The New Year is upon us and everyone is super hyped on their resolutions. From losing weight, starting a business, going on trips to Hawaii and the Maldives, to growing a new brand – we’ve all been swamped with whispers of so many goals from our friends, family and even randomly on the internet.
However, setting goals are as important as creating a strong support circle that will help you achieve your goals. Having a supportive team and staying away from toxic people will most likely help you achieve more this year.
Toxic people generally do not understand the value of your goals or opinions, and thereby create strife, stress and a negative environment.
I’ve learnt that these set of people will do their best to bring you down, even unconsciously because they’ve allowed a negative mindset and culture to dominate their subconscious.
However, it’s possible to overcome their vibes this year by spotting them right before they conquer you. Let’s look at five kinds of people you should stay away from this year if you really want to manifest your dreams.
The first on the list is:
Sometimes dream crashers are actually people closest to us. This fact, I’ve come to learn over the years through my person experiences. While you might be enthusiastic about your vision and dreams, you must understand that not everyone will connect with it.
In fact, some might think you’re probably not thinking right. And they’re ready to rain hail and brimstone to show you reasons why you can’t achieve those dreams. Most dreams die on their door steps just by sharing them with the wrong people.
You must understand that not everyone cares about you or wants the best for you. Some people don’t even have a vision for their lives so they don’t feel the inner drive most purpose-driven people.
And since they can’t understand this drive, they’ll unconsciously drag you down their path of purposelessness.
Be clever enough to sight them from afar and find the fastest exit route.
You need to maintain healthy and concrete relationships while giving zero concern to people who are experts at draining your energy, time and mental strength.
If you’re constantly surrounded by people who don’t support your dreams, but are always ready to take up space while remaining stagnant in their lives, then you’ll eventually become like them.
Be careful with people you hang around with because in order to fulfil your dreams, you’ll need the right energy to constantly inspire and motivate you.
You know those that always have something negative to say about everything and everyone? We see them all around us, even on social media, on blog comments and sometimes in our inner circles.
It’s important to guard yourself from them and don’t allow them to keep feeding you with their negative venoms and short sighted mindsets. Protect yourself and inner circle from naysayers that could hurt your goals this year.
“Oh Yes” Members
There’s a popular quote that says, “If you’re the smartest person in the room, you are in the wrong room”.
It’s very easy to stay comfortable around people who don’t challenge you to become the best version of yourself. What’s most heart-breaking is the fact that they say YES to every single opinion or question you put out there even when it won’t positively impact your life, just to stay on your side.
Now don’t get me wrong, it’s absolutely great to have people stand by you and support your opinions. However this shouldn’t be done at the expense of your next level, especially if you’re determined to grow and make changes this year.
You need people who are willing to be honest with you and also give you relevant feedback and constructive criticism because they desire to see you move higher.
Going to a higher level requires that you challenge yourself, learn new things, change your belief systems and sometimes change strategies. You’ll need to surround yourself with people who challenge you and help you grow in life, business and all round.
The Users and Parasites
From personal experience, I’ve been bullied in high school and I know how it feels like to be used by someone. There are always those toxic people who derive joy in using people and leaving them worse than they met them.
What’s most annoying about this act is the fact that they keep feeding from all the valuable goodness you have to offer, and then leave you hurt.
Don’t let them feed into you this year. But instead focus on those who help improve your general wellbeing as you also add value to them.
It’s time to leave these kinds of people listed above and stay connected to those that desire to see you grow and achieve more greatness this year.
If you recognize that certain people are draining your energy, discouraging you from your dreams, intentionally using you for their selfish desires, and generally always ready to crash your dreams – then it’s time to separate yourself from them and connect with the right people.
If you have such friends, you’ve got to let them go this year to move forward in life.
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