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Popular Nollywood actress, Empress Njamah shares her thoughts on domestic violence on Broadway TV.

According to her, it is not always a man’s fault when there is domestic violence in a relationship. Sometimes, women torment their men mentally which causes them to be violent, she said

She the adds that women should learn to help men manage their anger.

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35 Comments

  1. Seriously

    May 18, 2017 at 2:34 pm

    No, it’s an individual responsibility. Yes, some women frustrate their men and torment mentally but the men has a choice to walk away or respond in a healthy manner than beating the crap out of the woman. No excuse at all. It’s an anger problem that needs to be addressed.
    African women stay blaming themselves for everything. Well, you can take the blame for over babying your sons, husbands and giving them a feeling of entitlement which eventually leads to character flaws.

    • Face first

      May 18, 2017 at 2:38 pm

      … Which eventually leads to someone dying…

    • Bleed Blue

      May 18, 2017 at 3:29 pm

      Just waiting on my man John…

    • Cocolette

      May 18, 2017 at 4:05 pm

      I honestly don’t see anything wrong with what Empress has said. You can control your actions but you can’t dictate other people’s reaction to your action. We see cases of some women hitting their husbands or badmouthing a man to the point of insanity and when the man retaliates people say a man has no reason whatsoever to hit a woman, looool! If u married a mad man he will beat crap out of you and I won’t blame him, if you married a calm man lucky you because he will walk away. At no time in this life will all men be calm, there will always be the ones quick to anger, do you as a woman fuel that anger? If you both see that your temperaments do not match, kindly walk away from the marriage/relationship to avoid shouts of Domestic violence.
      There are also the mad men who get mad without justifiable cause, once you see that walk away also, you can’t trade words or expect to reason with a mad man, he will beat you to stupor. I once dated someone who was perfect for two years until he hit me for no reason, I left the relationship sharply… no time abeg.
      My point is that both man and woman should do the right thing in your relationship/marriage. If it looks like your best will never be enough, take a walk.

  2. karashika

    May 18, 2017 at 2:40 pm

    Not today Satan. I refuse to indulge

    • Engoz

      May 18, 2017 at 3:19 pm

      Lol, I saw this post earlier and chose to ignore. No be Nigerian woman again? Only commenting because I found your comment funny and absolutely cosign. We all have resources to help us now, the awareness is out there. Nobody will be babied any more. If you like die in your relationship both male and female, na you sabi. If you like torture your wife and husband, na you sabi. If you like pamper an abuser and fake your relationship on the internet, na you sabi. My own is don’t come and disturb us with stories that touch.

      Not today Satan, lol.

    • Sakura

      May 18, 2017 at 5:30 pm

      LOL!!!!!

  3. Lol

    May 18, 2017 at 2:45 pm

    These celebs always trolling
    Please how can you control a grown mans behavior. Is he a baby? Pick me at its best

    • Nene

      May 18, 2017 at 6:16 pm

      Us the woman a baby that she can’t control herself?

  4. keke driver

    May 18, 2017 at 2:47 pm

    Abeg no one should hit anyone, a man shouldn’t hit a woman and vise versa.

  5. mmhh

    May 18, 2017 at 2:48 pm

    absolute nonsense Empress. Is he a child? the most ridiculous thing I ever heard. a woman should help her man stop his anger. Please women…. if a man should ever display anger that results in violence then it means he cannot express or manage his emotions…. it means he grew up observing violence, it means it would never change and you will spend the rest of your life walking on egg shells because you will not know what will trigger his rage…… it means you will have perpetuate the cycle with your children. Please women, you have a responsibility for your own life…….RUN…….or if you have to help….then get him to see someone else not you and you do that from a distance away.

    nonsense. only women that have not experienced domestic violence talk such nonsense.

  6. Patience Nuhu

    May 18, 2017 at 2:56 pm

    See someone who was beaten by her ex Timaya and chose to walk away………… This must be a publicity stunt.

  7. Ajala & Foodie

    May 18, 2017 at 2:56 pm

    OMG!!! SMH!!! What other exclamation can I use here. You see this is what I mean by we need to address the Nigerian/ African woman’s mind/head before we can see a change whether it is with domestic violence or our attitude towards rape.

    First, the interviewer should have educated this lady that domestic violence is not gender specific I.e violence against women. So back to her question when a woman hits a man it is NOT called “mental violence” but domestic violence as well.

    Empowering the African woman is NOT going to be easy at all!!! Gosh so many things wrong with this lady’s comment. Sadly, many actually still subscribe to this school of thought.

    BTW, everyone wants to be pampered…pampering like domestic violence is not gender specific. This idea of grown men being put in the same category as “helpless babies” needs to stop. In my opinion this is just a form of “mental” I.e emotional abuse, (talk about emasculating) which is contradictory to the point this school of thought is trying to make.

    Grown men are not babies and should not be treated as babies, they are adults with adult responsibilities that should be held accountable for their actions just like women . There is no excuse for domestic violence, if the man feels tortured/oppressed, we have separation and divorce for a reason, no need for any one getting hit or committing suicide.

  8. funmilola

    May 18, 2017 at 3:17 pm

    With comments like these from a woman sef, one will wonder how we can move forward and empower not only women but men also to stand against domestic violence.
    Until we begin to fully accept the blame for our bad actions and not slightly blame the other person, na here we go just dey.

  9. lill

    May 18, 2017 at 3:17 pm

    i wish i can keep liking your comment. Men have refused to grow up, they want to be breastfed like babies. How do you become violent and blame it on anger, what happens to walking away. so only men are even entitled to be angry and have a standby anger manager. wehdone ma

  10. Farida

    May 18, 2017 at 3:32 pm

    Oshey……..Controller

  11. marlee

    May 18, 2017 at 3:34 pm

    Men are babies, its this woman’s understanding of what are men is. Will a grown woman with babies already want a baby husband? no. Please let us grow up and speak like grown up. let us leave things that we don’t know about just slide. is she saying when a med take a second wife, then the first one is bad. what DO YOU CALL A MEN WHO GOT DIVORCE 4 TIMES AND MORE. are you saying he was married to bad women. stop your foolishness.

  12. marlee

    May 18, 2017 at 3:48 pm

    “What men are” i mean

  13. jess

    May 18, 2017 at 3:48 pm

    Coming from a woman, SMH

  14. Demetria

    May 18, 2017 at 4:03 pm

    ok like the way she helped Timaya control himself that time he was harassing her ? take several seats Empress …..ur no longer relevant ok !!

  15. Adunnie

    May 18, 2017 at 4:05 pm

    @lol Is this one still a celeb? She’s more of a washed-up actress.
    I’m sick and tired of this foolish mentality of shifting blame. A girl is raped, she’s blamed for being seductive and wearing skimpy clothes. A wife is battered by her husband she’s blamed for not being submissive and labelled a witch. A young adult decides to steal or become a fraudster then blames the government for not providing jobs. We continue to raise generations who don’t realise that when you commit an error or crime you should take responsibility and face the consequences. How can someone in their right mind think it’s okay to say women should help men control their anger?? What rubbish. So a grown ass man should be babied and appeased like some toddler? Smh. It’s quite sickening that a woman still belongs to such school of thought in 2017. Please wake up. Any man or woman that hits their spouse should face the consequences. There is nothing like he/she pushed me to do it. Be responsible for your actions.

  16. belleza

    May 18, 2017 at 4:12 pm

    I won’t be shocked if this Empress is in an abusive relationship. Pele “Controller extraordinaire”

  17. Tobi

    May 18, 2017 at 6:08 pm

    Hehehehe you want to help your man/woman contain anger /psychotic episodes. Hummmm!. I can tell you how that’ll go down. Basically as a victim of DV you will be in denial, as part of your denial you will attempt to compromise and bend to his/ hers unrealistic expectations. Infact you will bend so much that you will see your own ears. Eventually you will look in the mirror and not recognise the person that looks back at your you will Infact despise that person. You then start to have sucidal ideation. Not good!

  18. Nene

    May 18, 2017 at 6:14 pm

    Living in Nigeria, I’ve realized Nigerian women are more violent than the men. The real people suffering from violence are maids. If you hear and see how women, mothers with children treat their young maids, some even as young as 6. I personally saw a woman being let off at NAPTIP after pouring hot water on her maid, a little girl of 11 years.

  19. Mark

    May 18, 2017 at 6:16 pm

    THIS is a troubling sentiment coming from a woman and to a significantly large extent validate the reason why some women choose to put up with domestic violence! FYI sis, show me a man prone to domestic violence (of any kind) and I’d show you a man in dire need of mental evaluation, anger management and possibly psychiatric assessment too – the whole damn nine yards with no bloody exception!!!!!! The problem is our inability to own up to this. We never want to admit that men are the main problem in a domestic violence situation and are quick to ask questions like: “what did she do to trigger it?” Excuse you? Its impossible to think two people in a relationship or marriage wouldn’t have any form of disagreement from time to time. But with argument digress to beating, it shows the man is mentally unfit to be in any form of union as he needs a profound mental overhaul. Anything less than this should be unacceptable in any lifetime! As a man, I feel mortified hearing a woman making light of a very troubling issue we have to deal with in 2017.

  20. Bimbo

    May 18, 2017 at 7:31 pm

    In her mind now she is a man management expert ! Lol. If u could manage a man so well I wonder why timaya left you! Nonsense talk.

  21. Trish

    May 18, 2017 at 8:18 pm

    IBU ITI

  22. person

    May 19, 2017 at 12:24 am

    natural woman beater ke? so people are born to be beaters? lmao. beating in his destiny. the day my husband make mistake use finger attempt to beat me, na police cell he go sleep. anyway i trust him sha. his mama raised him right.

  23. Iou

    May 19, 2017 at 4:27 am

    Really??? Everyone has an opinion these days

  24. Dee

    May 19, 2017 at 4:52 am

    What is she saying, I doubt that she has even been hit by guy mshew… #MovingOn

  25. LEKKIHUB

    May 19, 2017 at 8:16 am

    I think both sex should help control their angers, most especially the woman.
    A Nagging and disrespectful woman, will never make a good home. She will always get kicked out from every home she finds herself, and even domestic violence might follow.
    Study your husband or spouse, and avoid that thing you know he doesn’t like.
    5 THINGS YOU SHOULD NOT AND NEVER DO TO YOUR HUSBAND OR SPOUSE
    Never talk when he is talking.
    Never talk on top of your voice when you have the chance to talk.
    Never call him by his name when he is angry.
    Never try to make your points oversees his own at that time.
    Finally and most especially, Never Never and Ever Ever use insulting words on him, or you will get the beating of your life.
    Thank you!
    Lekkihub.com

    • sun shine

      May 19, 2017 at 9:15 am

      Wow!!! Are you being sarcastic or do you think you just wrote something sensible? ‘Never call him by his name when he is angry, like seriously? Maybe you should just tell the woman to bow down and worship him cos he’s angry. This is the reason why many women continue to endure their marriages walking on eggshells around their husbands because of lamebrained advice like this.

    • mumu

      May 19, 2017 at 9:40 am

      SHUT THE F**K UP MORON……

  26. My opinion

    May 19, 2017 at 12:34 pm

    Lekkihub. You are obviously under the influence of expired Alabokun.

  27. Idomagirl

    May 20, 2017 at 12:27 am

    Lol. When Timaya was showing her pepper during their relationship, why didn’t she help him manage abi control his temper? Lol.

    At your age you do not know that “Domestic Violence” is a gender neutral term? and that like rape/sexual assault men can (and are) victims and women can also be aggressors?
    The fact that women are disproportionately the victims of these crimes doesn’t mean that the terms only apply when it’s a woman on the receiving end.

    Yes you’re an actress and a celebrity, but biko read and educate yourself.
    There’s too much info out there today for you to be this unaware.
    It’s embarrassing.

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