • Seriously

      April 12, 2015 at 5:55 pm

      Lol…Bruno is too angry to think correctly or sensibly. It’s interesting, how gays fight so hard for validation and attention. Replacing blacks with gays is very absurd. It’s a perfect example, of modern way of reverse psychology but it’s an EPIC FAIL. It’s bunch of gibberish. So, racism that comes in the form of colonization, slavery, superior vs inferior, civil rights movement, Apartheid or Jews in the form of holocaust is the same as gay rights? Very comical. And I find it insulting that blacks are easily compared to gays but not Jews.

    • bruno

      April 12, 2015 at 7:21 pm

      @seriously I think its my fault for calling u a sensible person in a previous article. I was wrong. u are just a dummy.

      u can compare the discrimination of gay people, to the discrimination of jews or blacks or native americans etc.

      discrimination is discrimination. whether its against black people or jewish people or gay people or asians. u have no right to hate or dislike someone based on sexuality, race or gender. if u dislike someone, it should be based on the person’s character towards you.(martin Luther King voice) and gay people are not begging for any body’s validation the same way blacks are not begging for white people’s validation. whether you like it or not, gay people have a right to be treated equally to straight people, no sexuality is more superior. just like no race is more superior. just because straight people are the majority that doesn’t mean the minority which are gay people are bad. same thing in america, just because white people are the majority that does mean minorities like blacks are bad and should be treated unfairly.

      and I am not angry. I am lying down relaxing, enjoying my weekend as I type these comments. why does every ignorant person say I am angry. lol if u don’t know shit just keep shut.

    • Gay Rights

      April 13, 2015 at 1:27 pm

      i beg to disagree.
      in replacing gay with blacks, Bruno is making the point that you don’t chose to be gay the same way, you didn’t ask to be born black.
      the point people have failed to comprehend is that being gay is not a decision, you don’t wake up one day and say, ‘hmmm, i think i’m going to be gay’. people do not decide who they are attracted to, just the way you are either attracted to a tall, short, fair, or dark skinned person.
      we all sin… being gay may be a sin, but i assure you, it is not a deliberate sin, and it is not the worst sin.
      him without sin please cast the f-ing stone

    • Rick

      April 12, 2015 at 3:42 pm

      #shekete lol @contradictioning…This bruno person is hilarious….all i can do is laff and read..

    • Seriously

      April 13, 2015 at 12:51 pm

      @ Bruno
      It’s okay, I don’t mind being a dummy for standing on truth and not falling into your victim sympathy card gays carry.

      Discrimination against gays is NOT the same as skin color, and will never be the same. Can you look at a Jew and tell them discrimination against them is the same as what Bruno goes through for being gay. Or bcos blacks are seen as inferior, so people including insecure blacks like you think they can compare anything to black daily struggles. I guess, animal discrimination is the same as black discrimination too. Cry all you want, let your veins pop out, insult and curse out people all day, it won’t change the absolute truth. Case closed.

    • Someone Naughty

      April 13, 2015 at 12:17 am

      Bruno, you CANNOT compare the struggles of the gay community to that of the black community. People are written off and judged by the colour of their skin. A gay person faces criticism or hate from people that know they are gay.

      Before one is ‘tagged’ gay, you have to have interacted in some manner with the person and then conclusions are drawn. A black person does not event get invited into the conversation, no need to know anything about him/her just judge the colour of their skin.

      Struggles are different;face yours without demeaning or comparing it to others. They are fundamentally different

    • Bruno aka Shield or Armor

      April 13, 2015 at 2:03 am

      @brunA you for mention Qur’an too nah… so so bible bible 🙂
      bruna activist-a
      abi fear dey catch you.

    • Seriously

      April 13, 2015 at 12:59 pm

      People like him go after harmless people or route. Such a coward. He can’t mention Quran or Muslims bcos he knows they will burn him alive. He can’t mention Jews neither since he’s replacing blacks with gays. I dare these people to compare holocaust to homosexuality and let’s see what will happen. All these Hollywood folks selling gay struggles as black struggles, none of them use Jews discrimination. It’s obvious, it’s an agenda to keep blacks/Africans in more bondage.

  5. Shola

    April 12, 2015 at 11:30 am

    No big deal

  6. Nahum

    April 12, 2015 at 11:30 am

    You can not use the concept of human rights to preach against the human rights of another group. It is a contradictory concept. Your anti-gay speech is qualified as hate speech because it speaks hatred against the gay community. If you truly believe in “live and let live”, then leave the gay community alone and let them live the lives they have been given, free from all manner of assault.

    • Onekindgirl

      April 12, 2015 at 12:26 pm

      Nahum i completely hear what you are saying. I have nothing against gay ppl i may not like or endorse it and i think i am well in my right not to like it. I would rather leave gay ppl alone. However, it seems like it is the gay ppl that wont leave us alone. The moment you dont endorse them, u r branded a homophobic hater. Im all for gay ppl being accepted but gay ppl should stop ‘assulting’ the rest of us to like what they are doing. For example, i dont like the act dominatrix sex or bdsm like in 50 shades of grey but i know a couple who practice and enjoy it well, however they have never tried to force me to like it. They appreciate and accept that i dont have to like what they do. We are still friends but what they do in the privacy of their home is non of my business so it will be silly of them to try and force me to like it. I have free will too now shuoooi.

    • bruno

      April 12, 2015 at 1:02 pm

      Nahum i completely hear what you are
      saying. I have nothing against BLACK ppl i
      may not like or endorse THEM and i think i am
      well in my right not to like THEM. I would
      rather leave BLACK ppl alone. However, it
      seems like it is the BLACK ppl that wont leave
      us WHITE PEOPLE alone. The moment you dont endorse
      them, u r branded a RACIST hater. Im
      all for BLACK ppl being accepted but BLACK ppl
      should stop ‘assulting’ the rest of us WHITE PEOPLE to
      like HOW THEY LOOK (ie their hair and skin colour)OR BEHAVE. I have free will too now

      I have replace the words “gay” with black in ur comment. you sound like a racist juat the same way you sounded like a homophobe in ur unedited comment.

      and when u say “u are all for gay people being accepted” what do u mean by that.

    • bruno

      April 12, 2015 at 1:11 pm

      If you speak against BLACK PEOPLE (which also is
      your right as much as it is to be BLACK), the BLACK
      community backed up by the media and
      influential persons (and countries) immediately
      descend on you like a pack of wolves – to the
      extent that those who oppose the BLACK concept are
      now afraid of airing their opinions for fear of
      persecution. It makes me wonder who is at the
      receiving end of restricting human freedom: the
      BLACK PEOPLE or the ANTI-BLACK PEOPLE. If in the quest to liberate
      yourself you put other people under restrictions,
      then I wonder if you’re truly fighting for freedom
      or you’re just being a fanatic.

      medical doctor Ifeoluwapo Odedere, I have edited a piece of your hateful article. I have replaced the word “gay” with the words “black people”.

      now how do u feel, as a black man when u read something like this.

      you are trying to justify ur hate, just the same way racist white people try to justify their hate for blacks.

      pls do unto others what u want done to u. u don’t want to be discriminated for being black then don’t discriminate someone for being gay or for being a woman.

      I don’t even understand what many of u are afraid of. wetin gay people do u.

    • Bisi

      April 12, 2015 at 1:51 pm

      @Bruno, i think you missed the point of her message. She is not endorsing discrimination against gay people but she is saying people have a right to like/dislike anything they want. I am a black girl living in a predominantly white community and I dont go around seeking anyone’s validation, if you dont like me its fine as long as I am not denied my fundamental rights as a person. But the problem with a lot of gay people (including my gay friends) is that they are constantly seeking validation. They want everyone around them to give them a thumbs up for being gay forgetting that we are also entitled to our beliefs.
      In summary everyone is entitled to their opinion.There is no need to be so defensive Bruno!

    • S!

      April 12, 2015 at 4:26 pm

      Has a gay person ever attacked you for not accepting them? How many gay people have you even met? Pls who is something you see once in a while on TV being forced down your throat. Naija ppl sha! Una like to yan plenty!

    • Kojo

      April 13, 2015 at 6:48 am

      But how are you being attacked by gay ppl? Do they throw rocks at you or do they arrest you for being who you are. I wish ppl would get their bloody religion out out their arse.

    • Seriously

      April 12, 2015 at 1:38 pm

      Nobody is hating them. I have my freedom of speech just like how they have their freedom too. So, they should be allowed to do their thing but heterosexuals should be condemned for saying their mind. It’s unfair and not ok, Speaking against a lifestyle is not hatred. And gay and race should not be in the same sentence. You have no choice over the color of your skin, you have choice of your sexuality.

  7. Nne

    April 12, 2015 at 11:37 am

    I don tire for all this guy talk sef. Abeg Ambode has winned?

  8. Shola

    April 12, 2015 at 11:58 am

    Lool…..Ambode has winned
    u go fear english

  9. nina

    April 12, 2015 at 12:11 pm

    Bruno for that Una gay world,u be he Abi na she?..lolita…shame on u and the rest of you…

    • LMAO

      April 12, 2015 at 4:34 pm

      LOL…….receiver or giver

  10. the generous economist

    April 12, 2015 at 12:14 pm

    Ermmm…. a million likes for this article… don’t know why ppl cannot pass their comments without insulting others… the writer is stating her stance which captures many people’s feelings including mine….you are gay…Dts great…for you…I won’t treat you diff than I treat my straight friends….if I like you…or don’t like you…it shd nt be because you are gay…I am a christian..and even though the bible condemns homosexuality…it also condemns many oda sins…so I will treat a gay person just d way I treat my uncle who is embezzling money..or my friend who sleeps with her bf…we are all sinners…Jesus asked dt we love every1…I don’t approve of wat u do…bt as a good christian..all I can do is show u love…and pray dt u find salvation…we all need God’s grace…including me!!!

    • bruno

      April 12, 2015 at 12:33 pm

      embezzling money ke? are u sure u are well. someone that is embezzling money is taking something that doesn’t belong to them. they are taking money that belongs to other people. they are hurting other people

      gay people are not hurting anybody.

      pls can u ignorant people stop compairing gay people with rapsits and murderers and robbers

      many of u don’t understand the concept of homosexuality

    • Ib

      April 13, 2015 at 3:38 am

      Have a Snickers Bruno!

    • Gay Rights

      April 13, 2015 at 1:35 pm

      thank you so much for this your comment. its the only response so far that makes any sense

  11. Absalom

    April 12, 2015 at 12:23 pm

    Silly article, gracelessly penned by a homophobic medical doctor who has no business working in the sciences. Gays don’t ask for special rights; gays ask that idiots like you don’t try to hush us up any chance you get. You want television to always show opposite sexes kissing and fucking their brains out, but God forbid we have a scene with two men or two women doing same. Well, Ifeoluwapo, fuck you very much. Get help for your ignorance.

  12. C'est moi

    April 12, 2015 at 12:41 pm

    “The truth is nobody has to like you as a gay person if it is against their beliefs.”
    .
    That is bigotry!!!
    .
    Thinking along those lines one could easily substitute ‘as a gay person’ for as a woman/ black/ white/ muslim/atheist/ poor person /transgender/ igbo / republican/ disabled/ albino etc.
    Characteristics such as sexual orientation, race, religion, gender etc should never be the basis for one’s dislike of another.

    You dr are a bigot.

  13. Tosin

    April 12, 2015 at 12:47 pm

    shuuoe!

  14. Desire

    April 12, 2015 at 12:51 pm

    Thank u very much for this article,God bless you

  15. I no send

    April 12, 2015 at 12:54 pm

    Bruno take it easy o…have you considered anger mgt. Ithe cursing was so much that I couldn’t understand your own argument.

  16. Billy

    April 12, 2015 at 12:56 pm

    Some of the comments here just proved her point.

  17. $exyD

    April 12, 2015 at 12:59 pm

    Ao I tii ko ifa nile, ifa ti n se…she said gay community insult and abuse when you don’t agree with their belief and some peeps here are already confirming her claims…if you like be gay or bisexual, it’s your biz but don’t force it down my throat at every opportunity

    • S!

      April 12, 2015 at 4:30 pm

      I think it’s only Bruno that insulted her, and Bruno insults everyone. So that isn’t a fair observation.

    • count well

      April 12, 2015 at 7:34 pm

      Absalom too!

    • Dugo

      April 12, 2015 at 7:39 pm

      And He/she/it’s constant unbridled insult its ok?What why because it is gay?

  18. the generous economist

    April 12, 2015 at 1:00 pm

    @bruno once again….u pass ur msg full with insults…anyways… I am not going to classify sin into those that hurt ppl..and don’t that those…SIN IS SIN….I don’t bliv there is a diff Hell for corrupt ppl or fornicators….all na one Hell….which is why I say I won’t treat anyone differently….white ppl treating black ppl diff z not on any basis in the bible…so am not evn going to argue dt with you…the bible says love evry1 regardless of race or beliefs and that is what I believe in….have a blessed sunday.

  19. vashti

    April 12, 2015 at 1:06 pm

    All those insulting the author for expressing her (his?) opinion are the problem with gay people. @ Absalom, a man and a woman kissing is the NORM, that’s why it’s okay to be shown on TV, within reasonable limits of course. People are free to be whoever they want to be and do whatever they want. That doesn’t mean I should like it or accept it as the norm. You have the right to be gay, I have the right not to agree with your lifestyle. What’s so hard to understand about that?

    • BlueEyed

      April 13, 2015 at 8:21 am

      Hello Queen Vashti, now I understand why the King left you. Ummm how do you know it is the norm? Because that was what they fed to you growing up or because u had a revelation or because your bible says so? If yes, please do not complain when black people are marginalized because to white supremacists the white race being ahead is the NORM.

  20. EllesarisEllendil

    April 12, 2015 at 1:14 pm

    You are all very hilarious!.

    My views on the subject are simple, seeing as Nigerian society for now does not condone the act/state of mind, the government should not force the wishes of the few on the many. What this means is simple, the government should not go out of its way to persecute the community but anybody who perpetuates acts of violence against them should feel the full brunt of the law.

    Secondly, Nigeria should not introduce marriage benefits(e.g tax breaks) like the West and then deny them marriage that would be unfair and illegal!. But for now, seeing as in Nigeria there is no benefit to marriage except childbirth which biology already excludes them from, the Nigerian gay community should chill out and work to changing Nigerian minds little by little, militant activism won’t work in Nigeria as currently constituted.

  21. carina

    April 12, 2015 at 1:15 pm

    [email protected] as winned. I clap fo bruno. Gay people should Not give a shit what people think about them. Such a shame most africans think backwards. Everyone Has the right to love and be with who ever they want. Don’t Judge it’s in the bible. When judgment day comes we will know who will enter the pit of hell. Gays should be free to live and don’t get insulted.

    • Moi

      April 12, 2015 at 2:01 pm

      @carina it’s interesting you’ll quote what the bible says on judging but you won’t quote what the bible says on homosexuality..

    • nikky

      April 12, 2015 at 6:39 pm

      @Moi it’s shows the contradictory nature if the Bible. The same book says judge not the same book also condemns people to be stoned to death. Bottom line anyone can choose whatever part of the bible that fits their argument as you two have clearly demonstrated.

  22. me

    April 12, 2015 at 1:19 pm

    Is it possible for every human to mind their business on sexuality…why must there be 10,000 articles on this issue? Why should this even be an issue? In normal circumstances, a gay man will only have sex with his fellow gay men…so why does it affect anyone else. Using homosexuality to either flaunt liberalism or to flaunt your religious knowledge. Ahn ahn…I don tire.
    Article writers we know you are liberal minded and have an education on human rights…clap for yourselves, we have heard can we drop this issue.

    • nikky

      April 12, 2015 at 7:00 pm

      Lol at human rights education. As much as I totally agree with you can’t deny that topics like this gets people on both sides all riled up. Besides that there is always this tendency of over killing one topic on this blog. Virginity, keeping your man wahala, single vs. married women, and anti-homosexuality is very popular here and it often gets the comments. People like these topics, bellanaija keeps posting it and the world keeps on spinning.

  23. tunmi

    April 12, 2015 at 1:33 pm

    Replace every instance of the word ‘gay’ with ‘black people’ or with ‘Africans’ or with ‘women’ and you will see just how bad this article is.

    “The truth is nobody has to like you as a black person if it is against their beliefs. Period. The fact that you’re a black person doesn’t change the fact that you’re a human being and it doesn’t make you special in any way. You’re a black person. That’s all. It’s just another fact in the universe and you don’t deserve an extra like for that. Nobody owes you an apology for not liking your belief or your race. They’re simply exercising their freedom of choice… and expression. The only thing they are not allowed to do is persecute, maim or kill you. In which case, that should be the focus of the black movement.”

    You do not understand. Do you know how many transgendered or gay teenagers have committed suicide because they are being bullied? Do you know what it is like to live in a society that doesn’t let you BE? Even in your safe space, people invade those areas and make you feel less than human. Gay people are being discriminated against around the world. You can hold hands with your girlfriend, give her a peck on the cheek, and embrace her in public but a gay person in Nigeria and many other countries cannot do that. You can come on BN and see discussions for women on how to keep their man but a gay person sees nothing on how to keep his/her relationship. We see wedding pictures all the time, and a gay person in Nigeria faces jail time for attempting that. You can have children and we have posts on the many options but that door is closed for a gay person. No, all they see on BN are Nigerians who hate them and if given the chance would accept Book Haram if it meant wiping out their existence.

    And gay people should be included in the media. The same way we cry out when all we see are white, European features as the definition of beauty is the same manner non-heterosexual people cry out when heterosexual people are the definition of love. And just why does it bother you so. How many gay people are in the media compares to heterosexuals? How many gay characters do we see compared to straight? How many gay celebs do we see compared to straight ones? And coming out shows solidarity. The same way seeing black women in their natural hair gracing the covers of magazine tells some black boy/girl that they are worthy as they are, is the same way a gay celeb coming out tells other gay kids, teenagers, and adults that they are worthy of LIVING.

    They want to live their lives without prosecution and you dare stand and defend your hate. This is absolutely hateful. They are not interested in you but their existence somehow threatens you, why??? You write this article in a country where there is a law that imprisons people for merely having a lgbt-related association. So a lgbt group that helps lgbt teenagers cope with life doesn’t get to happen, or one that helps them understand who they are doesn’t get to happen, or one that provides shelter from the hatred of the world doesn’t get to happen. They don’t get to see their kind living…just living. So they hide and hide even further until you and others like you actually kill their soul.

    • Moi

      April 12, 2015 at 1:58 pm

      Tough.

  24. Udegbunam Chukwudi

    April 12, 2015 at 1:33 pm

    Bruno blood dey hot sha! LOL. But I get his point especially here

    “Nahum i completely hear what you are
    saying. I have nothing against BLACK ppl i
    may not like or endorse THEM and i think i am
    well in my right not to like THEM. I would
    rather leave BLACK ppl alone. However, it
    seems like it is the BLACK ppl that wont leave
    us WHITE PEOPLE alone. The moment you dont endorse
    them, u r branded a RACIST hater. Im
    all for BLACK ppl being accepted but BLACK ppl
    should stop ‘assulting’ the rest of us WHITE PEOPLE to
    like HOW THEY LOOK (ie their hair and skin colour)OR BEHAVE. I have free will too now”

    I won’t be surprised when they start coming for black folks again using the Bible. Religious freedom bill get plenty ramifications.

  25. bruno

    April 12, 2015 at 1:36 pm

    I don’t even understand the logic of imprisoning some for 14 years for being gay. after spending 14 years in prison, will the gay person become straight.

    its just like imprisoning someone for 14 years because the person’s skin colour is black. after the black person spends 14 years in prison will the person’s skin colour automatically turn white?

    gay people have been existing since the beginning of time, long before the bible was even written.

    THEY ARE QUEER ,THEY ARE HERE , AND THEY ARE NOT GOING ANYWHERE, SO DEAL WITH IT (aggressive stella damsus voice)

    • Polypoly

      April 12, 2015 at 2:00 pm

      Bruno hunnie u r a mess!!! Not angry stella damasus voice….lol!!!
      Anywho, miss gurl lets not get militant with things on here. Gay discussion in naija needs to be treated as delicate. Your average nigerian has no interaction with an openly gay person so you cant expect them to know to properly discuss issues affecting the lgbt community. It all starts with education.
      This article was an “erff you, we still dont care”. Ladies & gents, if you dont believe in same gender loving (SGL); then pls kindly state your position respectfully and leave bible out of it. Do yall write articles on cheating, fornication, corruption, politics, etc with bible quotes??? So y bring religion to the table, when u talk about SGL people?

    • getit

      April 12, 2015 at 2:11 pm

      Don’t be mixing black and gay. People are born black. Nobody was born gay. You chose to be gay.

    • wagamama

      April 12, 2015 at 7:45 pm

      And that is all wagamama has to say.

    • keredim

      April 14, 2015 at 4:02 pm

      ignoramus

    • Naganu

      April 12, 2015 at 2:40 pm

      @bruno, do you always have to mention the Bible? ISIS terrorists execute gays nearly everyday in the name of Islam but you don’t mention that in your Bella Naija gay activism. The other day you questioned the authorship of the Bible as if it’s your biggest problem as a gay.
      Sodomy is an offence under the Penal Code. The offence is called ‘carnal knowledge against the order of nature’ under the Criminal Code. These are legal documents that have been in existence long before Nigeria’s independence. They were not written by St. Paul.
      Our society and culture frowned at homosexuality before the missionaries came. Many gay activist are christians but each time the subject is broached, you’ll put the Bible on trial. And you mentioned somewhere above that gays hurt nobody. Well, some crimes are called victimsless crimes. Gambling and prostitution are crimes in some jurisdictions even though they are acts by consenting adults. Societies evolve. When I was child, a lady in trousers was a rare sight. The majority in Nigeria of today consider being gay a taboo and I don’t think it’s just because people read it in the Bible. The Bible has precepts that are against gay practices but, believe me, that’s the least of your challenges as a gay activist. No Christian will hurt a gay in the name of Christianity. You can make a valid point without mentioning the Bible.

  26. bruno

    April 12, 2015 at 1:53 pm

    this is practically the same thing with the oba rilwan issue. u defending him for being tribalistic.

    If you speak against IGBO PEOPLE (which also is
    your right as much as it is to be IGBO), the IGBO
    community backed up by the media and
    influential persons (and countries) immediately
    descend on you like a pack of wolves – to the
    extent that those who oppose the IGBO concept are
    now afraid of airing their opinions for fear of
    persecution. It makes me wonder who is at the
    receiving end of restricting human freedom: the
    IGBO PEOPLE or the ANTI-IGBO PEOPLE. If in the quest to liberate
    yourself you put other people under restrictions,
    then I wonder if you’re truly fighting for freedom
    or you’re just being a fanatic.

    medical doctor Ifeoluwapo Odedere, I have edited your hateful article. I have replaced the word “GAY” with the words “IGBO people”.

    IGBO PEOPLE on bellanaija how would u feel if someone wrote something like this.

    I can edit this article and replace the words with “yoruba people” or “hausa people” or “efik people”

    how would u feel.

    • Moi

      April 12, 2015 at 2:23 pm

      @Bruno, I personally wouldn’t give a rat’s ass if you replaced it with my surname sef simply because everyone is entitled to their own opinion whether it is the popular one or not. The writer of this article is expressing her opinion, your ranting and insulting her and everyone who feels the way she does will not change how they feel. All you are doing is validating what she’s saying.
      Why should u get special treatment because you’re gay?
      Even if she hates every gay person who ever walked the surface of this earth it really is her right as a human being.

    • bruno

      April 12, 2015 at 7:02 pm

      @moi.

      ” Why should u get special treatment
      because you’re gay?”

      explain to us how gay people are getting special treatment.

      spending 14 years in prison is not special treatment.

      getting sacked from your job because you are gay is not special treatment.

      getting bullied endlessly because u are gay is not special treatment.

      pls use ur brain properly before u make silly statements. Thanks

  27. the generous economist

    April 12, 2015 at 1:54 pm

    And I agree with you there….imprisoning sme1 for being gay is utterly useless…bt then…this is naija…notin is ever on a rational basis here….

  28. mee

    April 12, 2015 at 2:02 pm

    @Bruno, I think its quite obvious that the law in Nigeria against gay people is stupid, alot of people seem to agree with it because its not in the African culture and its against their particular religion and those are the worse reasons for criminalising an act. So basically criminalise the gays NOT because they have harmed anyone but because they are going against culture and religion.
    I’m sorry this culture we speak of….where does is come from exactly, what’s the source of it. Also is it not the same culture that once endorsed human sacrifice and the killing of twins, Somehow those practises seem barbaric now but we are quick to go to that same culture to determine what should be law.
    Then lets criminalise homosexuality it for religious reasons. Well then, shall we also criminalise fornication…Fornication is a sin both for Christians and Muslims therefore all unmarried non virgins must be sentenced to 14 years in prison.
    I would like to ask the legislators who homosexuals are hurting. They will legalise paedophilia which has caused little girls soo much pain and led to the death of some but the will criminalise homosexuality.
    Just illogical

  29. Daybreak

    April 12, 2015 at 2:12 pm

    Ah… First person i thought of while reading this article was Bruno. Calm down all ye gays. Why have u got your panties in such a bind? Why do u brand anyone who doesn’t accept or like what u do homophobic? Doesn’t mean we hate ur person. We just do not like it! Don’t you have friends that you do not agree with them when it comes to certain things they do but u do not hate them? Enough already please

  30. M

    April 12, 2015 at 2:38 pm

    FOr real tho, BRUNO owned and bodied every point. Come on,, as a medical doctor myself, I am disappointed that Odedere did not sit down to read this twice as a man of the sciences.

  31. Udochi

    April 12, 2015 at 2:55 pm

    Hmmmmmm……..thats all that came out ;(

    thehomealley.blogspot.com

  32. tee

    April 12, 2015 at 3:03 pm

    What are you comparing, being black to being gay, once again, Being Gay is a sexual preference, men and women have set like gays do so please keep your sexuality out of our faces.

    You guys are bullys untop of your rubbish. Even a gay man (D&G) came up to express his darn opinion and you guys pounced on him for speaking his mind. What’s your problem.

    Sodom was destroyed for gayism and you glorify it.

    You think Sin will ever be cool,never. The universe doesn’t agree with the act,science doesn’t agree with the act, so please where is your justification coming from.

    I am so tired of you guys trying to force your rubbish down our throats. If I am having anal sex, do I need to rub it down your throat…solve your inferiority complex issues guys, being a gay is a sin and nothing in this world can make it cool. The devil is using you guys and you are happy. Rubbish

    • bruno

      April 12, 2015 at 8:23 pm

      @tee.

      ” The
      universe doesn’t agree with the act,science
      doesn’t agree with the act, so please where is
      your justification coming from.”

      lol. explain to us how science doesn’t agree with homosexuality.

      explain to us how the universe doesn’t agree with homosexuality.

      some of u are extremely sheltered. pls use Google.

      nobody has giving us a valid reason to hate or “dislike” gay people.

      mention one bad thing a gay person has done ro you, many of u can not mention.
      do u know any gay people in real life, the answer is no.

      it is wrong to hate someone because they are black or gay or asian or igbo or yoruba or hausa etc. you should judge some one based on their character towards you.

      hate is hate. it doesn’t matter the person who is receiving the hate. as a human being you should stand up against all forms of discrimination and hate.

      when did a gay person rub their homosexuality in ur face. how many bellanaija weddings articles has featured gay couples. NONE . it is not straight people that rub and force their sexuality down other people’s throat.

  33. soph

    April 12, 2015 at 3:10 pm

    Hian, all these strong advocates for gay people here, you know yourselves- bye!

  34. *curious*

    April 12, 2015 at 3:20 pm

    I totally agree with the writer.

  35. Kc

    April 12, 2015 at 3:21 pm

    Being gay is anatomically, psychologically, physiologically, evolutionarily, socially, morally and procreationally wrong!
    they need our love and care as human being but also our help too.

    • bruno

      April 12, 2015 at 6:49 pm

      @kc

      ” Being gay is anatomically, psychologically,
      physiologically, evolutionarily, socially, morally
      and procreationally wrong!”

      says who? did u study human sexuality and human sexual behaviour in the university. if the answer is no, pls kindly shut up.

  36. chioma

    April 12, 2015 at 3:47 pm

    @ Bruno what haven’t you used to compare to this article, you have used the Oba’s speech, black pple etc. I don’t think there’s need for it, this is just a sincere and apt write up. The way you are going about it makes the whole gay thing unattractive. You guys just draw unnecessary attention to yourselves. Abeg just cool down.

  37. Ogo

    April 12, 2015 at 4:08 pm

    This bruno blood dey hot o, i hope you don’t pop an artery in all these steam letting anger.Every time gay this and gay that, is sexuality all we think about? BN please give us news on the state elections especially Rivers state. Lest i forget, nice write up doc.

  38. osy

    April 12, 2015 at 4:26 pm

    When i read the comments on bella naija and the ones on LI blog especially on a gay related topic. I always arrive at the conclusion that 80% of the commentators on bella naija live abroad and 80% of commentators in LI blog live in naija. You guys should go ahead fooling yourselves, the Naija i know and live in never ready.

  39. Author Unknown

    April 12, 2015 at 5:37 pm

    I sensed the writer’s bias from the picture that was used for the article – an effeminate looking man, then followed by reference to the fact homosexuality is a ‘trend’. I guess his point is the right to be biased, so I won’t make a ‘bias’ argument. What I think bugs me more is how someone with such a profile, if at all real, could write something so garbage. His attempt to balance the rights of gay people to exist peacefully, and for straight people to ‘dislike’ gay people failed miserably in my opinion. Unfortunately, the straight majority of the world made sexuality an issue for the gay minority, and gay people are only reacting to that. It’s like asking why blacks are quick to scream ‘racism’ in America. They didn’t make colour an issue first, the whites did. Homosexuals have been around since time immemorial. Doesn’t that in itself tell you something about the existence of that phenomenon? It tells me it’s just as natural as being straight.

  40. Bisi

    April 12, 2015 at 5:49 pm

    At the end of the day homosexuality is a choice. To his is own. I think it is particularly disturbing for the older generations especially in Nigeria as they do not want their children to end up being Gay or Lesbian. The more we see this topic everywhere the more we are being susceptible to it. Might I say we like reproduction. We want to be fruitful and multiply.

    • Author Unknown

      April 12, 2015 at 6:23 pm

      Will all heterosexual people multiply? Answer is no, just in case you are wondering. I’m not cursing anyone. Fact is not everyone will reproduce, and that’s just nature’s way of ‘taking care’ of nature’s sustainability. The older generation you are so concerned about knows well about homosexuality. It is nothing new, and wasn’t always considered an abomination in every generation and culture. What may be new is the fact that a greater number of people in modern day Nigeria are accepting it as a way of life.

  41. bruno

    April 12, 2015 at 6:42 pm

    just look at the comment section. (crying)

    I thought I was making progress, educating many of you on this issue since last year, I guess I wasn’t. same thing I said last year, Is the same thing im saying this year again.
    nigerians we are not progressing at all.

    its like im starting from scratch again.

    being gay is just like being black , you don’t get to choose your race neither do u get to choose your sexuality.

    being gay is not a choice. give us one good reason why anybody will choose to be gay with all the bullying and discrimination and oppression gay people recieve on a daily basis?

    The writer is an just an idiot, HOW DARE YOU MENTION ALAN TURING in ur foolish article. alan Turing is the father of modern day computer, he broke the enigma code and won the war. if not for him more than 14 million people would have died suring the war and world war 2 would have been lost. A GAY MAN IS RESPONSIBLE FOR WINNING WORLD WAR 2.

    how did they repay him for his hard work, he was castrated because he was gay. pls go and watch the imitation game. when next u use a computer just know its a gay guy that invented it. this is a man that was treated unfairly amd wickedly after all his heroic accomplishments because of his sexuality and u are here trying to use his situation to justify you stupidity and hate for gay people. thunder will fire you Ifeoluwapo Odedere. nonsense. you are disgrace to the field of science.

    • FYI**

      April 13, 2015 at 10:46 am

      Asking for the reason why one would choose to be gay, is like asking the reason why a father and daughter will choose to be sleeping with each other. Did you hear of the Zimbabwe mother who was pregnant for her son and they both planned getting married? You also want me to believe they were born that way.
      It boils down to the disease of the mind. It’s your choice to be sexually satisfied by unnatural means. Don’t blame it on nature.
      It is your choice to also seek help.
      It will remain my choice whether to accept gays or not.
      Save your insult-ridden epistles

  42. A-nony

    April 12, 2015 at 6:46 pm

    Yup! This kinda ignorance is bliss. I’d rather be ignorant here.

  43. z

    April 12, 2015 at 7:24 pm

    I am a bisexual, I am not a closet bisexual, I live my normal life just like everyone is living theirs. I don’t go about looking for attention, acceptance and all what not.
    I just live my normal life

    • nikky

      April 12, 2015 at 8:41 pm

      until you get imprisoned for your “life” or get thrown out of a 10 story building for being you, then you will understand they need to defend themselves. You can afford to live your normal life but there are thousands who cannot. They just want to live without harassment, imprisonment or death and articles like this makes it obvious that that is not going to happen in NIGERIA anytime soon.

  44. Oluwaseun

    April 12, 2015 at 7:28 pm

    This article is written from a biased and contradicting point of view.

    First and foremost, nobody is shoving homosexuality down anyone’s throat. Thus, Homosexuals are only advocating for an equal and fair right to live, love and be loved like their counterparts in the sexual majority. If including homosexual themes in movies, reality shows e.t.c translates to shoving homosexuality down your throats, then it would be fair to say all heterosexual clips, performance and PDA be taken out of the media.

    Secondly, like you rightly pointed out that homosexuality has been in existence since the inception of mankind, it is contradictory and unfair to say in the same context that it has just become a trend. Homosexual behaviors are inborn… They are innate characteristics that can’t be likened to developed trends, it’s not a man-made concept. It’s not fashion or technology. It’s human nature.

    Thirdly, I wouldn’t agree to your assertions that homosexuals are not deserving of MORE respect, recognition and love from the society. They deserve of those and more for all the generations of segregation, hate and non-acceptance cos all of those qualities are against humanity and the rights of every human to live and let live.

    • Adeola

      April 13, 2015 at 2:06 am

      If it’s always been inborn why did it just become popular all of a sudden i mean it’s like the new Aids/ Hiv story in the 2000s. Did gay people just all of sudden realize in 2012 that they are gay. I agree completely with the writer non gays are the one being persecuted live and let live I don’t have to like it mind you that I am abused by the act also I mean the first time I saw two guys kissing was truamtized for hours another man says my husband and you dont find that abnormal I mean it’s intuitively abnormal the least we can do is tolerate it but to force others to endorse it that’s just wacked

  45. cindy

    April 12, 2015 at 7:32 pm

    ewoooo……see degrading of life. @tunmi are you an animal?

  46. bruno

    April 12, 2015 at 7:38 pm

    @seriously

    ” Human beings are different from animals.
    Humans can communicate, speak out
    their feelings, and do so many things
    animals can never do.”

    u need to stop watching porn all the time and start watching documentaries.

    so it is until someone speaks out their feelings thats when u will understand how the person feels. you will make a terrible boyfriend.

    animals can communicate their feelings and emotions. they can mourn the death of the family memeber. they can cry, they can make sounds when they are hurt emotionally example elephants, dolphins ,penguins.
    pls watch more documentaries, stop watching porn.

    ” Nobody hates on gays the way
    blacks and Jews are hated on.”

    WHAT???? I don’t think you know what ur saying.

    this is the last time I would reply u cause u are painfully stupid and it is showing in ur comments.
    many of need to use google more often

  47. Dugo

    April 12, 2015 at 7:49 pm

    So then,as I always ask…what are we to do?We evil,gay hating heterosexuals?Seal our mouths with glue?Not have an opinion?

    As long as nobody kills,maims or hurts anyone over their beliefs or lifestyle,please live and let live. Hoooor!Is it by force?

  48. Bluebell

    April 12, 2015 at 8:49 pm

    Okay so the best way to ignore all the gay drama is to write an epistle and make it a bigger issue for yourself. Okay let’s just make it all about you. Relax and eat some fruit tinker bell !!!. You actually have to click on a topic it’s not forced down your throat. Wat is tearing your pink tongs. They got more attention than you. Po baby.

  49. Ade

    April 12, 2015 at 8:49 pm

    Uche, please read your Bible. GOD Hates homosexuality. Pls don’t allow your blog to be used to promote it
    Here in the UK, homosexuals are persecuting Christians who refuse to endorse and approve of their acts. These are the end times. GOD bless you

  50. Mike

    April 12, 2015 at 8:51 pm

    I just want to ask all those against the gays based on religion. Have you ever had premarital see, you’re probably still humping your boyfriend or girlfriend. Lied? Cheated? It’s the same he’ll that awaits you. Let he who is without sin cast the first stone. Live and let live.

  51. Mike

    April 12, 2015 at 8:53 pm

    *premarital sex. *the same hell…. Frigging auto correct

  52. honest one

    April 12, 2015 at 9:07 pm

    I believe the writer is male and not a female…. #the end…

    • Bianca

      April 12, 2015 at 10:02 pm

      yeh? Then he needs to stop bitching and throwing hissy fits. Like the people he is preaching against. Nonsense.

  53. rayofhope

    April 12, 2015 at 9:44 pm

    Being gay is a choice if u like accept it or leave it! And please why do you want people to validate your actions. If u choose to be gay, then be ready to accept what ever anyone feels abt u as long as they do not infringe on ur right. However, you must know that in as much as you have ur right, the next person also has his right. For example d right to express his feelings abt any issue such as homosexuality.
    Soon you pple will start advocating for beastiality all in a bid to follow the crowd or in a bid to fulfill some demonic sexual pleasures. With all that is going on now, the end is sure nearer than we think.

  54. Tuzaqueen

    April 12, 2015 at 9:51 pm

    For the most all these arguments are full of biases and baseless., but these topics and comments about them keeps me entertained. But wait oh! Does it mean that it’s just @ honest one and I that just realized that the write is a male not a he/ she as some of you would have me believe?

    • Bianca

      April 12, 2015 at 10:09 pm

      Why is sarcasm lost on some people?

  55. Orangeisacolorfulfruit

    April 12, 2015 at 10:03 pm

    I agree with the writer to an extent… You are gay , so what ? Shut up already, it doesn’t define you , it’s just your sexual orientation , it doesn’t make you special, it doesn’t make you a princess or Prince.. You are just as normal as I am, you like the D good for you, I like the D too.. You enjoy the Punani, Great my Boyfriend Does too… People are homophobes, people are racist, people are sinners, people are religious, people love God , people love Jesus, people love Allah, DEAL WITH IT!!! Gay people, black people, white people .. Can we all stop with the labels and just be PEOPLE.. ..And can this messed up generation move on to more important topics like how “people” are moving to MARS… And how there’s going to be a cure for AIDS soon due to some new discovery.. AND how there’s a crazy high rate of children with Cancer. And how POUNDS STERLING is still the most valued currency even though it’s rarely traded with and the Brits have a shitty Economy.. We are so focused on irrelevant issues…

    And PS BRUNO , I know you think you are “shocking” but you are just like everyone else with an Opinion..

  56. tee

    April 12, 2015 at 10:26 pm

    Bruno is an hypocrite, he condemns transgender like they are shit, blames them for degrading the homosexual race but doesn’t like the same attitude he melts out to transgenders be given to him.

    Dude, a transgender has a belief and is clearly trying to correct it to fit in,homo on the other hand is super confused and arrogant about it.

    You asked how science is against gays, can you explain how you intend to have the baby you want to throw a baby shower for?

  57. Emerald

    April 12, 2015 at 11:02 pm

    People must be allowed to sex whoever/whatever they want. That’s their human right. What’s your beef if i want to have sex with a monkey, a mosquito, a stone, someone of the same sex, a tree, my mum or a child? It’s my right, am I wrong? I just pray, that the next perverts the West led by Britain (the country/kingdom whatever it calls itself with the highest number of dirty old deranged pervs who sleeps with anything) will force down our throats won’t be peadophilism, beastiality etc. I fear the kind of world my Children will grow in. It’s already deranged as it. People wake up and decide I don’t want to be a man or woman anymore and because they can afford, pay for surgeries, hormone injections etc to change their sex. You can’t even be sure if the man or woman you passed by or dating was born as such. Now the cool thing is to scream ‘I’M GAY’! You log on to instagram and you see men with butt injections, make-up etc. I’m proud of Africans. Let them call us backwards. And for those Africans living in abroad who have accepted this lifestyle, please leave us alone to wallow in our backwardness! And the resident BN Gay activist, Broomno or whatever his/her name is, don’t u dare belittle the struggles of the black race to a group of pervs as if a person can choose his or her race.You think, you’re the only one here who can insults. Aponkye!!

    • Ib

      April 13, 2015 at 3:40 am

      This sent chills down my spine but you speak the truth.

    • pearl

      April 13, 2015 at 7:02 am

      Dear emerald. You sound pained. Like you’ve been forced into giving up a right to be you. The fact that you compare homesexuals to pedophiles is actually a testament to the fact that the law exist for people like yourself to help contain your inner demons. You my dear need clear boundaries becos without such from your testiment you will certainly without conscience commit atrocities. Gay people are not perverts. They are normal people who choose not to live a lie. And for that I commend them. You on the other hand hiding behind a religious text, filled with hate will certainly be a threat to humanity if not contained. I am very happy to see you have contained yourself with religion. Becos without it people such as yourself will be the true menace to society. Peadohiles are people with no conscience and no artificial boundaries to keep them in check. Bear that in mind. You commented that western countries have the highest number of pervs? This maybe becos yhe justice system works and people actually report abuse. Dear contained emerald please enlighten us on why the HIV rate is so high in Africa compared to these sinful countries.

  58. OnPoint

    April 12, 2015 at 11:40 pm

    And I thought Bruno was the only one on BN. By their comments, you shall know them….#endtimethings

  59. z

    April 13, 2015 at 1:10 am

    Being a homosexual is by choice, I think so. I choose to be one. I am in a happy healthy relationship. I got out of a heterosexual\normal relationship that almost if not for the grace of God disfigured my face, that was the worst period of my life, emotional trauma, physical abuse, embarrassment, shattered my confidence on top of it I was broke. My children and I lived in constant fear,especially my first son , who saw the hell I was going thru.
    today I have found some who makes me happy, cares about me, worries when I am, remembers everything good about me, and gives me hope again!
    I am at peace with myself, no more blows, bullying and disgrace in front of my children.
    however it happens that this person is a girl!.

  60. Adeola

    April 13, 2015 at 2:25 am

    I completely agree with the writer and thumbs off for having the courage about it. Non gay people have suddenly become the ones who cant express their opinion about how they feel about something without being tagged unexposed, uncool, non-liberal or whatever other tems you have there so we live in fear of talking yet we don’t get this concept or cant remove the fact that its off. The average gay person is extremely aggressive trying to make others accept them, I remember going for a diversity program which had women, mixed color people and gays and the gay people just turned into about them completely forgetting at some point there were others in the minority, At some point the panelists got angry and you could tell from their faces- Can we move on? I don’t have to accept the lifestyle that you have chosen for yourself when I don’t even understand it in the first place I mean its off lets call a spade a spade another man says my husband and that’s not off or a guy puts make up on his face and that’s not off… its intuitively off and to contribute to the debate those who say they were born gay are they just realizing that I mean until five years ago we didn’t have this movement its suddenly become the HIV/AIDs(without trying to be insensitive here) of the 2000s. My point is are gay people just realizing this, where have they been all this years which begs the point if its inborn or just a lifestyle. sometimes I wonder especially since it seems lately to be more popular amongst men than women maybe women’s wahala contributed to this turning to the same sex thing, I have tried my bit to understand it in the spirit of being enlightened the first articles I read just didn’t make sense it ended up offending my sensibilities the more so what is the solution I can only tolerate it that’s all I owe you for now until then to each his own.

  61. Adeola

    April 13, 2015 at 2:32 am

    ……and yes I am entitled to my opinion the same way gays are, you don’t have to like it just like I don’t have to like your lifestyle or your opinion about it

  62. dezZ

    April 13, 2015 at 2:54 am

    I really do pity the gay persons , they have indeed gone through a lot, i just believe they should be left alone to practice and live their lives as humans nd be treated like all humans, it’s not popular to us as Africans, that’s a tyn they’ll have to accept nd gradually try to create a favorable environment for dem selves which will take a lot of time, so please don’t hate cos of their sexuality or cause of religion, let’s leave judgement for the Supreme Being, accept them as they are, live nd let live, no need for the many insults nd trying to justify argument cos it’ll always be a debate

  63. Yamaha

    April 13, 2015 at 5:30 am

    LMAO!!!!!!!! Bruno kills Yamaha. Bruno let Yamaha tell you the truth and nothing but the truth. YOU RE GAY, now that’s not news, there’s more. Wait for it! Yes! You are gay and you HATE that you’re gay. Simple truth. You feel condemned by the bible and God which you so desperately want to follow and adhere to. Hence, the reason you read the bible back and forth trying to piece the history of how it was made so you can question its legitimacy as the true word God. Oh Bruno, you know God exists and you know JESUS Christ died but you’re angry that if He condemned homosexuality and hates it so much why did he allow the devil fill you with lust for your fellow men.Lust you have no control over. You feel damned.So therefore instead of wallowing in self pity, you have decided to turn your feelings to anger and hatred towards God. Kinda like payback for allowing you to become homosexual.

    You have now made it your life’s mission to discredit the word and turn people against God. Deep down you’re hoping God would have mercy on you on the last day. You are thinking, if only he could be merciful and see that I do wish to be straight but can’t control my desires for men. Bruno, Yamaha wants to tell you God loves you regardless. And yep, his grace is sufficient for you and your kind. He sees your heart and the hearts of men not what they do. That’s why David, after so much battles and taking another’s wife, he was still a man after God’s heart while the Pharisees that did everything in His name had their hearts far from him. It’s okay Bruno. To all the gays and ass lovers out there, who can’t help themselves. Yamaha just wants to tell you, it is well. Eternal damnation is of God to decide not man. Like I stated he sees the heart not what we do because we have to. You guys should drop all this nonsense, stupid,baseless justification and know that God loves you no matter what. It is well.

  64. happy camper

    April 13, 2015 at 6:43 am

    To EACH his own.
    You’re welcome.

  65. Kojo

    April 13, 2015 at 7:00 am

    If the bible says so for you that don’t mean it does for others. The same way some of you ppl are claiming homosexuality is being shoved down your throat is the same way you’re trying shoving god’s ‘wrath’ down ppl who don’t care about a god throats. Do you get where I’m coming from?

    Every time a christian talks about how much God hates homosexuality they reference the old testament but when I ask them about why they eat shellfish they say ‘oh, Jesus christ came with the new testament- he’s made it all better.’ Well then if he’s come then should you not also abandon the idea that god hates gay which was in the old testament?

  66. ogho

    April 13, 2015 at 8:32 am

    Simple logic why waka enter gay blog tinzs if the matter tire you. Dem force you to read dem yan . No be only you waka come. Wetin you dey find for fish markrt if you no one buy fish. Yeye dey smell. you click the link with your finger. All you gay bashers Na una dey create traffic gor gay matter on BN. Meanwhile important issue dey for ground non of una don go comment on those other issues. Stop exposing your closet issues here. There are three kinds of people on gay blogs. FREE GAY PEOPLE ,GAY SYMPATHISERS AND THOSE SEXUALLY REPRESSED ANGRY PEOPLE WHO WISH THEY WERE FREE TO BE GAY.

  67. Regular Joe

    April 13, 2015 at 9:00 pm

    WARNING: Long post ahead;
    This is a sensitive topic. I wouldn’t look down on anyone just because he is gay. However, it is understandable to compare being gay to being black or asian or artantican… Let me explain:

    Race can be classified as Caucasian, African, Asian, etc. Their colour is a physiological adaptation to their environment. The black colour helps protect against UV rays and so on. Hence, being black just like being a sickle cell carrier is an adaptation to something. So, it is morally wrong to look down on someone because of their physiological adaptation. It shouldn’t cause harm to anyone to be black or belong to a particular colour.

    Coming to religion. First, I hate where religion has gotten to… That aside, religion is a belief system. No one is born with a religion…Everyone is born an empty board, the society writes the alphabets….One way humans differ from other animals is that they have a religion. Animals don’t. (Or have you ever seen a dog that prays?)… It is the “evolution” we have…to ask questions…That is because humans are curious about where they came from and where they’re going. Being a Jew, Christian, Muslim or Buddhist is a personal choice…They all believe in different Gods… same with being a atheist….They still belief in something….They believe there is no God…..like it or not, it’s a belief still…. or an agnostic… So, if you are a Christian and you do not accept the way the Muslim worships and vice versa, you have no right to judge or look down on him just because you feel your God is superior.
    It is his personal choice just as it is your personal choice to be a Christian, and if his belief makes him happy and satisfied with life, just as yours does to you, then let him enjoy his belief as you enjoy yours…..It shouldn’t cause harm to anyone if you belong to a religion

    Coming to drugs…so, does it mean that if I like taking hard drugs, as long as I like or “believe” in it, I’m ok? Well, no…you should be arrested and rehabilitated….although you may be physically dependent on it which may seem “physiological”, it is actually a pathology, and you are ‘disinhibited’, and you can be of harm to the society. Also, you are a waste of human resources, you should channel your energy instead, to the labour force, instead of getting stoned…

    Coming to homosexuality…It’s true many species of animals are homesexual, even some apes are… however, we know, and I hope everyone knows know that it is physiologically incorrect for two mammals of the same sex to mate, because they would not produce an offspring. Nature has already set that rule. Males get attracted to females, due to phernomones and stuff, and vice versa. That is the physiologically correct thing…just the same way as it is physiologically unacceptable for you to fall in love with a cow, horse or whale (bestiality, that is…)

    However, morally, if you are attracted to someone of the same sex, I have no right to judge you, I don’t know how homosexuals feel, but what society should understand is that unlike being black, homosexuality is not a physiological adaptation, it is not a belief like religion, it is a sexual orientation, a feeling, that doesn’t harm anybody. Bestiality, however is animal cruelty, (| believe) because, I don’t think a cow would consent with a human marrying it or having sex with it…
    In a homosexual, however, the two parties consent to like each other…and like every other harmless social diversity, like race, colour, gender, religion, or genotype, homosexuals cause no harm to people or animals around them….unlike drug trafficking or bestiality. It doesn’t affect their cognition or their IQ, so they should not be rejected any job. They should be treated fairly.
    However, the fact that nature allows two people who are physiologically incompatible to get attracted to each other is a mystery…

    • Kojo

      April 14, 2015 at 5:53 am

      1. “however, we know, and I hope everyone knows know that it is physiologically incorrect for two mammals of the same sex to mate, because they would not produce an offspring. ”

      My Question:
      I know lots of heterosexual married couples who have sex but chose not to reproduce offsprings simply because they don’t want any. (by the use of contraceptives of course) Is this physiologically incorrect?(wrong choice word btw). Having children is not the only reason why people choose to have sex. We would be massively over populated by now.

      You know what, forget #2, o ti su mi. im so over debating with empty heads.

  68. Regular Joe

    April 14, 2015 at 8:02 am

    @Kojo.
    it’s true, not all couples marry to have children.
    it’s true some heterosexual couples, even without contraceptives cannot reproduce…cos of a male or female factor eg oligoospermia or tubal blockage, .that’s pathological. As for couples who may or may not have the potential to reproduce, but choose not to reproduce cos they use contraceptives…. that’s a choice….there’s nothing physiological or pathological about a choice….
    And you arent debating with empty heads. You feel your opinion is superior to others, and that’s wrong

  69. chalant x

    April 14, 2015 at 1:31 pm

    Exactly, as a nigerian myself, the gay community enjoys playing the victim card, its kinda annoying when the gays victimize themselves instead of leaving it to the remaining ninety person of the population to do the scolding. Fine the society doesnt approve, doesnt mean i get to see myself in the same inferior light as the see me, that condescending attitude the society pose is nothing compared to the light the gay community see themselves in. Its more or less an insecurity issue within the gay community “i need you to make me feel better and good about myself”.

  70. I seriously don't care

    April 14, 2015 at 5:12 pm

    The world can go ahead singing and dancing about the gay world. . .the devil goes about singing and dancing over how he is consuming the minds of the world. . . Christians go about getting persecuted for telling gay people its absurd to be gay . . . the Lord is patient and slow to anger.

    • Anony

      April 14, 2015 at 9:24 pm

      the lords slow anger is the very reason you stand my dear so be grateful for that. The questionable fact that you call yourself a Christian has notting to do with it. We are all beneficiaries of the good lords slow anger bear dat in mind.

  71. Femi

    April 14, 2015 at 9:17 pm

    Thank you for a brilliant articulation Dr. Ife. Thank you!

  72. Potatoes

    April 15, 2015 at 9:04 pm

    Anonymity gives people the right to be total a-holes. I have the right to my opinions… but everyone insulting the writer is doing exactly what they are preaching against. Insulting someone instead of gentle correction is the fastest way to get them set in their ways.

  73. Potatoes

    April 15, 2015 at 9:05 pm

    I love the article by the way…

  74. Mike Daemon

    April 17, 2015 at 11:30 am

    It should be clearly understood that homosexuality is a human sexuality, and yeah there are individuals (actual persons) who are gay, de-bunking the idea that homosexuality is a concept,its a REALITY!

    The need for the noise (something you have called TREND is to inform and educate people about the reality of been gay, especially in a homophobic country like Nigeria. People are scared of something they perceive as abnormal (the subject is discussed extensively on of my broadcast) its purpose is also is to let people know that it’s ok to be different after all, humans are not robots, so therefore can not function the same way.

    Also it should be noted that homosexuality in its form is completely harmless and what people do in private and in their bedrooms shouldn’t be anybody’s business. So therefore comparing homosexuality to harmful practices like smoking is not only absurd, but completely disrespectful.

    Homosexuals do not ask for special treatments or think that they are special (even though it is not wrong for anybody to feel special, if they want to or if they are) as opposed to what the write up denotes.

    Also if you want to go public with the issues you have against homosexuality do so constructively with facts, rather than becoming abusive and spilling venomous hate words at the LGBT Community.

    Heterosexuals has always been loud about their sexuality putting it in our faces, we see it evidently on TV and other media platforms. When this is done the gay community minds their business and preaches coexistence.

    Now talking about liking or not liking homosexuals, nobody needs your validation to be themselves, rather what the LGBT Community is asking for is respect to be treated equally, and to be left alone to exist in peace in a world that’s actually nobody’s property.

    I have launched a broadcast that deals with LGBT issues in Nigeria it’s tagged ‘NO-STRINGS-NIGERIA’s FIRST LGBT PODCAST’ Visit: NOSTRINGSPODCAST.WORDPRESS.COM

  75. Mike Daemon

    April 17, 2015 at 8:55 pm

    Hello

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