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Uju Chukwu: You are Your Happiness

Uju Chukwu



dreamstime_l_22510151Our mind is a labour room, pregnant with the ideas we feed it till its birth.  Most actions we take in our conscious state comes from the mind.

How does the mind relate with our happiness?

One thing to note is “You are in charge of your happiness, your environment is not. YYour body is not only You”.

The process you let get into your mind is what the body executes.

Using a lady as an example: most or all of us love our hair (natural or fixed), imagine getting that hair you admired 3 months ago as a gift from a friend who has really upset you,  that seems like  the best thing.  But how then do you feel, you feel so so excited, because you start imagining how beautiful the hair will look and the style you will make, some of us even go as far as imaging what that boy that has been admiring us for a while now will do when he sees us and some of us will want to fix it in a way that our crush must ask us out. Lol

But then if we study the process we realise that it is not the hair that actually made us happy, it is the thought of the hair that made us happy. You had the option of returning the hair in anger, saying, “what nonsense, do you think I can’t afford the hair, because of the anger you had in mind for that person; but then a simple gift that he/she knows will make you happy, stole the day . So that’s how our mind works. It is solely dependent on what we feed it, which in turn births happiness or sadness.

Nobody or nothing is in charge of your happiness than you. It starts from you and it ends with you.

What then are the basic steps on how to be happy and remain happy?

Remind yourself
If a situation comes up and you are stuck in the moment of being sad and getting angry about the situation around you, the first thing to do is remind yourself that your happiness is your choice.

This takes continuous practise. People often say it is not possible to be happy all the time and I ask why? Being bothered does not mean you are sad, it just means you are in search of a solution, but people often tag being bothered with sadness.

I know it is possible to remain happy and that can only come if you take the first step of reminding yourself. It is a conscious act and with constant practise it becomes a habit.

Live It
If you must stay happy, you have to live happy. You have to radiate happiness. Surround yourself with the positives, walk off naysayers and joy killers. Stay around people who inspire you and make you be the best of yourself. You can only live everyday happy if you appreciate who you really are.

You can only live what you believe, if you constantly remind yourself that you ought to be happy, then it becomes a habit to always live happy.

Just when you begin to live happy, you see yourself looking younger, feeling younger and look a lot healthier. People say music, but I say laughter is the food for the soul.

So it is over to you to make the conscious step of choosing happiness today and every day. It is not expensive.

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She is a Brand Management & Marketing Communications executive with focus on MSME's, she also has a strong foundation in emotional intelligence and behavioral change. She transforms businesses and builds brands via storytelling, brand audit, market research and strategy implementation to ensure results. She holds an MBA in Marketing from Covenant University, Integrated Brand Experience training from Orange Academy and a diploma from IBM Institute, Berlin, Germany.She helps people to be their best self, live a purposeful life and achieve greatness through her online platform


  1. Kanyin

    January 31, 2016 at 6:58 pm

    Nice one Uju.

    No one has the right to make you sad. You hold the key to your own happiness

    • Uju Chukwu

      Uju Chukwu

      February 1, 2016 at 10:18 am

      Dear Kanyin,

      Very great tip, no one does. Thank you much.

  2. Nene

    January 31, 2016 at 7:17 pm

    Awww!!! UJU Dorlin really nice write up…??

    • Uju Chukwu

      Uju Chukwu

      February 1, 2016 at 10:17 am

      Dearest Nene,

      Thanks so much dear.

  3. Kendalldamera

    January 31, 2016 at 9:36 pm

    Great article. Clear and concise. We need more motivational write ups.

    • Uju Chukwu

      Uju Chukwu

      February 1, 2016 at 10:17 am

      Thank you so much Kendall.

  4. sistah

    January 31, 2016 at 10:25 pm

    How can I be happy when I don’t get what I want?

    • Uju Chukwu

      Uju Chukwu

      February 1, 2016 at 10:16 am

      Hello Sistah,

      Let’s think together, have you wanted some things in the past and gotten them? I am very sure Yes.

      So there is more than a million reasons to stay happy for the ones you got and stay believing that those you need will still come, maybe this might not just be the right time. And tell yourself, your happiness is not based on the things you want but it is based on You and who is this “YOU”? The great personality of Sistah.


    February 1, 2016 at 1:43 pm

    nice writeup……….. happiness is a choice, pple with more can be less happy even despite having everything. n we see pple with less , that r very happy with the little ……… sometimes being contented goes a long way in being happy…

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