If you aren’t aware of the full meaning of T.M.I, then well…it’s “too much information”, and in this episode we try to discuss if there is ever information too much or unnecessary for your partner to know.
In an ideal setting, we often have the idea that we would be met with complete acceptance when we meet the much-coveted ‘The One’. This person will be a pillar of understanding and will never judge us in any negative light. Regardless of what they hear about us, they know now we are with them, and our loyalty, sense of morality and character has been made clean with the catharsis of our love.
Then you get into a relationship and have to answer 21 questions, or run into new situations that might have been innocent, but come off a bit fishy as a story. While the best relationships are the ones with open communication channels that allow both partners to be as free as possible, there is still so much to ponder before divulging every piece of information that stumble across our mind.
In the real world, people are insecure. We have emotional baggage, and sometimes, we just don’t want to hear the story of how Mr/Mrs Perfect offered to take you on a date. An Austrian philosopher once explained how miscommunication is often a result of one party meaning one thing and the other mistranslating due to pre-conceived notions.
At the early stages of relationships when people are yet to form a solid idea of our character, they also rely on what information they can get to build an image for us. While it is tempting to assume the perfect lover must be understanding, it is more mature to realize that the perfect lover doesn’t exist.
The game of communication is often a slow process that expands over time as trust is built and loyalty earned. Surely, it is best to work towards and ideal of being able to tell it all, but assuming this is a given in every relationship and ignoring the need for diplomacy and giving our partners the right to present themselves the way they want, can backfire… leaving people with less than flattering images than we would prefer.
But don’t take my word for it, watch the video and feel free to contribute with your comments.