Read the previous episodes of the Mr. Perfect Series here.
‘You are my sunshine, my only sunshine, you make me happy, when skies are grey, you never know, dear, how much I love you, please don’t take my sunshine away.’
That was how I felt after I received a text from Mr. Almost Perfect which said; ‘Good morning sunshine!’ Our conversation the previous day was great. We couldn’t get enough of each other. I could spend all day on the phone with Mr. Almost Perfect and not bat an eyelid. The night we caught up, I was previously talking to Maybe Mr. Right, and he expressed that he wanted to go to bed. After I got off the phone with him, then My Almost perfect guy called.
I felt like the character Joan, from the TV show Girlfriends, after she had sworn off men. Then one guy she met, who she thought would never call her, eventually called and they spoke for hours. The next day, she gathered her friends together and said—he called! Her friends wondered who called? We thought you had given up on men. She said yea, she thought so too, but he called! Women, our wahala can be mush.
That night when he called, I was no longer upset. All my anger had diffused; I had forgotten about all the wrong he had done to me, which was just a break in communication. I remember watching a show one day where a couple was being interviewed about their love story. They seemed so happy and in love. The woman described their first date as fun and eventful. The man agreed that it was exciting, and it was the best date they had experienced in years.
Then the lady went home and did not hear from her date in one year! OMG! If that were me, I would have lost it! One year? A whole one year! My mind would have gone crazy with questions like what did I do wrong? Did I have bad breath? Was he not attracted to me? Were my jokes lame? Did I overeat? Was he expecting us to go Dutch? Is he married? Did his girlfriend come into town? Maybe God didn’t want us to be together (that is always my conclusion).
But what if the timing wasn’t just right? You can meet the right person but at the wrong time.
The couple reconnected a year later, fell in love, got married and had their first child. Could that be me and Mr. Almost Perfect‘s story? I don’t know, he just came back. He talked about how much he missed me and asked why I didn’t reach out to him. He also said he didn’t want me ever to leave his side. And if he upset me in any way, I should let him know. He agreed that he also missed our conversations. We caught up on a lot that night and went right back into talking for hours. Things now seem different with Mr. Almost Perfect; he is more vocal about his feelings towards me. He is always professing how he likes me, and how much he wants to be with me.
But some things are not just perfect with him, like his relationship with God. I am way more spiritual than he is. I have always dreamt of a man; Mr. Perfect, who will be stronger than I am, when it comes to Christianity. I am not sure if I can do this. But Mr. Almost Perfect encourages me to be better at my craft; he supports my dreams and wants me to be the best at what I do. He shares intimate things with me, I love it when I am gisting him about a story, or about something that happened, and he is so engrossed in it. Like when I gisted him about my favorite episodes of Friends and he cracked up so much! My favorite thing to do with him is to dream. I love exploring all that his beautiful mind has to offer. I feel like I can conquer the world, each time I am done speaking with him. I also love it when he says, Evi can I tell you something? Can I share something with you? Before you go on, can I just let you know something?
With my heart skipping a beat at every request. His words are like music to my ears. What I have with him, I haven’t experienced with anyone else, and he shares in my sentiments. I am caught between a rock and a hard place. Can I sacrifice my desires for a man to be the leader of our household spiritually for what Mr. Almost Perfect is offering me? Would that be settling? What if that perfect man never comes? Can Mr. Almost Perfect be a diamond in the rough? The lyrics of Halo by Beyoncé comes to mind:
‘Remember those walls I built, baby, they are tumbling down, they didn’t even put up a fight, they didn’t even make a sound, I found a way to let you in, but I never really had a doubt, standing in the light of your halo, I got my angel now, it’s like I’ve been awakened, every rule I had you breaking, it’s the risk that I’m taking I ain’t never gonna shut you out…’
The weirdest thing also happens between Mr. Almost Perfect and me.
I can be in my head all day, thinking about certain things, or maybe just reading about stuff randomly, and when I talk to him, he somehow answers to what I have been thinking about, or talks about what I learned, while reading. I haven’t shared this with him yet. Does this happen to anyone else, or am I the only one? Could this be our thing? Or could he just be the one? He is not perfect sha, far from it. I am beginning to think no one is, not even me. The break that we took was the best thing that ever happened to us. I am not as obsessed with him as I was in the beginning. I now relate to him with a clearer mind.
I am no longer afraid to express my emotions or how I honestly feel to him, because I am no longer scared of losing him. So much so that one night after he poured out his heart to me, I told him I just wanted to be friends. Guys, it’s crazy I know, but I don’t want to get hurt. I am so protective of my heart that I am afraid to give it out. Although I really care about Mr. Almost Perfect, my protective mechanism is for telling myself that we are better off as friends for now. My revelation crushed him. He sounded sad on the phone, and it felt nice to see him that way (haha). I didn’t know he cared about me that much.
You might be wondering about Maybe Mr. Right; he is still in the picture. He makes me laugh, cares about what I am doing, and we talk consistently. If I am being honest, I like Mr. Almost Perfect, more than Maybe Mr. Right, for obvious reasons. Or maybe I am not giving Maybe Mr. Right enough room for something more to develop between us, I don’t know.
In all of this I am still wondering where Mr. Perfect is, is he in Mr. Almost Perfect, Maybe Mr. Right, or Church Crush?(I can still see him in church now), Or is he still on the way? Can you get here quickly to clear up the confusion or are you just an illusion? Should I give Mr. Almost Perfect another chance, or should I build on what Maybe Mr. Right and I have?
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