BN at 6 – Our Stories, Our Miracles: No Sound but An Abundance of Hope, Oyinkan Kalejaiye Shares the Amazing Story of Her Deaf Twin Boys

Posted on Wednesday, July 4th, 2012 at 12:03 PM

By Atoke

As part of our 6th anniversary celebration, and in line with the BellaNaija ethos of entertainment, information and positively impacting lives, we are going to share 6 stories of real people who have been dealt with some of life’s unexpected cards. In spite of these challenges, these people have found the strength to pull themselves up and trudge on and are  willing to encourage others going through their own issues. Oyinkan and Tunde Kalejaiye, a young couple living in the UK agreed to share the story of their beautiful boys, who were born deaf, with us at BN. We sincerely hope that you are inspired by their story.

The Kalejaiyes
My husband, Tunde and I met in the UK in 2000 and married in 2003. We had our first son, Oluwaseni in 2005 – his pregnancy and birth were pleasant and uneventful. We decided to try again for another child in 2007, preferably a girl…so, we were totally shocked when we found out I was pregnant with identical twin boys…the twins, Oluwatoni and Oluwatosin were born in 2008.

When twins were born
The twins’ pregnancy was a difficult one and they had to be delivered early because they developed a condition known as TTTS (Twin to Twin Transfusion Syndrome). The delivery was also difficult because I collapsed during the process, which led to an emergency caesarean section as the boys were been starved of oxygen. Oluwatoni was brought out first, he was struggling but breathing; Oluwatosin came out nearly blue, if not blue, he needed support quite quickly to help him breathe. Amazingly, the boys spent less than 24 hours in special baby care unit; they became stronger and stronger; their breathing seemingly improving with every hour that passed. They were fine to go home within 5 days, although now in hindsight, I wish we had stayed longer…may be things would have been picked up quicker and may be outcomes different.

First sign something was not quite right
Pretty much, after we got home I noticed there was something not quite right. Initially, it was their breathing, it was very noisy and not quite right; especially Oluwatoni, it was as if every breath was a struggle. Then, I noticed they didn’t react to any noise or anything in particular but then I was very ill after the birth, so I felt I was a bit exhausted and may be things will become clearer as I got better and they got older. I tried to remain positive for weeks, praying and believing that the signs I was seeing would come to nothing and that the symptoms I was seeing were as a result of my ‘tired mind ‘playing tricks’ on me.

The diagnosis
Within 6 to 8 weeks of their birth we received various diagnosis – that they suffered from a condition called ‘Laryngomalacia’; Oluwatoni worse than Oluwatosin and that they both suffered from bad gastric reflux – which meant breathing, feeding, digesting was just one huge challenge. Both suffered from really bad and recurrent chest infections which over the years led to several stays in hospital. The greatest shock of all came when we were told after several tests had been carried out on both boys, that our twin sons were not only deaf but ‘profoundly deaf’…I believe at that moment, life has we knew it, changed… I mean I remember trying desperately to hold on to ‘hope’ but could see it fading away. There were many questions…too many questions – on the one hand, we were literally fighting for their lives with all the breathing problems etc… and the other hand, if they lived, what quality of life would they have…being profoundly deaf.
Mother’s first reaction
To be honest, I already knew something wasn’t quite right…mother’s instinct, I guess. A formal diagnosis however is different; it brings about a different feeling…because now your worst fears have been confirmed. I was numb for a couple days…probably in denial…wishing and praying it all away. I prayed and prayed …I mean I couldn’t believe it was happening to me, then I was deeply heartbroken as I watched my ‘happy ever after’ life seemingly disappear, I cried and was very angry; then I pitied myself…felt so sorry for myself, for the challenging journey ahead of me and I felt so powerless and out of control at the time…it was horrible.

Really challenging moments
The last four years has been one huge challenge – but the first two years were the worst because they were very ill as well as very deaf. We had to deal with the illnesses and wait till they were better enough to deal with the deafness properly. The waiting was hard because as a parent you want to know that your children will be fine. I mean in those 2 years, we had at least 2 hospital appointments every week, apart from professionals who came to see them at home and days in hospital because one of them was ill. It was physically and emotionally draining, I felt like our entire lives had been invaded and no longer ours. Also, I felt enormous guilt when I thought about our first son, Oluwaseni, who was lost in all of this drama…his lovely home life had been invaded and everything changed. Those first two years of learning to accept our ‘new life’ and adjusting to the changes that come along with it were most challenging for me as a Mum and a human being.

The twins with their brother, Seni

How I hung in there
I remember in the early days, praying earnestly for strength as I honestly could not comprehend how I was going to go through life normally with the enormity of the challenge before me as Mum and us as a family…I just felt so distraught, weak and powerless. But then my prayers were answered, with the gradual acceptance of my situation, came strength – day to day strength to physically deal with daily challenges; strength to pull myself together and look for information and accept support (We had a lovely teacher of the deaf, I got a lot of information and support from the National Deaf Children’s Society UK (NDCS), the Cochlear Implant Team at Great Ormond Street Hospital, various doctors and specialists, especially their paediatrician). God sent helpers our way – he gave us the wisdom to recognise them and the grace to accept help and support. Our family and friends also tried their best…during challenges, you know who your true friends are and those who really care and in our case, we are thankful that those friends and family that remained after reality hit; really and deeply cared.
Most importantly, I have to say that I try to be strong and pull myself together for my boys most of all…all 3 of them, as I believe that they stand a better chance in life, if I stay strong and believe in them. It will do them no favours, if my husband or I give up on them or if we are not their biggest fans and believe that despite their challenges, they are great men and will accomplish great things. We have to believe that and hold on to that…and it does keep us going as we have a vision and goals.

Stints at the hospital
Oluwatoni was in and out of hospital a lot more than Oluwatosin – they both would fall ill with a chest infection or something, but Toni would just get worse and worse, and would end up in hospital. Also, they have had around 5 operations between them and they had to stay in hospital, again Oluwatoni always stayed longer than his brother. I have to say though, that our Toni is one little fighter and we thank God for him as many times we were so afraid he wouldn’t make it but he always bounces back, choosing and holding on to life.

Financial help
I am thankful that Oluwatoni and Oluwatosin were born in the UK where support is available. This does not mean that it has been easy to get the support needed as there are many things that we have had to ‘fight for’ to get – but that very good support and assistance IS available and an option.
Both boys are taken care of and monitored by specialist teams both locally in our part of the UK and also by Great Ormond Street Hospital in London. We are supported by the National Deaf Children’s Society (NDCS) – a UK charity that supports families raising deaf children.

Toni and Tosin 2012

Toni and Tosin TODAY
Toni and Tosin today are 4 year old happy boys – their health is improving. They both suffer from asthma and allergies, which they are on medication for but are managing pretty well.
At the age 2, they had major operations, following a couple of minor ones and were both bilaterally implanted with cochlear implants. Cochlear implants do not cure deafness but allows both boys to wear sound processors during daytime which give them a ‘sensation of hearing’ as the implants bypasses the ears and works directly with the brain. They see the Cochlear Implant Team at Great Ormond Street Hospital regularly. They also got prescribed glasses due to problems with their eye sight – children who have sensori-neural profound hearing loss usually develop eye sight problems as well.
Both boys have been wearing their sound processors for 2 years now and their speech, communication and understanding of the world is improving gradually everyday. They wear their glasses well and there have been noticeable improvements in them overall.
Toni and Tosin both have a Statement of Special Educational Needs and our family recently moved so they can attend an excellent Specialist School for the Deaf. This school offers them the continual support they need as they have access to learning and understanding language through BSL, English language, gestures and lip reading; regular speech therapy; help with social interaction and play; communication; careful supervision in their daily life; help with managing processors and glasses and the curriculum in way they would understand. They love their school and are doing well.

Their hobbies and distinguishing characteristics
Toni and Tosin are very similar and yet very different – they swap personalities a lot, so one month Toni is the calm and passive twin and the next month he is the active and energetic twin. It used to be quite confusing, but we are used to it now!
Both boys love each other to bits and they are very into each other – it’s so lovely to watch…those are the times I am ‘grateful’ they have quite similar challenges, because they will always be able to support each other in a way no other person can and that is a real blessing – They will never walk alone.
Both boys love cars, bicycles, buses, trucks, fire engines etc… anything that moves actually… including insects! They have very recently discovered watching TV – the deafness and eyesight problems made it difficult before but now at the age 4, they are now starting to show an interest in television and what it has to offer. They also love their ipads – they love watching videos on youtube and they can watch the same videos for hours on end!

My words of encouragement to you if you’re faced with a challenge like this
By all means be sad, disappointed, angry, frustrated, etc…but pull your yourself together as quickly as you can – as a parent, you do not honestly have the luxury of staying ‘down in the dumps’ for too long, your child/children need you to be strong and positive despite any challenge.
There is the temptation to isolate yourself and/or your child/children or remain in denial – again try and fight this with every muscle in your body and mind, pray for strength…a lot of strength, as you will need it. Accept and embrace your situation – this is your life now; even if you are praying and believing for a change, there are things that you need to do that you can’t do if you’re stuck in denial.
One of the greatest things you can do for yourself and your child/children when faced with challenges is to get educated on the issue/s, get information, knowledge, speak to relevant people…it is liberating. In your own little uninformed world you feel hopeless and limited but with the right information and support you feel empowered – able to make informed decisions and it opens your limited mind to huge possibilities available to explore. You become hopeful, able to dream and live life with a vision /goal.
The birth of the twins changed our lives forever, it has been a difficult journey and it isn’t over yet; but nowadays, with God’s strength, the experience and knowledge we have gained through this challenge, we truly believe that Oluwatoni and Oluwatosin will be fine and can accomplish anything.

Thank you for letting me share my story with you all. I hope you have been blessed and inspired by our story and our miracles.

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    • Christopher Okoro July 4, 2012 at 12:15 PM

      Congrats Uche and the crew at Bella Naija on your 6th year anniversary.
      This story is really touching but to God be all thy glory for mercies and Miracles.

    • Karonwi July 4, 2012 at 12:18 PM

      This is beyond inspirational. Also a proof that there’s a God up there. Really happy for them, I pray God will perfect all that concerns them. More miracles on the wayyyy :)

    • L.A Chick July 4, 2012 at 12:19 PM

      My dear, you personify the strength of a woman. The twins are lucky to have you and you are lucky to have them because I am sure, they made you discover the depth of your own strength. The love and courage of a mother has no limit. May God continue to bless us and our family.

      • Mana July 5, 2012 at 11:09 AM

        You sayed it all!

      • Elizabeth Oke August 7, 2012 at 2:11 AM

        Very well said.

        May the Lord continue to strengthen you, their dad and brother.

        This is a testimony, and I’m blessed to have read it.
        Such cute boys they are. :-)

    • Kj July 4, 2012 at 12:20 PM

      Wow! Wow! This is soo sad nd touching….but thank God for their lives

    • N/A July 4, 2012 at 12:23 PM

      Wonderful story of the Lord’s marvelous work. So happy for the two boys they can live normal happy lives. I have a 4 year old boy with the exact hobbies!

    • ladyone July 4, 2012 at 12:26 PM

      Their children are so cute! May God continue to bless this family and see them through any challenge. Beautiful family!!

    • LPS July 4, 2012 at 12:31 PM

      Cute babies. More Grace!!!
      Congrats Uche and BN Crew

    • i no send July 4, 2012 at 12:31 PM

      they are sooo adorable..thank God for modern and efficient healthcare…my love to you and your beautiful family

    • Aibee July 4, 2012 at 12:33 PM

      Wow! I am really inspired by this story. I admire your strength and courage. Though you were a bit silent on him, I really do pray your husband is very supportive through all of this. I pray that God gives you the much needed strength. I also pray that God helps your boys to grow to be all that they can be. Looking at these pictures, I see very happy little boys and I pray it always stays this ways.
      I am very inspired by your story, moved beyond words but into prayers. I pray with all my heart that God will send you help at every turn. He may not heal your twins but he will give them, Oluwaseeni and your husband and you the grace you need to finish these race that he has set you on. All that is in my heart sound like platitudes to my hears. All I can say God bless you and yours. Real Good.

    • sheyhun July 4, 2012 at 12:34 PM

      WOW!…u can already tell dat these boys are a precious gift, there’s just something special abt dem u can feel even without knowing dem 2 well

      • Attendee July 26, 2012 at 10:12 AM

        Truth! Felt it too!!!

    • Boomiee July 4, 2012 at 12:36 PM

      oh mineeeeeeeeee……i dnt even know what to say but to tell God am grateful and thankful for the gift of life i have often taken for granted so so many times…. For this adorable boys,you will live a fulfilled and rewrding life and will bring great joy and succour to all who come in contact with you. You will surely fulfil destiny and your parent will never regret your existence..Am so touched and can hardly breathe.

    • Iny July 4, 2012 at 12:39 PM

      Hmm *speechless* God would give her the grace to raise these boys and they would be a special blessing to her

    • Bliss Okere July 4, 2012 at 12:44 PM

      Happy Anniversary /Birthday to BN, God will continue to make U Bigger, what an inspiring story, I pray d kalejaiye’s will continue to find strength in Jesus…Best wishes to them….

    • Ginika July 4, 2012 at 12:54 PM

      Very inspiring and encouraging to anyone even without such difficulties, especially me.

      Thanks for sharing.

    • Wealthy One July 4, 2012 at 1:02 PM

      Teary eyes right now. God is with your family. He will continue to bless and stregthen you all. your story is a testimony. God bless you forever.

    • Zizie July 4, 2012 at 1:11 PM

      WOW, thats all i can say. I luv your spirit. May God continue to give you the strength to carry on. Congrats Bella Naija on your 6th Anniversary. This story is such a blessing.

    • Mercy July 4, 2012 at 1:12 PM

      I cried when i read this story. it ain’t easy to even accept that your child will be dependent on you their whole life. were she to be in my country she would have a much bitter story to tell. i pray for strength and Gods guidance for her family.

      • Purpleicious Babe July 5, 2012 at 2:15 AM

        @mercy I beg to differ i mean on the dependent part forever. I think children able or disabled are always dependent on their parents esp if they are supportive. I think these boys will actually chose to be daring and live their lives. They are deaf children that actually do normal things and live independent lives. Yep, they will need help but the state helps, well in the UK that is.

        I watched a documentary on BBC I on deaf children(i love documentaries) you will be amazed that some drive, go to school and do their own thing. In fact there was a young lady that went UNI all by herself, she was soo daring and wanted to live. They showed them in a club too having a great time. There is a club for the hearing impaired, basically they feel the vibrations.. isnt it amazing. Well some developed countries do really help anyone suffering from physical,mental disabilities alot more.

        I think these beautiful boys have a purpose to fulfill they might help to shape the disability in developing countries such as Nigeria.. u never know. God has a way of surprising us. xxx x
        Very inspiring story. God will strengthen your family more. thanks for sharing.

        http://lifeinstagesdoz.blogspot.co.uk/

    • olabisi July 4, 2012 at 1:13 PM

      So touching and so emotional for me.The lord will give u nd ur family the strength to carry on.lovely family. it is well wit you and your family dear,we never know wat the future will bring let just be hopeful…………Hmmme

    • Priscy July 4, 2012 at 1:16 PM

      mg…this story is really touching. When u listen to someone else”s story, U will realize dat u r not d only one facing problems in life and dat ur situation may even b beter dan d other person. Thank u for sharing this story. U guys are truly great parents and I pray God will not let u down. God does not let us pass thru things we cannot handle and I believe He is with u and will see u guys thru. God Bless

    • jamar July 4, 2012 at 1:16 PM

      wow…..am speechless. They are so handsome.may God continue to give you strength you need to raise your children well.

    • Tboogie July 4, 2012 at 1:21 PM

      Wow!!! This is soooo touching. Your kids are adorable, God always makes things beautiful in His time.

      Thanks for sharing.

    • Lolade July 4, 2012 at 1:22 PM

      God will surely perfect all that concerns your family, this kids will always be a proof of God’s faithfulness to you & the world. The Lord will uphold you till the end, stay blessed.

    • Rhecks July 4, 2012 at 1:26 PM

      This is a very inspiring story…I am moved beyond words. Thank God for giving the Kalejaiyes strength, hope and hearts of love and gratitude to face such a situation. May God continue to be with you all and bless the boys. The twins are super cute! *kisses*. I couldn’t help but laugh through my tears @ this – they love watching videos on youtube and they can watch the same videos for hours on end! Lolzzz. It is well.

    • Debby July 4, 2012 at 1:26 PM

      So inspired! nothing more to say, may God continue to bless the family.

    • Mz Socially Awkward... July 4, 2012 at 1:30 PM

      Dear BN, I love how your site touches on so many real issues and totally love how you’ve chosen to celebrate your 6th year anniversary!

      What a story about what a mother’s love. I’m so moved by how Oyinkan’s faced her sons’ challenges and definitely now appreciate what charities like Great Ormond Street do for the lives of families all over Britain! It’s a great case for getting my donation.

    • Ebele July 4, 2012 at 1:46 PM

      Congratulation and Happy Anniversary to BN, am a big fan of yours. @Oyinkan Kalejaiye tanks for sharing your story with the world. I can totally relate with you regards the inner strength having been in a similar situation with my daughter (7month premature baby now 4yrs old). God’s abundant mercy grace love……. is my prayer for you.

    • Essay July 4, 2012 at 1:48 PM

      May God bless you and continue to increase you in strength! You and your family will only get the best in this life and for your boys, they are great men…really great!

    • kayrules July 4, 2012 at 2:01 PM

      may God continue to be ur strength and bless you with wisdom to handle ur twins.

    • lala July 4, 2012 at 2:03 PM

      your boys are soooooo handsome, lovely story, definitively had me crying. God bless your family.

    • Brown Suga July 4, 2012 at 2:06 PM

      May Almighty God continue to strengthen you has a mother….and may He continue to provide health for your twin boys in ways u cannot imagine….With God all things are possible…..God is great!!!

    • ojay July 4, 2012 at 2:11 PM

      happy anniversary to BN, wishing u many more fruitful years ahead. av always loved twins and they have an infectious smile. God will keep them and give u the courage to be amazing parents to them. it is well with you and your family.

    • purplepearl July 4, 2012 at 2:18 PM

      Your kids are adorable and i know the future holds even greater things for them. It is my prayer that God will continue to strengthen you. Don’t give up…..God bless you always.

    • shanday July 4, 2012 at 2:31 PM

      Very touching. Your kids are indeed a blessing Oyinkan. They are beautiful. May God continally uphold your family

    • Buki July 4, 2012 at 2:35 PM

      Wow, we always somehow believe that bad things will only happen to other people, when it happens to us, its a really hard pill to swallow. Thanks a lot for sharing your story, its a huge blessing. We never really know how strong we are until we’re faced with difficult situations and we come to terms with finding solutions and moving forward… God bless your family, give your kids continued joy and great health and ultimately accomplish with them what He desires to do. Bless your heart!

    • Missgstar26 July 4, 2012 at 2:42 PM

      What a testimony! May God continue to bless and keep you and your family. He will uphold you with his right hand!

    • kickpolio July 4, 2012 at 2:51 PM

      We take a lot of things for granted..thanks for sharing your story. May Almighty God continue to give you strength for any challenges..Your kids are multiple blessings from God. I must comment on the favor you have to be in a country where the system is working…Remain blessed

    • NICKY July 4, 2012 at 3:08 PM

      very touching story.but there is a reason why everything happen.if u remember the man born blind in the Bible dt was healed by Jesus,his disciples ask him wheda it was the sins of his parents dt made him blind or a curse but Jesus responded he was born blind so dt the when he will be healed God’s glory willbe promoted.To conclude God knows why and he will heal them someday.just keep ur faith high.Read the book of John

    • Alero July 4, 2012 at 3:10 PM

      I love BN! God bless u guys! This story so touching n moved me to tears. It so reminds me of my mom and my brothers. God is indeed with you.

    • cathy July 4, 2012 at 3:21 PM

      we love BN so very much congrats! amazing story

    • Ms.vivian July 4, 2012 at 3:32 PM

      Strength of a woman @ its caring on her cute kids, i pray that God keep strengthen u n ur husband to finish the race n ve d joy at last “once more d boys re gorgeous”

    • lol July 4, 2012 at 3:42 PM

      Kudos to you..May the Lord enrich the boys ib every way, cute kids

    • tinuke July 4, 2012 at 3:50 PM

      Well done madam, you will look back on this day and smile. I have a brother who is over 40. He is deaf and doing great! He has been married to his wife for almost 20 years. They have 3 lovely kids. I know what my mother went through and how difficult it must have been for them, how difficult it may be for you now. Stay strong, those boys will be a positive and joyful wonder to you and the world. thank you for sharing your story

    • InCotonou July 4, 2012 at 3:51 PM

      Thank you Bella, for this story. I have a son who will be one year old in a couple of weeks. I remember how overwhelmed I felt when he was born and how worried I was, obsessed and checking very minute that he was okay, breathing right, eating well, meeting developmental milestones etc… I almost drove myself crazy, and he had absolutely nothing wrong with him. When I read of the extraordinary strength that this Mother had to muster to face this situation, it reminds me of how small some of our problems are, and how big we make them. THANK YOU BELLA. THANK YOU

    • Anonymous July 4, 2012 at 3:53 PM

      Words fail me. As a mother, i really do not know what to say…. I pray God to continue to give you more strength, AMEN..

    • Janded July 4, 2012 at 3:54 PM

      I am deeply touched and encouraged by this. I know first hand how it feels to hear a diagnosis about a child. I wish them the best.

    • Abs July 4, 2012 at 3:56 PM

      This has touched me! May the good Lord continue to grant u strength. The good thing in all of these is the fact that this happened in a country that the needed help is available. Thanks fr sharing your story.

      http://www.abadawoode.blogspot.com

    • Dee July 4, 2012 at 4:05 PM

      Thank you for sharing Oyinkan, May God’s grace and blessings continue to be upon your family IJN!
      ps: They boys are adorable!

    • Ib July 4, 2012 at 4:26 PM

      Awww….Super woman.The Lord is your strength…Im sure u never knew u had the strength in you.God bless you and your family Ma.

    • Nneka July 4, 2012 at 4:30 PM

      you and your family are an inspiration. i am deeply touched by your story and wish your family an abundance of GOD’S BLESSINGS AND FAVOUR. Your boys are extremely cute too : )

    • metblee July 4, 2012 at 4:38 PM

      God bless you…i’m touched,inspired, strengthened

    • Deee July 4, 2012 at 4:38 PM

      This is such an inspiring story! As a person who gre up with major health challenges I know the impact of a stong mother who belives in her children. God gave you his special ones to look after because he knows you will love them and help them to become all he wants them to be. Just like my mother, God will bless you with all you need to take care of them.

    • pynk July 4, 2012 at 4:41 PM

      God bless her and her fam! Bella Naija team, please we need more “human” stories on this site.

    • ABCOG July 4, 2012 at 4:45 PM

      God bless you for sharing this. As a Mum to one, I know how tough it was for me to deal with my son’s Eczema, allergies and small stature and how I much pain it brought me. By God’s grace, he is much better now and we practice our faith by prayer and administering Communion to him daily. But there were the times when it grew worse, when we slept for 2hrs a night and when I broke down and wept bitterly. It’s nothing compared to your story but what I learnt is that God’s grace is sufficient. That even before He heals, His grace and strength are available. He truly was made strong in our weakness. We learnt how to sing His praises in the middle of the storm, in the middle of the night. I admire your resolve and your strength and I re-iterate with you that it is well with your boys in Jesus name. Amen. The blessings upon them will confound the world by His grace. Amen.

      Again, thank you again for sharing.

      • Bukunola July 4, 2012 at 9:33 PM

        I have a son with Eczema and allergies too, and I used to think that it was the worst that could happen to any child until I read this story. Thank God for His mercies over us. Oyinkan, God has given you the strength to keep going and fighting for Oluwatoni and Oluwatosin. I am sure His purpose for their lives will be fulfilled.

        @ABCOG, I am still praying for my son’s healing too.

    • ABCOG July 4, 2012 at 4:48 PM

      Oh! Congratulation BN. Feels like we’ve grown together … :) God bless all that you put your hands to.

    • stephanie July 4, 2012 at 4:54 PM

      God bless the twins.CONGRATULATIONS BELLANAIJA ON YOUR SIXTH YEAR ANNIVERSARY

    • Anonymous July 4, 2012 at 5:00 PM

      Wow, I’m inspired. It made me get up from laying on my bed feeling sorry for myself for something little to thank God for life in general. I appreciate how real you expressed how you truly felt. I thank God for the strength he’s given you Oyinkan, May God continue to keep you strong and have faith in Him to take care of the rest. Thank God, for a country that has all the right medical equipment, a functioning system. Oluwatoni and Oluwatosin says it all, God will continue to bless them as they continue to grow. Handsome boys and beautiful family.

    • alexie July 4, 2012 at 5:09 PM

      Hapi anniversary BN…. Im jst happy dese kids were in d UK where dey would av all d care dey nid, May God keep u 4 ur kids,lovely cute babies u gat

    • xy July 4, 2012 at 5:14 PM

      very touching…It takes a lot of courage to accept a seemingly disappointing fate…so inspired and I pray you will see God’s love through your boys and experience his blessings through your struggles.

    • Pd July 4, 2012 at 5:14 PM

      May Amighty God continue to strengthen you….may ur family remain blessed in Jesus name Amen. Handsome boys….God bless them.

    • Nne Somebody July 4, 2012 at 5:28 PM

      They are so cute and look happy and well-adjusted. Kudos to their mama for loving them so well. God bless the entire family.

    • Anowaoliseh July 4, 2012 at 5:46 PM

      May God continue to give the parents the strenght to carry on with…its not easy at all,but we cant question God…wat a lovelyand handsome boys

    • bukky July 4, 2012 at 5:52 PM

      Touching story but remember God doesn’t give pple wat they can’t handle. he’s your strength and he will uphold you and see you through. this is just the beginning of your testimony, there will be more to follow Amen.

    • nehi July 4, 2012 at 6:44 PM

      Aww…….This story is so much of me………… Lost my hearing at the age of 15, after a very serious illness. Thank God the twins are young and in UK. Unlike me, I grew up in Nigeria and a graduate of Microbiology from O.A.U. It was really hard, I faced lots of discriminations and so much more. When I couldn’t get a job,I had to enroll for a second degree in the U.S and start life afresh, am almost through with my studies and i hope and pray if all goes well, will be able to get a good hearing aid. Thou am in my early 30s, I have never for once given up, cos all my life, I have been fighting this, but I have reached a stage where I believe someday, I will be a role model to people like me.

      • Nonye July 5, 2012 at 10:36 AM

        Nehi your testimony in life will be soooo mighty! I cannot say I understand how you feel, but I have a father who does! Jesus does understand! The world will hear from you. Cheer up and remain strong!

      • Anon July 5, 2012 at 11:57 AM

        And the good Lord will grant your hearts’ desires…Do not give up, if you cld graduate from a University in Nigeria – trust me US is easy breeze…

    • Nwakaego July 4, 2012 at 7:03 PM

      Am so speechless!! This is truly a story that we can all learn from.
      Truly, there is a God up there and may He continue to strengthen this family and also the twins.
      May He provide all they will ever need, very cute kids

    • Precious July 4, 2012 at 9:00 PM

      those boys are beautiful, they are so cute!! I thank God for his grace over yourself and your family. May God continue to grant you more grace and patience because your miracle is coming very soon. You will have even more reasons to give God thanks before the end of this year, In Jesus Name, Amen.

    • kelly July 4, 2012 at 9:04 PM

      Oyikan and Tunde thank God the stress you went through didn’t break you as a couple. The Lord is your strength and your lovely twin boys are marked for greatness.

    • MEE July 4, 2012 at 9:09 PM

      Amen amen,amen,amen n a countless Amen to all the above prayers! Am inspired! Tanx for sharing oyinkan! Ure are WOMAN personified!!! Tanx bella naija for being there all dis years.manymore years .

    • tp July 4, 2012 at 9:15 PM

      beautiful story! May God bless Tosin & Tonia and make them mighty men with bright futures… and may He continue to bless and keep your family.

    • OmoIbadan July 4, 2012 at 9:50 PM

      may God Almighty continue to guide you and your family. My brother is hard of hearing, took my family 6years to learn that thanks to UCH. He wasnt born this way but we had a housegirl who made him fall at 9months and she never mentioned anything until He had a bad fever and eventually caught and infection- Meningitis. He lost 50 percent in one ear and 70 percent in the other. He is 28 yrs today and even thought this challenge affected his speech and hearing, my brother is a graduated with a B.sc in Accounting and Business Management. Everyday, we thank God for him, He makes us proud!

    • Dots July 4, 2012 at 10:17 PM

      God does not always heal us miraculously but he always provide us with the strength to deal with our situation. I pray God continues to strengthen you and your family. The boys sure will forever appreciate your love and care.

    • Tosin July 4, 2012 at 10:39 PM

      Oyinkan – thank you for sharing your story! I am deeply moved. God has clearly been doing a deep work in your heart. I applaud you for yielding to Him and for caring very deeply for the three wonderful gifts he has placed in your hands. I pray that God will continue to bless your entire family – that He will supply ALL your needs (material, spiritual and emotional). I pray that your wonderful boys will grow in strength and that they never see themselves as limited but will know that with God they can do anything. God bless you.

    • Nana Afia July 5, 2012 at 1:38 AM

      read on food combining at http://www.greatastenopain.com. You might learn something new that will help the twins fight of infections

    • Layemi July 5, 2012 at 2:24 AM

      Oyinkan, I’m sooo proud of you and your family for not giving up!! It’s great to know you are doing well and your story is very inspiring. May God continue to grant you the grace to be the most supportive parents that you can be to the boys.

    • Flo July 5, 2012 at 4:28 AM

      Tears eyes!!! They are made for greatness!! May God bless your home. Congrats BN!!

    • Ades July 5, 2012 at 5:46 AM

      May God continue to strengthen and bless u. Your sons will grow up to be fulfilled young men in Jesus name. Amen.

    • onyemalu uchechi July 5, 2012 at 6:04 AM

      Wahooo, I cnt stop crying , father dis boys r the cutest tin I hv ever set my eyes upon
      Dy r beautiful.may God continue to giv U̶̲̥̅̊ d strength,n the courage U̶̲̥̅̊ need in life in order to toke kia of these
      Kids.may ‎​Ūя̲̅ family alwaz b filled wt lov n may God guide ‎​Ūя̲̅ hubby n give him strength to also deal wt each
      Situations.may ‎​Ūя̲̅ family b blessd beyond measure,swithart those little ones wt make U̶̲̥̅̊ proud n will
      Announce to the word,its alredy happening I cn feel it inside me.much lov

    • hephzibah July 5, 2012 at 8:14 AM

      In our moments of weaknesses, may Yahweh provide strength, give us beauty for ashes. And grace to forever be thankful. God bless all the charity organisations and NGO’s touching lives and providing support. Happy Anniversary Bella Naija! Grow more in excellence. God bless your Boys Oyikan.

    • Couture By Makioba July 5, 2012 at 9:56 AM

      OMG beautiful children…….

    • Favour July 5, 2012 at 9:59 AM

      I believed so much that God has special plans for them. He has kept them all thru. Thanks for sharing and may He give you more strength. Amen. God bless ur family.

    • Kofo July 5, 2012 at 10:01 AM

      As a mum you inspire me. Your boys are beautiful and wonderful and they shall be great. God bless you and your family.

    • Nneka July 5, 2012 at 10:14 AM

      Amazing. Am so grateful to God for giving you the grace and strength to STAND in the face of adversity. I can identify with you as I am in a similar circumstance – standing up to ASD instead. We didn’t ask for it, we hope against it but when confronted, we dust off and renew our strength in Him and confront. The situation heads on. I will continue to uphold the boys

    • Juddymak July 5, 2012 at 10:21 AM

      The
      Lord is your strength dear, they are lucky to have you as a mother and the support system you have is incredible, thank you for sharing your testimony with me

    • Seun July 5, 2012 at 10:31 AM

      Wow. The Lord is with you always. Pls continue to hang in there. Your boys will be great IJN.

      Congrats BN Team. am a big fan of your website

    • patience. July 5, 2012 at 10:54 AM

      common words can not explain how i have been educated after reading the story.am a mother and i know how it feels like when your child isn’t feeling well let alone the child experience a chronic health issue. i know God has reason and a purpose for this boys that as parents, family,and the society might not understand now but in due course things will fall in the right perspective and we will understand the will of God. God bless this family that they may live to see the hand work of God in the lives of the their children.

    • oluwaseun July 5, 2012 at 10:57 AM

      wooooow!!!!am short of words,am shedding tears!!!God is AWESOME
      Happy anniversary!!!u rock

    • bimboolar July 5, 2012 at 11:05 AM

      The good lord who has brought your family this far will neither leave nor forsake you. He will continually surround you with His goodness and mercies IJNA!

    • OGY July 5, 2012 at 11:21 AM

      WAO! inspiring story

    • Laiza Lounge July 5, 2012 at 11:46 AM

      This is just amazing. I thank God for the kind of parents they have. It’s not enough to panic and do nothing, we still have the responsibilities to act and make things better. These twins will continue being a blessing…God will indeed work in and through them

    • Jay July 5, 2012 at 12:45 PM

      This is just too inspiring. Thank God for giving you such strength at a time like this. The boys are cute. I know God will perfect all that concerns them and cause them to fulfil their destiny. It is well with them. Thanks for being there for them always.

    • CHIKA July 5, 2012 at 1:17 PM

      I know God has a reason 4 dis,may the almighty God who has given you the strenth to come this far ,give you a miracle that will surpass your wildest imagination.Just be glad you have them.

    • Angie July 5, 2012 at 1:28 PM

      @ Oyinkan…You were specially selected by God to do this work. To bring up these awesome children of testimony and to reach out to many who are in pain over minor and major afflictions of their children. It is well with you and if the Lord tarries in his coming, we will all hear the great stories of ‘Toni and ‘Tosin, in Jesus name, amen. It is well with you and yours. Happy Anniversary BN!!!

    • Madam the Madam July 5, 2012 at 2:32 PM

      Such an inspiting and amazing story, and your boys are beyond cute. I believe that they will grow up and achieve more greatness than you ever imagined. May God continue to give you and your family the strength, resources and support to deal. I am thankful that they are abroad, the western world has so many opportunities for people with handicaps, and that is truly awesome. Remain blessed and thank you so much for sharing :-)

    • NKELLY July 5, 2012 at 2:44 PM

      They are so adorable and God will continue to strenghten you to care for them.

    • Traditionalbay July 5, 2012 at 3:36 PM

      they are toooo cute to be called deaf. Those boys will hear someday! i just know it. Keep winning Kalejaiye’s!

    • Oyinkan Kalejaiye July 5, 2012 at 5:36 PM

      Thank you all so much for your lovely comments, kind words and prayers. Tunde and I are so touched…Thank you! Thank you! Thank you! God bless and keep you all. Lots of love from Tunde, Oyinkan, Seni, Toni and Tosin xxxx

      • Bisi July 6, 2012 at 10:21 AM

        Kalejaiye family is such a beautiful family..As a Nigerian mum of two kids with special needs also based in UK, i can connect to a lot of the things you mentioned. You are right in saying that parents shouldn’t just dwell in denial, they should be strong for their kids..special or not, our kids themselves are usually fighters, they dont give up and they need all the love and care always. i run a successful business today and its because my kids inspire me daily and people still ask me daily how i cope. i dont cope, i just live and enjoy my new life with my special kids. you always get used to situations as they grow!

    • konnie July 5, 2012 at 7:09 PM

      Goos lookinf children. God is wonderful. Nothing stops them from being the next head of state or neuclear scientist of their generation.
      The smiles on their faces will bring a smile to any mother or dad or persons heart.

    • Uche July 5, 2012 at 8:54 PM

      God bless you and your wonderful family…what an inspiring story..thanks for sharing!

    • Lola July 5, 2012 at 8:59 PM

      Gorgeous boys! They look so much like my son. And that Seni looks like one heck of a great big brother. May God keep them for you and you for them. They shall not die, but they shall live to see the glory of the most high God in every aspect of their lives. They WILL make you proud. Cheers and keep being such an inspirational mother…you, and only you, could have been their mommy! May God continue to give you ALL you need to make their lives beautiful. xoxo

    • God's own July 5, 2012 at 10:03 PM

      God bless you and your entire family oyinkan. The lord is with you all. Trust him!
      Happy 6th anniversary BN, great great job! more grease to your elbow!

    • Nok10 July 5, 2012 at 10:24 PM

      God will never give you more than you can handle. The boys look great and you’re doing a great job. May they continue to be a source of joy to you and your family, amen.

    • sweet mama July 6, 2012 at 12:20 AM

      Aww God Bless your Family Dear
      http://www.sweetmothermag.com/

    • Ajoke July 6, 2012 at 1:41 AM

      I always cry when I read things like this…beautiful story

    • oluwaseunfunmi July 6, 2012 at 4:02 AM

      total breakthrough is what the lord will grant the family.

    • Hadassah July 6, 2012 at 11:41 AM

      wow….Totally incredible story and inspiring. God bless the entire family. special appreciation to oyinkan and her hubby and oluwaseni. It cant have been easy for you all.

    • MmaYambiu July 6, 2012 at 1:43 PM

      Ur story really touched me and u r blessed to have ur 2boys. I had identical twin boys as well and discovered we had TTTS, had laser surgery on them while 4months pregnant bcos d Drs in d Uk wnt let u continue ur pregnancy without havn laser treatment done. Lost d 1st twin at 7monyths and went into labour 5days after. I delivered them but only Oluwademilade is here Oluwamayomikun is in heaven.i tnk God cos i wld hve lost them both. Its well with ur family. Stay Blessed.

    • franky July 6, 2012 at 9:03 PM

      Touch story indeed, God bless u bellanaija 4 posting such. “They shall never walk alone indeed”God be their stren

    • TONIA July 6, 2012 at 11:51 PM

      YOU JUST GAVE ME HOPE

    • omada July 7, 2012 at 12:08 AM

      so inspired. such an amazing story! God will be glorified in their lives!

    • cynthy_amadi July 7, 2012 at 3:49 PM

      I read this and saw tears rolling down my eyes, i cried not bcuz i can feel evn half of what they felt but bcuz of the blessings of God in my life and lives of my family and friends we often overlook until we see the challenges of others then we appreciate life more. We dont ray for the worst tinz but @ the same time we pray for the strenght to carry on when the worst tinz happen.

    • mara July 7, 2012 at 7:32 PM

      wow what a story. your strength is truly inspiring given the day to day challenges u have to tackle. i pray that God’s strength will be perfected in your weakness. I love how u advised individuals in similar situation to be angry, disappointed etc…and then get back up and fight. often times we tend to spiritualize everything that we deny ourselves the right feel the gamut of emotions that comes with life. It’s ok to cry bcos it cleanses the soul. keeping it bottled up inside will only compound matter and leave u frustrated with God. get it out of ur system and get back up….u have the power within u rise above the challenges, u just to have to tap into it. may God bless you and family abundantly, your story shines the light at the end of tunnel for somebody reading today. In spite of your challenges, you are truly blessed, so remain blessed.

    • kaffie July 8, 2012 at 1:00 PM

      i Thank God for the twins i wonder wat would have happened if they were born on obodo NIGERIA

    • faith July 8, 2012 at 3:44 PM

      thank God all these happened in the UK….DATS ALL I AV TO SAY COS IF TO SAY NA NAIJA E FOR B ENTIRLY differnt and sorrowful….congrats bn on yor 6th anniversary

    • ada July 9, 2012 at 8:52 AM

      may the Lord bless and keep you and your family and may He continually make His face to shine upon you and give you peace. your boys are truly shining stars. happy birthday BN, keep up the good work.

    • TJ July 9, 2012 at 4:44 PM

      Wow!! Wow!! All I can say is “wow!” God bless you and may He continue to give the strength, grace, resources and wisdom to bring these boys up. You have done well.

    • God'sgrace July 9, 2012 at 5:15 PM

      “I have to say, our Toni is a little fighter”

      This brought tears to my eyes. It breaks my heart to see when babies, children go through problems they have no control of, and you will see them fighting for their life. God is awesome, how he gives them strength from young. Oluwatoni=The God that you have, Oluwatosin=The God that you serve/worship, I don’t know what better names to describe God’s blessings on these boys lives. Oyinkan, thank you for sharing your story. I’m speechless. God will not give us what we can’t handle, even when we feel like all hope is gone, HE shows up in unexpected ways. Thank God, you received the help and support medically that was much needed. God bless you and Tunde, I pray God will continue to give you the strength and courage to be strong for Toni and Tosin. I have no doubt, the same God that has brought them this far will continue to keep them. I don’t know this family personally but I feel like their family and will keep them in my prayers.

    • me yay July 9, 2012 at 7:06 PM

      God is good… he will continue to guide you and give you and your family strength and joy…very inspiring story

    • AfroCosmo July 9, 2012 at 10:10 PM

      Very sad and touching. You are a strong woman. God has given you the strength to stay strong for your kids and my prayer is for him to continue to guide and strengthen you to enable give them the best you can. God is with you and those kids are really adorable. Stay blessed and keep on holding faith.

    • Funmie July 10, 2012 at 3:27 AM

      Blessing in disguise! they are angels sent from above to show you how strong you are. pls continue to take good care of them. God is ur strength.

      and oh, they are so so so so cute! i just want to kiss them all over.

    • Tyalo July 10, 2012 at 1:27 PM

      Inspiring

    • Ola July 10, 2012 at 5:37 PM

      To the Kalejaiye Family, thank you and God bless you for sharing your story. Your story is filled with hope and encouragement for all that are going through situations that they never imagined would happen to them…My prayer for your entire household is that God will strengthen you all – daddy, mummy and the 3 boys, every step of the way. Thank you once again for letting us into your world…

    • Ify July 11, 2012 at 12:08 PM

      Oyinkan I hope you get this. Your story is a very inspiring one but I can assure you that there is light at the end of the tunnel. I am a member of Christ Embassy not only a member but also a staff of the church. Your boys can be totally whole again! Don’t get me wrong, they are beautiful and wonderful the way they are but it can get better. In my church we have what we call THE HEALING SCHOOL. It’s a school where people that need healing attend for a short period of time to hear Gods’ word that will prepare them for their healing(you can attend with your boys and get your faith built up for them to receive their healing). After this, on a particular day, Pastor Chris who is the Pastor of Christ Embassy will come and minister healing to them by the power of the Holy Ghost. It’s totally free of charge and i can assure you that if your boys should attend, their lives will never be the same again. They will be healed of all infirmity. For more information you can visit http://www.enterthehealingschool.org. God bless you and your family.

    • Ayodele July 11, 2012 at 1:33 PM

      Wow! i was moved to tears. God will continue to strengthen this family. Oyinkan your story has thought me a lot. Truly inspiring.

    • seun Kush July 12, 2012 at 1:58 PM

      This is so touching , cant stop crying … God will perfect their healing.

    • Phewizzy July 12, 2012 at 7:03 PM

      Inspiring story, touchn and it shows how much God is still God. Wht I dnt get is why she’s taken all d glory.. Is her husband nt doing anything to help?? Tis lyk u r doing all d work.. Wile he does notin.. A lil appreciation for hs support wld hv been monumental… Cos I assume he hs been a pillar of strength thru all dis too.. Appreciate ur hubby madam… And let ur kids knw dt he is also encouraging nd helping u thru all dis.. In the end.. It’ll be well wt ur family

    • Mumscentre July 13, 2012 at 6:00 PM

      What an inspiring story. Oyinkan and her family are truly amazing. May GOD continue to bless them and may they never lack the strength and love of GOD, family and friends. I agree with Purpleicious Babe I saw the documentary too, which just goes to show that you can do anything with determination and support even with a disability and this doesn’t necessarily mean you will be dependent all your life. Thanks to the western world and advance of medicine a lot of things have changed and improved. I hope we can all work together to make our country “Nigeria” and all other developing countries a more accepting and encouraging place for people with disabilities. Happy 6th year anniversary BN and lots of love to the beautiful Kalejaiye family.

      From Shile with love
      http://www.mumscentre.blogspot.co.uk

    • obi July 20, 2012 at 10:17 AM

      may God Almighty who had brought you thus far continue to strenghten and uphold you and your family, the twins will exceed all your expectations and will be asource of pride to you and your family in Jesus Name Amen.

      • Blessing Aigbodion July 27, 2012 at 1:29 PM

        wow what a touching story, the Lord will continue to strengthen you, bless your family and give the kids wisdom,knowledge above all understanding in all aspect of their lives.

    • Blessing Aigbodion July 27, 2012 at 1:31 PM

      wow what a touching story, the Lord will continue to strengthen you, bless your family and give the kids wisdom,knowledge above all understanding in all aspect of their lives.They will all exceed above human expectations.

    • oyin July 27, 2012 at 2:58 PM

      I thank God for the life of these pweety twins, there is really something special about them that we unfold really soon. thank God for giving the mother the required strength.

    • esther July 31, 2012 at 12:24 AM

      I just want to grab them and kiss them all over . They ae too cute.GOD BLESS YOU FOR THIS CUTE BABIES. it is well.

    • Noms August 7, 2012 at 6:04 PM

      Thanks for sharing your story with us. I have tears in my eyes and goose bumps all over my body. I’m not a mother yet or even married but i want to have twins when i marry. Your story just open my eyes more . . .I just want you and your family to keep holding on,our God is faithful and knows the end from the beginning. He will continue to strengthen you and i believe this is just the 1st phase of your testimonies cos more and more are yet to come. God bless your family,friends and whoever has been of help to you and your boys.

    • Taiwo August 18, 2012 at 7:31 PM

      This story brought tears to my eyes, one thingi am happy about is they are twins and so they have got. Each other. Nothing like that. I am a twin and so. Understand the blessing of having a compulsory best friend. God bless your home Oyinkan and Tunde Kalejaiye!

    • evelyn September 24, 2012 at 10:33 PM

      may the Lord continue to give you strenght! you have a beautiful family and the devil cannot take your joy away from you

    • oluwatoyin October 5, 2012 at 10:46 PM

      oyinkansola,that’s how i call my daughter too.Honestly i dont know how to start but i REALLY ,appreciate you as mother and wjfe.ALMIGHTY GOD WILL NOT LEAVE NOR FORSAKE YOU.HE WILL CONTINUE TO GUIDE,PROTECT. AND BE WITH YOUR ENTIRE HOUSEHOLD.AS A MOTHER AND GRANDMOM I KNOW WHAT YOU RE TALKING ABOUT,VE GONE THRU IT.LORD THAT BROUGHT YOU AND YOUR HUBBY THIS FAR WILL UPHOLD AND STRENGHTEN BOTH OF YOU.PHYSICALLY IS WELL WITH YOUR FAMILY,SPIRITUALLY IS WELL WITH YOUR FAMILY,EMOTIONALLY IS WELL WITH YOU AND YOUR HUSBAND.I WISH TO KNOW YOU BETTER.CONTINUE WITH YOUR PRAYERS.TUNDE,THANKS VERY MUCH FOR YOUR CARE,LOVE AND UNDERSTANDING,OLUWA A WA PELU EH.SENI,TONI AND TOSIN,ALMIGHTY GOD WILL SOAK YOU IN HIS BLOOD,HE WILL GIVE YOU ALL WISDOM,KNOWLEDGE AND UNDERSTANDING.THREE OF YOU WILL EXCEL.NO WEAPON FASHION AGAINST THREE OF YOU,UR PARENT SHALL NOT PROSPER.OLUWA A DA YIN SI FUN AWON OBI YIN MEJEJI. TUNDE AND OYINKAN ADURA YIN TI GBA

    • kelechi November 8, 2012 at 3:58 PM

      What a ‘Wow’ story.Am a twin 2 and a chronic Stammerer nd my twin Sis is not.I thought God was so unfair 2 me,but as years go by,i begin 2 appreciate God 4 his grace.I pray God 2 make the boys strong men.Well done Woman of Strength.