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2014 Epilogues: Go After Your Dreams – Lowla’s Ruby



2014 has been a very interesting year. As it comes to an end, BellaNaija seeks to showcase a human interest segment, dedicated to looking back at the year. We’ve teamed up with a diverse group of individuals and asked them to share how their year has been. The brief was ‘a personal look back at the journey thus travelled. The idea is to use 2014 as a focal point. The honest and heartfelt piece should talk about your ups and downs / victories and failures – a general self assessment. It should be a raw piece which shows you as a person – the human angle is important.

Each of the participants has graciously sent us amazing pieces about themselves. As you read these pieces, and take stock of the year you’ve had, we encourage you to get inspiration from our 2014 Epilogues.

The 2014 Epilogues gemstones will be dropped at 2pm everyday till the end of the year!

Looking back at the past 5 years of my life, the first thing I do is thank God. I thank Him for everything, the ups and down, successes and failures, good times and sad times. I say past 5 years because that’s when I really started living life the way I wanted to, and even at that, I feel I still have a lot to do as regards living the life I have envisioned for myself.

I grew up an only child for 24 years and that helped me have a sense of independence in life. I like doing things my way. I found it hard working for people or having people order me around or telling me what to do, but in the past 2 years I’ve been able to control that feeling knowing that life really doesn’t work that way.

I set up my company in December 2009, signed my first client in February 2010 and it’s pretty much been good/bad since then. Over the years I’ve managed artistes and handled PR for a number of people. I like to think of myself as really special and good at what I do because from the very beginning, I have never gone out of my way to approach people as regards working for them. I usually get calls/emails from those who want my services. Yea I’m a badass, LOL. But it hasn’t been easy, many clients think they know it all and literally try to do my job, so I ask them “why did you hire me if you know you can handle it? I can as well sit back, do nothing and just chop your money”.

2013 was what I like to call ‘The Year from Hell’; it sucked the life out of me. I was depressed beyond measure, I wasn’t happy with work and my relationship life was literally ZERO. Working out became the only thing that really made me happy. It was the year I clocked 30 and on my birthday my cousin came into my room to ask me a couple of questions about how intend to live my new year. It was the extra push I needed because I had been thinking a lot about my life that year but I was still not sure how I wanted to move on, maybe I was scared.

That was the year I got closer to God, I would wake up at 3am and have prayer sessions alone in my room. Start with my songs of praise and enter prayer warrior mode. For months I prayed and prayed, but nothing happened, I would cry to God and beg for a sign, beg him to show me the way as I was completely lost, but still nothing happened. I read my Bible inside out, prayed over everything I ate, even my bathing water. Yes it was that DEEP.

My dad always said to me, miracles don’t happen immediately and you never really notice when it comes. I remembered his words more that year and I never stopped believing that things would get better, I didn’t know how but I knew it would because Jesus really didn’t die for me to not have a sense of direction in life. I had been doing things for myself for so long, coming from a well to do family didn’t mean I had to just chop my fathers money and not make a living for myself. I am determined to continue doing things for myself and even be better than who I am now.

Just like everyone, I long for someone who’s got me, someone who understands me. About 6 years ago I started living life like I needed someone/something to make me happy in life. So this is saying if I’m single I need work to keep me happy and if I have a boyfriend and no job then I am still happy but if I don’t have the 2, AHHHHH then there is problem ooo. If I have the 2 then I’m the happiest person alive.

I say this and you read it but there are so many people who live life like this, dare I say we all do but we don’t look at it the way I have described it.

December 2013, I finally decided to get a day job and stop looking for what I wasn’t sure would come. For 5 years I had worked for myself, moved around when I wanted to, didn’t answer to nobody, slept and woke up when I wanted to, sat in all day because I worked from home. Now this was no longer working for me, I was getting really bored and my life didn’t have structure anymore so I decided I needed some form of routine and it was time to say goodbye to my special line “I’m never going to work in an office”.

In January 2014 I started applying for jobs, I decided to finally go after my presenting dream so either for a Radio or TV platform. I went for a few auditions and got the “We’ll call you soon” response. It felt like I was in a movie because I have never been denied that way before.

I finally saw something online, Ndani TV was hiring. Okay na, lets approach them. I applied for 2 positions, got called back for one, had an interview and finally got a “You have been Hired” email. YAYYYY!

I started working with Ndani TV in February 2014 as the Publicity/Social Media Manager and I also organize events put together by the company. It’s been a great 10 months working with Ndani.

Working for Ndani didn’t mean I would stop what I had always done; I had one off contracts with people who needed my services. It was easier that way plus I didn’t see myself working long term with most of the brands/people who approached me.In April 2014, I got a call from the RVMG team, I had been recommended by 3 people and they wanted me to manage/represent DJ Cuppy in Africa. HUH Hello, Yes! Thank you very much.

It is December 2014 and I’m doing the things I love. I have 2 jobs that don’t make life stressful but fun for me. Management/PR has always been a part of my life, I’m new to working with a production company but I am so much better than when I started in February. I’m still going after my presenting dream and there seems to be some new progress in that. WHOPTIDO!

Its not like I haven’t succeeded in life, its not like I didn’t have things going good for me. I did, but I wanted more, I wanted to do better, I wanted to move up in life and stop doing things the same way. I want to succeed, I will succeed. God has just started with me and aspa the boyfriend issue, well we go soon know as me myself never know yet.

2014 has been an amazing year for me, it is my life and it’s up to me to push myself, to make decisions and pray to God that they are the right ones. I learn from people, I listen and take advice from them but at the end of the day it is my life and it is my job to make it a happy one.

Never stop believing in yourself is my message to everyone, go after your dreams and never sell yourself short… Have a Happy and Prosperous New Year. God’s blessing now and always.

Love Lowla.


Photo Credit: Dreamstime | Yolanda Van Niekerk


  1. Red

    December 22, 2014 at 2:17 pm

    Really inspiring.


    December 22, 2014 at 2:18 pm


  3. marcy

    December 22, 2014 at 2:40 pm

    oh my!this is so inspiring!i never read a piece that related to me this well i thank the lord that i stumbled on it.Lowla God bless u and i am glad u didn’t give up too.u’ve really encouraged me!almost 3 years since i graduated and nothing to show for it,i mean NOTHING!!!I want to give up on my so called fashion dreams but it keeps tugging me every now and then but for the time being,i’m just hoping,praying,working,rising and falling and rising again cuz I believe one day my OWN will come IJN Amen!

  4. Frances Okoro

    December 22, 2014 at 2:57 pm

    Thank you for being so real with us Lowla.
    A lot of us pass through serious issues and it really helps to know that light is always at the end of the tunnel, somehow, some ways…

    Picking up our intimacy with God is also a sure banker anytime anyday..not only for what He can do for us but because no boyfriend or things can ever satisfy or take His place.
    I pray for a greater 2015 for us all.
    May our dreams come true.

  5. chi-e-z

    December 22, 2014 at 4:42 pm

    Now I know why DJ Cuppy’s always on here hehe 🙂 Well, I want to share a testimony/story of a girl I met at a church I was invited to yesterday. Now, this lovely lady offered to drop us at our home since our family car is bad. Well, we started talking to her and how cute her little men were. When she told us the most heart wrenching story of her mom, whose birthday is on Christmas eve, passing away last year and her having to adopt and take care of her two cute young brothers. Mind you this young lady looked no younger than me so maybe 23-24 yrs at most. I was almost ready to tell her pull that car over and give her a huge hug, all the money I could ever save cause I just felt so inspired and concerned for this little angel. I’ll tell you now everyday I pray from now on she’ll be one of the first people to come to mind. She let me see sometimes life doesn’t go as planned even might go really horrible but you ask G-d for the courage and strength to handle the unexpected responsibilities and never let anything steal your goodness. Because I can assure you those boys couldn’t be in safer hands and she’ll definitely be blessed with all she needs and desires to make a loving home for her and her brothers. So, I just want to say In 2015, I’m hoping to be a kinder, stronger, and moost importantly lovingly supportive person to those around me and loved ones. And you Lowla should stay strong and loving you’ll be doing even greater things to come.

  6. aj

    December 22, 2014 at 5:03 pm

    the person I am most proud of this year is this girl right here. she is indeed one of the strongest women I know, and the eternal optimist. they aint ready for the storm you are about to cause

  7. Amzy

    December 22, 2014 at 5:20 pm

    That’s my girl so proud of u hun. Xoxo “wink”

  8. tunmi

    December 22, 2014 at 5:22 pm

    BN, I must say I love the images you guys include with your post. It reflects your audience and k appreciate you guys for it. Thank you

  9. Orby

    December 22, 2014 at 5:55 pm

    Wow Lola!!!!! I’ve always known u are a rising star. U are a living testimony for me. Sometimes God allows us go thru hell so we can come out on FIRE! U have no idea, but u my friend just gave me the extra boost of faith I needed to make it through this year coz 2014 has been my own year from hell,can’t wait to share my testimony with u and the other girls soonest. Love u doll….2015 isn’t ready for our success stories

  10. Ni Ne

    December 22, 2014 at 8:21 pm

    Dear Lola, thanks a lot for doing this. I really connected with your story and I am encouraged. I ended 2013 and started 2014 on a high and now I feel like I am at my lowest ebb. Almost everything seems not to be working as I expected and to be honest, I know I am partly to blame, I need to get myself back on track with God and myself. Thanks a lot!

  11. Mide

    December 23, 2014 at 9:45 am

    Goose pimples OMG this is such an amazing and real piece. . i am soo soo happy for u lowla and the best is yet to come love. the sky is ur begining.. xoxo

  12. .com

    December 25, 2014 at 4:12 pm

    Thanks for sharing this I started 2013 with a sweet relationship and was looking forward to heading to d alter but mid year we broke up and tho it was painfull,it brought me closer to God. I pray your 2015 is better than your 2014. Happy new year in advanve

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