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Read Peculiar Okafor’s Stirring Ode to her Best Friend, Amarachi on Her Birthday Today



‘The first time I heard that term ‘boy magnet’, it was used to describe a girl who seemed to attract boys like honey to bees’; there is no other  person who brings this saying to life than my bestie Amarachi (Mama like her close friends and family call her.)

We met in SS1 and have been inseparable since then. In school, she was the most sought after by all the guys but Mama wasn’t just another fair, beautiful girl. She had a sweet spirit and loved to celebrate everyone around her. She would celebrate every achievement and stride no matter how insignificant you thought it was. Your success was her success.

Another thing about her is the unique ability to remember the little details; she has never forgotten any of my birthdays ( The last birthday I remembered was in SS3), in school, she would always buy me a wafer because she knew they were my favorites. As we have grown older, you would see Mama change a channel or a subject because she remembers someone doesn’t like it.

Mama also possesses huge amount of tact;  you know that saying that Nigerian woman love to give sanctimonious advice? Mama doesn’t have that problem at all. She is skilled in picking the right place, time and tone to offer advice.

Mama is someone who is always there for you. When I lost my dad, she was in my house early the next day, even though we hadn’t seen in a while. She also encourages me to hone whatever skill I have; she told me about writing for Bella.

Mama is focused without being obnoxious about it; she parties, enjoys life and still sticks to her plans. She also believes in letting life happen.

Mama doesn’t seek attention or praise, neither is she is afraid of criticism. She is not one of those people so used to being complimented that they are uncomfortable if they aren’t noticed. Mama is comfortable in her own skin and doesn’t try to make people like her- she just is. She has perfected the art of serenity and harmony with herself and everything around her.

She is a good person, friend and confidante but she is not one of those good people who rub their niceness in your face. No, she is good for goodness sake, a friend for friendship sake and one who gives for giving sake. And because of this, because she loves herself and others without expecting anything in return, except the fulfillment of knowing she has done the right thing, she is not just a boy magnet but a people magnet as well.

So today, 4th of May 2015, I celebrate my bestie of life. Amarachi Uche Roseline Alisiobi – AURA as your initials form, your aura is a good one.

You are one strong woman and it’s an honor to be your friend. I’m ecstatic you were born.

Peculiar is a Marketing communications personnel, she believes that one can have a full life without being bitchy and she wants it all 'A good career, love, laughter, wealth, you name it. She blogs at Follow her on Instagram @daworkdiva and Facebook ''


  1. amara

    May 4, 2015 at 6:27 pm

    woooah. ..pecs you’re awesome… you loads. Thanks ….I’m blushing

    • Dipsy

      May 5, 2015 at 8:39 am

      If i didn’t know both of you back then, I would have said this is just one of those sweet things people write on bellanaija… Beautifully articulated @Peculiar… I just hope you’d write something like this on my birthday too ***wink ?

    • Peculiar Okafor

      May 5, 2015 at 10:02 am

      Why Do I have a feeling Dipsy is Dipo(ng). I agree, Mama and I have come a long way.

      As per writing you an ode. Naaaah, only the bestie gets that. (sorry)

  2. Duchess Maria

    May 4, 2015 at 6:32 pm

    Nice tribute…but did you say that the last birthday of hers that you remember was in SS3? Girl, that one don pass forgetfulness o. As her best friend you are supposed to know her birthday too, like the back of your hand. It’s not that difficult so vow to do better in the future.

    If I misread or misunderstood, then my bad.

    • Peculiar Okafor

      May 4, 2015 at 7:13 pm

      My dear eh. It’s really embarrassing. This ode is in a way, an apology.

  3. D.K

    May 4, 2015 at 6:36 pm

    This here decribes all Amarachi is. Of course she’s much more. Happy birthday pizzaere. You are simply awesome. I’m glad to have you as my bff!

  4. Neme

    May 4, 2015 at 6:39 pm

    Mama ko. Neme ni. Mtchew. :p

  5. Amara

    May 4, 2015 at 6:41 pm

    Happy birthday Amara. God bless you.

  6. emma

    May 4, 2015 at 6:47 pm

    HBD Amah!!!

  7. Delove

    May 4, 2015 at 6:57 pm

    Poetically….well scripted to make everyone fall in love and would want to meet such an elegant nature. Happy birthday my newest friend. And to you Peculiar I hope I meet you so that I can get such an awesome gift from you too….winks

  8. Amara

    May 4, 2015 at 7:01 pm

    Happy birthday namesake. Is like we are all d same all.

  9. Onyi

    May 4, 2015 at 7:05 pm

    Lovely piece from a lovely friend. I like.Happy birthday Ama,live long and prosper. Have a blast dear

  10. @edDREAMZ

    May 4, 2015 at 7:13 pm

    Niceone gal…

    • Tami

      May 5, 2015 at 2:28 pm

      Jezzz must you comment on every post? Please what do you do for a living?

  11. Bowale

    May 4, 2015 at 7:18 pm

    I agree with everything she has said.. Amara is a wonderful lady… HBD dear…

  12. Benjamin

    May 4, 2015 at 7:39 pm

    True story, amara is a wonderful lady. Happy birthday amara, God bless u with all your favourite things.

  13. Prince Chioke

    May 4, 2015 at 7:49 pm

    Nice piece. Hbd Mama!

  14. ariyo

    May 4, 2015 at 7:59 pm

    Happy bday Amara.. You rock always. I can relate to that

  15. ifeanyi

    May 4, 2015 at 8:25 pm

    This is a very good write up about a good friend amara. Everyone has one good thing to say about amara. Peculiar you did not lie. Amara is a wonderful woman. An epitome of beauty. Am proud to be associated with her. HBD Amara. WULLNP. Cheers

  16. Ceekay

    May 5, 2015 at 8:43 am

    Amawa, this article does little justice to describing the beautiful person that you are, as your worth can never be overstated. May God continually bless all that you hold dear and grant all your heart’s desires. Happy Birthday me darling!!!

  17. Nike

    May 5, 2015 at 2:38 pm

    Beautifully written, got me enchanted to the last paragraph. HBD….. Nice work!

  18. Ifeamaka

    May 5, 2015 at 4:20 pm

    Awwww….. *jealous*

  19. Ozi

    May 5, 2015 at 9:24 pm

    It was a relatively short time, i was notting close to her bestie but i felt her presence. hmmmmm and the trip to erin ijesha dat year!……..she is awesome

  20. Viv

    May 6, 2015 at 9:27 am

    You should have at least put up a picture of this “Oh so wonderful ” Mama

    • amebo

      May 6, 2015 at 3:25 pm

      whose picture do you think is up there?

  21. olamide

    May 7, 2015 at 10:50 am

    Nice one Peculiar……now I know you weren’t in a debte club for nothing back then. I’d always think you were better off in a commercial rather than a. Science class……I guess I was right. Amarachi, hmmmn I remember her fast reading skills (tho, I always wonder how she does that. It was hard to share a novel with her cos she would finish a page before you finish the 3rd line!) Nd she was friendly…..happier days ahead.

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