It’s engagement season again! Well actually, it’s ALWAYS engagement season. From the Facebook posts to the surprise birthdays turned engagement parties, we seem to be seeing more engagements than Fresh bread sales at Shoprite.
Whether it’s a young hopelessly in-love chap or a mama-pressured adult-boy who has been convinced that marriage will make him more responsible, they seem to be getting on that one good knee to ask the question that almost every woman wants to hear.
Will you marry me?
Ah! Ah! Yes, Seun I’ll marry you! Yes! Yes!
*The tears come down. Then dude slips the ring on his lady love’s finger* *Hug*Hug* Kiss*
Everyone’s happy, right?
Fast forward to some days later when everyone at work, church and VGC has seen your engagement ring and it’s just you and your girlfriends.
Friend: “This your ring is so beautiful o. I wonder how much it cost.”
(Ring Wearer): I just love it! I don’t care if he didn’t spend all the money in the world on this. I love it and I love him!
Enemy of Progress: Yeah ok o. I hear you, even if na cubic zirconium dey ur hand abi?
Now the girl who was simply concerned about her man and the future they are going to have as a result of this new symbol of commitment now wants to know how much exactly the ring cost. The cost of the ring now determines how much the man actually loves her for some reason. The cost now determines how valuable she is and what else the man will be able to do for her for years to come. So most definitely now, she must know. The ring has to be appraised.
I was accidentally watching a Love & Hip Hop Atlanta during the week,
you know, one of those IQ diminishing reality shows that causes you to lose brain cells every time you watch them and in this episode, Erica, Lil Scrappy’s love interest was at a jeweler having her ring appraised to prove to her mother how much she is loved by this tatted-up rapper. Luckily for her, the ring happened to cost over 20,000 dollars (over 3M) an impressive figure which impressed Erica’s mother enough for her to give Scrappy his props.
Then I thought to myself. Well, what about the not so lucky ones? The non-Scrappys who can’t afford such pricey rings but still love their women to death. Should it matter how much your engagement ring cost? For some people, the answer is yes because you cannot have your ring insured for theft or loss without an authentic appraisal. But getting that appraisal means finding out exactly how much your man spent to put a smile on your face the day he proposed.
If you find out your ring cost a guap, then you guys move on with the lovey lovey stuff hopefully until death does y’all apart. But if you find out it cost almost nothing….then what?
For the guys, would you be upset if you found out your lady went and had her ring appraised, or would it not even matter?
Ladies, would you address your man if you found out your ring was cheaper that you thought it was? Or would you just let it go?
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Toyin Olaleye is a writer pursuing a Masters degree at the Johns Hopkins University, USA. She’s the unpublished author of “Oh! So You Are From Africa, How Come You Speak English” and is extremely passionate about Nigeria.