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#BN2015Epilogues: Phoebe Fell & Got Back Up Again!



Happy new year to all our readers! As promised, we are continuing the 2015 Epilogues due to the volume of responses we got. We’d like to thank every one who sent an entry, and if you sent your story before the 15th of December 2015, you will see it published on BellaNaija.

If you’re reading this and wondering, ‘What on earth is the series about?’ please catch up HERE.

Phoebe‘s story is one of our favourites in this series. It’s so real in its simplicity and honesty that we believe everybody can relate to it. 

Please enjoy it as much as we did.

It is so great to see the end of 2015. It has actually been a year.

It started out well with my usual 40 days fasting and prayers and also reading the book “A Purpose Driven Life”. I was all so excited about the year.

Well, the first hurdle started with the job (I work with an audit firm). So while a lot of my colleagues were busy auditing different clients and gaining experience, I was stuck with a particular client for 5 months doing a job that was not related to auditing and not gaining any experience.

That was already May 2015. I wrote my ICAN examinations and failed a paper which was not part of the plan, which meant I had to re-write in November 2015.

Fast forward to my greatest battle; I have always been a very good girl. Lover of God, Sunday school teacher, a lot of people look up to me, until I fell into the hands of this married man. At the start, I didn’t know the guy was married. We started going out, and then I found out he was married. The truth is I fell, and I fell flat.

I became crazy about this guy, looking forward to seeing him regularly. As if that was not enough, there was also a someone else at my tution house (i.e. where I take tutorials for my ICAN) who was also married and was seriously on my case. These men were both asking for sex. There was a time I almost gave in asking myself what I am saving it for. This is aside all the different proposals you get as a young lady.

With all this temptation, I am trying to remain faithful to a guy I refer to as my boyfriend who is far away in a south- south state and who I have not seen in 2 years and 4 months and is not saying anything…even when I ask (I wonder if I am in a relationship).

Furthermore, I was robbed twice in my house within a space of one month, sometime in September. The two incidents happened within the hours of 2- 3am on their respective days. I stay with my siblings and we were just two ladies in the house the day the robbers came.

I started searching for a new accommodation after this incident and you know what looking for a decent accommodation can be like in Lagos.

So today is 9th of December, which is also my birthday month. Here I am grateful: that I have a job that can pay my bills without having to depend on any MAGA; that I finally got a good accommodation in a serene environment; that I have family and friends who care about me; for my new nephew who joined our family in October; that the robbers took every material thing we had in the house but they didn’t take our lives; that little by little, I am recovering all that the robbers took; that I didn’t lose myself to the hands of men who were after my body; that I broke out from the affairs with the men (although it was a real struggle, I can’t lie); that I refuse to let the lust of this world or the brief pleasure of now ruin what I have proposed to keep for wonderful man God is preparing me; and finally that even though my faith in God shook and I sometimes felt unworthy to be called God’s child, God endless love held me throughout.

I look forward to 2016 knowing that my I CAN qualification is certain, knowing a better job is certain, knowing that my walk with God is getting better and waxing stronger.

Thank you for an opportunity to share.

Photo Credit: Dreamstime | Rohappy


  1. DD

    January 4, 2016 at 12:43 pm

    Beautiful write-up Phoebe, I love your honesty and positivity. Have a wonderful 2016!!

  2. hephzibah

    January 4, 2016 at 1:32 pm

    Thank you Phoebe for your honesty,God’s grace will keep you going,the Lord who has kept me and is still keeping me against all odds will sustain us till the end.

  3. Nk

    January 4, 2016 at 2:00 pm

    It will be well with you and us all in 2016 , and the lord God will help us cross the hurdles and make the right decision

  4. Naija Girl

    January 4, 2016 at 2:16 pm

    I wish you all the best dearie

  5. Ehiwarior

    January 4, 2016 at 4:31 pm

    Dear Phoebe,

    Welcome to 2016, God will restore to you the years that the locust hath eaten, the cankerworm, and the caterpillar, and the palmerworm, and he will send you great army in Jesus name.
    It is our year of greater glory.

  6. Ozyy

    January 4, 2016 at 7:56 pm

    Story of my lifeeeeeeeeeee…GOD has been faithfull..same scenario…different people (you n me)….it can only get better..Amen.

  7. frannie-beautifilsoul

    January 4, 2016 at 9:21 pm

    Awww…God is indeed faithful. Its great when we choose to ignore the negatives n focus on just the positives cos that’s the only way we can be grateful n better doors opened for us by our creator. Thanks dear for sharing ur wonderful story n remain blessed.

  8. aleesha

    January 5, 2016 at 2:44 am

    Here’s wishing you a 2016 that is better than all you have hoped for. God bless you.

  9. phoebe

    January 6, 2016 at 5:35 pm

    thank you all so much for the words for comfort. thanks bellanaija for sharing my story. i almost gave up on seeing my story posted on the blog. i cried, i laugh, i smiled, i couldn’t contain my excitement. Happy new year everyone. More good works bella naija

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