Iniobong Umoh: Go & Marry! The Dilemma Single Men Face

Go and marry! They keep telling young men but they never ask these men if they have found the right woman. Just because a single man has money, has a job or has reached a certain age, he must pick any woman he sees and marry! But the choice of a life partner is a very serious decision to make, because it can make or mar your destiny.

Go and marry!

So you start the search…

You see the perfect woman with all the qualities that you desire but she is living in another continent and the chance of you two meeting physically is very slim. Long distance relationship? No way! You jump and pass!

You meet a beautiful young lady, you start interacting and you find out that this one has no plans of being in a serious relationship talk less of settling down. She wants to flex for the next 5 years. This one is not just ready. You jump and pass!

You meet a mesmerizing girl that ticks all the boxes, but you discover with evidence that this one is a small girl with a big god. You jump and pass!

You meet this gorgeous being with all the right qualities: she is young and hot, and she knows it. Besieged by many suitors, her shakara level is very high. She likes you but would not commit to any serious ish because “moneyed” guys are fighting for her attention. You discover you are number 8 on her priority list. You jump and pass!

You meet this pretty young lady. She is very homely, the type that can cook and clean the house all day. The type that would serve you food on her knees, this one will address you as “My Lord”. This one will bear you 10 children. She is very docile, she has no drive, no passion and no interest in pursuing a career. She is a Yes woman who would do anything you ask her to. You don’t want a docile woman as wife, you want someone that can come up with strategies and plans to help you both achieve life goals. So you jump and pass!

You meet this lady and it is love at first sight. She is perfect for you. You both start making plans of taking things to the next level. You find out her genotype. “Incompatible! Abandon ship!” The genes scream. So you say goodbye to love. You jump and pass!

You meet this beautiful lady and both of you fall in love. She immediately dumps all her financial burdens on you. All the financial burdens of her family and her ancestors are on your head. You spend and spend until one day your eyes magically clears and you jump and pass!

You meet this lovely woman. She is a good match. Then you discover she is a religious fanatic who loves her church and her pastor more than you. This one spends all her time in church. She can’t take any decision without approval from her pastor. You will always come second place in her heart, so you jump and pass!

You meet this woman and you two are on a roller coaster ride, love is so beautiful then you want to move things to the next level. Then she drops the bombshell, “I am sorry, I have a fiancé, I am engaged. He is in America and would be coming home by Christmas to pay my bride price” You jump and pass!

You meet this breaktaking lady and you heave a sigh of relief that you have finally found the one. Then you realize that this one cannot spell the word, “Come”. You don’t want to give birth to children who will be carrying last position every term in school, you jump and pass!

You love this woman, you suspect she loves you too. But this woman does not want to say Yes to you, she also does not want to say No to you. She keeps baiting you and won’t let any other single woman come close to you. One day you get tired and jump and pass!

You meet the cutest woman you have ever seen. The chemistry between you two is very strong. Just when you think you have reached Eldorado, she tells you that she can’t marry you if you don’t join her religious sect. As a rule, members of the sect cannot marry non members. She tells you her entire family is deeply rooted in the sect. You decide you can’t sacrifice your freedom for bondage in love, so you jump and pass!

You keep jumping and passing until grey hairs fill your head and before you know it, you have clocked 80 years ?

All these and more are scenarios that many men are passing through. So you see, it is not easy for some men who are choosy and who don’t want to marry just any woman. So you marriage inquisitors, take it easy on them.

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