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Peculiar Okafor: 5 Lessons a Tight Pair of Jeans Taught Me



The craziest thing happened to me Friday morning. I decided to wear new jeans I ordered online to work but alas, they wouldn’t zip or button. I decided to solicit the help  of dear mama and after working as a team for 10  minutes she accepted defeat and said ‘Peculiar, I can’t button this, it’s just too tight, look at how your butt looks in it’. I  replied that I couldn’t just not wear my new jeans. I loved the rips on them and a reflection of how my bum looked was more motivation. Geez, my squats were effective! I had to wear the jeans and thus began the struggle to zip and button the jeans. I lay on my bed, stretched, tucked my tummy in, etc and then the button pulled off; but I was not to be deterred. I simply cut a button from an old dress and decided to sew it on. Then I couldn’t find my sewing kit.

Well, let’s just say I managed to zip the trousers and solve the button dilemma by using a belt with a big buckle head and so I left for work and managed to be early by barely 5 minutes. My drama with my jeans actually taught me a few lessons about dreams and how to achieve them:

Before you replicate what others have done, do your research
I saw the jeans online on a model and decided they would be the right size. After all I’m a size 8; but I got the surprise of my life when I tried them on. I couldn’t even return them. The time frame for returning them had passed. (I was so confident they’d fit, I didn’t even try them on)

You need a team to help you
Mama was just the team mate I needed at the beginning. You should have seen the concentration on her face and the way she kept saying. ‘Hold the jeans firmly’, ‘tuck your tummy in’

Sometimes you gotta go the distance alone
Just as dear mama got tired and left. Sometimes in the walk to achieving our goals, people we hoped to help us may get tired and leave us alone. But you have to keep believing and thriving.

Be resourceful and think of alternatives

Before you decide to do steps 1-4, ask yourself if it’s worth it
After all the struggle (even breaking a nail in the process), only one person at work commented on the jeans. Imagine!

I must confess that I really had no lessons to teach y’all. I just wanted to share this story and still come across as deep and philosophical.

So dears, have you ever had to buy clothes a size too small only to force yourself into it the next day or hang it in your closet as motivation to get rid of those pounds? I’d like to hear your force fit stories.

Peace and laughter.

Remember that we are all beautiful.

Photo Credit: Dreamstime | Mirmoor

Peculiar is a Marketing communications personnel, she believes that one can have a full life without being bitchy and she wants it all 'A good career, love, laughter, wealth, you name it. She blogs at Follow her on Instagram @daworkdiva and Facebook ''

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