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This Insightful Twitter Thread by @Dandy_locks is a MUST READ for All
Ever noticed how when there’s a wedding, there’s usually a picture of the bride and a circle of friends, praying? There’s always something to indicate that a woman should go into a marriage – armed with prayer and warfare, fortified to do everything required to keep her home.
On the other hand, there’s also a chance that you’ll see a photo of the groom – surrounded by his men, either with bottles of alcohol, or cuban cigars (whatever is supposed to be the representative of a man balling into the next phase of his life).
The difference is staggering, and truly troubling. Two people, about to embark on a journey of their lives, but the burden is placed heavily on one person to keep that marriage intact.
Newly married Twitter user @dandy_locks shared his experience on Twitter, and he addressed the issue.
We’re very glad to share his tweets and we hope that our family and friends will put these things into consideration.
Let’s deconstruct what is presumed to be the norm, in a hope for building a better tomorrow.
Read the tweets below:
One
I’ve been married a week, and in that time there as been lots of advice…
— Skin-You-Out Achebe (@Dandy_Locks) September 4, 2017
Two
Of all these “well meaning” advice, not very many people have addressed or advised me on how to be a better husband for my wife.
— Skin-You-Out Achebe (@Dandy_Locks) September 4, 2017
Three
On my wedding night someone said “we know she makes cake but it’s not just cake you will eat”
— Skin-You-Out Achebe (@Dandy_Locks) September 4, 2017
Four
It’s amazing the burden placed on women to sustain a relationship and keep their husbands alive while very little is expected of husbands.
— Skin-You-Out Achebe (@Dandy_Locks) September 4, 2017
Five
Not one person has even done the patriarchal balance of asking me to make sure she is taken care of financially (because broke boy).
— Skin-You-Out Achebe (@Dandy_Locks) September 4, 2017
Six
All that said, the men that I know that are married have been a shining light of how not to be a husband. I’ll just not follow their lead.
— Skin-You-Out Achebe (@Dandy_Locks) September 4, 2017
Seven
If you have any advice on how my wife can be a better wife… Hold it. But if you know how I can be a better husband to her, speak up.
— Skin-You-Out Achebe (@Dandy_Locks) September 4, 2017
Eight
For as long as we’ve been together, strangers would strike up conversation and start pleading with her to make sure that she “keeps me”.
— Skin-You-Out Achebe (@Dandy_Locks) September 4, 2017
Nine
Without knowing anything about us or her. They assume that I’m so valuable, that she must bend and contort to please me…
— Skin-You-Out Achebe (@Dandy_Locks) September 4, 2017
Ten
Women are always given this spiel. Cos men are children to work on a love for reward basis allegedly… Even though that’s been proven false
— Skin-You-Out Achebe (@Dandy_Locks) September 4, 2017
Eleven
To conclude! Here are reasons why I’m the one who is blessed and lucky. https://t.co/AYgEZFWe9J
— Skin-You-Out Achebe (@Dandy_Locks) September 4, 2017
Other Twitter users weighed in on the conversation and provided further insight into the topic.
Watch a preview of their wedding party video here:
Full wedding preview shot by @xwmedia #INeedYOLoving https://t.co/njXMHbnoR6 pic.twitter.com/DV8PjaUAh4
— Skin-You-Out Achebe (@Dandy_Locks) August 31, 2017
We wish the Achebes a happy married life and we thank Mr. Achebe for sharing his thoughts with the world.
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