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On Becoming a Man: Just. One. More. Push!



It’s the 181st day of the year and most of us are due for a mid-year review. It is time to check the books and get weighed on different scales – career, family, faith, health, relationships, business, finance and investment. Many will shudder and be forced to listen to the inevitable: “You have been weighed. You have been measured. You have been found wanting!” Others will receive the “thank you” note, possibly with some bonus and a thick cheque for their stellar performance. For the prudent and the spendthrift, bank account balance and statements will tell the tale. Incessant phone calls from creditors can give a defaulting family man a heart attack…

Hopefully, there would still be reprieve for the workers who have failed to meet organizational targets. Maybe it’s not totally their fault, but the manager has spoken, “This must not repeat itself, stupid. This is your last warning!” Some heads are high and looking up; others are heavy and hanging downwards in shame and tears. Everyone has put in efforts, but not everyone is there yet. You have invested a lot and the returns have been low and slow in coming back to you. Hold on, today’s post is for you – a quick one.

Have you ever failed? ever been at the end of your tether? Not every situation requires that you go start from the beginning again. What if you have only been trying to get a different result by repeating the same routine procedures; you might not need to reformat your stuff or destroy what you’ve got now. All you need could just be to tweak your system and style of doing things a little bit. Take a step back and relax. Breathe in and let the air out slowly. Be bold and courageous. Banish fear and inertia by focusing on inner peace. Do remember: a bold face is not equivalent to boldness!

Many of our failures are often vestiges of times and challenges past. Like the experimental fishes that were caged within a glass boundary – we soon get used to old obstacles that we fail to realize when they are removed. We refuse to push one more time and fail to ride on the wings of success. There are glass ceilings to shatter and there are territories yet unconquered. Please, take note.

Today, friend, refuse to let your circumstances fool you. They can’t steal your joy. Don’t let the challenges blindfold you. See through it all; yank off that dark veil and do have a rethink. This is not the time for you to put down your tools and give up in the pursuit of your goals. They don’t have to be reasonable to everyone; not all the time. Come on! You have come ‘a mighty long way’ – through trials and tribulations; sorrow and pain; famine and abundance.

Have you heard of the man who could not achieve much with his inherited land and ended up selling it off at a paltry sum, just to meet his basic needs? When the buyer later found a gold mine therein, this man could not stand the humiliation he faced in the neighbourhood. He took his own life. Of course, that could not have been the way forward. You most probably heard that gist before. Please, don’t lose sight of the lessons. Stick to your plan and don’t give up for flimsy reasons. l love to see you succeed. Give it your best shot yet.

Just. One. More. Push!

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Gbenga Awomodu is an Editorial Assistant at Bainstone Ltd./ When he is not reading or writing, Gbenga is listening to good music or playing the piano. Follow him on Twitter: @gbengaawomodu | Gbenga’s Notebook: | Facebook Page: Gbenga Awomodu

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    June 29, 2012 at 2:24 pm

    AMEN brother

  2. Abs

    June 29, 2012 at 2:37 pm

    Well I couldn’t wait till mid-year to kick my bank job at the unmentionable. I’m always going to remember May,2012. got tired of striving to meet target every year. I’m a better person now that I’m out that ‘prison’. Taking life at my own pace without any pressure! Life’s just too short. Great piece!

  3. efe

    June 29, 2012 at 2:52 pm

    This is very encouraging,we all need this and more at this time,where one cannot just explain the happenings around us,we do and put in so much and then the returns are not encouraging but we should never give up and learn the lessons that come with the challenges,that will be relevant at the next level which is at the TOP.see u there

  4. 3pleee

    June 29, 2012 at 2:54 pm


  5. Chi-ka

    June 29, 2012 at 3:39 pm

    “we soon get used to old obstacles that we fail to realize when they are removed.” soooo true! Sometimes the obstacles are no longer there and we don’t even realize it. Just one more push indeed! Great article. 🙂

  6. Myne Whitman

    June 29, 2012 at 5:08 pm

    Thanks for sharing!

  7. Omoze

    June 29, 2012 at 5:57 pm

    God bless you always in Jesus Christ name amen! And if you are a Catholic, may our mother Mary intercede for you, and lend weight to you prayers, before her son, Jesus Christ amen

  8. ritzmisan

    June 29, 2012 at 9:48 pm

    God bless you for this piece i sooo much appreciate.

  9. Olulu, the KIng not from Zulu

    June 29, 2012 at 11:33 pm

    hmmm, oro ododo.

  10. lekan

    June 30, 2012 at 1:50 am

    This is indeed a very good write-up,which will definitly gear one up towards going back 2 ones’ drawing table 2 try to make real some of what has been written at the begining of d year as newyear resolution. May God help us!

  11. Michelle

    June 30, 2012 at 9:52 am

    God bless you 🙂 real good. Keep up the good work, keep keeping on everyone, on the right track!

  12. Tonia

    June 30, 2012 at 3:23 pm

    Tnk fr d writeup it seems u know exactly wts in my heart. Tnx fr d spirit lifting.

  13. iamfascinating

    July 1, 2012 at 4:39 pm

    another great article. Thank you.

  14. Pd

    July 1, 2012 at 11:50 pm

    Word…..thank u!

  15. Priscy

    July 2, 2012 at 11:01 am

    Thank you for this

  16. Jen Poet

    July 2, 2012 at 6:37 pm

    Thanks for sharing!!!

  17. MEE

    July 2, 2012 at 11:14 pm


  18. uniquelyisi

    August 3, 2012 at 2:46 pm

    Thank u!

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