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dreamstime_s_17481530I have my tinfoil hat on as I prepare this memo. I may need it, because though my readers have come here seeking enlightenment, at the end, I could be the one possible pleading indictments. This message will self-destruct after 5 minutes. Starting 1,2…..

Before my little bairn Otakaara goes to sleep every night, we observe our bedtime ritual.  I tuck her into bed and hand her stuffed animal, and then I ask her to recount what we have termed the 8 absolutes – an Esco family keepsake of pledges and mantras. Otaakara recites as follows:

– I am smart
– I am beautiful
– I am important
– I am Igbo
– I am Nigerian
– I love Jesus
– Jesus loves me
– Jesus protects me

And in that order too. Sometimes I get the arrangement mixed up when I try to repeat it with her, and Otaakara, all four years of her, interrupts me as she interjects with corrections: “Daddy that is not how it goes. Let me say it!”

Why do I make her recite this? Because they are reflective of the 3 main essences of life:
Creed
Kin
Value

When she gets a bit older and is capable of more complex understanding, I will teach her about relationships with the opposite sex (and warn of the baseball bat I keep for potential toasters), self-accord, graft, craft and the love of community. I will teach her about charity and chivalry. I will ingrain my daughter with lessons about the circle of life; and the world lessons passed on to me by the late, great Esco Senior.

I will teach her that happiness, fulfillment and contentment starts from her, and that she will be foolhardy to depend on any son of man for same. I do not know if I will succeed in imbibing this into her…but I will damn-near try.

You see, there is a war going on outside – no man is safe from. Nigerian men are under attack home and abroad. We used to have to contend with being treated like morally-corrupt fraudsters and fundamentalists in foreign lands.

Now our women at home are saying we menfolk are no good. It has become common place to attack men for laziness, a roving eye and for not manning up. For being cheap on dates, and for lacking the spine to cope with the nu-woman.

A few may have legitimate claims, but much of it is chaff for the trade winds.

Here is what I have discovered from hearing this oversubscribed subject discussed at every turn. Feel free to disagree:

Not every woman (or man) will or has to get married.
Not every chick is built for a relationship with anyone that is not herself. Some women (and men) are actually “unmarriageable”. They are certain females incapable by their nature of sharing a common path with another individual, much less a man. They have probably not realized it yet though they suspect it within, but something about another person with a phallus being in their personal space 24/7, expecting them to pool resources towards a common goal, and not putting the toilet seat back down makes the concept of jumping the broom burdensome to them. Nigerian society has to make space for the unmarried to exist peaceably without being critical of them. Not being in a relationship is not death. The dead are not scorched in the desert of desire. They do not suffer from the thirst of passion. Or stagger blindly towards some mirage of lost love.

A girl’s first interaction with a male is with a father figure
Hopefully this is her biological dad, stepdad or guardian, rather than a sugar daddy or political godfather. Her papa is her conduit pipe into the world of  the darker sex (and hopefully not darker sex), until she starts to form relationships with male siblings, peers and the like. The father figure either makes or mars this impression of men. Check if your first male relationships were intact and have not over-bloated or deflated your expectations of man. Would your brother recommend you to someone whose friendship he holds dear, while keeping a straight face?

The grass is always greener on the other side
As “Side” by Travis goes (I love that band): “The grass is always greener on the other side/ The neighbour’s got a new car that you want to drive”. Don’t be fooled by Bey and Jay, or whoever is the current rave – people work on their relationships and a love connection is harder to sustain than a diet of efo and PX90. Don’t believe all what you read in ThisDay Style. As the name implies, it exists to report the stylistics of the here and now. Love is the articulation of the tomorrow-ed. There are no fairy tale bonds without some strife or away matches. Love is a journey, not a destination. If you arrive, you get separated/divorced or get widowed. You pay in heartbreak, alimony or burial fees.

There is a need for Nigerian men to evolve
I do agree that the modern Nigerian man has to evolve a bit to be hip to changes in society. I see dudes who hand their wives a bundle of cash to go spend their final trimester in Yankee and give birth. In many instances the wife has to put up with an ex-school mate, overburdening them with pre-natal hospital appointments. The dude is nowhere to be found on the day of labor. Sometimes the father of the newly born child does not see the baby until 3-4 months after birth as the baby is not strong enough for travel. Besides the golden fleece (US passport) has to be collected before their return, or else. Mbanu!

Only sex?
Women complain that men are just interested in sexing. However, certain women are not sure themselves when they want this interest to start or quit. If a man acts gentlemanly, and regulates his trouser snake, certain women spread rumors about his sexuality, as their egos take a knock. Some even call him a mugu. I have always said it better for a man to err on the side of caution, and assume she is not interested in sex, until she asks for it in 3 languages, so that there is no miscommunication. Maybe is not yes. A cold shower is better than a cold cell. Nothing beats cold beer though. It does what it says on the bottle.

The feminism confusion
A lot of females these days seem a tad bit confused about “feminism” and where it starts and stops. The ideals of feminism are to empower womenfolk to be the best persons they can be, whether as a top brass of a Fortune 500 outfit, or as a housewife who keeps a home and suckles infants. Be the best you. Direct that blue chip company to greatness. Load that baby with milk like a boss!

Mega man, Ahoy!
It seems to be that some ladies wants a jack-of-all trades alpha male guy who goes to investigate a noise downstairs in the middle of the night with his cutlass and makes sure the house is safe for the whole family. Fair enough. The mega man who helps with all the chores including making dinner, doing the dishes and changing the baby’s diapers. Okay good. At the same time, he should be cheesy enough to watch your Africa Magic and forgo his football games with the lads. No o. He should be kind but strong, considerate and buff, macho but romantic, intellectual, and practical, manly but sensitive, in control and not controlling, eager but cool, worship the ground you walk on but allow you fly, smother you but not bother you, be lax but not relaxed, hold the forte and hold the pot, be short tempered and long papered. Bi-polar or no?

Wives want to you to treat them like a girlfriend; girlfriends want you to “wife” them. Confusing, I know.

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Fellow Nigerians, it is with the utmost pride and sincerity that I present these memoranda as a living testament and recollection of history in the making during our generation.Preamble: Esco is a lampoonist, content provider for hire, and convener of the blog Literati: Satires On Nigerian Life www.woahnigeria.wordpress.com, which is a symposium to project the conditions of every Nigerian and inspire young people all over the world. He is currently working on his memoirs “The Great, Wonderful Adventures of Esco”, which will be available in 2016. Esco can be reached for scripting writing, ghost writing and editing work by email at [email protected] Oh, and he occasionally tweets at @Escowoah.

52 Comments

  1. Gold digger

    October 22, 2015 at 6:09 pm

    Not so confusing, come back and talk to us when you daughter’s heart gets broken. I repeat no one is attacking the Nigerian Man. Just be the man you wish for your daughter or your sister.

    • bruno

      October 22, 2015 at 7:56 pm

      why dont u have sense.

      so are telling me women dont break men’s hearts.
      women use and dumb men like tissue paper here and there.

      Just because u dont see guys bitching and crying about it like u ladies do that doesnt mean its not happening.

      u are very bitter I can tell just by reading ur comment. if u hate men so much why not become a lesbian. mumu

    • Gold digger

      October 23, 2015 at 12:29 am

      You are right, women do break men’s hearts. We should teach our daughters too to treat the men the same way they would want their son or brothers to be treated. As for the mumu and bitter part, It takes one to know another. You sound bitter everyday on this site.

    • numommy

      October 23, 2015 at 9:02 am

      @gold digger. O ga o. That was harsh. Was it necessary to talk about his daughter to make your point?

    • Gold digger

      October 23, 2015 at 1:02 pm

      If I sounded harsh, then that was not the point I was trying to make. I was just pointing out how easy it is to talk now till it happens to someone close to our heart. The we begin to look at the situation a bit differently. There a million and one rules out there for the woman and time has proven that those rules don’t mean anything. The seem to be little or no rules for the man. With that said I actually like his articles and I am a fan.

    • Gold digger

      October 23, 2015 at 1:03 pm

      are* There*

  2. kanyin

    October 22, 2015 at 6:09 pm

    Rotflmao at the last part!(Mega man) Nah real bipolar.
    Esco! There’s a “special kind of grace” that helps you accomplish all of these things you stated. Ask for it! It is available. Lool!

  3. Dolly

    October 22, 2015 at 6:13 pm

    Great article and very well written, I have always said we are naturally born bi-polars and all these things you stated I have struggled to find a balance with, hence the question ‘is there really a PERFECT man?
    And most women call their men Gay when they are tight, trust me it works and gets their sensitivity to a 100 at maximum lol.
    I used to call my ex that when I’m mad and when we make up, he beats it up like he got a point to proof.

    • Nahum

      October 23, 2015 at 3:59 am

      TMI!!!!!

  4. Psalmmoel

    October 22, 2015 at 6:23 pm

    I love this story…really simple but captivating and engaging. Much love bro

  5. Krasavitsa

    October 22, 2015 at 6:23 pm

    1. Nigerian men NEED to evolve, we are tired of coping with your 1800 ways in 2015. 2. There’s nothing like “feed that baby like a boss” or “be the best housewife you can be”. That’s BS. Jesus did not die for any woman to be taking crown on top of housewife-ship.
    3. Again, Nigerian men MUST evolve and stop being selfish. I can’t go to work everyday, be on-call 3 times a week, explain that “gargajiya” is not medicine to patients only to come back and baby boo will stretch his legs on d table watching champion’s league and be demanding pounded-yam and ofe-nsala. Meanwhile, there’s a baby to “breast feed like a boss”.
    4. Men bashing will continue until y’all wake up or we get tired and start marrying men of other races.
    5. Women want to be treated like women regardless of status; Girlfriend, wife, FWB, fuck-buddy, side-chick, etc. We demand to be treated as EQUALS!
    My two cents. 🙂

    • numommy

      October 23, 2015 at 9:05 am

      Please I don’t understand point 2. Are you implying that there is something wrong with being a housewife?

  6. Ada Nnewi

    October 22, 2015 at 6:27 pm

    Mega Man Ahoy! had me in stitches…..Lmao!!!

  7. niyoola

    October 22, 2015 at 6:28 pm

    <3 <3 <3

  8. ednutey

    October 22, 2015 at 6:28 pm

    Any woman who wants her man to be all that, should also not be far from been all that to him too…communication,respect,been considerate,and so much more is key,Love,then binds all these together,cos if he isn’t all that to me n i love him enough, i’ld be contented,and it should be vice-versa,if she isn’t,the man should love her despite her flaws too,and both should be prepared to grow together.

    Contentment and NOT comparism is not far from holding things together,unless ur life depended on walking down the aisle,u shld never compare ur partner with whoever.

    #myonecent

  9. niyoola

    October 22, 2015 at 6:28 pm

    Someone will still come and bash this article.

  10. Cindy

    October 22, 2015 at 6:36 pm

    Esco lol you are funny I swear. Women want mega men? But we are only raising our standards the same was you people too have na. Ain’t nothing wrong with that. Oh let me list it. Financially independent but still need you, work and still be a HOUSEwife, bare children but still maintain figure 8, be Beyonce and Joyce Mayer all in one, be confident but still be a slave to mother-in-law, be enlightened but don’t socialize too much, be a porn star in bed but not too much so you won’t look like you love sex too much, be presentable to friends but don’t wear make-up etc.
    Shey I should continue? All I will say is that you men are only wailing now because you are beginning to feel how women have felt over the centuries. See how much it hurts when you are confined to a standard? You have not seen anything yet. Feminism, however you define it is here to say. That said, I still love you men.

    • MEE

      October 23, 2015 at 12:42 am

      Shinkena…. You said it all!!
      Previously when women were not really working, it was okay if they had to deal with the housework….but now that women work and are expected to, its unfair if they combine that with running the house as well. Women are wonderful creatures shaa…. They still manage to combine it well….but i haven’t seen that many men who do same. I’m not bashing men…. I’m just stating it as I have seen it

    • KennyG

      October 23, 2015 at 9:55 am

      Thanks so much for this comment…this is so true about some men…

  11. AB

    October 22, 2015 at 6:46 pm

    Mega man Ahoy! Lool…yes we want it all , just the way guys have their own list of want they need to see in a women, good cook, freaky in the sheets or however way it is said, not materialistic, a nurturer, takes care of herself, will be your peace (which means sometimes she too gon have to overlook ur childish behaviours) etc why cant we have our own list too! yes yall be bipolar, spices it all up anyways! I’m glad a man has picked up that chicks are tired or are getting there…so you start acting right by women! Infact yall start from your sons..but then you cant give what you dont have! Start from yourselves men, read books, reconnect in a deeper way with God, he will teach you how to be all things to your woman, find someone you look up to that you can relate with that can advise you and help you (afterall no man is an island).., In the mean time yall just go fix it, Lord Jesus help our men fix it & get it right – stop making excuses- Yes You can!!!!

  12. Spanish Guitar

    October 22, 2015 at 7:07 pm

    I love love love your writing style Esco. I quite agree that we demand a lot from our men but they also demand quite a lot from us too as stated above by @Krasavitsa.

  13. Hoover

    October 22, 2015 at 7:20 pm

    . So many brilliant beautiful young ladies are lowering their standards and getting married to wrong men for the wrong reasons.Some ladies see some of these tendencies during courtship but choose to overlook then later turn around and start complaining. Nigerian ladies should scrutinize,observe and never ever settle for less due to societal pressures on marriage. Nothing like mega man.Communication,Mutual respect,Forgiveness and Sacrifice/Compromise is the key.

  14. mabel

    October 22, 2015 at 7:46 pm

    ‘ Love is a journey and not a destination’. Gbam. After reading the book ‘why you act the way you do’ by Tim Lahaye last year, I’ve learned a lot about different temperaments and how to compromise. I recommended same to my boo. He understands that he needs to go read a book while i watch my African magic . I sit and support his team with half of my heart when it comes to Epl. Lol. We cook together in the kitchen and we both clean the house. He does our laundry. His dad thought him that a real man takes care of his woman and she in turn will love him forever. Fathers should do more of teaching their kids how important both sexes are. Don’t just leave the job for mothers. Boys always look out for approval from their fathers. Train up your child the way he should go and he will not depart from it. Esco I got you.

  15. mabel

    October 22, 2015 at 7:51 pm

    *taught*

  16. Cynical

    October 22, 2015 at 9:22 pm

    Esco for president……lol. Esco,u can do no wrong in my eyes o. Greet Otaakara.

  17. Kelechi

    October 23, 2015 at 2:14 am

    For the past few years I only date feminist. I have realised that there is some weird sort of chemistry between me and most feminist. Probably the need to conquer them and make them release those anger and hate for men. There is not as engaging as subduing a feminist, and putting them through those emotional stress. Most guys don’t realise that feminist are the best to date, although it might be had to break the outer shell, but once you do, it becomes a roller coaster.

    My point is most ladies on this site lack that man that will put dem were they belong, as a result takes it out on men in general. So i guess we should empathise with them rather than castigate them, most especially Natu, ada nnewi, cindy,…………

    • ElessarisEllendil

      October 23, 2015 at 4:38 am

      I just want to thank you for the entertainment you’ll provide when the women wake up.

    • bn lover

      October 23, 2015 at 6:11 am

      Lol @ElsssarisEllendil u have finished me with laugh

    • Krasavitsa

      October 23, 2015 at 8:27 am

      Lmaooooooo. It’s too early to be laughing dis loudly abeg.

    • Mz Socially Awkward...

      October 23, 2015 at 2:47 pm

      *Laughing with real, proper TEARS streaming from my eyes*

      Why are you peepu on this site not alright, ohhhhhh??

    • Ike

      October 23, 2015 at 6:52 am

      I endorse this message. There is this lady wey carry feminist matter for head in my work place, at first I found it annoying and never wanted to do anything with her. But for some reason she and I started talking, I was able to have a non work relationship with her and when she finally poured her heart out to me, I realise that it was because she haven’t met the man to put her were she belongs. Now she is very loyal and not bothered with the whole feminist Buhaha…

      I sincerely do sympathise with most ladies on this site, and I hope they find that man they deserve.

    • Nala

      October 24, 2015 at 12:40 am

      Looool ! You are terminally ignorant!

    • Krasavitsa

      October 23, 2015 at 8:35 am

      Oga #puttingwomenintheirplace, I would give you the response you deserve, but it’s better I let the other “bitter women” like myself, who haven’t found men to “put us in our place”, wake up and give it to you. Smh. Wait! Are you for real???
      PS, keep your miserable sympathy to yourself!

    • Magz

      October 23, 2015 at 11:43 am

      Dear Kelechi, i am sorry to let you know, those ex-feminists you dated? They duped you! Yes! Feminism is not about being hateful towards men, no! Let me define it in a very simple way that even you will understand (cos i think you may find it difficult to understand the normal definition) – a feminist is someone who believes she has the right to have ambitions/goals just as a man does! Understood? or do you want me to define ambition/goal for you?

      Let me give a clear example that will even make it simpler for you…..

      My mother is a staunch feminist ( not that she sings it all the time) but she is freaking ambitious (even more than most of her male colleagues). She put her foot down when my dad insisted that she must not work in the early years of their marriage and she won. It was her job that helped when my retired father was sick and no pension was paid till he passed on. Today, she has achieved more than most men in her field of career not because of anything but because she was/is ambitious. We normally tease her that she hustles more than her four kids! She has two houses, and her own car (apart from the one my dad gave her). She tells us, her kids (we are all girls) “what a man can do, a woman can do it far far better. Just because you are a girl, doesn’t mean you cannot be successful” That statement sums up what feminism is!
      Does that mean she hates men? No! Does that mean she wasn’t a good wife to my father? No! Does that mean she isn’t a good mother? No! But she’s a feminist because she didn’t allow the fact that she is a woman deter her from having ambition/goal and achieving them! In fact, i constantly say it that if i get to have just 70% of her ambitious spirit, then i am good. She is always the one shouting “Oluwatomisin, get a car. You earn enough and if a man is intimidated because of that, then i don’t want such man for you!”

      So please, before you run your mouth and INTENTIONALLY get the meaning of feminism wrong, do your findings very well and don’t let your penis release too much tears of joy just because it kpanshed some fake feminists! Most of you men think it is okay to have standards for women and then we cannot have standards we want for you? Y’all miss it just the way you normally miss the definition of feminism!

      Dear Esco, I have continuously read your articles and I’ve gained so much but this one? Well, it made me laugh, and i think that’s a good thing.

      Like some “bitter” women like me have said in some comments above, men have always had expectations of women but now that women decided to have expectations of men as well, we are the unrealistic ones.

      Yeah right! It is not men bashing, it is just our expectations!

    • anony

      October 23, 2015 at 12:36 pm

      Magz, you can have expectations for all i care.
      I have said it and i am saying it again. Except if it is you that will marry me. If it is I that will propose, ask you to marry me, buy ring, wedding gown, move to my house, you are joking!

      In fact your joke no get part 2. Just be day dreaming ok?

      Your options deaming Magz:
      1. Remain single and dont bore us with your feminist brouhaha
      2. Marry and simply comply
      3. Go order for a clay moulded man to listen to all your orders
      4. Go marry a guy who needs your money, will say yes ma, collect your money and later taunt you ontop of your money!

      You are still a child
      gerrarahia with your silly philosophies
      Na on top internet all dose yarning reach

    • Magz

      October 23, 2015 at 1:01 pm

      @Anony, we are sorry o. Heeya pele. *in 2 Broke Girls’ Sophie’s voice* wait a minute! wait a minute!! I never said i wanted YOU to propose to me, i never said i wanted YOU to bring me into your house! Cos i don’t understand why you decided to crawl out of your cave to reply to my comment. Believe me, there is a woman out there whom you truly deserve and who deserves you, may Almighty God arrange for your meeting as soon as possible…..Amen! Me, marry the all and mighty you? For where? I no even fit! if no be say i wan nice today, i for pray say guys treat your sisters & daughters (when you born) d way u dey treat women.

      Next time, Anony, you may decide to show your face and not hide under “anonymous” umbrella AND read very well so that you can understand.

      My Yoruba people will say “a ni omo go, won ni ko ma sha ti ku, kini pa omo bi o ki n se ago?”

    • whocares

      October 23, 2015 at 11:56 am

      @Kelechi.. you are a – idiot. That’s all. There is no more to be said. “You only date feminist”. No darling, you don’t. What you have been doing is scraping the bottom of the barrel within your pond (is that English too big for you?, wait, let me reduce it small. No I don’t know how to.. my bitter feminist mind just can’t cope with inferiority.. ). You would not dare to show your face where real women are and you know it. That is why your mind is so small and filled with your “conquest”. it is the highlight of your existence inst it? I understand, don’t worry. Omo ori iru e ri. Yet those women, basic as they might be, they will keep improving and getting better with their lives, but you, you will be stuck here in this endless cycle. No be swear o. Na you talk say feminist breaking is your hobby abi? . For your mind now oti gba star.. Okugbe.
      Eski, no vex. I did not come to spew venom on your thing o. Now as to what you wrote. No, we don’t hate men.. After all they have the one thing we women cannot give ourselves without batting for the other team. lool. Its just that more women are talking about their experiences with men. It is like when Dorian Gray saw himself for the first time in the mirror. It was not a pretty sight. The same thing is happening here. Women are talking more about their experiences as there is more availability in the guise of media etc. Men do not like what women are saying about them, the general sentiments expressed? or how they are being portrayed? It’s simple then, CHANGE as these women’s stories are most often the truth. Yes some decent brothers will feel hurt but sorry, you are collateral damage, same way some women are collateral damage to stupid sexist remarks like “all women are hos”.
      Look at our brother Kelechi for example. If one of those “feminist women” decided to “swear for him in the nude at 5am” will you blame her? No, women are not blameless either. but in this cycle of victimization as the mannist like to claim now, women definitely win, therefore, I have no sympathy for men like Kelechi. Neither do I approve of terrible women etc.

    • whocares

      October 23, 2015 at 12:02 pm

      *an idiot. That awkward moment you try to insult someone and then make a mistake..

    • Mz Socially Awkward...

      October 23, 2015 at 2:55 pm

      Actually, I thought you threw in the dash because you really wanted to curse out loud but decided to keep it classy (i.e. “you’re a _ idiot and feel free to fill in the blank space with the adjective that will best describe your own particular kind of idiocy”) … 🙂

    • Ufuoma

      October 23, 2015 at 8:27 pm

      See how small minded you are,you probably have some serious inferiority issues if the only way you can feel good about your miserable existence is to “subdue” and conquer women.You my dear are clear proof that having male genitalia and anatomy definitely doesn’t make you a man and age most definitely doesn’t bring wisdom, Ewu Gambia

  18. melinda

    October 23, 2015 at 8:45 am

    The last line though… Lol. Nice one esco

  19. Just saw one now

    October 23, 2015 at 8:54 am

    Funny enough, one just called me now to see me.

    Leave dat thing, they are bitter and hardliners cos they never find love and never jam d guy who go break their camel’s back .

    Let dem find love, dey will turn to mumu and say “their bf/husband is their small god”

  20. KennyG

    October 23, 2015 at 9:53 am

    @Cindy, you’ve said it all….thanks a lot for your comment.

  21. B

    October 23, 2015 at 11:17 am

    Mega Man Ahoy paragraph is hilariousssssssssss! I laffed out loud in the office ooo.

    This article just shows that Woman & Men will never agree on some things. Let’s just agree to disagree, ok?

  22. Yue

    October 23, 2015 at 1:00 pm

    There are just two main reasons why I am very happy about this Feminist issue.
    1. The only thing a lot of men have/had over them was/is power, power from the wealth they have. And a lot of women didn’t/don’t mind, even if it wasn’t clear what business these men were into, so long as they could get something from them, fine! Presently, plenty men are very insecure that that power, women can also have but even more they know they can.
    2. Some men feel women who achieve wealth are out to get them, shame them and fight them with it. Although that may be true for some women, But hail! Hail the woman who knows that she has to make goals for herself, achieve them, and improve on herself, for herself and not for any man. At the end of the day, men with the most terrible characters and qualities (bad habits, excessive smoking and drinking, physical violence, ugly eating habits etc) will learn to build themselves so that they will attract the right women! most men think they could have very terrible habits and still find a woman to put up with it because they have that money, status, wealth, but boy are we evolving! Women now know that they don’t have to put up with bullshit from anyone for anything. Become a billionaire for all she cares and have bad qualities, she’s off! Every individual deserves someone who they deserve, someone worth it. And now, it’s becoming clearer. The best thing any man can do is : also achieve as much as they can for themselves and build their personal lives and qualities, only then will you attract the right woman.
    Incase you’re still there bragging on your mansion and money, note that : “We women, have become the men we want to marry” -Gloria effeing .

    • Yue

      October 23, 2015 at 1:06 pm

      “We have become the men we wanted to marry”*. That is!

  23. Claire

    October 23, 2015 at 1:36 pm

    This writing style is so perfect. Different from the regular. Excellent command of English language. Lovely write up Esco

  24. Tru

    October 23, 2015 at 3:53 pm

    esco ooooooo you have come again o, kai I am dead with laughter at your baseball bat, darker sex analogy and Mega Man analysis. But I won’t lie o, you totally get us womenfolk sha!

  25. Chi

    October 23, 2015 at 5:51 pm

    Nigerian men…..(not all though) mothers please mould your sons into the sort of people that you would want your own daughters to be married to. For someone who has been married for over 2 decades, if you ask me to put in order of priority what I hold closest and dearest to me right now in my life… I will say my kids come first, career second and hubby can be kicked to the kerb.

    The reason is simply because he is of no use to me when it comes to parenting or even been useful around the house. I believe he thinks I am a superwoman who can do it all. He plays his role concerning taking care of financial responsibilities (and I do my part too) but is that what being a husband, father, and parenting is all about? Is raising children handled only by the woman? Is it only a woman that understands the importance of PTA meetings, School activities, taking kids to the hospital when necessary etc Even now that they are grown, I am still the go to person for anything concerning parenting!!

    When my kids get married, I might actually just leave.

    If I had to do it all over again….. having been married and seen what its all about, I will simply not get married . Just have children in my next life and go the whole hog on my own.

  26. tunmi

    October 23, 2015 at 8:36 pm

    What is with the demand that mothers raise their sons? Demand that parents raise their children please

  27. Nala

    October 24, 2015 at 12:46 am

    By the way Esco, this article is pointless. You have missed the mark on this one.

  28. Junie

    October 25, 2015 at 5:06 pm

    Esco!!! just so you know i have always loved you. Even though i may not agree with everything you have said. I have read objectively and i know that u have made some very strong points.

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