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Introducing “Dear Young Wife” – the Young Wife’s Guide to ALL Marital Duties with Daniel Olurin & Tomi Odunsi | Watch Episode 1 of the New VLog



Dear Young Wife

Actress and songwriter Tomi Odunsi Fadina has teamed up with Chef Daniel Olurin for a new vlog set to be released every Wednesday.

Called “Dear Young Wife”, it is described as the young wife’s guide to all marital duties. In episode one, the two of them are talking about kitchen management and how important food hygiene is.

Watch below.


  1. Red

    August 29, 2016 at 3:23 pm

    Where is the Dear Young Husband vlog? ????
    Also, one thing that irks me is when new brides / youngies in the ‘institution’, start dishing out “words of wisdom”. They have barely passed their tests and they think they know as much as the Professor????

    • pinkie

      August 29, 2016 at 3:35 pm

      My thoughts exactly. so when did Tomi become knowledgeable in the field called ‘marriage’? abeg go and sit down and service ur fitness husband. we know what to do and where to arrange our tomatoes.

    • Damilola

      August 29, 2016 at 7:01 pm

      [email protected] her fitness husband. It’s the newlyweds that always have a lot to say too. Honestly, let’s put marriage topic to a rest for a second. Is Nigeria that dry, empty that the only gig or talk to have is wedding, marriage related topic. Gosh, is that the only achievement Nigerian women limit themselves too. Instead of focusing on finding the right partner first, true love, a man that respects and supports you, etc we just make wedding thing so serious as if just marry anybody as long as you have a ring and a grand wedding. We are losing our priorities.

      We can do so much better empowering ourselves in other ways. It’s becoming so annoying and irritating. Nigerian women, please respect yourselves. Upon all this talk, sacrificing your whole life even at your own detriment for a man, Nigerian men have zero respect for you.
      I have great respect for marriage, will love to get married but there’s no obsession here.

    • Sister

      August 29, 2016 at 3:45 pm

      Thank you. You grabbed the words right out of my gob. Enough of the condescending and patronising advised aimed at African women. Marrisge isnt a prize. Marriage happens when 2 people fall in love. Not when a woman compromises her values to be rewarded by a ring and then gets advise from nwanyi oma on how to futher compromise the remaining values all for the sake of remaining mrs.

    • mizwest

      August 29, 2016 at 4:32 pm

      Odiegwu!!!!!! Please Bella stop dragging us backward. Don’t show another episode of this rubbish again oh. As for that Tomi did you just say you were going to hospital because you thought rat droppings could cause you hayfever????. What the actual f-! [email protected]@!!.

    • LemmeRant

      August 29, 2016 at 5:24 pm

      But you have no problem taking advise from toke and co.
      Better let the babe be.

      PS Keep waiting for your “Dear Your Husband’s Blog”. You think we get your time.

    • Not bad at all

      August 29, 2016 at 7:35 pm

      Not bad, maybe they should have used another heading. Dear People on Kitchen Hygiene! Loved the tips, I actually love clean kitchens

    • Torch

      August 29, 2016 at 10:46 pm

      Sorry who is the professor?

    • Naijatalk

      August 30, 2016 at 11:56 am

      All I want to know is how many of us actually use a hair net these days. I see thin hairnets in use at the serving line in cafeterias and some fast food restaurants but haven’t seen anyone use a hairnet in the kitchen in their home. I pull my hair back and hold with a band or more commonly wrap it up with a scarf because I’m concerned about my hair retaining the smell of food.

    • Laugh

      August 30, 2016 at 4:06 pm

      Don’t be a salty hagg. Young wives coming together and sharing experiences has helped a lot of women get through the beginning rough stages of their marriage. So please shut up and go somewhere else with that talk.

  2. Baby gurl

    August 29, 2016 at 3:26 pm

    Oh my dayzzz not another lame video instructing women on how to be the “perfect wife”, leaving men out of the schooling like they don’t need it more. “Dear young wife” for real? Reminds me of something out of Mad Men Season 1? How silly and backward Tomi Odunsi and friend.

  3. goddessofvictory

    August 29, 2016 at 3:41 pm

    please what is doing Tomi? 🙂

  4. Sugabelly

    August 29, 2016 at 3:41 pm

    In the entire history of Nigeria, there has never been, and there will never be a “Dear Young Husband” video, or to be honest, any kind of targeted instruction to Nigerian men on how to manage home duties, take care of children, be a better husband, etc yet Nigerian women keep embarrassing themselves by participating in this foolishness.

    Why are we so obsessed with marriage?

    Why are Nigerian women in particular (because Nigerian men are not obsessed with marriage. To them, they are doing you a FAVOUR by even marrying you)?

    Videos like this only serve to emphasise and perpetuate the unfair placement of the burden of domestic labour squarely and solely on the backs of Nigerian women.

    We can do so much better.

    Stop carrying marriage on your head like plantain chips when Nigerian men don’t do the same.
    You’re only making it harder for other women, and for yourself as well in our society.

    • MurderSheWrote

      August 29, 2016 at 4:50 pm

      Three Gbosa for Sugabelly. Gbosa!Gbosa!Gbosa! All the burden of marriage being placed on women since Year 1 BC. Like! We are trying to leave the patrachal system of society that has rendered Nigeria and indeed Sub-Saharan Africa useless and people are trying to leave us in that same position. Tomi and Daniel may think this is just a video but it is waaaay more than that. It is a jab at the women who have layed down their lives, sanity and freedom to allow our generation of women enjoy the benefits of the euality and humanity they fought for. I am disappointed to say the least!

    • Red

      August 29, 2016 at 5:59 pm

      @SugaBelly, my point exactly!

      PS: @Lemmerant, after taking a glass of Alumo, please read this ? comment, the go to bed.

    • John

      August 30, 2016 at 7:31 am

      Why are nigerian feminists always the women who have been used and dumped?

    • John

      August 30, 2016 at 7:31 am

      Why are nigerian feminists always the women who have been used and dumped.

    • Chichi

      August 30, 2016 at 8:11 am

      Because that is your limited understanding of what you think feminism is.

    • Red

      August 30, 2016 at 4:27 pm

      John no point replying you. Leave my comments. Clearly, you have a thing for the “feminists” here. Your responses have been noted. Plus, You are beginning to act obsessed and deranged. Seriously. Get. A. Life. Or become a Cat. You are smart. You should understand??

  5. Olori

    August 29, 2016 at 3:48 pm

    WTF I can’t even believe this joke lol!!! So Tomi you call this a gig? It is pointless. DON’T PULL US BACKWARD, PUSH US FORWARD!!! As a society we are so obsessed with marriage and “ozban” we should look more towards things like knowledge, kindness, spirituality, ambition and other good shit like that gosh.

  6. Nahum

    August 29, 2016 at 3:56 pm

    Tomi!! Olodo!!!! Rat shit does not cause hay fever, it causes Lassa fever!! What is wrong with you?

  7. Zeeebby

    August 29, 2016 at 4:22 pm

    whose idea was this?
    Is this to promote their individual careers?
    is this her boo’s way of gaining fame?
    what is wrong with them?
    No be only trad they don do?
    which kain wahala be this na?
    Who asked them for guidance?
    Are they well?

  8. Awwww

    August 29, 2016 at 4:31 pm

    You guys are so mean! They obviously put some effort into this. Yes, it’s really badly done but I think some women might want to hear other women’s early marriage experiences and she doesn’t come across as thinking she knows more that other people. It wasn’t altogether bad advice either!

  9. Phoebe

    August 29, 2016 at 4:36 pm

    this is so sad
    in this era where women just want to bend over backwards just so they dont end up lonely
    You have to love yourself and being my yourself first before someone will be with you.

  10. Phoebe

    August 29, 2016 at 4:37 pm

    how old is this girl she “sounds” like a 10 yr old

  11. Iam_mims

    August 29, 2016 at 4:42 pm

    This is annoying! Shalewa!!! please look for something better to do with your time! MScheeeew. The Chef’s phoneh is even distracting! Mshcccccew

  12. Just my 1 Cents

    August 29, 2016 at 4:48 pm

    This is why Nigerian men keep laughing at women and keep using them. Continue. Is cooking and kitchen sanitation the real problem in out society or in marriage??? I don’t get it.

    Instead of you to make a video of how a woman can be financially stable, how to live in a recession, balancing work and marriage, we are making videos on cooking.

    Look Woman, if cooking, cleaning, and having sex is all you can bring to a marriage, then you are of NO value to a man. Simple. He can get all those qualities elsewhere. I don’t know why women don’t understand this.

  13. Person

    August 29, 2016 at 4:48 pm

    Annoying and patronizing.

  14. Nahum

    August 29, 2016 at 4:52 pm

    I like this video. I think Nigerians as a whole, not just women, need to know about food hygiene. I don’t like to eat or drink in people’s homes because of hygiene concerns. Newsflash! It is not ok to have rats and cockroaches in your home, they are called vermin for a reason and they signal a filthy environment. So this video is good for that. My issue is Tomi, ditzy or clueless is not a good look on a woman, stop with the “dumb blonde” act.

    • Naijatalk

      August 30, 2016 at 11:59 am

      I agree. Have you seen the kitchen sponge in some people’s homes? Unsightly!

    • Tosin

      September 1, 2016 at 3:07 pm

      it’s not an act.

      she is cute.

  15. slice

    August 29, 2016 at 5:03 pm

    You guys abused the tin so tey i had to watch. Not bad

  16. Mrs A.

    August 29, 2016 at 5:52 pm

    Asides from Tomi’s unnecessary laughter, I actually did learn something. Why is everybody sooooooooo angry?

    I think they should come out with some sort of disclaimer. Look at the first comment above. There was no dishing out “words of wisdom” here. The Chef is not even married. Just a discussion of general things people should know including some we may forget in our daily lives.

    You people should chill. It’s not everything you should bash.

    Now my fear is content. I don’t know how many more episode they can create based on the concept but this is actually good. They are doing something. What are you doing?

    Re: Chef Daniel my help won’t assist with the deep cleaning. It will actually be my husband. Aren’t we both young in marriage? Lol

    • John

      August 29, 2016 at 8:00 pm

      @mrs A..this ur comment shows the matured difference between a married woman and all the frustrated bitter single women here

    • Mama

      August 29, 2016 at 8:34 pm

      Dear John you can differienciate by psycho analysing a comment on whose happily married and who is bitterly single. Well your comment shows your poor judgment skills. That’s how you get decieve and end up with akawu/ potash virgin. Mtchewwww.

    • John

      August 30, 2016 at 7:25 am

      @MAMA why do use and dump disvirgined women always have this jelousy , envy and bitterness towards virhin women?

    • John

      August 29, 2016 at 8:00 pm

      @mrs A..this ur comment shows the matured difference between a married woman and all the frustrated bitter single women here..

    • Red

      August 30, 2016 at 6:10 am

      Lol. You are frustrated, John. Because women here, share a unified opinion does not in anyway imply frustration okay? Feel better. ???

    • Jay

      August 29, 2016 at 10:25 pm

      @Mrs A… great and matured comment. Same people here bashing this couple obviously go to bed at night wishing there was someone in their life.
      Yes, marriage is an achievement. I say it again, marriage is an achievement. It’s a crown on a woman’s head, IF beautifully accepted. Same goes for the man too. It comes with its own glory. Even in America or anywhere in obodo oyibo, it’s a thing of joy…and that explains why people all laugh and dance unlike funerals.
      I just wonder how this millennials “small small gehs” all in the name of independence, dependence and equality now conscript innuendo to justify their rotten lonely lives or inability to get or even keep a man. They criticise marriage yet they do things prescribed for married people only. Listen, if submission is your problem, especially to your husband, I bet you, you can never submit to God.
      Pls Tomi, continue with your vlog and may God honour and bless your home. Two are better than one. Your home shall be a model to the world. Anybody bashing you out of jealousy, may they remain single for life.

    • Loved

      August 30, 2016 at 12:04 am

      Jay I honestly and sincerely feel sorry for you. Please accept my sympathy. Your type will remain in a loveless marriage were you resent your partner but just worship the idea of being Mrs someone. I feel your pain all you got is an empty shell of a marriage like a body without a soul. What is the use of a body without its soul. The body rots and its stink disturbs everyone. That my dear is a marriage without love. Once again accept my sympathy. I’m done. Really done.

    • Rawlings

      August 30, 2016 at 2:48 pm

      True talk most Nigerian women fall in love with the concept of marriage and not the person they are supposed to be married to. No my dear we all dont want to be in your keeping up appearances sham marriage. That look you see in other women’s eyes you feel is envy is actually sympathy.

  17. Engoz

    August 29, 2016 at 5:55 pm

    Shouldn’t this be a topic targeted to every human being on the planet? Most Nigerian girls were brought up to cook and clean anyway. So this topic should be directed to the men, they are the ones in need of it. They are mostly the dirty ones. Most Nigerian bachelors are DIRTY!

    I’m not surprised at the title, if a Nigerian woman doesn’t marry or talk about marriage, she will die. Rubbish! Is it now rocket science why Nigerian men treat you all like tissue paper after presenting yourselves like marriage is your life support? Silly things!

    • Debrella

      August 31, 2016 at 1:16 pm

      I love this, you know I am still single but I clean and work like a married woman because I have a dirty brother, most men in Nigeria are dirty, They would expect you to clean, organise, prepare meal and also want you not to be dependent. The brain of most Nigerian men need overhauling.

  18. artklub

    August 29, 2016 at 5:58 pm

    lol. breath in….”dear young wife” advise in 2016 in nigeria needs to be a lot more progressive ideas and discussions. these guys might try some more complex themes next time,….trying to be nice…

  19. Omoté

    August 29, 2016 at 6:25 pm

    Hehehe! Bellanaija readers r vexing no b small oh! I just went “Oh Lord! Not another how-to-be-a-good-wife video.” Nobody is making a “how-to-be-a-very-good-husband” video? Abi our men no need am?

  20. Corolla

    August 29, 2016 at 6:26 pm

    The obsession with marriage is real. Everyday some dumb content on how a woman should keep her home surfaces here. If it’s not some washed out Naija comedian giving unsolicited advice, it will be a bunch of small clueless boys (mens corner) making noise about how a woman must be able to cook and sex right. Please we are tired! This is 2016, everybody should know how to keep a home. Stop directing these bullshit content at women. How about educating men to let them know their wives are not slave, and both spouses in a marriage must ensure domestic things are running smoothly. There are so many ways to empower women, but we prefer to foster these dumb ideals. Bella naija please we are tired! Use your platform to effect change, stop taking us back to 1960 with these patriarchal videos you curate…biko!

    • Corolla

      August 29, 2016 at 6:26 pm


  21. Yinka

    August 29, 2016 at 6:59 pm

    really? who made them experts?? still waiting for guide for men on how to live up to their husbandly duties. Please stop dishing out advice to women we have had enough!!!

  22. Apples

    August 29, 2016 at 7:11 pm

    Enough about marriage biko, Nigeria women always feel superior once they married as if it’s gonna take them to heaven…. hian!

    I know what to do in my kitchen, I don’t need your help Tomi, I’ve been cooking since I was 10!! I didn’t learn to cook Cuz I want to satisfy one man…….. olodo peeps

  23. Fabulicious

    August 29, 2016 at 7:23 pm

    Tomi that married which day????Young lady go and have several seats…Come back in 5years.

  24. Heartminders

    August 29, 2016 at 7:46 pm

    Tomiiiiii, get into the kitchen already and do what ya mama told you….all the best. But we aren’t going 69yrs backward. Very lame!

  25. Ese V

    August 29, 2016 at 7:54 pm

    When I read or watch something that I don’t like on Bella Naija, I usually #JumpAndPass. But I cannot overlook this one. This vlog is totally uncalled for. I don’t even care that she just got married.
    Address your vlog to “Dear Young Newly Married Person”. Do not put unnecessarily lofty and unrealistic expectations on young women starting out in life. Most importantly, let the young men getting married also know that their input (even if it’s just helping clear the dishes and wash up after dinner) will go a long way.

  26. Marian

    August 29, 2016 at 8:25 pm

    Gloves though? Lol. Who is the target audience? Sharrout to my hubby and his parents sha. So young husband go just dey chill for living room cheering young wife on as she’s cooking, cleaning …. Oshico!! Dear young husband or newly wed!!! You better be able to clean and cook. Le boo and i should come and start our own vlog sef. He keeps thinking the stuff he does is common sense.

    • Ese V

      August 29, 2016 at 9:01 pm

      Spot on! I’m just tired. In this day and age, “dear young wife”??? Argh. Apparently, all this knowledge is too much for Dear Young Husband to take in so they have added it to the many things the woman must learn. Tomi and friend, please take several seats!

  27. Mama

    August 29, 2016 at 8:50 pm

    Dear ladies when you compromise your standards because you DESPERATELY need to get into married club. Be sure to continue with the compromise oh. Not have way into marriage you want to change the contract to make way for your newly discovered feminist spirit. That kind thing leads to divorce. Start as you mean to continue. If you act like a dumb bimbo at the begining don’t start acting like you got a degree in Quatum science later on oh. If you can’t cook don’t start forming chef oh. Be yourself and attract your rightful other half.

  28. Kosi

    August 29, 2016 at 9:04 pm

    Im just pleased that there is a new way of thinking these days. I’ve seen younger married women who are enterprising, enlightened with more common sense than these 2 olodos put together. This is 2016 not 1906. Sit down please.

  29. Me

    August 29, 2016 at 9:28 pm

    So patronising….. Stereotypical.. Couldn’t watch it to the end.. Had to make it stop! #cringeworthy #unoriginal

  30. Kezia

    August 29, 2016 at 9:32 pm

    Yawns everyone and them mama got to be dishing out some sort of random dumb advise these days.

  31. Mr. Egghead

    August 29, 2016 at 9:47 pm

    @Mrs A
    The anger is rooted in some odd mixture of self-righteousness and dissonance. Besides, BN is an echo chamber so you can expect a lot of the regulars to be angry.

    Some women are actually content and fulfilled by being ‘dear young wives’; those who are not wives, young or even dear to any one always seem to lose their minds because they can’t understand why another person should have different beliefs.

    Maybe there is no market for a ‘Dear Young Husband’ video. If there was, some savvy guru would have jumped into the niche long ago. Women are generally more complex to please so anybody giving you tips on how to make her happy is a babalawo.
    Marriage, and its accompaniments, is simply more appealing to women.

    • Lulu

      August 29, 2016 at 11:25 pm

      STFU Mr. Egghead. This is the dumbest comment u could ever make. No market for Dear Young Husband video? Are you lost or trying to be found. Gerrarahere joor….

    • Red

      August 30, 2016 at 6:11 am

      Very Dumb.

    • John

      August 30, 2016 at 7:28 am

      those who are not wives, young or even dear to any one always seem to lose their minds because they can’t understand why another person should have different beliefs……………..BEST COMMENT

    • Rawlings

      August 30, 2016 at 2:53 pm

      @mr egghead i wont be surprised if one of the particularly venomous female commentators on bella turns out to be your wife.

  32. Tunde

    August 29, 2016 at 11:06 pm

    Okay oh. The next hurdle is bearing strong MALE children to carry the name. Because as you know in that century you reside only MALE children count and are needed to put the final stamp of approval in marriage. Also it is the woman that determines the sex of the child abi. No pressure my dear. Maybe your next dear young wife episode will feature strong prayer and fast sessions to ensure male off spring.

  33. sophie

    August 30, 2016 at 12:13 am

    This is so appalling and annoying, instead of empowering youths by talking about education, starting a business or simply creating a platform for discussion on the issues we face. But unfortunately enhancing a young bride’s domestic skills is what seems to be important in the mist of Nigeria’s challenges, seriously?????
    Why does everything have to revolve around marriage??? there is so much more to life than marriage, it saddens me to see pple place great importance on marriage. Wake up for Christ sake! , we have way more important issues to deal with in Nigeria, from a crumbling economy to unemployment.
    Lord have mercy!!

  34. Sarah

    August 30, 2016 at 3:37 am

    Yawns…. Goes back to sleep

  35. Angela

    August 30, 2016 at 9:24 am

    The young wives guide to all marital duties!. You cant just generalise based on your own experiences. Your husbands expectations of you are quite different from the expectations my husband and myself place on each other. So what works for you might not work in other households Tomi. That is something you will probably begin to realise later on in your marriage. And gurl what are your expectations from your husband. Not judging but you come across as one of those newly married young women who are just content to wear the Mrs crown. Poor content girl, get back to the drawing board

  36. Moyo

    August 30, 2016 at 9:50 am

    Getting married is not an achievement, surviving in it in a society like Nigeria is the achievement. The men expect more from their women financially, and if you are not careful you will end up doing everything while they carry on with their husband title intact.

  37. Calmdown

    August 30, 2016 at 10:12 am

    I seriously can’t stand naija kitchens I can count how many I’ve been to that are clean like really clean. You guys have the luxury of house helps so what is the excuse? Paint your kitchen , replace the bad cabinets, retile the floors, have spice containers , organize everything. Baskets for onions , potatoes, plantain etc . Line the cabinets and REPLACE often that is the point of lining them. Look at your ceiling just look up , why should there be cobwebs? The light fixtures dark with smoot, everything covered in smoot. It’s not enough to just clean the surface and wash your plates .

    So this vlog should have been called Dear Young Couple. So much to talk about without focusing on the wife.

    We really need to change the mindset of some naija women or naija folks in general. That’s how one girl was freaking out that I travelled and left my kids with hubby. Ermmm are those not his children ? Who better to watch them? Women are their own downfall.

  38. DoraTheExplorer

    August 30, 2016 at 2:02 pm

    Well done Tomi and Daniel. I think your idea is fantastic! The vlog obviously isn’t for everybody, however be rest assured that your target audience appreciates the time and effort put into creating this. A lot of these cheeky cyber bullies would swallow their words when the endorsements start to roll in. Just remain focused on your vision and stay consistent with delivering good content.

  39. Tiffany

    August 30, 2016 at 2:31 pm

    Automatically turned off by the patronising title. Clicked to read comments though. Hilarious bellanaijas never disappoint loooooool.

  40. Idomagirl

    August 31, 2016 at 8:23 pm

    Please can we have Vlogs on entrepreneurship, tips on starting a business etc?
    In this tough economy, we need financial management skills and business ideas to survive, not these overflogged and pointless marriage related topics and advice that we’ve been hearing since we could walk.

    I’d much rather watch a video on raising capital, advertising your business, hiring the right staff etc as opposed to this.
    Cooking and cleaning since childhood as if the only reason you were created is to be a wife, odiegwu o.

  41. Tosin

    September 1, 2016 at 3:03 pm

    It’s cute but they’re assuming ladies and cooking are one. They are cute, just need to modernize. Like me now, none of this stuff concerns me. But the Pastor Adeboye woman…different matter.

  42. Bob

    September 13, 2016 at 11:43 pm

    I think it was kinda harsh to judge them, the actual goal of the blog is yet unclear. There is more that can happen in a kitchen than just prepping food. Newly weds or not, I expect some nutritious info on Nigerian food. I think hygiene and exotic cuisine shouldn’t be the focus, something fresh and healthy with some researched facts from laboratory data. That could probably make these guys sound intelligent, my only concern is my man is wearing tie and suspenders in the kitchen.

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