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Richard Akuson: 7 Life Lessons For Prospective & Intending Baby Mamas in 2016

Richard Akuson

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The last days of 2015 have clearly been raining baby mama drama, and in some twisted way, it’s really been a fantastic time for some of us who live for moments like these. We don’t have to pay a dime for top-notch prime time drama.

But ladies, ‘baby mama’ is not a job, and it definitely does not pay well in Nigeria. Imagine earning a paltry 300,000 Naira a month, at its best – when your mates in the States and elsewhere are cashing in thousands of Dollars every month. Just like we’re about to study, in Sophia Momodu and Davido’s case, we’ll learn that the meager 300,000 Naira even comes with an overdose of sorrow and indignity.

While reading Davido’s reply on Instagram, these were the only things that my eyes saw, and it’ll do you some good if you can learn from them.

1. “She was able to manipulate and exploit my youth, naivety and generosity” – You see, it’ll all boils down to you tricking, calculating and maneuvering your way into their lives and beds, and most importantly “allowing” yourself to get pregnant. I’m sure when the going was good, Davido didn’t remember that he was only 21.

2. “She would never be my wife and she was never qualified for that status” – Hmmm….at the end of the day, it’ll all boil down to classism and status. You might have qualified as a bed mate, but my friend, don’t be foolish enough to think that you automatically qualify as a wife.

3. “Her Background is very dissimilar from mine” – No, he didn’t say upbringing. He said background. So, you heard it right. Some day my friends, it’ll be about how much he has and how much you don’t have. And if you’re lucky to find someone from a rich home as Davido, it’ll definitely be about what his family has and yours doesn’t.

4. “She has paltry education and equally diminished physical attributes” – Are you planning to drop out of school like Anna Banner to become a baby mama? Or are you not in school… simply because you’re pursuing your future baby daddy? Please wake up and smell the coffee on the table. Soon it’ll be about how you have “paltry education”. Soon it’ll be about how you’re not educated enough, or how they’ll say you have “diminished physical attributes”. These are wicked things they won’t say when getting some!

5. “Sophia got me and appropriated me at 21” – You might be lucky to find an older version of Davido. Let’s say Flavour. It’ll still come down to ‘appropriation’ – how you want him all to yourself when he’s supposed to be free for all.

6. “I have just unbridled my life from her diabolical and shameless stranglehold” – Yes, Yes! They’ll say you used Jazz, love portion and charms. How else could you with your “diminished physical attributes” have gotten him to knock you up?

7. “Momodu [sic] family who wants me to buy a car for a woman who is NOT MY WIFE and also a habitual and ceaseless night crawler” – Phew! Well, most importantly it’ll be about how you’re just the mother of his child and nothing else. And then how you’re a “habitual and ceaseless night crawler”. A thing that would elude his notice when he is getting down with you, until of course you “allow” yourself get knocked up by him.

Finally, my dear intending and prospective 2016 baby mamas, if all else fails to discourage you from your ambition, let this be an eye opener, or at least an inside peek of what life as a baby mama is all about.

Sophia might be lucky to have an influential uncle in some ways (God bless his heart), who cried and was heard, do you think you have one who is not only ready to soil his reputation in your baby mama drama, but to do so and be heard too? Do you think you too have what it takes to clamp down on a celebrity like Davido when the sweet times go sour and stop your child from being taken away from you?

Think about it, and let this be the last good that you do for yourself in 2015.

Photo Credit: Dreamstime |  Kiosea39 

Richard Akuson is founder at The PR Boy a boutique media and press relations agency for fashion, beauty and lifestyle brands with a specialty in raising the overall awareness of a brand, product or image of a company or person. Richard is also a weekly columnist at Bellanaija.com ('On The Catwalk' and 'Collection Conversations'), he's also a party host at The Front Row and a vlogger at Get Pink with Richard .Want to reach out? Follow @richardakuson on Instagram and @richardakuson on Twitter or send an email to [email protected]

44 Comments

  1. jasmine

    January 1, 2016 at 8:10 pm

    All this talks r not necessary. They still will not hear. The ones that want to be baby mama will still be baby mama

    • Seriously

      January 1, 2016 at 9:29 pm

      Just as there’s babymama, there’s a babydaddy. Both have to take responsibility to make a change. Men created this problem that has turn into a monster. Is it that hard to stick to one girl and practice self control. Men glorified this whole babymama especially by African American community. Women see it as an easier way to make money and to be famous. We live in a capitalism world. Women found out they can make money spreading their legs, having a baby. Then men think it’s cool not to protect themselves and make women depend on them bcos of their ego.

      Babymama is good money. How many professional young women make bonus money without working. The difference is, integrity and respect for oneself. But some don’t care.

    • Tina

      January 1, 2016 at 10:42 pm

      Sophie became a babymama because she wants to, guess she’s ready for the drama

    • osa

      January 2, 2016 at 2:00 am

      This guy has said it all. I still maintain that Sophie owes her uncle for life.
      If that baby had been flown out, sophie would never have seen her again. Davido’s family would have told the baby later in life that her mother was an unfit crackhead attempting to kill her and doesn’t love her . The baby would have been estranged from her own biological mother.

      One irresponsible overgrown baby called davido would now have won? Lailai.

  2. glow

    January 1, 2016 at 8:15 pm

    Dear writer, N300,000 monthly is certainly not “meagre” in Nigeria. Junior Doctors in Nigeria earn an average of N200,000 monthly; after the rigorous years in school, after sweating, handling blood, handling very deadly diseases everyday…and yes, our hazard allowance is a meagre N5000 monthly….and no one is throwing a flat in Lekki in the mix for them…Let alone other civil servants whose take home is around N100,000. abeg! Baby mama business is the way to go!…

    • Hmnnn

      January 1, 2016 at 9:40 pm

      Hun, 300k is equalivalent of a thousand pounds, its meagre if you really analyse it. Many girls that didnt even have a child for a man are getting way more than that . Have you heard of the ex-beauty queen ( (MBGN 2011) her intials SN. Who just got a palatial mansion in park view estate from her billionare Magnate (AD). Baby needs( food, toiltries, clothes),
      Nanny, house help, driver, and other expenses.
      Or go and ask Amber Rose or Royalty Mama.
      On a more serious note, girls should set more values & standards for themselves. Davido showed so much immaturity by saying all that about his daughter’s mum, did he really have to go that far. Her physical attributes, education, family background and so on. You dont want her no more case closed , Davido even went as far as accusing Sophie of sleeping with his dad’s friends.
      Kilode! bottom line its over , you should have said only that …

    • osa

      January 2, 2016 at 2:05 am

      At hmnn I wish I could give you
      a hug for your comment. You sound really intelligent with an analytical mind.
      Davido may never grow up. Is the truth. His parents obviously didn’t raise him well.
      People talk of n300k like it was 30000 dollars

    • OJ

      January 2, 2016 at 2:19 am

      We’ve just caught one potential ojukokoro here oooo…..Already translating 300k to pounds!!!!

    • Susan

      January 2, 2016 at 9:57 pm

      Even in Canada and the U.S., people don’t earn up to that.

  3. calabar gal

    January 1, 2016 at 8:17 pm

    Very true Richard, very true! All ye intending 2016 baby mamas – take note!

    Davido and his family should thank Dele – he just saved them the hassles of being prosecuted for child abduction in whatever country they were heading to ……. That his sister that was claiming she was the mother of the child – that her statement would have choked her big time on arrival at her destination….

    • Uju

      January 1, 2016 at 8:32 pm

      Very true!!
      US doesn’t play with child abduction/ human trafficking

    • Tee

      January 2, 2016 at 12:09 am

      Yes you’re indeed correct that the US does not play with child abduction. But when a child is endangered by his or her mother due to negligence ( smoking pot and breastfeeding) , you best believe the child will not be placed with her mother.
      I’m not condoning what Davido did, or his sister claiming that’s her daughter. That’s for the court to deal with.
      And Davido is stealing his own child ? How? He lives in Dubai now ? I’m confused ? It’s obvious they were going to get the little girl treatments and had every intention of coming back. So he was going to steal his daughter and live in Dubai without repercussions ? Davido may not be bright but I’m sure his parents know better.
      I think personally Davido should have let her know I’m taking “our” daughter for treatment . If she said no does he really have a choice, especially if it’s for the sake of the child. I don’t know
      The Nigerian system is a little different so I’m clueless

  4. YIN

    January 1, 2016 at 8:20 pm

    Nice article. Thumbs up!

  5. Rpbin Hood

    January 1, 2016 at 8:23 pm

    The fact is the moral fabric of the nation is jaded. This has led to a generation of cheap women(unfortunately these cheap women far outnumber the relatively reasonable ones). Being a baby mama is now a pseudo profession. I hope my children’s generation will be better off

  6. Tunmi

    January 1, 2016 at 8:32 pm

    Oh please. Tell your men to zip up and use contraceptives

    • ElessarisElendil

      January 2, 2016 at 12:55 am

      Or women to take the pill or zip up s well. Goes both ways.

  7. mrs chidukane

    January 1, 2016 at 8:39 pm

    I laughed at an Uncle who is willing to soil his reputation on your behalf.

  8. Tosin

    January 1, 2016 at 8:43 pm

    Yoruba baby daddys apparently don’t have manners. I’m voting for Flavour. Davido on the other hand, false advertising. Always saying he’ll spend money on me if I just shake my booty or follow him galala or whatever, asheyyy after he would complain start counting shopping money on my head. New year, new strategy. 😛

    • Susan

      January 2, 2016 at 10:03 pm

      Flavor has manners that’s why he got married without telling his other baby mama, and he told Anna to look for a cheaper apartment cause he’ll be unable to pay her rent when her current apartment (lease) expires. He has manners that’s why he chose being a judge at Peter’s event as opposed to being at his child’s dedication. He’s very well mannered that’s why it took him forever to even acknowledge and accept his baby with Anna, as well as ignoring Anna’s calls and messages. “Yoruba baby daddy’s apparently don’t have manners”. These ridiculous generalisations should end this year.

  9. ese

    January 1, 2016 at 9:07 pm

    David is a child for God’s sake. A baby fighting to get custody of another baby. I don’t know why people called out Delete Momodu for what he did,saying it was childish/immature. He is dealing with a child so he had to act in like manner,since David was being childish too. And his sister sef,you would think as a woman she would have been more compassionate. Na wa

    • osa

      January 2, 2016 at 2:08 am

      My dear, God bless you for your comment

  10. Nahum

    January 1, 2016 at 9:08 pm

    Naija girls please for goodness sake, stop this madness! You can not trap a man with pregnancy, you can not snatch a man that does not want to be snatched and you must not put all your hopes and dreams on a man. Go to school, start a business, make your own way and the right man will come along. Please let 2016 bring an end to this baby mama, sidechicking madness. Please!

  11. Pee

    January 1, 2016 at 9:49 pm

    Thank you for this beautiful piece. It’s disheartening to know that despite the dangers involved in engaging in pre marital sex, people will still indulge in it. Is Sex food? Will we die if we remain celibate and channel our strength to more productive things? I haven’t heard or read anywhere that abstinence kills. Why can’t we just give abstinence a try and save ourselves from the shame that comes with pre marital Sex? If Davido and Sophia were legally married, I don’t think the drama will be as scandalous as this. Ladies, ‘baby mama’ is not a legally recognised title! For once, sit down and think about the consequences- you will be the one to take contraceptives and still be worried about getting pregnant. If you get pregnant, you’ll be the one to carry that child for 9 months and still cater for the child after birth. The man will just blow his semen into you and move on with his life. Is it worth the stress?
    Men, how will you feel if your sister or daughter is treated like trash by another man? Even if you don’t believe in God and His judgment, don’t you have a conscience? I hope you are aware that there’s a new STD in town-mycoplasma genitalia. Let’s be responsible for once. Being responsible saves you a lot of stress and money.
    Dear Lord, please give us extra sense in this year.

  12. frannie-beautifulsoul

    January 1, 2016 at 9:58 pm

    What a world!where women has to take responsibility for anything that goes wrong. Its time parents start raising their sons right or is it that the males if this generation are not okay upstairs? U meet a lady n all that’s on ur mind is laying her n moving on like nothing happened even without protection? Then talk of her with so much disgust n hatred. Diaris God ooh. Women are way too emotional n blv they are in love. May God help us all to try our best in raising kids into responsible n God fearing adults whose words would be their bond.

    • OJ

      January 2, 2016 at 2:23 am

      Raise your daughters as well not to be opening their yansh for every baba olowo that comes along….you wana tie the blame on the men without realising the role of women as well….

    • passingby

      January 2, 2016 at 10:38 pm

      @ OJ if ashawo open leg for you you go enter without raincoat abi?. Na men dey patronise them that is why buisness is flourishing. She done hook cash cow. The girl can now retire, close her knocking shop and bleed omo baba olowo dry. Sophia’s Mama did’t raise no idiot. Davido , sha parents raised a big gullible Olodo. Mothers WARN your SON’S. Gone are the daze when guys use women and drop them. These daze sistas are getting PAID. Brothers be sharp Don’t get caught out like this scapegoat.

  13. sherlock

    January 1, 2016 at 10:08 pm

    Hold on wait one big fat minute . So this sophia stole semen from Davido. Davido no be F-tard Na he sef knows were baby’s come from. My people like to demonise women oh. If I were a man to avoid disease, life long child maintance I will have fun with a CONDOM. It is the cheapest form of insurance against misery. Look at the excuses he is giving sef, like a proper Fucktard. He admits it was a casual sexual encounter and alarming enough he didn’t think to protect himself. All these dirty Bois and there diseased blood. Girls be warned you might be able to trap them because they are stupid but you fit go buy one get disease for free.

  14. gyasi

    January 1, 2016 at 10:38 pm

    childish write up…. is Nigeria and USA the same, 300,000 naiira a month is more than what people earn here as salary. this is some clueless – write up I’m not surprise at 21 I wasn’t half the shit I am now neither was davido or the dude that wrote this – of a write up he is 21 too lol no wonder he writes crap.

    • Lee

      January 2, 2016 at 10:07 pm

      Not generally true. I live in Canada and I totally disagree. Some people do not even earn up to N300,000 equivalent a month. Who are you deceiving?

    • Lee

      January 2, 2016 at 10:08 pm

      And Davido is 23, not 21.

  15. Kayla

    January 1, 2016 at 11:00 pm

    @gyasi because he said don’t be a baby mama in 2016. He wrote crap abi? It’s a sad case that fast money,fame and all that is the way to be tagged successful in Nigeria

  16. ifepe nnennia

    January 1, 2016 at 11:58 pm

    since girls sold their values all in the name of money and fame;they should get ready for the insults and hardship.i do not know why a pretty lady will prefer to be a baby mama all in the name of getting wealthy.cant you work and make your money.imagine little davido;i call him a rat insulting this pretty girl all in the name of what.imagine pretty anna banner getting pregnant for flavour when there re millions of men that re dying to take care of her.ladies please close your legs and gents please close your legs too.for the ladies if he needs sex he should man up and take you to the altar

  17. femfem

    January 2, 2016 at 12:04 am

    Hmm let us not lie 300 is a very good salary especially since rent is paid as well . How many people earn more than that.

  18. omawumi

    January 2, 2016 at 1:36 am

    Another 21 year old who will soon claim to be barely a man.
    Yes we need you to police women and their vaginas. Davido and his drama is all shades of wrong, but bella naija needs to stop with stories of men telling women what to do.

    You need to face your fashion writing whatever that means and police men and their dicks. Where we not here when davido adviced his ‘fans’ to strap on a condom and not fall prey to baby mama ish? Can you account for every sperm that you have left behind in battle. Gtfoh.

    21 year old pikin. I don’t blame you. Na bella naija give you platform. Everybody is a writer.

  19. kmt

    January 2, 2016 at 5:32 am

    Okay read davidos tweets and i am sorry even at the present age he comes across like a big stupid baby. 21 yrs old is not a joke oh. People get married, hold down jobs and take responsibility at 19 yrs old. See how daddys money has turned this one into typical cliche abgaya spoilt brat tinz. Mtchewwww.
    Daddy should have spent more time with this one discplining him instead of throwing money at him .Now he believes he can throw money about and get he’s way. And like a typical brat stamps his feet and throws his toys out the pram when he doesn’t get his way. I have zero respect for this boy, yep doesnt deserve to be called a man .He has zero talent and too much of daddy’s money to spend. Just listen to him claiming gullible childhood at the ripe adult age of 21. Honestly!!!!!!. What a big shame!!!!!!!!.. maybe daddy should buy big baby diapers and padlock the big ass adult dick hanging off this big baby’s waist. KMT.

  20. Uber bella

    January 2, 2016 at 2:58 pm

    Baby mama business never ends well. Too messy and degrading. Make your own name , make your own paper and dont depend on nobody. Hope ladies will listen.

  21. Mabinuori

    January 2, 2016 at 5:01 pm

    That baby was “abducted” 5 months ago and Sophie was quiet since allowee was still flowing.
    She knew allowee will stop if baby is taken out of the country and cried out.
    Who is fooling who? She deliberately and calculatively took in for omo Baba olowo to grant her a citizen of the olowo family.
    Oju e ti ja bayi. Oniranu, ole (lazy), ole (thief).
    You goofed and unfortunately Imade will grow to read your shameful story on the Internet. Someone, somewhere will remind her that her mother was a street, club girl and she can google to confirm. Poor girl, I really feel for Imade being daughter of two irresponsible parents.
    To all intending baby mamas……think of baby’s future if you don’t have one to think of.

    • Soji

      January 2, 2016 at 6:20 pm

      Sophie may be a clever gold digger . Her and her kind will be out of buisness if grown up men could PUT A CONDOM ON. There is no doubt that Davido and his type are the biggest form of idiot, to fall for such a Scam. Davido you are a victim of your own weakness of the flesh. Pele o next time instead of singing and boosting about your papas wealth , attracting so called riff-raff like sophie ( meanwhile she wasnt riff raff when you pour yourself inside her o! And anyway sha its only those kind gals papa easy money can buy for you. ) you would concentrate on being your own man and watching were you stick your ting. Agbaya Grade one. I shame for you bros even though you no get shame. Sort yourself out joor.

  22. Eni

    January 2, 2016 at 6:36 pm

    Who is a baby mama? I need a definition please.
    Is it just an unmarried woman who has a child? What about working class single women who have their own, who have decided to have kids whether or not they are married? What about girls who were raped?

    • Lee

      January 2, 2016 at 10:10 pm

      Apparently, you are a baby mama or baby daddy, if you have a child with/for someone you’re not married to,

    • Lee

      January 2, 2016 at 10:10 pm

      That’s what I’m told.

  23. letty

    January 3, 2016 at 1:01 am

    SHAMELESS PEOPLE THEY NEED A YOUNG GUY LIKE RICHARD TO TELL THEM THE TRUTH…OUR SOCIETY HAS DEGENERATED TO HELL IN A HAND-BASKET…OUR VALUE SYSTEM HAS BEEN RAILROADED….ACTS CONSIDERED SHAMEFUL HAVE BECOME MAIN STREAM..THE AMERICANS YOU ARE COPYING ARE SEEKING A MORE WHOLESOME LIFESTYLE AND CRYING AND BEGGING FOR REFORM…MANY AMERICANS ARE MOVING TO RURAL AREAS TO GET SOME SEMBLANCE OF NORMALCY AND SHALLOW NIGERIANS HAVE EVEN OVERTAKEN THE USA IN DEBAUCHERY AND LASCIVIOUSNESS…BETTER WAKE UP PEOPLE AND REPENT AND SEEK GOD’S FACE AND PRIORITIZE

  24. Francis Lawani

    January 3, 2016 at 1:10 am

    Brilliant view

  25. bokun

    January 3, 2016 at 10:14 am

    Looool double standards. So because sophie is now a useless girl. What about baba David he sleeps around without protection, I. E condoms from girl to girl, increasing the likelihood of spreading disease because as we all know receptors are more at risk of infection, you guys thing he is a victim, FOR REAL! !!!! When are people going to stop with this crazy double standard. The way I look at it , sophie was the vunerable victim here she got fuck ed and impregnated. Davido could have married her. But No he wants to be free agent. David you want to eat/fuck your cake and have it. Well this cake is the cake that keeps on giving. You will continue paying for the one useless fuck you had with this girl. Girls if you are going to have unprotected sex with a Nigerian man. Make sure he keeps PAYING. Men maybe you will all start looking at nigerian women differently now:they are not cheap useless or gullible they are not MARTYRS Either . HIV was never a deterrent maybe child maintance would make our men take contraception seriously. Sophie make sure you don’t give your child to that family some girls have done it I. E wandering Cole and wisdom boy. Don’t be one of those stupid girls. Hold on to that child. Nigerian men need to realise that fucking a woman is not cheap. You can call her whatever you like but This babe is definitely not stupid or cheap.

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