One of the things we will keep having to deal with through life is pressure. This can either be self-imposed or from an external source. It may be rooted in family, self-fulfillment, relationships, or career. In simpler terms, pressure can be said to be a feeling of unrest, usually causing instability, making one unnecessarily jittery over some perceived expectation and deficiency.
Most of the time, we do not all set out to feel pressured. But certain situations just pester for long and can lead to us feeling that way.
Here are some forms we all face:
Personally, one of the most intense form of pressure I have faced is that of self-performance. I hear this happens to a lot people in their 20s. This is understandable, as once one begins to approach the age of 30, responsibilities begin to compound, with the expectation to always perform.
In a typical Nigerian setting, as the first child of a family, there is a kind of pressure you face that may be called the Role Model Pressure. Everyone expects you to be the model or the parental figure to your younger ones.
Another very obvious form a lot of people face is that of the first girl-child of a family — let me call it the ADA Pressure. This type of pressure is often linked to a lady settling down in marriage at a certain age. It has driven many women into the hands of men they never should have settled down with.
The societal pressure is obviously the commonest we see these days. Without giving it a second name, I will call it in white and black the Social Media Pressure. While the idea behind social media is to integrate and build relationships, a lot of people have fallen into the trap of undue pressure because of posts they see on social media. As I often say, there so much love and hate on social media, you barely know which is real.
One very common thing about the social media life is that everyone appears so well, always looking prim and proper. Everyone seems to be living their best lives on social media. But don’t forget, it is what I post and want you to see that you actually see on social media.
Other Forms of Pressure
Other forms could be at work, from colleagues who just don’t understand how to communicate emotions or success without sounding pompous to oppress others.
It could also be from family members trying to analyze where they think you should always be at certain times of your life. (Hey, it’s your life, not theirs.)
Through it all, the world in which we live has some mechanism through which it consistently induces some kind of pressure on us. It is something we have to face every now and then. But there sure are ways to handle pressure and still live your best life. These will help:
- Develop a tough skin around yourself.
- Look out for relationships that constantly place you under undue pressure and run away from them.
- Hold on to yourself and believe that no matter what, you will be fine.
We all are exposed to some kind of pressure or the other, but the way we handle it is really what matters. Don’t hate your life because of another person’s success. Don’t judge your journey by another man’s standard. Rather, continuously look out for ways to become best of yourself daily, and live your best life.