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Joro ‘Doktor Mofin’ Asks ‘When you’re dating someone, should you date their whole family too?’

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Joro OlumofinJoro Olumofin is back with another article and this time while taking on relationships he asks the question of if dating should be a family affair.

Read his post below.

Should relationships be a family affair?

This is one of the most common questions in couples therapy and counseling because Family plays a major role in the success or failure of a relationship…

I must also state that there is no fixed solution or approach towards this question or phenomenon; Should you date your boyfriend’s/girlfriend’s family too? This is because it is relative i.e. families differ, personalities differ, and societal frameworks differ so there is no generalized solution but only a situational solution.

This being said, some people today, Guys/Ladies date their girlfriends or boyfriends family even extended Family too. They develop an intimate relationship with their boyfriends family members, attend all family functions, add all family members on bbm, whatsapp, Facebook, Instagram, go to their boyfriends house to do chores (wash plates, clothes), go and help their boyfriends mom to tie Gele and cook for her, travel to Ogun/Ondo state for a distant uncles 50th birthday party, call their boyfriends cousin to dish out relationship advice, etc.

The question remains – Are all these acts beneficial to the growth and prosperity of a relationship? Are these acts unnecessary? Are you giving people the right to interfere in your relationship?

In my Opinion, I believe you shouldn’t date your bf/gfs family too.

Of course one can have a cordial relationship with them, but don’t involve them in the day to day activities of your relationship because they are going to bring their own experiences, expectations and requirements into your relationship and sometimes even tell you how to manage your life or affairs.

Extraneous Variables in Psychology always need to be reduced or controlled to get an Objective result. Besides, a relationship should be between 2 people not 3, 4 or 5.

Also, sometimes you need to make your own mistakes so that you learn firsthand from them.

As I said earlier, it’s relative. So do what works for you in your own situation and environment.


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